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baby_123: 2years ke. The marriage date should have at least been agreed upon at most 2months after proposal now. Who can wear engagement ring for 2years. Omo, that na "gba jen simi"[color=#990000][/color] levels o. The babe is not really engaged. They just put her on hold.

Lol - I agree

ubong560: @op, someone advised u to keep legs closed and u opted for it. How do u intend to assess him properly to know who he is wit closed legs? At a time, he will need to assess wat u hav down there for his mind to be settled wit u. Closed legs may jeopordize the chance.

WHAAATTT ?! ok...thanks for your post

Duke_Nija: Because he's my teammate,
In the Players club

But seriously, Forget the Dude. He's not really into You.

Duke Nija...u were right
Thanks for jinxing it lol

k2039: [color=soyouquotedme][b]Na today.
I'm yet to find one that will fit into your assertions.

I have made up my mind, I'm playing by the rules, No more mr Nice guy, I'm a nice guy by default, but now I'm using a preset option(Jack a*ss loading.........).

On romance section, most guys crying about break ups are the nice guys and most girls crying about break up are the one who date jack a.s*s.

So it's simple mathematics, I will rather be a jack a*s.s. than be a nice guy in my next relationship.

When a girl knows you love her so much(applicable to dating not marriage) the man is doomed. Most girls will say they love nice guys, but in reality it's a lie.

I'm a victim so I know what I'm talking about, never show a girl she is indispensable(In fact I'm writing an article presently '22 Truth's I've learnt in 22 Years' and one of the lessons is that until you understand there is no girl who is indispensable you are doomed in your relationship.)

If your assertions are true, there are only few girls who will meet up to it, I guess you are one, you are taken, so there is a deficit of one. I'm yet to meet one single girl that meets your assertions(I'm not disputing that they don't exist but they are just few, this is why I have decided to subscribe to Sagamite's school of thougth)

The only way your assertion will be applicable is for the girl to love the guy more than he does, that way he is in control and based on my value system I won't hurt her, I will love her for who she is.
But if the case is the reverse the man is doomed.

I know how much I spent on flowers and gift and I know how she treated me, I'm not dating any girl who is'nt crazy about me.

No girl is worth getting crazy about except you wife(there is a limit even to that also or else your wife will take you for granted.

My assertions are verifiable, we start from every romance break up on this forum[/b] [/color]

Disclaimer: I don't subscribe to beating of ladies.

Happy birthday hun, love, boo, etc...very harmless in my opinion.
OP please relax

byvan: Whatever u do,keep your legs closedoooooooo!!!!!!

Lol thank you...I will try my very best for now - I promise

Duke_Nija: Your friend is a Player. Forget him. I rest my Case.

Why do you think that's the case

Thanks guys for your replies...I really appreciate it.
I have used my fears to judge him which is very unfair.
I will give him a chance and allow my brain instead of my heart to take over

Thanks guys

Attention Attention Attention !!!!!

D sage: @op, what if he just take you as one of his backup?

See, fine boys are attracted to ladies, so you may or may not his only girlfriend.besides,must he have to call everyday?

That is the problem!! I don't want to be his back up I think that's why I act cautious

k2039: I can't say if he is a player or not, you only need to think with your brain and not your heart to find that out yourself.

From your post it's obvious you are not really a priority to him(but think about it, why should you be a priority when you didn't give him a chance)

Also why should it be only the guy that makes the call, that contact the girl first, mtchew.

I can't say much about him, but if I were in his shoe I would have done worse and that doesn't mean I don't love you.

My point, give him a chance, but ensure you think with your head and not your heartt in the relationship.

Ah you would have done worse ke? why
Is it a crime to be cautious? I've told him that I liked him but I just want to take things slow is that bad? yes sometimes I do feel like contacting him but pride gets in the way. ok I will work on it. Thank you for your reply

190-the-clown:
[color=RED]young lady are you NIGERIAN [/color]

lool Mr 190...yes I am, now what

SAFO: 1. So its a sin to work full time & study ? NO, never said it was

2. Just like number 1, the guy is busy trying to get ahead in life. Must he call you every day? Nope but I assumed its the norm in the beginning when a guy is eager or maybe I am comparing his ways to my ex's

3. Don't ever expect to get invited when it's guys nite out. No man wants a clingy woman who craves attention all the time. Let him shayo with the boys and your time will come. Ok thanks, noted !

In summary I think you've been bitten one too many times and now you're dating in fear. Be careful o cuse you might let a good man slip thru your fingers.

Yes there is an iota of fear due to a bad relationship I had 2 years ago

Hi everyone.

How can I know whether I'm dealing with a player not? I met him 4 months ago and have just gone on a few casual dates off and on. Last week he asked me why I am not willing to give it a go but the truth of the matter is that I don't trust him. I don't know whether its my insecurities playing up or maybe I am just judging him based on his looks? Call me naive etc, but he "looks" like a player (I am sure there are a few ladies here who understand what I mean)
I do like him but there are a few things I've noticed about him:
1) He doesn't contact me everyday (he says he is busy studying and also works full time)
2) When we are together he is very attentive, caring etc but once we are apart we dont speak often (YES I WAIT FOR HIM TO CONTACT ME FIRST UNTIL THERE IS A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP)
3) Most weekends he parties with his boys and no he hasnt invited me to join as of yet.

My ex boyfriend was more full on in his approach when we first met and I knew where I stood quiet early on but this new friend of mine is different.
Should I just relax and go with the flow or are there certain "player signs" I should look out for?

bump

*wonders which category COOGAR falls into*

The guy is too fine chaiii

saw his pic in the interview segment. Pls what are his stats

self explanatory. Where is he

please can I have a copy ekale1@hotmail.com

African men are emotional

How absurd...

hahahaha the OP sounds so hurt. Pele

forget looks...how deep are ur pockets and how fat is ur wallet

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