[b] A Story With A Moral: Why Should I Marry You?


Once there was a very
handsome, pious, well
educated young man,
whose parents
emphasised for him to get
married. They had seen so many marriage proposals,
and he had turned them all
down. The parents
thought it was becoming a
little ridiculous or
suspected that he may have someone else in
mind. However every time
the parents left the girls
house, the young man
would always say she’s
not the one! The young man only wanted a girl
who was religious and
practising, however one
evening his mother
arranged for him, to meet
a girl, who was religious, and practising. On that
evening, the young men,
and the girl, were left to
talk, and ask each other
question. (As one would
expect). The young man, being a
gentleman that he was
allowed, the lady to ask
first. The young girl asked
the young man so many
questions, she asked about his life, his
education, his friends, his
family, his habits, his
hobbies, his lifestyle, his
enjoyment, his pastime,
his experiences, his shoe size, etc. The young man
replied to all of her
questions, without tiring,
and politely, with a smile
the young girl took up
nearly all of the time, over an hour, and felt bad, and
asked the young man do
you have any questions?
The young man said, “Its
ok. I only have 3
questions.” The young girl thought, “Wow, ONLY 3
questions okay.” The young man’s 1st
question was

Q1: “Who do you love the most in the world,
someone whose love
nothing would ever
overcome?”
A1: She said; “this is an
easy question, my
mother.” he smiled

Q2: “you said that you read a lot of Qur’an, could
you tell me which surahs
you know the meaning
of?” A2: Hearing this she went
red and embarrassed and
said: “I do not know the
meaning of any yet, but I
am hoping to soon
Insha’Allah I’ve just been a bit busy.”

Q3: “I have been approached for my hand
in marriage, by girls that
are a lot prettier than you
why should I marry
you?”
A3: Hearing this young girl
was outraged, she
stormed off to her
parents with fury, and
said “I do not want to
marry this man he is insulting my beauty, and
intelligence.” The young man and his
parents were once again,
left without an agreement
of marriage. This time, the
young man’s parents were
really angry, and said “what did you do to anger
that girl, the family were
so nice, and pleasant, and
they were religious like
you wanted. What did you
ask the girl?? Tell us!”
The young man said, “1st I asked her, who do you
love the most? She said
her mother.” the parents
said: “so, what is wrong
with that?”

The young
man said: “no one, is Muslim, until he loves
Allah, and his Messenger
(SAW) more than anyone
else in the world’. If a
woman loves Allah and
Rasulullah (SAW) more than anyone, she will love
me and respect me, and
stay faithful to me,
because of that love, and
fear for Allah. And we can
share this love, because this love is greater than
lust for beauty.” The young man said: “the 2nd question I asked, you
read a lot of Qur’an, can
you tell me the meaning
of any surah?” And she
said no, because I haven’t
had time yet. so I thought of that hadith ‘ALL
humans, are dead except
for those who have
knowledge’ She has lived
20 years and not found
ANY time, to seek knowledge, why would I
marry a woman, who does
not know her rights, and
responsibilities, and what
will she teach my children,
except how to be negligent, because the
woman IS the madressa
(school) and the best of
teachers. And a woman,
who has no time for Allah,
will not have time for her husband.” “The 3rd question I asked
her was that a lot of girls,
prettier than her, had
approached me for
marriage, why should I
choose you? That is why she stormed off, getting
angry.” The young man’s parents said: “that is a
horrible thing to say, why
you would do such a
thing? we are going back
there to apologies.” The
young man said: “I said this on purpose, to test
whether she could control
her anger. Rasulullah
(SAW) said ‘do not get
angry, do not get angry,
do not get angry’ when asked how to become
pious; because anger is
from Shaytaan. If a
woman cannot control her
anger with a stranger she
has just met, do you think she will be able to control
it with her husband?”




The Moral: • Knowledge, not
only out looking-
Beauty. • Practice, not
preaching/
recitation only
(millions of reciters
are there). • Forgiveness, not Anger. • Spiritual love, not
Lust. • Compromise! One should look for a person who: • Has love for Allah
and Rasulullah
(SAW). • Has knowledge of
the deen, and can
act upon it. • Can control their
anger • Willing to
compromise. It goes both ways,
WOMEN SEEKING A MAN, SHOULD LOOK FOR THE SAME THINGS .

Ayesha (RA) reports: “one day I was on a camel which was somewhat difficult to control and the Rasulullah (SAW) remarked “you must be compassionate, whenever there is compassion in something it adorns it, and when it is removed from something it disgraces it." [/b]