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nanauju:
Don't mind many people on this forum. Most give out advices that they themselves can't follow and end up complicating things.

OP,
Communication is key in every relationship. Abeg you, try and talk to her in every subtle way as possible, don't make it look imposing. U say she's OK u to in every other thing. Just talk to her and I pray for changes that'd benefit you both

Well, I have discussed with her a good number of times. For everytime I talk to her she begs endlessly. But after like a week or two, she continues her usual character.
Lastnight, I told her to prepare noodles for me but she replied that she was tired, probably after eating her own meal. Well, I had to cook the noodles myself. I was extremely upset.
So today I decided to disban every form of intimacy and proceeded in declaring a pararell relationship. That is to say "everyone to his/her self".
I also warn her not to serve me food again till further notice.
This very habit is really discouraging me.

DBestDoc:
So you're a Chef. Yummy!
Your woman is one lucky babe.

Cooking is not the problem now, just serving the already cooked meal is

You said she's a good woman. This is not a big deal, it's something you can fix
Don't screw things up, else it's probably gonna take you another 2yrs to find another good woman but then, you still got no guarantee she'd love the kitchen business.

Be wise

I have spoken with her countless times but she keeps on repeating it. I thought helping her to do the cooking will make her happy. But no, she doesnt even appreciate it yet.

biacan:
I thought you said you're a chef so you cooking at your own house shouldn't be a problem......cause most chef don't like women cooking for them.......

The last point you made stating that is her primary duty to cook and serve you as a wife where was it written that it's the duty of a woman to cook and serve her husband meals that should be 50/50 so we it gets to her turn she might be tired due to her daily routine so as a husband you need to understand your wife and be a good listener or do you want her to fall down when cooking in the kitchen don't ruin your home with that African mentality it is the cause of many broken homes I hope these helps

I wish, but not really...

Thanks though...

Evacroft:
If u are looking on quiting the relationship,this is not really a big issue. Talk to her about it and make sure u get a firm and concrete answer cos bringing it here will give ur fiance unprintable names by people who dont really know her or u

The essence of bringing it here is to get a wider view knowing too well that she is a nairalander and will stand a chance to read what the world has to say.

biacan:
Why do you want to create problems where there seems to be none....... can't you serve yourself I still don't know why you men always try to complicate your relationships...... just serve yourself is as simple as ABC...... go ask around most Nigerian men don't like their wives serving them food when they are around cause they know she will be probably tired...... I hope these information helps

Dont forget that I do the cooking most times. I also have other manly duties to handle inwhich she cant handle.
Cooking and serving me meal is her primary duty as a Lady(wife).

HeyCorleone:
You're the one turning yourself to a houseboy.

Just man up and square things up with her. Give her some sound talk.

I love cooking and besides am a chef.
But I believe that having helped her to do the cooking she should help me in serving the meal whenever I want to.

I really hate what she is doing.... am just fvcking tired of it.
Lastnight she refused to prepare noodles for me. But she was able to warm her food and eat. So this morning I told her not to be serving me food again, that we should just be living like two pararrell people who met by chance.

With this new sanction, anything intimacy has been disbanded till further notice. Although she is not at ease with this new policy of mine, but I see it as a way to go at the moment. Gradually we might be seeing ourselves from a distance.

I have been dating my Fiancee for two years now, and in a couple of months from now, we will be hosting our wedding propper.

The problem I have with her which I just noticed recently is that she hates to serve me food. I didnt notice all these habits because we were not staying together. But for the past four months that we have been living together I began to notice this habit.

However, I am a good cook. I do most of the cookings which I believe should have been her primary duty, but just to tell her to take the food from the freezer and warm for us to eat becomes a problem. She will start telling me that she is weak, she is having headache, she wants to go and pee or poo, or that she is not hungry. But the moment I go in to the kitchen and warm the food, you will see her with all smiles coming to eat.

To be fair to her, there are some days she attempts to serve me meal, but then she must ensure that I make the garri while she warms the soup. Or I bring washhand water and drinking water to the table before she serves the food.

She is a very good lady in other areas, but this aspect is killing the love daily. She is always happy that am always doing the cooking which am equally happy too. I have complained for over uncountable times, yet no remedy. She keep saying she will change.

Although I do the cooking, is it too much for her to serve me meals whenever I want to eat? Our wedding is coming up few months from now, and this singular act is making me to give a second thought.

What do I do please...

Seun
Lalasticlacla

AShawwooooo

idu1:
What's his problem?

He behaves llke a small boy.

Penisman:
I understand you please am sorry. Have you gotten any offer yet?

It's okay..
Not yet, am still available.

Thanks...

Good morning all.
I'm still available should you need my services.

Thanks in anticipation.

Delishpot, Penisman and Alexialin.
Please this thread should not be used as a theatre of war, as this is not a fertile ground for such.

The essence of this thread is to connect myself to those who genuinely need my services or can assist me in any positive way.

DISCLAIMER : I wish to bring to the notice of everyone reading this thread, that I only have one moniker on nairaland, therefore am not duplicating my existence here nor do I permit anyone to act rudely to other good members of this forum on my behalf.

