manugbo: women ar the ones not happy in their marriages.


im married, i give all that marraiage requires of me, but my husband does'nt


because, he loves keeping girl friends. but its very hard for me to keep male friend. i cant
and its ssssssssooooo painful.

he is cheating on me seriously. i dont know what to do.
although , i ve told him that we need to go for court wedding, which he has refused to do over 6 years now.



Howevr, it has been my desire to serve my God, because all are varnity upon varnity.

i just want to have a good relationship with my God, but my husband attitude towards me is very very bad.

if he dies today, will i mourn for him? i dont think so, rather i will thank God for removing such A PROBLEM FOR ME.


ITS SO PAINFUUUULL

WHat i desire in my life is not what im getting in this marriage.

MY GOD IS GREATER THAN HIM

IM IN BONDAGE, GOD HELP ME

I TRY AS MUCH AS I CAN TO CONSOLE MYSELF, BUT SOMETIMES I LOOSE IT.

SUV:
that is why you will be very unhappy if you get married someday! wrong notion already.

in my own opinion: men that are unhappy in marriage probably married for the wrong reason and most women do not know the reason for the marriage or also married the men for the wrong reason.

partners should know WHY they are getting married in the first place, cos after the active sex life, only the companionship can sustain the marriage.

possible reasons:
1. Men that do not get sexual satisfaction from wife may be unhappy and tend to look for satisfaction outside.
reason: women believe that they help the man to release and that's all in sex and also for them to get pregnant , a lot of women do not enjoy sex, some men are also selfish not to understand their wife's sexual needs.
solution: sex is a mutual relationship. the guy if more experienced should help the woman and vice versa, if both are not experienced, they should watch films together or look for avenues to learn together so they can enjoy themselves and satisfy one another.

2. Men that are not being respected cos the woman is financially buoyant. a lot of women tend to loose their respect for their husband cos they make money to support the family, after all they do all the work for women in addition to making money for the family, so WHAT? even if the man is a bricklayer and the woman is a professor, as long as the man is treated with all due respect as the owner of the woman's head, he feels safe and his pride in tact and it makes him complete. once he makes all the decisions, then the woman has won the heart of her man.

3. Women loves being appreciated no matter how little even for doing their primary duty, if such appreciation and compliments are not coming, she feels the man is taking her for granted, and she will rebel. neglect will come in and a lot of stuff. the man starts feeling unloved.

4. physical appeal of a woman makes plays a lot of role in sexual appeal of a man. a situation where the woman after first child allows herself to be unkept, no longer take care of herself and keep herself in shape, the man gets turned off all the time, that can douse the sexual appeal of her man and the man unhappy ...

5. Children: women tend to divert a lot of attention to the children and the man will feel neglected. Very bad. The man gets the ultimate attention and will help u show love to the kids.

6. Communication: women that nag their husbands will only push them out. if they do not give you audience, be subtle in ur approach. Men that do not like to hear the side of story of the women will make the woman to nag. there is no excuse for a woman to nag. DONT NAG ur man ohhh. discuss, make jokes even nasty and crazy ones. share everything, no secret. ur wife should be able to pick ur calls and play with ur phone and vice versa so that there will be mutual trust. tell her what u feel and how u feel and what u want. take ur Place. IT UR RIGHT mr MAN. also u shld listen to what ur wife wants and is complaining about. free and constant communication makes a good home.

7. and a whole lot. don't hv enough time now to finish up, maybe later. got to prepare my hubby's delicacy, TGIF... great night coming...cant wait **winks..

gsmgold:

Apart 4rm prayers, try 2 find out d tins he loves.
Some men can't stand d sight of dirt! They come home...the whole house is smelling...the children r looking tattered...the wive is unattractive.

Quit wearing wrappers all day long. Bum short & jean strings r still in d market. Sexy tops 4 all sizes u can find. Take ur bath b4 he gets home n show off ur sexy wear, don't 4get ur perfume.

The house MUST always be neat.

A woman must have a job/biz. U need 2 be financially independent. Don't run to him 4 petty tins.

Who says u can't take d family out. Go the cinemas n watch movies with them once in a while. Don't forget 2 wear ur killer dresses.

My mother inlaw is in her late 50ties- still wears bum shorts n watches wat she eats inorder 2 stay fit. We have given them ORDER not to give birth 2 more children. She had nine!

blakmonsta: The reason is that we have all forgotten the real reason for marriage


The REAL reason for marriage IS TO ENSURE THAT THERE IS NO QUESTION O WHO IS RESPONSIBLE WHEN THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF RAISING CHILDREN BECOME AN ISSUE.


