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Your mental health is the lifeline of your overall health, and you should take care of it just like you do your physical health. A decline in mental health will lead to a poor standard of life and health. Mental disorders usually place a big burden socially and economically to you as an individual, your family and eventually to the government. As such protecting your mental capability is key to a productive life.

In this article, you are going to learn the bad habits that affect your mental health adversely. These might be everyday things that you indulge in not knowing they impact on your health negatively. A stop to these habits will see your mental health flourish and even reverse some of the effects already caused.

Lack of exercise
Studies have shown that lack of physical activity can cause dementia and depression. There is a clear link between exercise and mental health and your risk of becoming sick are twice as high if you don’t exercise. You should therefore exercise because when you do the chemicals serotonin and endorphins which improve your mood are released. Exercising regularly will have the most benefits for your mental wellness.

Being overly stressed
Stress is a normal part of life, but excess and uncontrolled stress will harm your brain. This is because when you are stressed, your brain releases the hormone cortisol which when secreted in large amounts hinders the brain from functioning well. It also leads to a shrunken brain inhibiting learning and memory.

Overusing technology
I bet you thought being obsessed with your phone and social media makes you more informed. This may be right, but everything has a limit. Endlessly being on your phone has detrimental effects on your mental health. A study conducted recently showed that using several social media platforms will make you depressed.

Trying to be perfect
There is negative and positive perfectionism. Positive perfection is what you should live on, and it means setting goals you can meet and being ok with things not being perfect. Negative perfection is what affects your mental health, and it’s when you set goals that are above your reach, wanting perfection in everything and overly ruminating over failure. You should learn that perfection does not exist and you should aim to do what is humanly possible in every area of your life since beyond that you are harming your brain.

Anger
Is anger your second nature and you have always assumed that it’s just your temperament after all? That’s it’s just the way you are wired? Well, you couldn’t be further from the truth. Studies show that uncontrolled anger leads to mental fog where you don’t think straight. Anger is a normal emotion, but bottled anger is a vice that you should work to control and get completely rid of. It doesn’t just make you look bad and say things you might regret forever but it upsets your mental health as well. Speaking out when you are angry releases the tension that’s in your body and alleviates anxiety.

Not sleeping enough
You may feel like a ninja when you narrate how you sleep for only 4 hours a night, but what you are doing is slowly compromising your mental health. Lack of sleep makes it hard for your brain cells to communicate as they should. Lack of enough sleep also dulls the brain cells giving you mental pauses. You should get the recommended seven to eight hours of sleep every day to preserve your mental health.

Procrastination
Procrastination is the avoidance of tasks that are stressful but important and instead doing the ones that are pleasant and not so important. This habit that seems innocent and does not do much harm but make you a last-minute person is quite harmful to your mental health. Procrastination will make you stressed because you feel the burden of the thing that you haven’t done, but you must do. Procrastination, therefore, leads to anxiety and stress and resultant poor mental health.

You maintain toxic relationships
Relationships that drain you are a slow poison that will eventually see your mental wellbeing get compromised. A toxic relationship will affect your emotions which will, in turn, lead to anxiety and depression. You should quit any alliance that no longer serves you. It doesn’t matter if it’s a relationship with family or friends since they all have the same negative consequences. So instead of writing down smart questions to ask your boyfriend in order to salvage your unhealthy relationship, just call it quits and preserve your mental wellbeing.

The main takeaway
Browsing on your phone every spare minute you have might seem harmless and a way to keep you up-to-date but in reality its wreaking havoc on your brain. Evaluate the things that you do in your life to enable you to steer clear of habits that affect you. Come on now and stop being a perfectionist, work on your anger issues, cut out toxic people from your life and get enough sleep. Similarly, stop procrastination and get off your butt and exercise.

You cannot eradicate all these bad habits at the same time, so the key is to choose one and start with it. The progressive results you get will be the driving force for you to drop another harmful habit. Do not postpone because if you do, all you will get is a declined mental capability over time.

Resolutions are goals that we intend to accomplish throughout the current year. Don’t be tempted to think there are so many days of the year left and postpone the great endeavor of making resolutions.

Your career impacts your overall life in a significant way and is, therefore, a good area to make resolutions on. Aim to steer your career forward by changing the way you have always done things pertaining to that area. Below are nine resolutions that will see your career grow beyond your expectations.

