PunkyVeer:


There's only 24hrs in a day, woman! You have about 3 hrs left to finish this novel, if not, then it becomes yesterday's news. Hurry up!

AfroKnight:

abbssx:


Nobody forced you to read it. You should have rather just ignored it. Next time please do so

PunkyVeer:


I understand what you mean. So have you spoken since the break up? Can you please take me on how you broke up. Like, what led to it?

PunkyVeer:


I understand what you mean. So have you spoken since the break up? Can you please take me on how you broke up. Like, what led to it?

You want to learn one or more tricks. Bwahaha... That won't work on smart guys.

abbssx:


Well he sends me messages still here and there.

We'll it got to a point where trust became a problem. I didn't trust him and sometimes we would fight. One day we had a big fight. He was very upset. He told me he was tired of always feeling like a criminal. He hates being accused wrongly of things that he is not guilty off and I told him I also am tired of this thing. Truth is I don't trust him and I don't enjoy always thinking wrongly of him. So we both came to agreement that we should end things if that is the case. He wanted us to remain friends but I told him that I need time to first get over this. I still see him around I mean we don't live far apart from each other. He still sends me messages though asking how I am etc. Sometimes when I meet his friends they are like what have I done to their friend. He has changed etc etc. A lot of people knew we were dating. He used to tell like a lot of people. Sometimes he would get a call from his friends in Dublin they also knew about us. I used to speak to his sister in Spain. She is also married to a guy from my Country so when we broke up she called me to ask me why. He also wanted me to come to his hometown in Nigeria this December hols. I only told him I loved him back after 8 months in the relationship even though he used to tell it to me constantly

abbssx:


Tough nuts do Crack too eventually .

PunkyVeer:

PunkyVeer:


lol @ his friends saying he has changed. He's stressing about papers so why wouldn't he? Rubbish! Just don't be guilt tripped into anything you don't feel comfortable doing. This does sound all romantic & ish, however, there's still a funny stench to it. How long did he date his Nigerian "ex"? How come he didn't wanna marry HER? Nah, something just doesn't add up. I'll suggest you just take it very slow, open your eyes & see where the friendship leads.

SemuhleB:
Some women will never learn. If the fact that he is Nigerian and an illegal immigrant does not make you run, then I dunno what will.

My advice move on. You will never ever be able to trust him so what's the point. You don't want to be one of those ladies who come and cry here about these men using you for green card! Do not let it get to the stage of from frying pan to fire!

AfroKnight:
Abbssx, I think this guy was genuinely attracted to you in the beginning. For him to be able to break up with you, that shows yours is like any normal relationship. You've been too hard on him.

Do you truly love him?

abbssx:


Nah its either I am in or out. I am out the only time it will work is if he sorts out his papers first but most likely by that time it may be too late. I have made peace with it now. It was not as easy to break up but it was for the best

PunkyVeer:


By "friendship" I meant what you're currently doing, keeping in touch. What do you call it? LOL! Anyway, whatever it is, just continue with it because from the feel of it, it appears like there's still unfinished business on both sides. You can always bang him out of your system, works like a charm Hahaha. Just joking. Well good luck, girl. Love is complicated hey

all4naija:

Oh, please...! There is no perfect world. Stop demonizing Nigerian men. On the record, I think Nigerian men are better than South African men.

abbssx:


This relationship was very difficult for me because I was not able to let go completely because of the thoughts ( paper issues). I didn't want to get hurt so I did not allow myself to be completely open.

Initially I thought I just had feelings for him. I said even if we broke up I won't die but only later on in our relationship did I realize how strong I felt after the first time we broke up. We got back together but this issue still did not go away.

He also showed me some BBM conversation he had with his girl from Nigeria in which he told her that he has met someone else. The girl was very distraught but maybe that was fake too. I dunno

SemuhleB:
Don't start here please

all4naija:

Please, forget about the dude for goodness sake. [b]So that tomorrow you won't regret blaming all Nigerian men. [/b]It is often a common thing with AmaZulu women. Life goes on. If you can't fix the documentation requirement for him then you have nothing to offer to help him in that area when it matters the most. It is good both of you separate and move on. It is not the end of the world!

abbssx:

Oh I see lol. Love is really indeed complicated and I just seem to be getting that. First relationship different countries which is another complication all together. Now I meet a guy who does not have his docs and now another complication. Can't I just get a break. The ironic part was when I met him it had not been too long since my last relationship ended and I just wanted a break just to remain single and be happy.

Banging him outa my system I think that would be the opposite in my case

abbssx:


You are funny.

abbssx:


This relationship was very difficult for me because I was not able to let go completely because of the thoughts ( paper issues). I didn't want to get hurt so I did not allow myself to be completely open.

Initially I thought I just had feelings for him. I said even if we broke up I won't die but only later on in our relationship did I realize how strong I felt after the first time we broke up. We got back together but this issue still did not go away.

He also showed me some BBM conversation he had with his girl from Nigeria in which he told her that he has met someone else. The girl was very distraught but maybe that was fake too. I dunno

all4naija:
But... your previous post is not encouraging at all.

AfroKnight:


You even suspect he faked the conversation? Wow. Okay, I think you should tell him the truth that You will never trust him no matter what. I believe this is because he is a Nigerian. Nothing he will do will win your trust.

SkinnyDude:
if he's from southwest Nigeria.. my sister, RUN!!!!

abbssx:


I never suspected he faked it. I actually believed the conversation cos it had other stuff there that he was reluctant for me to see initially but to prove his innocence he let me read all.

SemuhleB:


But was I lying? Is it not the truth? What would you have told her if she was your sister?

PunkyVeer:


Awwww He must have been great But yeah, I feel for you. Now please tell me about the other guy, how did you meet if you were in different countries? Just curious