SO in short this is it:

If you have children YOUR LIFE BECOMES WORSE. CONFIRMED.
If you marry YOUR LIFE ALSO BECOMES WORSE (whatever the trumpet blowers and love-love preachers say)

[size=14pt]HOWEVER IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN WITHOUT MARRYING FIRST YOUR LIFE BECOMES HELL.[/size]

And here is the final one:

IF YOU GET OLD WITH NO CHILDREN YOUR LIFE MAY AS WELL HAVE ENDED BECAUSE IT BECOMES WORSE THAN HELL.

So it is simple:

You HAVE to just accept that no matter what you do, your life is about to get worse. It is like prostate cancer, baldness, menopause, 30-year old potbelly, sagging breasts...your LIFE DETERIORARTES as you get older.

MARRIAGE IS YOU DECIDING TO TAKE SOME UNHAPPINESS NOW TO PREVENT WORSE UNHAPPINESS LATER. Because sex is so pleasurable that if you don't marry in time, SOONER OR LATER you will have a child outside wedlock, and if you don't, you will grow old with no children and become LIVING DEAD.

SO.

All of you unhappy in yopur marriages SHUT UP. your life would be worse in a few years if you didn't marry.

All of you afraid to marry YOU ARE FOOLS. Your dick will stop rising in a few years and then you will be unable to bear children and I am sorry for you in your old age.

EVERYONE WHO IS CLAIMING TO BE HAPPY IN THEIR MARRIAGE: More power to you. 80% of you are either deluded, bloody liars or are unknowingly taking advantage of your partner who will soon snap and scatter your delusions. For the 20% who are GENUINELY happy, I say do not get too used to it or when it goes away (and it will) you will think something is wrong when in fact it is just natural.

TAKE IT AS ONE OF LIFE'S CHALLENGES AND MOVE ON.

Advice to young guys: don't look for the woman that gives you the most pleasure. Soon shge will lose what gives you pleasure, whether it is looks or obedient behaviour or enthusiasm for life. LOOK FOR THE WOMAN WHO GIVES YOU NO SINGLE HEADACHE OR WAHAALA. Even if she looks like a PIG, marry her because ALL WOMEN WILL LOOK LIKE OLD HAGS VERY SOON ANYWAY and African women specifically balloon up to 10 times their size after childbirth and look like fricken elephants.

famolino: D wedding ring is d smalest handcufs eva made. Dnt b in a hurry to wear one. Look wel b4 u sentence ursef.

Miss_Ife:

Seriously, I don't see the difference in terms of happiness. If truly you feel that marriage has made you sad, you either married the wrong person or married at the wrong time (ie were not ready to). And believing that single men are happy all because they are single... It's better to remain single then.

spendogram: Reading some of these posts makes me wonder why some people don't see that unhappy people are people who continuously make choices that make them unhappy. They are simply skilled in making such silly choices and they have their spouses to blame for that?

I am happily married and I can tell you that I chose happiness long before marriage so I had no problems making the right decisions. Many people feel that marriage is suppose to make them happy.Nothing further from the truth. You are happy because you make happy choices and such choices include who to marry and how to continuously live with the person.

One very important thing that I must not leave out. If you are a person that is easily swayed by adverts/packaging you tend to make wrong choices. You need to look at the content of things even if the packaging isn't really appealing. Western media has made a majority of the world population to believe more in packaging than the real content. e.g you lots of people with lots of friends and posting lots of nice pictures on social networks. And they always tend to remember your birthday (lol). It will surprise you that those same people don't only look opposite of what they portray themselves to be but also behave completely opposite in real life.

PLENTYNAIR: hmm..........

Joshcoli:

etchel: On point. You spoke every bit of what i should have said.

sanchez4eva: It has been scientifically proven that many men become unhappy after marriage. It may not be the nagging wife or lack of money but many other things are involved. Marriage may seem like paradise but men love freedom, we don't like being tied down and it goes against our nature. As single men we are completely on our own, to ladies it may actually be a bad thing but to men it is a chance to battle the hardship of life and come out victorious.
Why do men get married? Is it solely for the benefit of a companion to satisfy our sexual needs? In my own opinion sex is sweeter if there are different varieties..fat girl today or slim girl tomorrow..[/b]having sex with the same woman for over 6 years may get boring and monotonous and if that's the reason a man marries then his marriage days are numbered. Do men get married for the purpose of having a woman to cook for us and take care of the house? It is a sad fact that some women do not know how to cook and take care of a home and the ones that actually know how to, complain all day and nag the food out of the man. There are many other reasons to get married and I believe the most important one is to bear children but [b]what about if the child is an olodo or physically deformed or has a congenital disease that would end up draining the whole cash? The high cost of school fees may also deter some men from having children.
Notwithstanding, marriage is a beautiful thing if a man marries the right woman but where can such a woman be found? Naija girls of nowadays are all searching for rich guys or want guys with the biggest male organ that can perform for 3 days and when they end up with a man below their expectations they begin to make life hell for the man. My question is this, since most men are unhappy in their marriage what can be done to make the situation better? Should the man turn to K-Solo/DKB and beat the woman or should he get a divorce? This post is for matured minds only as it can save a marriage from collapsing........Peace