Make more friends
Making new friends is an art that you should learn and it will, in turn, it will pay you dividends. Learn how to intermingle with new people and be genuine while at it. People can tell when you are being superficial or just wanting to gain something from them, and you should refrain from doing it. Making more friends will open more opportunities for you because they might have job leads that you could not otherwise have had access to.

Don’t be too choosy
Stop being too stuck on getting a job for the exact career that you went to college for. Learn to be flexible and accept jobs from other faculties. This way, you will get some experience that will add up along the way and make you more marketable in your career of choice. Working in fields that you do not love or have not studied for puts you at an advantage over someone who only has experience in one field. This is because it will show you have diversified and are qualified in a number of fields.

Learn to network
Go to networking events and meet new people. Learn more about them and take contacts of the people who work in fields that you have an interest in. You can never tell when you might need them. Similarly, reach out to your former bosses, coworkers and mentors. They may be in a better position and ability to help your career soar to new heights.

Learn new skills
You should learn new skills either directly related to your specified career field or even in a different area. This way you can take on jobs in a different career line or you can get jobs that you do not qualify for because of the additional skills that you have. This will be a big plus for you because it means earning more money.

Become an expert in something
Don’t try to look for employment from all companies in the planet. The best way to grow your career is to become an expert in one thing so that you wow your employer with your knowledge. This will earn you promotion in your current job or a better job with another company. Make your new year resolution to become the go-to person in one field.

Take feedback positively
Have you been frowning upon criticism and negative feedback? This is the year to take note of everything that is said in good faith regarding your career. Don’t treat all feedback as bad feedback, but instead, take it and use it to improve your career by implementing the suggested adjustments.

Give your resume an update
Is the resume that got you a job six years ago the one that you still send out to prospective employers? If that is so, this will keep you at your current job because it shows there is no growth in your professional life. Come on and fish out that resume and fill in all the new skills you have learned as well as any promotions.

Find a mentor
Having a mentor will see your career soar because they will look specifically at areas that need improving and highlight them. The mentor will also suggest ways you can improve and give you tips to progress more quickly.

Create professional social media pages
One of the new year resolutions that will impact your career dramatically is putting up professional-looking social media pages. Research shows that 84% of employers search and screen for workers through social media. You should, therefore, ditch the accounts with pseudonyms where you comment about everything from the political to the vulgar. Creature new pages that make your professional life shine.

The bottom line
Has your career plateaued, or have you become satisfied with your current job such that you don’t aim for higher career goals? Let that not be you anymore. Make a resolve to take action and see your career move up. Implement some or all of the above-shared resolutions and you will have a better career life in no time.

Do not overwhelm yourself but instead pick one or two resolutions to start you off. The best way would be to take one per month, and before the year ends, you will have worked on them all. Alternatively, you can implement two at the same time, say make more friends and network with them simultaneously. Come on why don’t you give it a try right now? Just like the unpredictable truth or dare questions, you never know what pleasant surprise life might throw at you if you dare to have career growth resolutions and implement them.

How To Offer Condolences Without Sounding Like An Ass
If you're not careful, your well-meaning condolences can make you sound like a total ass. The trick to offering your sincere sympathy to the bereaved is knowing what to avoid while you show your support. These are the seven big no-no's.

Don’t Compare
You've probably experienced loss in your own life, or at least know someone else who has, but don't ever make comparisons to your own experiences. April Masini, an etiquette and relationship expert, explains to the New York Times that it's vital you don't make it about you. Don't ever say something like "I know how you feel." It's an earnest attempt at empathy, but it plays down their feelings, which are far more important right now. Also, you don't know how they feel. Your experience with loss doesn't mean you know all the intricacies of their relationship and with the deceased. It's not the same, so don't pretend it is.

Don’t Say It’s for the Best
You are not the creator of the universe, nor are you privy to the grand scheme of the future, so don't imply the death was for the best or that it's some kind of "blessing." How could you know that? You can't. Even if the deceased was suffering, this is still in bad taste. As Diane Gottsman, the founder of The Protocol School Texas, puts it, these types of comments come across as trite and uncaring. You're essentially saying their death is a "good thing," which is flat out disrespectful. Let them come to their own conclusion about the event.