Thanks for your unrelenting support.
Godbless.

baby124:
OP, you can start by making snacks and selling them yourself. Or even pepper soup in an area that has a lot of people passing by. I am sorry about where you find yourself today. But it will get better, I promise

Thank you for your input.
May God bless you richly.

alexialin:
your welcome
But my dear, in Nigeria u don't need to go very low.
If u want to thrive in business, even when u are dead broke! U advertise your self with sense of worth. Because u come this low, the only people that will eventually contact u for your skills, and will price your services for peanuts, that u yourself will shake head at your self.
Be confident, redefine your posts online and let people see u as a serious professional.. That's the only way. They will take u serious and contact u.
If I have all the skill u lined up there.. The way I will present myself to online viewers will make them always ponder and think about hiring me. Most even the number I will place there.
And I bet you someone will contact me before tonight, for my services.
Everything in life is all about presentation.
The way u present yourself in the market world. That's how people will rate u.
Pls u have very good skills worthy of praise, don't rubbish them like this.
Learn the art of marketing and u will see your skills opening so many doors for u.
God bless u too.

Thanks once again, I sincerely appreciate your concern and effort.

alexialin:
Sell your skills professionally and see people calling your number for services. Not this type of beg beg mode of way

In life, there are sometimes you need to go very low in other to come out big.
All the same, thanks for your input.

alexialin:
I wonder too oooo.

If you are good teacher? You don't need capital to teach.
You can advertise yourself in your neighborhood, church, even online that u are a private teacher and can do home lessons for secondary school students, or students going for jamb or waec. All you Need is your mouth to tell people around u and use your phone to place adverts online that u do home teaching.
Guy! Be serious for once.. With all these skills u have, u are not meant to go hungry and be begging like this. Nobody will take u serious with all the skill here.
When all I read all your skills, somethingelse came into my mind about you. Lemme not say it. Cos it's not pleasant to hear.

But seriously the ball is in your court.

You are right in your own way. But talking of advertisement, I think this is one of the best sites to advertise myself. Mouth advert alone will not be enough as there are some people you cant meet nor penetrate with your mouth.
So while still doing mouth advert, I thought it wise to go online too. Now I have been able to reach you and others through online.

Thanks for your time and concern, I truely appreciate your input.
God bless.

abescom:
Where are u based?

Lagos

Acidosis:
With all these skills, do you really need connections to get a "job"?

I am simply advertising myself for the public to see incase they need my services.
I cant die in silence just because I want to be egoistic.
I need a job or assistance to start up a business.

skillzbae:
y do you need a job when you can start up something yourself

I need a Job because I dont have money to start any business.
If I have money I will quickly set up a business no matter how small it may be.
All I need is a start up capital.
Are you willing to help?

Seun.

kimbra:
The accent comes into play here. Don't forget they're Akwa Iboms.

RIP to the young lady!.

You daugther of a cheap hoe seeking for relevance with your accidented english.

What do you mean by Akwa Iboms? Is that a correct english?
I will advise you stick to your family's asshawo business than run your mouth in things that doesnt fit you.

Etuk useme.

EmmySparky:
This Op is grossly stupid and foolish...talking about ur parent publicly like this is a taboo...u dont know the gravity of wat u have done now till u have kids of ur own

Stop hiding in your little harmlet and feel you know better.. Travell a distance and get your head filled with some sense on how to deal with pressing issues in better climes. i say leave ur village.

byrron:
Lol at the highlighted part!
I can relate with your pains because I once experienced a similar situation with my mother inlaw who was just so impossible.

She wanted the entire world while she was in her village back in Nigeria and when I invited her to United States to see her daughter (my wife) and our newborn baby, she now started demanding for the entire universe which automatically earned her an immediate return ticket back to Nigeria after 2 weeks for a visit that was supposed to be for 6 months.

Your situation is more complicated because she is your mom. My advice to you is to do for her those things that are within your means that are very essential and other irrelevant demands should be ignored.

You can't please everyone at your own detriment and you can't kill yourself either for anyone!

Please, buy her an Android phone so she can now start browsing

So funny i swear.....The question is, will she be able to use it?

youngdanee:
You don't still paint her that way in public. Take corrections.

Over sabi....
If he doesnt open up how else will people get to under stand the situation..

lalasticlacla
seun
farano
rocktation

abeg make una do the needful...
This guy seriously needs help.

Infact we plenty where dey this kind situation.

Hector09:
Bro i fell ur pain, my mum is like that thou she's 40 yr, bt she nage alot, nothing pleases her, always comparing u with other guys, thou am just 23yrs bt i hate her. To be honest

Brother am also in it... it is so painful that someone you once loved is not your greastest nightmare.
You are only considered a reasonable person when you show commitment... after that you are considered a scumbag.

The story doesnt add up...
Now let her tell us the real story.

Tadeknkeepcalm:
Your No.4 and No.5 are contradictory
Let's do the maths.
"5. 353,000 babies get born daily."
"4. Every three seconds, a baby gets born somewhere in the world."
We have 86400 seconds in a day, that alone defeats everything. But sure we can still go on. If we go by point 4 then No. Of babies born = no of seconds in a day/ 3. 86400/3= 28800. Therefore by No.4 we are meant to get 28800. So let's say a baby is born per second, then we have 86400 babies a day. So how In the world did you get 353000.
So When next you form stats, please check and check again.

Good one my brother...

poshestmina:
Wonder what will be going through tripleT wife's mind?

For fvck sake, she only sucked the goddamn diick and didnt pluck it out of him.

PEACE.