₦airaland Forum

A lots of people up there making mouth and daring the honourable s and Wike like they have anything they can do.

If they impeach Fubara, nothing will happen. The only thing that will happen is going to court to claim it back.

If you protest, you'll get lekki treatment.

Stop using emotions to deal with legal, politics or government issues.

As things stand at the moment in this country, if another election will be conducted tomorrow, Atiku and Obi will not have up to the votes they previously got and will still be in their position.

Nothing will change

Jokerman:
The President became 72 years this year .

From 2024 back to 1999, that is 25 years...

This will mean that as at 1999, Bola Tinubu was 47 years?

He was 40 plus when he became Governor of Lagos state.

This is to those calling Nigeria a zoo.

Feel free to abuse the leaders, but don't call the country a bad name.

Government will always change, but the country is going no where.

MrBrownJay1:
the child biological father must be part of that discussion/deal... you cant possibly decide to adopt another man's child without talking to that man first and foremost (if he is alive), even if babymama accepts the adoption of her child.

She should then agree not to finance the boy.

It's not a big deal, make the biological father do

4reala:
So you haven't seen some biological children refusing to recognize one or both parents when grown up, or even disowning some

Never seen, only heard but rate... However, it's a choice to make whether to finance someone else child or not.

Now, I believe he should not spend a penny on the boy or let her go

4reala:
Your friend is acting selfish. The lady might be carrying the thought of what if the biological father comes for his son nko? Definitely there will be issues. If your friend loves the lady, let him marry the girl with the child and treat him good. It will be left for the boy to consider him as his father, depending on the way he treats him. Or else he can allow her go, because he can surely not have only her.

Securing the future and protest his interest is now considering childish?

Wow wow wow.

I think I have find the perfect response for him to act on

MrBrownJay1:
let put ourselves in that man's shoes.... so you paid for the upkeep of your child (food/shelter/medical/school fees etc) until now, and then because some man wants to marry your babymama, he wants to adopt "your" child that you've raised til now. what man in his right mind would be okay with that?

Doesn't have issues with the baby daddy, can the mother accept the terms given is the deal.

Alexlalax1:
These are political jobbers using the name of a party to achieve their motives. In their inner minds, they never believed in the ideology of lp. They never had the people at mind but their personal gains!!! Who knows them before? They should be forever grateful for the party for giving them the platform.

Political Jobber using the name of ticket Hunter to get what they want.

No one is a saint.

Tjra:
I know that your friend is you.

Why would you want to adopt someone's child? It's not as if his father is dead.

Your insistence on having legal authority over the boy before he can come see his mother is a dangerous red flag.

My advise to you is that you leave the lady

peacefully. Don't ruin her. Being after one is already hard enough.

I am not a single father, I am married with 2 beautiful and lovely daughter's.

To your advice, it would be reverted.

MrBrownJay1:
is the child's biological father still alive?

I don't ask, but I think so.

There's high probability of that

Stevenbright:
Ok.

[b]She is expecting your friend to overlook it and go ahead with the marriage [/b]but he must ensure the issue is settled before the final conclusion of the marriage.

You get it, and the reason he talk to me for advice.

I just want them to be happy in anything they do

Stevenbright:
Alright, but you didn't say anything about my main question: What is her excuse for not cooperating with the adoption (what did she tell your friend is the reason)?

No excuse, she just wave it and act like nothing happened.

I heard she's still thinking about it

MrBrownJay1:
i dont have the answer to the above question but i do know that, he certainly shouldnt do anything that he isnt ok with... thus why he stated that he is NOT ok with paying for a child that aint his (legally) NOR having such child living in house. pretty straight forward to me (aka i either adopt this child or there will be no marriage nor any "living together" with that child under my roof).

we all know how some of these bastard pikin (eating your food and living under your roof) will now get up one day (after many years of raising/educating them), and if you want to discipline them they will now tell you:"you are not my dad, you have no authority over me bla bla bla"

Agreed

Stevenbright:
Who told you they are perfect for each other. If they are, what is her excuse for not cooperating with him on the adoption issue?


I guess she might still have connections with the child's father or still getting quality upkeep from him.

He should just let her be, otherwise he will find himself in a love triangle!

I know much about them as this is my best friend.

On the upkeep, there's probability on that.

