AfroKnight:
Stories like these make me sad. Some people will never be good enough because of their backgrounds or ancestry no

matter how hard they try to prove themselves.

AfroKnight:
Stories like these make me sad. Some people will never be good enough because of their backgrounds or ancestry no matter how hard they try to prove themselves.

all4naija:
I am... for telling you the hard truth.

abbssx:


We met at a mutuals friends wedding . He came here from the UK on hols and the rest is history. We traveled back and fourth but it was quite costly but eventually we started to drift apart slowly.

PunkyVeer:


Gotcha! Well, good luck. What can I say?

all4naija:
You make it looks like all illegal Nigerian immigrants are evil. I have seen illegal Nigerian who got married to a Russian girl who helps him when he's in need and both of them end up in Nigeria and have one of the big companies in a particular region of Nigeria today. Which she got through the help of the former illegal immigrant uncle. There are things that can make some people illegal immigrants in such a situation. It is clear he came to that country legally and possibly his document expired or something else.

You are trying to always take this wrong approach as if you have been duped severally by Nigerians. It is not encouraging at all. Your men are worse!

abbssx:


Thank you my dear. I guess it's just life.

all4naija:
You make it looks like all illegal Nigerian immigrants are evil. I have seen illegal Nigerian who got married to a Russian girl who helps him when he's in need and both of them end up in Nigeria and have one of the big companies in a particular region of Nigeria today. Which she got through the help of the former illegal immigrant uncle. There are things that can make some people illegal immigrants in such a situation. It is clear he came to that country legally and possibly his document expired or something else.

You are trying to always take this wrong approach as if you have been duped severally by Nigerians. It is not encouraging at all. Your men are worse!

PunkyVeer:


IKR. Resting are the dead lol. Life is just so flippin hard hey. What doesn't kill you...

PunkyVeer:


Well, you really can't blame the people for being wary. Some Nigerians really do dubious things, which makes people view Nigerians with a little suspicion. Blame the bad apples who ruin your image to the world.

AfroKnight:


Every country has bad eggs. But not every product from China is a counterfeit. Not every Indian is Hindu. Not every Zulu is xenophobic.

Candyrain:


... makes you strong

SemuhleB:
Some women will never learn. If the fact that he is Nigerian and an illegal immigrant does not make you run, then I dunno what will.

My advice move on. You will never ever be able to trust him so what's the point. You don't want to be one of those ladies who come and cry here about these men using you for green card! Do not let it get to the stage of from frying pan to fire!

abbssx:


I was laughing at the fact that you said I should break up so that I don't come complaining that all Nigerian men are bad lol

SemuhleB:
I apologise if I hurt your feelings hun. Just know that you are not included in the ones I am talking about . You are an exception to the rule

PunkyVeer:


Puts you in coma

AfroKnight:


Bro. Don't blame her. She has probably had bad experiences with Nigerians or heard of such. However myopic or hasty her opinion about Naija seems, it is certainly not going to change. She actually thinks she can help protect the OP. Prejudice exists everywhere even in her country.

It's the way she sees the world.

I understand her more than most people here. She is more or less an old friend. We have gone through lots of arguments and we remain friends. Seriously, she is a cool lady I wish(more like my dream) a very descent Nigerian man should have her but she is already with her ethnic man!

PunkyVeer:


Puts you in coma

abbssx:


Why are you saying this? I never judged him on his background. I still dated him and gave him my number when I found out he was Nigerian. The paper thing unfortunately became an issue. People were warning me and I could not fully trust him. It's sad but that's how it was. You can read the replies on this thread and they are all mostly saying the same thing. This is why I even came here because of this

PunkyVeer:


Yeah but you just can't change how people view these things no matter how many times you preach it. It just is what it is. I've also been accused of being xenophobic just for being South African, even though I've never carried a knobkerrie to clobber any foreigner living here. It's ignorance but hey *snap snap*

pinceprinz:
The dilemma that this is requires that you just chill have your fun and keep your eyes open real wide yknow. Just take this easy with yourself gyal, you can't be too sure.

all4naija:

I am on the idea they should separate for good. There is already mistrust and elements of wrong advice. With all I have seen here it will not end in a good relationship!

AfroKnight:


It's just sad. But hey, I don't think you're xenophobic and I'm sure you don't think I'm a crook, do you?

PunkyVeer:


Lol

AfroKnight:


I'll take that as a "No".

PunkyVeer:


Lol, you must be thoroughly investigated before any official statement is made I told you I deal with evidence, not ASSumptions

Just joking, buddy. I'm sure you're law abiding.

abbssx:
In life one should never say never. I was someone who would never ever date a Nigerian especially fresh of the boat because of all the stories and complaints from people I know and look where I found myself. Life is just full of strange twist and turns.

AfroKnight:


You said ALL your friends who dated Nigerian guys had issues with them and you thought you'd never date one of us. You gave him your number with a mind prepared to block him. He rang you several times for 3 days and you knew it was him but refused to take his calls. He told you he loved you and you dismissed it because you didn't believe it. You said you don't generally get involved with "fresh off the boat" guys cos they just want papers. You even expressed doubt at the authenticity of the breakup conversation he had with his Nigerian girl.

These are just a few hints from within a year of your friendship/relationship with him. Reading through your story, anyone would think this guy is a crook and that is only because of how you have been defending yourself from him. I wonder if you would have treated a guy from another West African country the same way.

As a rule I don't bother with people who doubt me. I have learned not to spend precious time trying to prove myself. I think that Nigerian guy deserves a break from you. He's been trying too hard to please someone who will never be convinced.

The best you can do for him is to be frank. It will never work because he will never be believable.

abbssx:


You are wrong but let's just agree to disagree. I really don't have the energy to argue any further

all4naija:

Aren't you a South African?

abbssx:
Is South Africa located in West Africa?