What is that one thing that is still keeping you in that marriage of yours even though you aren't happy? Divorce is an option but have have decided to remain emotionally traumatized.

Is it because oy your kids, family pressure, societal criticism of what?

So many people remain in marriages they are physically, emotionally and psychologically traumatised.

So many things o, u can't u/stand! Its jst not dt ez to leave

peaceheartt: So many things o, u can't u/stand! Its jst not dt ez to leave

If you are married please can you give us one or two insights?

My friend go and get married rather than making senseless post. Marriage is not an activity to seek happiness but to contribute happiness, not an institution to take but to give, not an institution to be selfish but to compromise, not an institution to blame but to agree that every mistake is a learning point, not an institution to hold grievance but to forgive and remember to err is human. And if you are not happy in your marriage do not blame only your partner but also yourself because it take 2 to be in a marriage.

omosexy1: My friend go and get married rather than making senseless post. Marriage is not an activity to seek happiness but to contribute happiness, not an institution to take but to give, not an institution to be selfish but to compromise, not an institution to blame but to agree that every mistake is a learning point, not an institution to hold grievance but to forgive and remember to err is human. And if you are not happy in your marriage do not blame only your partner but also yourself because it take 2 to be in a marriage.

How ironic.
You being the tutor to a senseless post.
Thanks for the lecture all the same.

I am curious too and I donot think it is senseless.

Because it is better to make up than to break up, divorce doesn't guarantee happiness either. Life is what and how you make it.

omosexy1: My friend go and get married rather than making senseless post. Marriage is not an activity to seek happiness but to contribute happiness, not an institution to take but to give, not an institution to be selfish but to compromise, not an institution to blame but to agree that every mistake is a learning point, not an institution to hold grievance but to forgive and remember to err is human. And if you are not happy in your marriage do not blame only your partner but also yourself because it take 2 to be in a marriage.

Thanks for the insight, indeed helpful for those of use who are married. however, the OP is either frustrated, non-marriageable, divorced or a phucking home-breaker.

991:

Thanks for the insight, indeed helpful for those of use who are married. however, the OP is either frustrated, non-marriageable, divorced or a phucking home-breaker.

You made sense in your previous post but just blew it with this comment of yours.

This thread was just to encourage those who think divorce is the only way out. At least when they read through to how people are trying to make marriages work they will also put in such work to see that theirs work as well.

Your post was not to encourage people, but to tell them that they are stupid in their marriages, since they are not happy in it. Please read your post topic very well. Marriage is just like every other phase of life were you experience happiness, bitterness, anger, joy and blessing. I do not know why people pay too much lip service to marriage and always looking for a way out. Nothing in life comes easy, being rich doesn't come easy, also being happy doesn't come easy you have to work for it. You find people asking themselves if they have married the right person or their soulmate. When you express doubt you already give room for failure. Rather than question your own altitude, you blame your partner for your shortcomings. It is out of our selfish nature, we subscribe to divorce never wanting to make things work. Like I said previously, if your marriage is not working, blame yourself because you contributed to it too.

omosexy1: Your post was not to encourage people, but to tell them that they are stupid in their marriages, since they are not happy in it. Please read your post topic very well. Marriage is just like every other phase of life were you experience happiness, bitterness, anger, joy and blessing. I do not know why people pay too much lip service to marriage and always looking for a way out. Nothing in life comes easy, being rich doesn't come easy, also being happy doesn't come easy you have to work for it. You find people asking themselves if they have married the right person or their soulmate. When you express doubt you already give room for failure. Rather than question your own altitude, you blame your partner for your shortcomings. It is out of our selfish nature, we subscribe to divorce never wanting to make things work. Like I said previously, if your marriage is not working, blame yourself because you contributed to it too.

Okay sorry if the post was misunderstood.
But the intention of this thread is for people to actually share why they have decided to stick in their marriages rather than opting out.

Just heard a woman say the only reason why she is still in her marriage is to make her parents happy.

^^^^ So

Just one question . . . did anybody tell you they were giving out awards for dumb-thread-starters

Ujujoan: ^^^^ So

Just one question . . . did anybody tell you they were giving out awards for dumb-thread-starters

Is this how you go out of your way to get noticed by guys?

Now I can see why you are miserable and single. While other ladies are being chased you are the one doing the chasing is in very childish way.

I have seen you. Can you dive back into your swamp?

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acidtalk:

Is this how you go out of your way to get noticed by guys?

Now I can see why you are miserable and single. While other ladies are being chased you are the one doing the chasing is in very childish way.

I have seen you. Can you dive back into your swamp?

Okay, I will . . . ASA you promise to stop with these dustbin material topics!

I see... no wonder she roams about town?..Lobatan!

jidegirl12: I see... no wonder she roams about town?..Lobatan!

Na real kolo babe.
Wonder why they haven't gone to dump her yet at the psychiatric home.

991:

Thanks for the insight, indeed helpful for those of use who are married. however, the OP is either frustrated, non-marriageable, divorced or a phucking home-breaker.

Damn!!

@Poster - The power of free kpekusing every night keeps body and soul together in "that marriage".

horny4u: I am curious too and I donot think it is senseless.

See no gain in a lady(single/married) twitchin ears towards stories of loveless/broken marraiges cos d dirt will stick in ur ear n mind n cld attract such a fate to u ...best u lend ur ears 2 tales of Happy marraiges n work on gettin d "Happy" recipe frm em. #see no evil-hear no evil-do no evil ....n curiousity killed d cat mind u.

many nairalanders are so funny and fond of turning everything to a joking matter.anyway dat aside.women are d greatest self liars.they will lie to everyone around dem and dey will even lie to demselves just to kip being mrs james or mrs adeyemi.shebi d common excuse women give to stay in a failed marriage or a marriage filled with violence and assault is its because of my children,ehen pikin don grow,all of dem don comot house,some don dey live for anoda state,country etc,commot for d marriage na,sebi u say because of ur pikin,now all of dem don mature,dem don be adults,oya find anoda excuse.am a lady and i know how all dis things go,d only reason a woman will stay in a marriage despite d degrading situation dey experience is because of PHENEES but dey will neva own up.make una dey deceive una sef say na pikin o until u die inside d marriage make una no learn to use ur number 6 wen it comes to man matter abi marriage

True talk.
Women will always try and give one excuse or the other why they need to remain in that marriage.

Whoa its always so funny to understand how people reason. When i saw the topic it sounded interesting and i felt it will be educative to some folks.which it would ve been if some people didn't start condemning it.People r too angry and frustrated these days that even a simple harmless topic can lead to insults.people need to stop seeing the negative be4 d positive@ poster the topic makes sense n it will help people realize if u get honest answers that Divorce is not always the answer or vice versa.Thumbs up.

^^^
Truth be told, ALL those who condemned this thread don't have problem with the topic but rather with the messanger.

You find them trying to derail every single thread of mine. They are just too envious of the messanger and will do anythingto derail and render useless all my threads but the fact is they always get disgraced at the end of the day.

^^ Or maybe, just maybe, the respondents here think you're trying to make light of a serious issue.

There is a thread which more than answers the questions you ask, which was opened by Jenny.

Feel free to drop by and have a read of people's real life experiences.

https://www.nairaland.com/1084309/debrief-cotton101-those-came-out

Well, maybe....