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Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Pinkzs(f): 4:57pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
Hi house. Thanks for your contributions once again. It is really appreciated. I like the mature advice & its natural to differ in our views cos we are different. I'l sieve through the contributions & try out the suggestions. Thank you. @maclatunji- i couldnt stop laughing with tears running down my cheeks & even forgot i had a dilemma on my hands. Thanks 4 making my day. Cheers! |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by maclatunji: 6:00pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
Pinkzs: Hi house. Thanks for your contributions once again. It is really appreciated. I like the mature advice & its natural to differ in our views cos we are different. I'l sieve through the contributions & try out the suggestions. Thank you. @maclatunji- i couldnt stop laughing with tears running down my cheeks & even forgot i had a dilemma on my hands. Thanks 4 making my day. Cheers! It makes me happy to know that you are happy. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Busybody2(f): 9:18pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
agiboma: chaircover: ajibgoma I try not to cross you on this forum because I know that you are going through a lot, I havent walked in your shoes and I dont have any answers for you and so even though I dont agree with your stand, I just let you be. Una see am too Richvkunt Utilised my searchlight/binoculars/microscope to go thru Agiboma's post, yet nowhere did she even mention "using Children as a crutch" once Asking rhetorically, what crime did this Agy lady commit/when is she gonna be let off Dang. . . |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by agiboma(f): 9:41pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
@BB lol girl i been missing you how u b |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by queensmith: 10:07pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
All i can say is what i'll do in this situation- 'hypootheticals' I cannot accept being in a marriage with no love- i will rather be alone. I cannot accept the sexx ending when only he has climaxed:- i might as well have se with myself I do not like a laid back attitude or non chalantness in matters involving the relationship- if i take it seriously he should to. Children or no children, they are meant to make your life better not wreck it. Communication is the no1 thing, let it be known how you feel, he may not have noticed. People often suggest working overtime or fighting for a mans love- i dont encourage it. He will perceive it as smothering and will never appreciate it. Also i think hes meant to care as much as you do. If he doesn't theres a problem. I'd suggest therapy or counselling or whatever it's called, he might be stressed. That way a 3rd party can tell you if your the one being paranoid or if you really need to fix up. Arrange a holiday, send the kids somewhere and spend time alone together. The busy work schedules might be what is pulling you apart. I think thats about all i will do before i send him packing until he's ready to behave. Lol. Marriage is not a clean house for you to eat and sleep in! |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Busybody2(f): 10:08pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
agiboma: @BB lol girl i been missing you how u b I'm cool and calm and collected like a swan on the surface of a water yet paddling like crazy underneath wishing for more hours in a day, thanks for asking, how are you too |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by queensmith: 10:10pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
And i agree with bb- ccs post was a bit to personal. You could have gone with.....i disagree because. Rather than make obvious judgements on how she lives her life. Also she didnt actually ask for a psych evaluation of her life she just stated her opinion. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 10:26pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Busybody2(f): 10:37pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
chaircover: Yes you ladies are right; maybe I was too quick to pounce; and If her post hadnt been modified, then I must have read between the lines & picked up on previous posts of hers which have mentioned about staying in her present relationship only for her son. I was only speaking from experience (not my personal experience) about the MIL's who find it difficult to let go because they have sacrificed so much happiness for their kids over the years. She did not modify her thread, but its cool, "its just the way you interpreted her innocent comment about "one needing to be in the OP's shoe to feel where it pinches" that sent you off in a tizzy, but she ended it with "you have to face constant rejection to know" . . . |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 10:42pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Busybody2(f): 10:52pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
queensmith: Send "him" packing ke, you have spent too long overseas Exactly why do Naija men treat their matrimonial homes like a bed and breakfast hotel! |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Busybody2(f): 10:59pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
chaircover: Lets just blame seun and his new nairaland. Now I have to put on my glasses to see things. BTW who said anything about constant rejection? She said "one has to face constant rejection. . ." Your goggles is due for a change if you cannot see the "spellcheck" button just right beside the "submit" button, unless you commoners are still using NL2 whilst we in yabaleft are already on NL8 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 11:02pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Busybody2(f): 11:28pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
chaircover: NL8 Ke? The only button beside the submit button is "follow this topic" no spellcheck button o! You have to trust me when I tell you the spellchecker is directly on top of the submit button, lol. Facebook is now for golden oldies, the more youngies wave goodbye to the website crossing over to Twitter, the more silver surfers are joining. I remember a friend yarning me that her Mum joined and its been one complaint(advice) or the other, like telling her to remove pictures of her children because of "awon aiye", then poking her nose into her friend's list and who she should be talking to and the number of male friends she has and how she forgot to respond to a comment and my friend shakes her head at her Mum who is still baffled as to why the rest of her kids refuse to accept her friend's request My Mama too don join FB and BB, and she has been asking for my pin since, I told her "Mummy I am coming oh", BB pin ko, BB nail ni |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Fhemmmy: 11:50pm On Mar 16, 2012 |
