₦airaland Forum

Pennywise:
Whether you like it or not, we will dominate and subdue Ghana. Your men are lazy and have nothing to offer. But the women have a lot to offer which is why we keep coming. And they are quite affordable.

Firstly Ghanaian men are not lazy. Who is more lazy than the money hungry men with their get rich quick schemes (fraud, drugs etc) ? Ghanaian men have way more to offer. Ghanaian women are not as money conscious and materialistic as women from a certain country. If she likes you then she likes you irrespective of your pocket.

justhelp:
please when I ask a question just answer me, okay , which is country has the best economy in Africa ? Need your reply

South Africa is the best. As good as the 'economy' of nigeria is. The average person is not better off unfortunately

anigbajumo:
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Nairalanders with their Low level of reasoning, Ghanian transporter Association has not done anything bad.most of you just dey mastubate on the thread coz u dnt know the basic concept behind the transportation business. You think Ghana is Nigeria where dangote has monopoly over everything, lol....

For an investor to site an industry in particular area,there must be economical benefit for the masses...

You own a firm nd allowed the transporter to bring in their trucks for transportation purposes,that is good move nd it benefits the masse.Over a decade (10yrs later) u now bring yer trucks in thousands for transportation purposes, what is now the hope of commercial transporter that has been into system over the years??
You own a firm that produces primary needs and u are the one that involves in the transportation processes, tell me the Economic importance of yer firm in that geographical area where there is no chance for commercial trucks.

That is nonsense dangote has been doing in Nigeria, his truck has spoil cost of transportation of commercial trucks in Obajana nd Obese cement plant.Nigeria is a lawless country u can do anyhow so far u ar rich....

Kudos to Ghanian Transporter....

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Most sensible comment on this thread.
I don't know why some nigerians are getting so over emotional about it. This deal will not benefit or impact on the daily lives of the average nigerians so why are you upset about what ghanaians choose to do to benefit their own country ?
Some people really need to relax. As for Mahama he needs to go, he should have more sense to know better. Illiterate dummy

I just wonder why any woman will do this. You can't hide forever and eventually the truth will come out. So much unneccessary stress.

Its a full grown female deer. Female deers do not have horns only male deers do

I have experienced similar thing when parents want to bring you into their marital problems. It can be very stressfull as you don't want to take sides. I would have suggested that you move away from home, but since you are unemployed than you will just have to hang in there till you can leave. If you have any siblings preferably older than you than maybe you could speak to them and they could speak to your parents about this

Your husband is a very lazy, irresponsible and selfish man. He is rather saving and keeping money to use as he wishes while you do everything alone. Have a heart to heart conversation with him and from now onwards both of you should contribute to household stuff

STILESGANG:
Who cares if you like black charcoals,Not everyone does...That is what we call choice. Who cares if you like black charcoals,Not everyone does...That is what we call choice.

Its not a choice its a fact

STILESGANG:
Why the guy come black like charcoal?..Oh! I forgot he is a ghanian.

Yet he still looks 100 times better than you...

At the end of the day her husband is not complaining about her breast or his wife. So to each their own.

I vote Refiner

Cc: NLjega

all4naija:
This is often the excuse most West African ladies in USA give when you ask them that question. Jeez!

all4naija:
Okay. You are possibly ashamed of your country. I am not!

Lol I am not ashamed. I left it out for a reason so just let it be

all4naija:
West Africa is not a nation but a region. Which country are you particularly from? Sorry, I am a very curious dude?

I did not say it for a reason. So let that be that

HIGHESTPOPORI:
I hope the guy is not really a Nigerian cos he is too dumb,you are not worth the headache and torture,you made him pass thru,what's the big deal about foreign papers when most Guys are making it here in Nigeria and even married at that age,the guys needs to dumb you and move on with his life and get his sanity back,its not worth it!

Lol and yet peeps are still marrying old white ugly fat grannies for papers and I bet you would do the same if given the chance

texmi2u:
Hmm. Your story is just a reverse of the case in my situation... as in I am a guy and she was a lady. Being unfaithful in the start of a relationship is disastrous, especially when love comes in. my ex-girlfriend, met her in one of my classes in college. She initiated our relationship and was from the Caribbean. I as a Naija boy think say I don hit jackpot cause she was really beautiful. Along the course of dating which spanned 2 years, she told me in between she needed me to help her file her stay. That's was when I begin to doubt her love for me.... Maybe she just needed me to get her paper work... well I kept promising till I left her... leaving her though wasn't funny, because she made me pay for it severely.

I tell you, put love aside and reason carefully if you can bear it if he leaves you after using you for paper work. But one thing is ... Hey you never know.

Actually you are Reasonable with your decision.

Often times we normally think it's the men that chase ladies for papers but women do it too. I am sorry about what you went through I can relate in a way. As the days go by it gets easier and easier to deal with. The lesson here is don't date anyone who does not have their papers

all4naija:
Jeez! It is just a question because I don't know where you are from.Is there anything wrong with my question?

It means you never read my thread because I specifically stated that am also a West African

PunkyVeer:
Lol, ask him again!

All4naija, stop your obsession with SA

He probably loves SA that's why

all4naija:
Aren't you a South African?

Is South Africa located in West Africa?

AfroKnight:
You said ALL your friends who dated Nigerian guys had issues with them and you thought you'd never date one of us. You gave him your number with a mind prepared to block him. He rang you several times for 3 days and you knew it was him but refused to take his calls. He told you he loved you and you dismissed it because you didn't believe it. You said you don't generally get involved with "fresh off the boat" guys cos they just want papers. You even expressed doubt at the authenticity of the breakup conversation he had with his Nigerian girl.