manugbo: women ar the ones not happy in their marriages.


im married, i give all that marraiage requires of me, but my husband does'nt


because, he loves keeping girl friends. but its very hard for me to keep male friend. i cant
and its ssssssssooooo painful.

he is cheating on me seriously. i dont know what to do.
although , i ve told him that we need to go for court wedding, which he has refused to do over 6 years now.



Howevr, it has been my desire to serve my God, because all are varnity upon varnity.

i just want to have a good relationship with my God, but my husband attitude towards me is very very bad.

if he dies today, will i mourn for him? i dont think so, rather i will thank God for removing such A PROBLEM FOR ME.


ITS SO PAINFUUUULL

WHat i desire in my life is not what im getting in this marriage.

MY GOD IS GREATER THAN HIM

IM IN BONDAGE, GOD HELP ME

I TRY AS MUCH AS I CAN TO CONSOLE MYSELF, BUT SOMETIMES I LOOSE IT.

CuteXclaim:

How wrong are you on that note. if you think it that way you find it hard to be happy in your marriage. broaden your thinking bro

spendogram: Reading some of these posts makes me wonder why some people don't see that unhappy people are people who continuously make choices that make them unhappy. They are simply skilled in making such silly choices and they have their spouses to blame for that?

I am happily married and I can tell you that I chose happiness long before marriage so I had no problems making the right decisions. Many people feel that marriage is suppose to make them happy.Nothing further from the truth. You are happy because you make happy choices and such choices include who to marry and how to continuously live with the person.

One very important thing that I must not leave out. If you are a person that is easily swayed by adverts/packaging you tend to make wrong choices. You need to look at the content of things even if the packaging isn't really appealing. Western media has made a majority of the world population to believe more in packaging than the real content. e.g you lots of people with lots of friends and posting lots of nice pictures on social networks. And they always tend to remember your birthday (lol). It will surprise you that those same people don't only look opposite of what they portray themselves to be but also behave completely opposite in real life.

sanchez4eva: It has been scientifically proven that many men become unhappy after marriage. It may not be the nagging wife or lack of money but many other things are involved. Marriage may seem like paradise but men love freedom, we don't like being tied down and it goes against our nature. As single men we are completely on our own, to ladies it may actually be a bad thing but to men it is a chance to battle the hardship of life and come out victorious.
Why do men get married? Is it solely for the benefit of a companion to satisfy our sexual needs? In my own opinion sex is sweeter if there are different varieties..fat girl today or slim girl tomorrow..having sex with the same woman for over 6 years may get boring and monotonous and if that's the reason a man marries then his marriage days are numbered. Do men get married for the purpose of having a woman to cook for us and take care of the house? It is a sad fact that some women do not know how to cook and take care of a home and the ones that actually know how to, complain all day and nag the food out of the man. There are many other reasons to get married and I believe the most important one is to bear children but what about if the child is an olodo or physically deformed or has a congenital disease that would end up draining the whole cash? The high cost of school fees may also deter some men from having children.
Notwithstanding, marriage is a beautiful thing if a man marries the right woman but where can such a woman be found? Naija girls of nowadays are all searching for rich guys or want guys with the biggest male organ that can perform for 3 days and when they end up with a man below their expectations they begin to make life hell for the man. My question is this, since most men are unhappy in their marriage what can be done to make the situation better? Should the man turn to K-Solo/DKB and beat the woman or should he get a divorce? This post is for matured minds only as it can save a marriage from collapsing........Peace

shine-eye:
I sincerely do not know where you got the notion that marriage makes men unhappy. I sincerely see you as one of those modern day promoters of ungodliness . How could you even suggest that! I have been married for over a decade and there is no greater bliss than my wife in my life. It is all so simple. If we are simple honest people who dont derive pleasure in deceiving people for our pleasure, we would enjoy this life. But we have become so devious and are reaping from are folly. Life is simple. Marriage is so simple. We have abandoned the sincerity of our fore fathers and complicated our lives. Rather than return to the better old way, some dark agents are busy propelling rotten doctrines of living happy lives by jumping from woman to woman.Also note that enemies of marriage are direct enemies of God. We need to change ourselves, not God or marriage. The unhappiness of today is a reflection of our waywardness. More waywardness can never be the solution!

