I met this lady and I manage to collect her phone# so we talk often on phone until some days ago that we fix an appointed,so we decide to meet in an eatery so we chat very well,JU̶̲̥̅st̶̲̥̅̊ as if we are long time friend, but I never say any thing like relationship.
Now I intend to have her as ♍γ̲̣̣̥ wife due to I found every thing I want physically in woman in her especially the she dress with hijab in modern way & decent way . Pls how do U̶̲̥̅̊ think I could request her in a serious relationship with me, that will not offend her and in halal manner. pls ur reply is welcome thanks for the read. [color=#770077][/color]

OP, are you capable of supporting a wife such that you could get married in like 6 months? If your answer is yes, tell her that you see her as your future wife because she has many of the qualities you want. If she says yes, you should then tell her that you would like to meet her parents or guardians. This will be done so that her people can meet and assess you and for them to agree on a tentative date for your people to come and met them. Depending on how enlightened she and her family are, you could have a valid marriage by the first or second meeting between you, her parents and your parents. What would then be needed is an Islamic officiating cleric and the Mahr which she must have agreed to

OP, are you capable of supporting a wife such that you could get married in like 6 months? If your answer is yes, tell her that you see her as your future wife because she has many of the qualities you want, will she marry you? If she says yes, you should then tell her that you would like to meet her parents or guardians. This will be done so that her people can meet and assess you and for them to agree on a tentative date for your people to come and met them. Depending on how enlightened she and her family are, you could have a valid marriage by the first or second meeting between you, her parents and your parents. What would then be needed is an Islamic officiating cleric and the Mahr (bridal gift) which she must have agreed to. I assume that people from both your families present would exceed 5. Hence, you would have more than enough witnesses. This is called Akidu Nikah.

However, it is possible or even likely that your families will want the big wedding. In that case, your families meeting and agreeing to the two of you marrying is not enough for the two of you to be intimate. You still have to do the Akidu which I am sure that you have seen at the average Muslim 'big' wedding. Good luck and I wish you success. It looks as if you have found your soul mate.

@maclatunji I really appreciate for this enlightenment but intend to get married in 2yrs tym what can U̶̲̥̅̊ say about this cus Almighty Allah knows I av a Ģ♡̷̬̩̃̊♡̷̬̩̃̊Ď intention 4her.so I want to keep her till 2yrs tym for marriage pls talk to me thanks

salinson: @maclatunji I really appreciate for this enlightenment but intend to get married in 2yrs tym what can U̶̲̥̅̊ say about this cus Almighty Allah knows I av a Ģ♡̷̬̩̃̊♡̷̬̩̃̊Ď intention 4her.so I want to keep her till 2yrs tym for marriage pls talk to me thanks

My guy make I no lie to you, keep her at arms length before you fall into Zina. I know things are a little bit upside-down in Nigeria regarding these sorts of issues and what I would which is not "The Highest Islamic Standard" is that I would maintain mostly online contact with her (to reduce temptation as much as possible), let her know that I REALLY see her as "my future wife material" and lay-out my ambitions and plans as a young man. Her reaction to this will tell you whether you have hope or not. I know you are afraid that you might lose her to someone else and that would be sad. However, trust in Allah to keep her for you if she is meant to be yours or provide you with someone else that will be truly good for you if she is not meant to be yours.

My brother I feel you and understand.

Thanks to U̶̲̥̅̊ moderator

^You are welcome moderatee

Salam Alaikum Mallam Sallinson. ( This is after 2years Later) can We know the conclusion of ur interesting Discussion here. Are you Married to her now or planning to get Married soon or she's no longer in your life or you lost interest along the Line.

Also @ Maclatunji- can couples live together as Husband and Wife after Akidu Nikkah? Cos I do hear it's allowed then they can do their Wolimatul Nikkah Later. Salam Alaikum

@cdee: yes, people are committing this act. They said akidu nikah is the most important thing and they can perform nikah later like an anniversary. May Allah forgive and guide us.

cdee:
Salam Alaikum Mallam Sallinson. ( This is after 2years Later) can We know the conclusion of ur interesting Discussion here. Are you Married to her now or planning to get Married soon or she's no longer in your life or you lost interest along the Line.

Also @ Maclatunji- can couples live together as Husband and Wife after Akidu Nikkah? Cos I do hear it's allowed then they can do their Wolimatul Nikkah Later. Salam Alaikum

Am interested in knowing if they are still together.......

What of if the lady has relationship with another person?

Salam, I intend to do just intro after niqqah, can she stay with me and live lik husband and wyf after d intro? Alsoam yet to understand the aqiduh pls can you put me tru