Don’t Force Religion On People
Keep your positive religious outlook to yourself, unless you know they share the same perspective, says grief counselor Amy Olshever. You may mean well by saying something like, "They're in heaven now," or "They're in a better place," but that's only true if the grieving person believes in that stuff. This goes the other way too. If you know the bereaved is religious, but you're not, there's no need to say something you don't believe in. It's disingenuous and might be seen as rude.

Don’t Rely On Social Media
Facebook makes it easy to offer condolences to someone, but it's not ideal for all situations. For one, these types of comments can often be seen as self-serving. It's not so much about comforting the grieving person as it is about being seen comforting the grieving person. If you're going to go the social media route, at least follow up with something more personal, like a phone call or letter. Also, be absolutely sure the bereaved has publicly posted about the death before you say anything! Otherwise you might be breaking the news with your message or forcing someone to talk about something they didn't want to share.

Don’t Just Send a Text or Email
Look, most communication between family and friends is done through text messages or email these days. But some events still warrant an actual phone call or—gasp—a chat in person. Call first. If they don't answer, leave them a message. Hearing someone's voice is infinitely more comforting than reading a text. You can leave a follow-up text to offer support at that point if you feel the need.

Better yet, send them a written note or condolence card. It feels more personal and sincere, and it lets them read and respond to messages at their own pace. They'll be barraged by calls and text messages, so give them something tangible to hold and read whenever they need to know people care about them.

Don’t Use Meaningless Cliches
It's hard to avoid some cliches when offering condolences, but at the very least avoid ones that are flowery ways of stating the obvious. Phrases like, "They're at peace now," or "It was their time," or "I know this is hard for you" aren't very helpful or supportive. If you don't know what to say, Olshever recommends you keep it simple. Something honest and straightforward like "I'm sorry for your loss" is better than trying too hard and going too far. If possible, draw on your positive memories of the deceased. It lets them know you cared about them too, and that they aren't alone in their grief.

Don’t Make Empty Offers
Offering help is always a kind thing to do, but you need to do it right. Don't put the onus on them by saying "Let me know if you need anything." You need to offer legitimate examples of ways you can help. Tell them you'll bring them dinner, take care of a pet, do some house chores, run some errands, buy groceries, anything that can actually help them.

Most importantly: don't hesitate to reach out. It might feel like you're bothering them during a troubling time, but they need support, comfort, and even a good distraction if you can go visit them.

Graduating from a four-year college in four years may sound like a fairly straightforward venture, but only 41 percent of students manage to do it.

That matters. The longer it takes, the less likely a student is to make it to graduation: A quarter of students drop out after four years, according to the National Student Clearinghouse Research Center, and most say it’s because of money. Cost, indeed, is a major issue for many families — in-state tuition and fees run $8,940 on average at public institutions, $28,308 at private ones. Many of those who finish in five or six years have either unnecessarily drained their parents’ bank accounts or end up in a lot more debt.

We asked educators to identify the biggest obstacles to a timely
They talked about students who aim for a four-year finish but fail to take the right courses in the right order. Other students conclude that graduating in four years isn’t so important, and cut back on classes to make more time for play.

Here are the six roadblocks most cited, and ways to tackle the problem.

Working Overtime: Quit After 25 Hours
There is no doubt that a student debt crisis exists in the United States, and an entire generation is buckling under its weight. But that doesn’t
mean debt should be avoided at all costs, experts say.

“Students who are worried about debt sometimes work more and then reduce their course load,” said Robert Kelchen, a professor of higher education at Seton Hall who studies student debt. “But by working instead of studying, they may find it more difficult to graduate on time.”</p>


About 40 percent of undergraduates work
30 hours a week or more, though a new study finds that more than 25
hours can get in the way of passing classes, especially for low-income
students. Only 45 percent of students who work more than that are able
to keep their grade-point averages above 3.0, according to the
Georgetown University Center on Education and the Workforce. The
percentage goes down as the hours go up.

Dr. Kelchen makes the point that income-based repayment plans introduced by President Obama allow students to manage their debt. Some universities, too, are offering incentives to keep students from working too much. Temple University gives $4,000 grants to eligible students who agree to work no more than 15 hours a week off campus.

Melanie Tucci calculated that she would have to work about 30 hours a week as well as take out loans to make it through college when she started at Temple in 2014. With the “Fly in 4” grant and other scholarships, she was able to quit her two jobs, one in retail, one in an office. Instead, she has worked 12 hours a week at internships connected to her career interests.

