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Is This Normal At All by peu(op): 3:03am On Apr 04, 2006

i am in love with my best friend's uncle
the uncle and i both know it ,we talk in code in thepresence of everybody
i am also dating my bestfriend cousin.
the cousin is too timid for a guy but the uncle is my kind of guy.
what do i do and is this normal because the uncle is nine years older than me

Re: Is This Normal At All by Zahymaka(m): 3:27am On Apr 04, 2006

How old are you -- to start with? If you're still very young then I'd call that a crush -- just a harmless liking for someone else. I wouldn't recommend you going out with someone far older than you are.

Sitting down and examining just exactly what you find interesting about him might help.

Re: Is This Normal At All by peu(op): 3:56am On Apr 04, 2006

one year remaining to be be away from teens age

Re: Is This Normal At All by Zahymaka(m): 4:04am On Apr 04, 2006

Then it's very normal. Just wait it out girl -- he knows you're interested in him and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Wait it out and it will most likely pass.

Re: Is This Normal At All by hotangel2(f): 4:20am On Apr 04, 2006

peu:
one year remaining to be be away from teens age

So u r 19 soon to be 20. Then the uncle is like 28 soon to be 29. I think that's okay.

But daing, ur best friend is in trouble oo. lol, U dated her cousin, and now u'll leave him to date her uncle, sooner or later u'll choose her daddy. J/k.

Anyways, i think since you both know you so much like each other, things will fall in their places. First of all, you have to leave ur presen boyfriend, cos obviously u r not "in love" with him. Once that's done, ur friends uncle might understand that you need him to "move a step further", and then he can ask u out or something. But again, back to ur friend, do u think she'll approve?

Re: Is This Normal At All by Blackbuddy: 1:12pm On Apr 04, 2006

If this "uncle" gave you a green light, would you really begin to date him? No doubt, he's aware of your relationship with his nephew/cousin and this "coded talk" thing between you two is plain wrong. However, a little flirting never hurt anyone, it's when we let our emotions get the better of our rational thoughts that "wahala go shele" ( there'll be trouble). Check yourself before you wreck more than yourself.

Re: Is This Normal At All by peu(op): 1:10am On Apr 05, 2006

the Uncle has already given green ligth but i did not follow
i respect my bestfriend and my dignity
the uncle refer to his cousin as "babybrother"
that is the reason why i stood at red when the green ligth was on
but i still feel for the uncle
i guess i need help

Re: Is This Normal At All by Blackbuddy: 11:12am On Apr 05, 2006

peu, I feel you sister. Just ignore those feelings and stick with your boyfriend until you meet someone else who can give you a more fulfilling relationship. And if your present boyfriend is just not it, dump him. Never manage second best or settle for less.