The brutal truth is that the current situation is irreversible. It was an avoidable situation, though. Floating the Naira while also announcing subsidy removal on the other hand has got to be the d u m b e s t decision ever taken by any Nigerian leader.

Lamanii22:
omoooor in 2021 when I had my first baby I still bought sma gold for 3300

Seriously?? 450g or 900g?

Sign of a loyal APC supporter

Yeah, with rigging and judicial banditry.

Secure your tomorrow if you can. Under the APC government, Nigeria won't get better, Naira won't gain anymore value, prices of goods won't come down. Trends don't lie.

Reported cases?

Lamanii22:


Lol the prices are doubled now, lactogen is almost 6k, my baby is almost 11 months I'm thinking of switching to normal cow's milk

Double??

The same SMA gold the op bought for N3500 in 2013 cost 24k now.

Thundafireseun:
Everything he just said in the video is true …. There is no regulatory system in Nigeria anymore “REST IN PEACE DORA”
The most painful part of this video to me is my baby mama…. I didn’t realize how foooooolish she was while we were dating…., now she is applying this cheap chemical (caritone) on my 3 years old daughter 😓😓😓

Sending money is not enough. Get involved. Join Telegram and WhatsApp groups about motherhood. Do your research and learn to shop yourself.

Thank God you got to know about caritone, but what about the other things you don't know like "agbo/concortions"??

Some people's kidneys started dying a week after birth due to agbo/herbal medicine and drug abuse by those stubborn "never-ready-to-learn" grannies.

bobo65:
Seriously eh

How are all the bad people in this life still alive while the good ones are dying?

May his soul rest in peace

Ecclesiastes 9:11-12

I also saw something else here on earth: The fastest runner does not always win the race, the strongest soldier does not always win the battle, the wisest does not always have food, the smartest does not always become wealthy, and the talented one does not always receive praise. Time and chance happen to everyone. No one knows what will happen next.

Such a great guy with great impact. May he find true rest. It is well.

BlackRoook:


This is heart-wrenching to read. You're absolutely correct, there's no one-size-fit-all way to this. I guess it's largely down to luck and chance at the end.

May your wife's soul RIP. Take heart, brother.

True, I believe in luck and chance.

Thank you so much, my brother 🙏

babestell:
My condolences on your experience. Its a terrible experience for anyone to go through. I thank God you and the family are in a better place now

Thank you, my sister 🙏

Angelfrost:
When you people are clubbing, and downing insane amounts of alcohol, una nor dey remember to tell us to pray for you...!

Well, God is your strength... May His mercy and healing prevail upon you.

Always insensitive to attribute issues like this to excessive alcohol intake or clubbing. While such activities are known risk factors, genetics and hereditary issues also play major roles in diseases. Some people's "crime" is that they were born into certain families with certain histories and genes. Do not be quick to attribute everything to lifestyle.

He said the suspect confessed to the crime, claiming that he acted alone but under the influence of Indian hemp, methamphetamine (locally known as “Mkpuru-mmiri”), and Action Bitters alcoholic drink, which he consumed earlier.

The op emboldened everything except the most important information. All drug addicts are potential murderers. None should be spared.

Lol

Threats never work. The economy has completely crumbled.

DaddyCoool:


Good write-up. First of all by women "lose value" as time passes and with childbearing, I mean (past a certain age) the older a woman gets the less men are attracted to her until no man even looks at her anymore. A woman that didn't love you when she was single in her twenties could be madly in love with you in her forties and single. As for childbearing, it makes most women's bodies less attractive the more kids they have. Those are just facts.
Also, the more you release inside a woman and she has children for you, the more likely she'd fall for you.
Also, you're inspired to be a better person and achieve more by a woman you love than by a woman who loves you as a "failure"!

Getting people's attention in your twenties has nothing to do with value. The mistake we make is assuming that the world revolves around sex-starved men and attention-seeking women.

I can't speak for all men but attention should really be a major red flag. I mean, why would you want what every other person wants? That can't be value.

The value of a married woman in her 40s or 50s should be seen mainly by her husband. Why would she want to drag attention with social media teenagers who are yet to see or know LIFE?

You may be right about child bearing and how a woman's body becomes less attractive, but that really relates to personal care or hygiene issues. More so, attractiveness to people who have been married for years differ from an outsider's view. Some of the things that irritate you are things they've grown to love. You can't understand, but it is what it is.

Moreover, declining attractiveness in your context applies to men too. Don't be carried away by sugar daddies' moves. We all know why women move close to these men. It has never been about attractiveness, good hygiene, or bedmatics. With the right amount of money, a 70 year old woman with poor hygiene will get the same result.

Your last point? Well, I can agree.

DaddyCoool:


Well, that's perfection of course - loving someone who loves you back. There's even a popular song about how profound that is.
Problem is, that RARELY happens. People usually fall 4 someone who doesn't love them. So the question is: is it better for a man to marry someone he loves or someone he doesn't love, bearing in mind that as time passes and with childbearing, a woman loses some "value" and would love a man just for being there for her.