MrBrownJay1:
i fully understand and agree with what this man wants to do, but sadly, unless that child's biological father is dead OR give consent to adopt his son, how can you adopt such child? just because you marry a woman doesnt automatically give you the right to adopt this child who probably already have a loving father. your friend needs to sit down with the is woman AND the biological father of this child before thinking of adopting this child.

ultimately, you are (your friend is) right in not spending any money on another man's child, unless it is legally YOUR child.

Can he have a good home if he marries the lady and not contributing anything to the child or forbids him in his house?

AlaafinOfOyo:
It may be a tall order, however, having a [b]capable hand like him [/b]rescuing the country is worth a shot. Even if APC rigs the election again, no one would say the man didn't do his best. Then we can conclude that Nigerians have been cursed to suffer bad leadership for another generation.

Anytime you people mentioned Obi as being capable, it makes me so furious and I wonder how you come to that conclusion... Then, I realised that's the same for you and others too when another candidate is mentioned.

It's well.

[quote author=fyzaila post=129156681]Your friend or you? Talk true

Does the father of the child also agree to the adoption? If she agrees now and the father of the child come later for the child, don't you think there will be kasala?? 🤔😏[/quote]I am married with 2 lovely daughter's. Though no marriage is perfect, but I am okay with my choice at the moment. So it's not me please 🥺

Kobojunkie:
Love is not enough to make a relationship work. Your friend felt strongly enough about the adoption thing and her stance against it seems equally strong. Even if she eventually bends on her part to accommodate him, there will always be the fact that he considered leaving her because of the disagreement. I think that amounts to a relationship red flag.

Hmmm

Zonefree:
With money, you can hire a wise person to manage your enterprise.


Get money, all things will fall in line.

If you can think of hiring someone to manage your business, it means you have topnotch wisdom.

Kobojunkie:
Since your friend has already considered leaving, there is no point in him remaining with her.

Not because there was no love, but because they can't reach a compromise about the child.

Still optimistic there'll be a way out and the reason I brought it here for more people to help

Kobojunkie:
This is a no-brainer though! The adoption thing seems to be a deal breaker. Commonsense is your friend should quit the relationship and move on.

Hmmmm, be like something o

Zonefree:
If she's a Nigerian, she's not good.

There's no good Nigerian girl again. Na manage we dey manage them now.

Hmmm, Among those damage is where some are better than the rest.

You know se Tokunbo get grades.

Zonefree:
She's a Nigerian?

Yes

Zonefree:

The lady got hidden agenda.


Is your friend aware the father of that boy still has 98.897% access to the woman's kpekus?

I don't want to think about that... It's none of my business, but she seems like a good girl.

We4all:
He can't adopt the boy if his biological father is still alive.

Should he let the lady go or not having anything to do with the boy?

A friend of mine is about to marry a single mother of one. My friend doesn't have any issues with the lady. But he wants to adopt the baby legally before he can spend on him, but it seems the lady doesn't want that and is not taking the adoption seriously.
 
So this friend of mine is insisting on not allowing the boy to his house or supporting her on anything about him if he won't have any legal authority over the boy.
 
This guy loves the lady, as we all know, but he's considering letting her go if they can't come to terms with the baby.
 
My friend is also a single father of one boy and is doing all his responsibilities.

We all also like this lady, and we don't want them to part as it seems they're perfect for each other.
 
Please, how can he handle the situation and how can we helped them.

Crafteck1:
I got this tv from their dealer, the bleeding edge is killing me, is this the way its meant to be or is it that ive been spoilt by Samsung qled that i used before it got spoilt. Its 75 inches hisense a7k series, i can live with its slow response to remote but this black isnt blackkkkk..

Afternoon Samsung, always go for Panasonic.

I have 65inch bought in UK, very good and durable... It's 5yrs now

Link please

SoNature:
Oga, rest! The day Dave Umahi declares for presidency, you will remind him that he's IPOB. We don see una finish.

That's a lie... There are many better Igbo politicians but you'll not support them yourself and present one Agugulu 3rd class.

How does it sounds to you supporting a 3rd class candidate ahead of first class international candidate?

Franklyspeakin:
If Obi mistakenly join force with elrufai. He would loose his large following.

He can't lose much followers... They believe he's the only sure way for Igbo presidency. The only thing is that, no major party will give him ticket and if there was a merger, the best he can get is VP.

Coolsat:
Mallam get plans. All those people wey edge him out no sabi say Mallam na one of the major force wey make Tinubu win and those wey edge him sef couldn't do much for Tinubu.

Tinubu may likely not win reelection if Atiku agrees to take a back seat and dem join force with Obi

Obi cannot beat any northern candidate. Best possible position for him is VP