PunkyVeer:


Lol, ask him again!

All4naija, stop your obsession with SA

abbssx:
Is South Africa located in West Africa?

PunkyVeer:


Lol, ask him again!

All4naija, stop your obsession with SA

abbssx:


He probably loves SA that's why

abbssx:
Is South Africa located in West Africa?

abbssx:

I have never dated a guy like him before. My first by before him we dated for like 5years but we broke up due to long distance (different countries) and then I met him. So he was technically my second boyfriend.

Sometimes it seems like it's my fault. He always excuses me that I think the worst of him. That he confided in me about the permit thing cos we are close but I am using it against him now. That he really is not using me for papers. That he just wants to be with me and does not want to lose me.

So I am kinda in a dilemma of sorts. I dunno if I can trust the guy cos I don't want to be made a fool off. But what if he is telling the truth? Apart from this paper issue that is our biggest problem in the relationship. He told me that he did have someone in Nigeria but he is not sure of the relationship because he is not planning on going back and now that he has met me too he wants to be with me.

Truth is as much as I am a toughie and a no nonsense girl. He has grown on me. I do have feelings for him. I guess I just can't believe I am on this situation where I swore I would never allow myself to get

Am I being unreasonable?

all4naija:

I am not obsessed with SA. I don't dig the BS they spew in this forum and expect to be seen as superior. You know what I mean, like the AmaZulus who expose their peanuts and bosoms in public and expect to be complimented for it. That is unacceptable!

texmi2u:


Hmm. Your story is just a reverse of the case in my situation... as in I am a guy and she was a lady. Being unfaithful in the start of a relationship is disastrous, especially when love comes in. my ex-girlfriend, met her in one of my classes in college. She initiated our relationship and was from the Caribbean. I as a Naija boy think say I don hit jackpot cause she was really beautiful. Along the course of dating which spanned 2 years, she told me in between she needed me to help her file her stay. That's was when I begin to doubt her love for me.... Maybe she just needed me to get her paper work... well I kept promising till I left her... leaving her though wasn't funny, because she made me pay for it severely.

I tell you, put love aside and reason carefully if you can bear it if he leaves you after using you for paper work. But one thing is ... Hey you never know.

Actually you are Reasonable with your decision.

all4naija:
You weren't useful to her. Why didn't you do it for if you can?

all4naija:

Jeez! It is just a question because I don't know where you are from.Is there anything wrong with my question?

texmi2u:


Hmm. Your story is just a reverse of the case in my situation... as in I am a guy and she was a lady. Being unfaithful in the start of a relationship is disastrous, especially when love comes in. my ex-girlfriend, met her in one of my classes in college. She initiated our relationship and was from the Caribbean. I as a Naija boy think say I don hit jackpot cause she was really beautiful. Along the course of dating which spanned 2 years, she told me in between she needed me to help her file her stay. That's was when I begin to doubt her love for me.... Maybe she just needed me to get her paper work... well I kept promising till I left her... leaving her though wasn't funny, because she made me pay for it severely.

I tell you, put love aside and reason carefully if you can bear it if he leaves you after using you for paper work. But one thing is ... Hey you never know.

Actually you are Reasonable with your decision.

abbssx:

@ Bible thumpers. You are right though. I guess I was just trying to give the person the benefit of the doubt. He also knows that I won't give him his papers. I told him that he will have to get it via some other means but not from me. Which he is okay with. Anyways I guess it's good to hear the truth from other folks. Sometimes when you miss someone a lot then you start to double check yourself or make excuses.

We have broken up already anyways. Thank you so much for the advice I really appreciate it

abbssx:


It means you never read my thread because I specifically stated that am also a West African

texmi2u:


It's the feeling of being used. if she told immediately I probably would have helped her.... but she waited till I catch love ooo

PunkyVeer:


Here we go again! Don't you ever get tired of sounding like a broken record? I wonder. Well here's how it goes, the AmaZulu will keep exposing their nuts whether you're cool with it or not, Mr Naija. So take a seat on THAT! Shouldn't you be worrying about Makoko, the ghettos like Harlem & other issues facing Americunts today?

all4naija:

You are very funny. They should keep them to themselves. I don't like seeing their peanuts and bosoms though. Bwahaha...

PunkyVeer:


Don't look then

IsiAbuncha:


Do u have plans of relocating to Nigeria anytime soon?
Its amazing how u follow everything Nigeria here all day every day

PunkyVeer:


Don't look then

Okay. I won't. I also can't stand their evil of xenophobia. It is savagery!

all4naija:
Okay. I won't. I also can't stand their evil of xenophobia. It is savagery!

PunkyVeer:


I also can't stand listening to you repeat yourself any long so buh-bye!

abbssx:


Well he sends me messages still here and there.

We'll it got to a point where trust became a problem. I didn't trust him and sometimes we would fight. One day we had a big fight. He was very upset. He told me he was tired of always feeling like a criminal. He hates being accused wrongly of things that he is not guilty off and I told him I also am tired of this thing. Truth is I don't trust him and I don't enjoy always thinking wrongly of him. So we both came to agreement that we should end things if that is the case. He wanted us to remain friends but I told him that I need time to first get over this. I still see him around I mean we don't live far apart from each other. He still sends me messages though asking how I am etc. Sometimes when I meet his friends they are like what have I done to their friend. He has changed etc etc. A lot of people knew we were dating. He used to tell like a lot of people. Sometimes he would get a call from his friends in Dublin they also knew about us. I used to speak to his sister in Spain. She is also married to a guy from my Country so when we broke up she called me to ask me why. He also wanted me to come to his hometown in Nigeria this December hols. I only told him I loved him back after 8 months in the relationship even though he used to tell it to me constantly

HIGHESTPOPORI:
I hope the guy is not really a Nigerian cos he is too dumb,you are not worth the headache and torture,you made him pass thru,what's the big deal about foreign papers when most Guys are making it here in Nigeria and even married at that age,the guys needs to dumb you and move on with his life and get his sanity back,its not worth it!

all4naija:
West Africa is not a nation but a region. Which country are you particularly from? Sorry, I am a very curious dude?

all4naija:
Okay. I won't. I also can't stand their evil of xenophobia. It is savagery!

abbssx:


Lol and yet peeps are still marrying old white ugly fat grannies for papers and I bet you would do the same if given the chance

abbssx:
lol you are funny

V0lv0:


Nigerians are even more xenophobic so stop playing the victim card. Ya'll hate on almost every African nationality but love to play the victim at the same time! Nonsense

abbssx:


I did not say it for a reason. So let that be that

all4naija:
Okay. You are possibly ashamed of your country. I am not!

abbssx:


Lol I am not ashamed. I left it out for a reason so just let it be

all4naija:

This is often the excuse most West African ladies in USA give when you ask them that question. Jeez!