Love can often be a conscious choice. If you find a woman who loves you deeply, give it time, and you may come to love her in return, even if it’s not to the same extent. No one is truly unlovable. When someone loves you deeply, they are willing to be whatever you need them to be. Too often, we fail to see the bigger picture and are easily influenced by material things and the arbitrary rules others create in their own world. Take, e.g., the irrational mindset some people have about short men, simply because society says unkind things. If we really think about it, apart from those senseless opinions, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being short.

That being said, it's often better for a man to be with a woman who loves him more. Considering the amount of attention women get from men, you'll be doing yourself a disservice by being with a woman you constantly need to convince or compete for against other suitors. This is the reality in the dating world. People wey dey date dey try. It is very easy to get a man to love you than have a woman love you hopelessly. Such women are rare. Rarity ALWAYS gives ultimate and more value.

BTW, I don't agree that a woman loses value due to childbearing. What does value in this context even mean?

When men say women shift their love and attention to the children, this usually only applies to women who were never deeply in love with their men. For a woman truly in love, her partner remains her priority. Any other thing, including children, are secondary.

numericalguy:
The hypocrisy of Cahrlyboy, Peter Obi and Ezekwwesili is disgusting.

It is sad and despicable that such an evil happened in the north and should be condemned in totality and Charlyboy has done theright thing by speaking aagainst it. But my issue is why is it that CharlyBoy, Peter Obi andd Ezekwesily always refuse to speak out anytime similar issies are affecting the south east. Are they saying there are no criminals in the south east or what

Keep running your mouth until they kidnap you in your region... You will learn.

DaddyCoool:


Not true, unless you at least like her. You can marry someone who loves you, but the mere sight of her pisses u off. Of course the love will gradually disappear and you'd have been better off marrying someone YOU love!

What if the person you love doesn’t love you back? It’s the same situation. When I say marry someone who is m a d l y in love with you, I’m not suggesting you marry someone you don’t love. Of course, you should love her too.

1. Sex has become cheaper.

2. Worsening economic situation.

3. It's now harder than ever to maintain a fake life.

Nobody is talking about rent?

santaclaws:
Obasanjo was one of the most inefficient presidents this country ever produced. He couldn't even fix Lagos-Ibadan express road, neither did he fix Ota road, a federal road in his own state...

Yet baba's achievement is "bringing GSM to Nigeria" as if he owns the telcos that came to invest...

The telcos came to invest in his regime because the business environment was fairly favourable.

In 8 years, he achieved more than the Chicago fraudster can ever do even in 200,000 years.

One of the greatest gift you can give yourself as a man is to marry a woman that is m a d l y and hopelessly in love with you.

Little effort >>>>> massive result. Never settle for less.

Crestaria:
Shed tears as I read. Take heart. Please how are the twins now?

Thank you, my sister.

They're doing really well.

copyrites:


Damn
! Man
This is too much. If I may ask please, what made you leave the private hospital? If they have been very good like you said, leaving shouldn't have been an option except maybe their billing was too much.
I'm so sorry man.

Thank you.
Explaining the reasons we left would mean revealing too much details. But just to clarify, the reason is unrelated to billing, but more about the hospital policy - a very senseless, religion-informed policy.

BlackRoook:
Hi everyone,

I have been a silent reader/follower on this thread and other similar threads on this fruit of the womb journey. It's not an easy one but it's all worth it in the end.

Got married in August 2022. First pregnancy in Nov 2022 but was lost at 6 weeks (blighted ovum). Wifey got pregnant again in January 2023. We lost the baby boy at 32+ weeks in utero in late Sept 2023 out of the Doctor's carelessness. Wifey was severely hypertensive and he didn't handle it well. It was a traumatic experience.

Wifey got pregnant again in December 2023 and we just welcomed our bundle of joy last week ending. This time around, we went to a Federal Hospital. Despite their bureaucracy and frustrating methods of doing things, they've enough capable and competent hands to care for one. Mother and baby are healthy and doing fine. Wifey was still hypertensive in this pregnancy but they followed it up bumper to bumper with enough dosage for both mother and fetus and her BP was always within normal range all through this pregnancy.

Few Lessons and tips from our experience:

- Federal Hospitals are much more better than Private clinics, if you can handle the stress. Most private Clinic Practitioners tend to be jack of all trades. It was later I found out the Doctor at the private clinic we initially went to wasn't even a Gynaecologist in the first place but he tends to pregnant women.

- Tracking of ovulation works. Wifey tracks her religiously and we do the BD at the peak periods.

- Pre-seed lubricant works wonders too in aiding conception. Though we didn't use in the last pregnancy because we weren't even expecting to conceive yet, we were just "having fun" but in previous times we used it with ovulation tracking, it works really well.

- We also did lifestyle changes. Cut out sugar, lost weight and exercised regularly.

Wishing baby dust to all Parents trying to conceive and to those already heavy, safe deliveries.