These are just a few hints from within a year of your friendship/relationship with him. Reading through your story, anyone would think this guy is a crook and that is only because of how you have been defending yourself from him. I wonder if you would have treated a guy from another West African country the same way.

As a rule I don't bother with people who doubt me. I have learned not to spend precious time trying to prove myself. I think that Nigerian guy deserves a break from you. He's been trying too hard to please someone who will never be convinced.

The best you can do for him is to be frank. It will never work because he will never be believable.

You are wrong but let's just agree to disagree. I really don't have the energy to argue any further

PunkyVeer:
Gotcha! Well, good luck. What can I say?

Thank you my dear. I guess it's just life.

all4naija:
I am... for telling you the hard truth.

I was laughing at the fact that you said I should break up so that I don't come complaining that all Nigerian men are bad lol

AfroKnight:
Stories like these make me sad. Some people will never be good enough because of their backgrounds or ancestry no matter how hard they try to prove themselves.

Why are you saying this? I never judged him on his background. I still dated him and gave him my number when I found out he was Nigerian. The paper thing unfortunately became an issue. People were warning me and I could not fully trust him. It's sad but that's how it was. You can read the replies on this thread and they are all mostly saying the same thing. This is why I even came here because of this

PunkyVeer:
Awwww He must have been great But yeah, I feel for you. Now please tell me about the other guy, how did you meet if you were in different countries? Just curious

We met at a mutuals friends wedding . He came here from the UK on hols and the rest is history. We traveled back and fourth but it was quite costly but eventually we started to drift apart slowly.

SkinnyDude:
if he's from southwest Nigeria.. my sister, RUN!!!!

Lol you guys are killing me here. What is wrong with south west? He is Edo from Benin City.

AfroKnight:
You even suspect he faked the conversation? Wow. Okay, I think you should tell him the truth that You will never trust him no matter what. I believe this is because he is a Nigerian. Nothing he will do will win your trust.

I never suspected he faked it. I actually believed the conversation cos it had other stuff there that he was reluctant for me to see initially but to prove his innocence he let me read all.

all4naija:
Please, forget about the dude for goodness sake. [b]So that tomorrow you won't regret blaming all Nigerian men. [/b]It is often a common thing with AmaZulu women. Life goes on. If you can't fix the documentation requirement for him then you have nothing to offer to help him in that area when it matters the most. It is good both of you separate and move on. It is not the end of the world!

You are funny.

PunkyVeer:
By "friendship" I meant what you're currently doing, keeping in touch. What do you call it? LOL! Anyway, whatever it is, just continue with it because from the feel of it, it appears like there's still unfinished business on both sides. You can always bang him out of your system, works like a charm Hahaha. Just joking. Well good luck, girl. Love is complicated hey

Oh I see lol. Love is really indeed complicated and I just seem to be getting that. First relationship different countries which is another complication all together. Now I meet a guy who does not have his docs and now another complication. Can't I just get a break. The ironic part was when I met him it had not been too long since my last relationship ended and I just wanted a break just to remain single and be happy.

Banging him outa my system I think that would be the opposite in my case

AfroKnight:
Abbssx, I think this guy was genuinely attracted to you in the beginning. For him to be able to break up with you, that shows yours is like any normal relationship. You've been too hard on him.

Do you truly love him?

This relationship was very difficult for me because I was not able to let go completely because of the thoughts ( paper issues). I didn't want to get hurt so I did not allow myself to be completely open.

Initially I thought I just had feelings for him. I said even if we broke up I won't die but only later on in our relationship did I realize how strong I felt after the first time we broke up. We got back together but this issue still did not go away.

He also showed me some BBM conversation he had with his girl from Nigeria in which he told her that he has met someone else. The girl was very distraught but maybe that was fake too. I dunno

PunkyVeer:
lol @ his friends saying he has changed. He's stressing about papers so why wouldn't he? Rubbish! Just don't be guilt tripped into anything you don't feel comfortable doing. This does sound all romantic & ish, however, there's still a funny stench to it. How long did he date his Nigerian "ex"? How come he didn't wanna marry HER? Nah, something just doesn't add up. I'll suggest you just take it very slow, open your eyes & see where the friendship leads.

Nah its either I am in or out. I am out the only time it will work is if he sorts out his papers first but most likely by that time it may be too late. I have made peace with it now. It was not as easy to break up but it was for the best

PunkyVeer:
I understand what you mean. So have you spoken since the break up? Can you please take me on how you broke up. Like, what led to it?

Well he sends me messages still here and there.

We'll it got to a point where trust became a problem. I didn't trust him and sometimes we would fight. One day we had a big fight. He was very upset. He told me he was tired of always feeling like a criminal. He hates being accused wrongly of things that he is not guilty off and I told him I also am tired of this thing. Truth is I don't trust him and I don't enjoy always thinking wrongly of him. So we both came to agreement that we should end things if that is the case. He wanted us to remain friends but I told him that I need time to first get over this. I still see him around I mean we don't live far apart from each other. He still sends me messages though asking how I am etc. Sometimes when I meet his friends they are like what have I done to their friend. He has changed etc etc. A lot of people knew we were dating. He used to tell like a lot of people. Sometimes he would get a call from his friends in Dublin they also knew about us. I used to speak to his sister in Spain. She is also married to a guy from my Country so when we broke up she called me to ask me why. He also wanted me to come to his hometown in Nigeria this December hols. I only told him I loved him back after 8 months in the relationship even though he used to tell it to me constantly

@ronald4lif thanks again for the advice. Once bitten twice shy. Sometimes you just have to experience it. Experience the say is the best teacher.

Never again. Will avoid such men from today onwards. Will just stick to what I know and what works