I honestly think the only solution to this would do serious and frank talking. You have to do whatever it takes to get his attention, cos this is always the beginning of cheating, and i will commend you for willingness to try to fix things. First of all, i think it is too old school for a man and a wife to keep separate rooms, if you are able to, do whatever it take to change it. But whatever you do, please dont cheat on him, cos once you start, you wont be able to stop and then, he will be able to blame you for a broken home . . . . . . . Good luck |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by queensmith: 5:50am On Mar 17, 2012 |
Busy_body: Lol! Yes nau, Who said only a man can send a woman packing! |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 10:06am On Mar 17, 2012 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by queensmith: 10:23am On Mar 17, 2012 |
chaircover: Awon omo aiye isin o leko rara and then he has the guts to be asking me for £40 to buy pencil trousers looooool! thats funny! dont blame him please- i added my dad but he cannot see anything but my info page, did that with my whole family, cant be having him getting a heart attack on my fb rants! |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 11:48am On Mar 17, 2012 |
chaircover: Oya Bisi abeg show me the spell check o! & while you are there please explain what the friends function does cos Im getting requests and dont know what to do with them. better still open a new thread for us fuddy duddys "an idioots guide to the new nairaland" Ehn, why won't he leave FB, when your amebo self is interested in catching and dealing with any potential girlfriend. Abeg waka. [s]CC has just insulted my beautiful and well loved pencil shaped jeans. I no wear again[/s]. BB borrow me your akwa-oche trouser ejo. I cannot fitn't shout |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 11:58am On Mar 17, 2012 |
EHN railuway workers. By their fruits Ehn the above is not derailing oo but part of my well thought out answer to the topic. No intimacy no marriage. Infact it is advisable for every woman during courtship to unzip her man's pants and do a vital signs check on the yekini by weighing the size, temperature, width, breathe, check the pulse per min, oxygen level, capillary refill and respiration. [size=14pt]Failure to do the above will lead to un-satisfaction in marriage as the yekini could have suffered a prolapse due to in-efficiency. Hear me my fellow women, hear me. For what shall it profit a woman if she marries wealth, X5, RR Evoque( ) and good looks and forever loses kpekus? [/size] No be my fault if this happens. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 2:27pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 2:59pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
did someone call? |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 4:22pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
Agiboma,i'm on ur team girl. I like your individuality. U are not one of her disciples. Dey even call her madam now a faceless madam. what a joke! @ OP, Seriously, a lot of marriages are going in the same direction worldwide. Just do ur thing and be happy. Someday the man will come around. It's tough trying to win another persons luv. It's either they're interested or they ain't. If you have kids channel ur energy there. We men could be confused sometimes but we still knw those we care about. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 4:48pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 5:10pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
Dnt mind dem. Imagine d bad belle people getting jealous of her royal highness. E nor go better for those peasants. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 5:24pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 6:33pm On Mar 17, 2012 |
^ lol. Women, dnt u just luv dem. Kidding with u ma'am. No beef o. Na play i dey. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by maclatunji: 12:13am On Mar 18, 2012 |
^Gaggi, no be play you dey play, na tease you dey tease (Wetin be d difference abi?). Meself no know. U get sense of humour sha. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by Nobody: 6:33am On Mar 18, 2012 |
maclatunji: ^Gaggi, no be play you dey play, na tease you dey tease (Wetin be d difference abi?). Meself no know. A man will always be a man. Thanks for seeing the playful side. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by WHAT3: 9:58am On Mar 18, 2012 |
I feel you. Am married for 12years with 4 kids, and sex is NEVER the same as the years go by because of stress of surviving in Nigeria. Living in separate bedroom, is a NO-NO! Move in back! If he likes, let him don't have sex with you, but in the middle of the night when he makes contact with your warm body, he might get aroused. OR if you want it, you seduce him with feathering kisses, whisper words in his ears.....and see what would happen. As for communication, men generally are not programmed to be talkative like we women. Discuss with him any important issue concerning the family, and staying in the same bedroom, gives chance for pillow talks, whether he listens or not! He would soon get used to your voice and look forward to it. Then find how to entertain yourself! Not necessarily, transferring ALL your attention on your children. Read, watch films, browse and visit places that interest you. Please don't live your life around your husband and get closer to God. HE is our comforter. |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by agiboma(f): 12:51pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
WHAT: Very good advice, this is the message i was trying to give in my post. You and you only are your true source of happiness |
Re: Lack Of Romance & Intimacy In My Marriage by queensmith: 2:30pm On Mar 18, 2012 |
Ithen what was the need of getting a husband? You might as well be a single mom? If the relationship cant keep its flame |
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