Now I can "enjoy" Father's day with my full chest.

Congratulations to you and your family. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through! But, I have a few thoughts about your experience at the government hospital.

The same frustrating and bureaucratic system you mentioned is the reason I still can’t forgive myself for my wife’s death at a government (teaching) hospital. My wife and I initially started at a private hospital, where everything was going smoothly until an issue arose, and we had to switch hospitals (that’s a story for another day).

While we were still at the private hospital, we went through a few episodes of threatened miscarriages, intense vomiting (no food stays in her stomach for weeks), and bleeding at different times, yet her pregnancy remained intact. Her experience was tough, and we had to undergo a cervical cerclage at 16 weeks, which was successful at the private hospital.

Because of "that issue," we had to move to a government hospital at 24+ weeks, based on her consultant’s advice and other people's recommendations. On the day she was to deliver, I was, as usual, given a prescription to get Vitamin K1. I searched the entire hospital (which has more than 10 pharmacies), but it was nowhere to be found. I then went to some of the largest private pharmacies in Ikeja, Opebi/Allen, and Ogba (Alpha Pharmacy, Boluke, Healthplus, etc.), but still couldn’t find it. By the time I returned to the hospital, about 2-3 hours later, my wife had already delivered our babies. One of the babies came out pale and needed a blood transfusion. Meanwhile, my wife was still in pain and hadn’t recovered. But thankfully, the husband of a friend my wife made at the ward was able to help with blood test and all. Like my wife, his wife was pregnant and also admitted.

Anyone who has used a government hospital knows that they won’t give a patient even basic medication like paracetamol unless someone is there to pay and get the drug. Throughout the time my wife was admitted to the government hospital, every blood test required me to go get the collection bottle from one location, find a nurse to draw her blood, take the sample to another location, and then return hours or a day later to get the results and bring them to the doctor. I did this every day for a week—I suffered ehn! This was something we never experienced at the private hospital; all we had to do was pay. I hustled for every single thing myself: the blood we needed in case of an emergency after the C-section was gotten from another private blood bank, the RhoGAM injection she was to take after delivery 'cos of her (-) Rhesus factor, and more. It was a horrible experience.

I can’t write out everything here, but one thing is certain: some of the people who advised us to use a government hospital for the "best care" later admitted that "private hospitals are better." The only advice I can give anyone is to follow their heart.

My wife had already delivered our babies before 4 p.m., but they kept her in bed over 5 hours later until she died. During my research, I later learned that the global standard for women who undergo C-sections is to get them moving/walking as soon as possible to prevent blood clots. Want to know how my wife died, according to the hospital? Pulmonary embolism (a blood clot). And guess what happened to the other man’s wife, the friend my wife made? She died two days later in the same hospital.

I’m sharing this here because my wife was a devoted follower of this thread.

Another thing I’ll point out: doctors in both private and government hospitals are often no different. Many of them work in private practice and are rarely available to check on their patients' progress. The consultant who attended to my wife throughout our stay at the private hospital was the same person who performed her C-section. This same doctor works in four additional private hospitals. So, what they do is deliver your baby and then leave. Maybe that’s standard medical practice, I wouldn’t know. However, one thing I’m sure of is that my experience wouldn’t have been as bad in a proper private hospital. A private hospital also wouldn’t have abandoned us the way they did my family. Two nurses who were friends with my wife (she was extremely likable, and everyone loved her during her stay) called to check on us and couldn't hold back the tears. One even laid heavy curses on the doctors cos she knows how they operate. But there was no follow-up regarding the babies’ health and progress. Dem no send anybody papa. Well, I have since moved my family elsewhere. Lessons have been learned in the most painful and devastating way.


Sorry for the long post, and congratulations once again to you and your family.

You haven't even seen anything. Just wait till 2026.

He's only trying to sell his estates, land, etc.

cococandy:
Diabolical 😮‍💨

What your sister is doing now is exactly what her aunt did. I just hope she doesn't take out her frustration on her nieces the way her aunt did to her.

That said, carrying on your mom's beef with her sister, especially when you don't know or aren't willing to understand the full story, is not healthy. If she hasn’t wronged you directly, then there’s really nothing to forgive.

Everyone should focus on their own lives. You don’t need to be friends, but that doesn’t mean you have to be enemies either. You can simply be strangers.

If your aunt needs forgiveness, tell her to meet your mom. You don't have the capacity to forgive your aunt over what she did to your mother.

Motirayo2018:
30 for a livein maid is still good if it comes with a good accomodations, feeding and some days off .

I got an offer recently has a caregiver and cook but I rejected it because of some condition.
I will be sleeping in the sittingroom

I will be payed 70,000 but the agent will take 50percent.

My salary will be giving to the agent.

I must not discuss anything about the payment with the employer.

No off Day except during festive period

50% of 70,000?? Ah!

doggedfighter:



This is good to hear abi to read🤣💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃

Anyone 😆

Thanks dear