Sagamite:

What an utter moronic post!

How has this junk proven many men are not unhappy in marriage?

By using your singular life? Or your bigoted religious rants?

Sagamite:

What an utter moronic post!

How has this junk proven many men are not unhappy in marriage?

By using your singular life? Or your bigoted religious rants?

sanchez4eva: I really appreciate the mature comments and good advice from you all but I want to make one thing clear-I Am not married. There is no person that would like to be alone for the rest of his/her life but it is better to be alone and happy than to be with someone that makes life miserable. Some ladies are complaining that women are more unhappy after marriage but I feel that is not true because a happy woman makes a man happy and both of them make a happy family.
Manugbe pls if you are very unhappy to the point that you don't care if your husband dies I suggest you go for counselling or seek a divorce..

lestat:

@Miss_Ife(f): ideal, but my dear very impractical in Nigeria... I agree with what you have said "know thy self" this should be every serious human begins motto!! a lot of people carry all their emotional baggage into marriage hoping that it will all get miraculously fixed by the marriage itself which in my opinion is absurd.. I have to say I am always shocked when I see certain people I knew way back in unilag all of a sudden married and I think to myself 'ehm that girl was a groupie! has she suddenly fixed that and gotten married?"
that being said!! I personally am still but 90% of my buddies are married and every time we are out drinking after the third bottle someone at the table always starts with on complaint about his wife then the other all join in and they all start comparing who has the worst wife or the most impossible wife and I sit there thinking these used to be very happy chaps back in the days...
so yes I am paranoid about marriage and understandably so, because everywhere I look I see people who are just tolerating each other, not really happy together, or they are still together because they are ashamed to get a divorce or they already have kids... I think we all need to take a break and ask some serious questions

SNCOQ3:

^ What is it with the insults ?? Why don't you prove him wrong constructively if you have your facts?

sanchez4eva:
Bro pls no harsh words. He is writing what he feels is right and should be done. Different strokes for different folks.

kadafijabz: i'm not married.at least not yet,but my experiences as a vibrant young man,has helped me build a futuristic perspective towards the subject 'marriage'.truth be told,every marriage or union,is aan amalgamation of two imperfect people trying to achieve a healthy blend of ideologies without harmfull fictions.the beauty of any union,is the ability to disagree to agree.marriage is no exception!i musnt fail to mention that society and growing trends,have further aided in bastardizing this much revered institution.i'm amazed that men would rather opt to go cheer their favourite football teams,rather than spend lost quality time with their yearning spouses.blackberry is readily another wanted culprit in this critically sensitive piece.social networking has gradually stolen away the sanity of values we all once upheld so intensely.women now consider the kitchen a 'deathrow' in every sense.its even more 'classy' and optional to buy meals for their household even at weeekends!what a letdown!whichever way,lapses and inaddequacies are expedient.joy will only remain in an atmosphere of humility.humilty from both ends to readily admit their voids and wanting-lly adopt an attitude of teachability.there may never be a spotless marriage,but there can always be a happy one.it all depends on the readiness of the practitioners to embrace the spirit of sacrifice which of course,has been sent on a indefinite exile by many 'players' in this sacred industry.on a final note,i implore you to sincerely ask yourself this one vital question'am i really ready to pay the price to make this union work?the future of your union or marriage,solely depends on whatever your heart has echoed as an answer...marriage is honourable,and the bed undefiled.GOD said so!cheers people.

kwizzy: So many single men are unhappy,lonely,fustrated,jobless,dis-organisnised,heartbroken and tired of life. Hpoking different type of women whether booby,big bom,black,fat,slim etc doesn't make one happy always except for Ω̶̣̣̥̇̊ sex addict.life is nt all about freedom.for life to be meaniful you must take responsibility. Marriage is ordained by God and in its true form is suppose to be enjoyed.

Sagamite:

Well said.
Too harsh. Girls are holes though but there are angels, but those angels can only be seen by archangels. Change urself to find your missing rib, period.




He should say what ever he needs to say intelligently and he should keep his religious bigotry to himself.

If he wants to fight demons, he should do it in his church with a hosepipe of holy water.