“I’ve actually been able to take 18 credits some semesters,” said Ms. Tucci, who will graduate in 2018. “It’s allowed me to focus more on my schoolwork. I could never have done it all if I was working at some retail job 30 hours a week.”

The 12-Credit Fallacy: Take 15

Most colleges define a full-time course load as 12 credits a semester, which is, not coincidentally, the ceiling for receiving the maximum Pell grant and most state financial aid. But degrees usually require 120 credits. Do the math — most students don’t, and it’s difficult to catch up: You need 15 credits a semester on average to get through in four years.

“It shouldn’t really surprise us, but it is remarkable how many students simply aren’t made aware of what they need to do to graduate on time,” said Rebecca Torstrick, assistant vice president for academic affairs at Indiana University, which last fall began dangling a financial carrot in the form of banded tuition: Students can take up to 18 credits for the price of 12. Many public and private universities have similar setups, moving away from per-credit tuition to a flat rate for 12 or more credits.

It’s all part of an awareness campaign called “15 to Finish,” pioneered at the University of Hawaii in 2012, that has taken hold in dozens of states.

Taking more credits has benefits other than cutting time to a degree. Since 2015, when Florida State University began to counsel incoming freshmen on the wisdom of 15 credits, those who took the advice have actually earned higher G.P.A.’s.

Transferring: You’ll Lose, Usually

How can this be: Most students need more than four years to graduate yet end up taking, and paying for, many more credits than they need. Colleges and universities usually require 120 credits for a bachelor’s degree but students graduate with about 135, on average, according to data compiled by Complete College America, a nonprofit research and advocacy group.


Some states’ figures are even higher. Students at regional state colleges in New Mexico graduate with an average of 155 credits.

One reason is the difficulty of transferring credits from another university or a community college. A third of students transfer at one point in their college careers. Nearly 40 percent of them get no credit for any of the courses they have completed and lose 27 credits on average — or about a year of school, according to a 2014 federal study.

Many colleges have developed articulation agreements to honor credits earned from other institutions. But often that isn’t enough. A university may accept the credits, but the department of the student’s major may not — and at most colleges, the decision rests with the department.

Even within a system, credits may not be accepted. One four-year college within the City University of New York, for example, may not accept credits toward a major from another. That’s because professors control syllabuses for their courses. A course that counts toward an English major at York College may be heavy on analytical writing, while one at John Jay College, even though part of CUNY, requires research competency. (To help address the problem, in 2013 CUNY designated that three courses in each of its most popular majors would count toward requirements on every campus.)

Unfortunately, the only way to know for sure whether credits will transfer to a new college is to ask. Most administrators will want to review a syllabus from your former school for comparison. And make sure to ask about credits within a major.

“Sometimes students just look at how many credits will transfer and make their decisions from there,” said Maria Campanella, director of the health sciences office of student services at Stony Brook University of the State University of New York. “What they really need to ask is, ‘How many will apply to my degree?’ ”

Major Problem: Don’t Veer Off Course

Picking courses can make students feel like kids in a candy store — there are so many possibilities. The process is overwhelming, with thousands of classes. “Archaeology of Human Origins” may sound interesting, but if you wait too long to focus on your economics major, you may not get in all the requirements you need. The problem is magnified if a prerequisite is offered only in the fall. Missing one means waiting a full year. And what if it’s full? Expect even more delays if you change majors.

“We think what they want is flexibility, but actually what they need is structure,” said Tom Sugar, president of Complete College America. “We think we’re doing them a favor by letting them explore without guidance, but we’re really steering them away from success.”


Colleges have begun to address the problem by pushing students to declare majors earlier, or at least narrow their areas of interest, so that they can chart out a path to a four-year finish. Toward that end, digital advising tools have become increasingly common.


Instead of scrolling through a course catalog, students at many colleges can now create schedules on interactive maps that aid in fulfilling core and major requirements. Let’s say you are a Florida State University student looking for a class to fulfill its history/social science requirement. Click on course options on its degree map and it tells you which requirements each course fills. Instead of taking some random history course, you might choose “History of Science,” which counts toward both F.S.U.’s “Diversity in Western Culture” requirement and the state-mandated writing requirement.


No Social Life: Join Something

Some students slowly disengage because they never really feel part of a college community. Social isolation and depression can affect academic progress, especially for students living away from home for the first time. Studies have found that students who don’t become involved in campus life, whether through friendship networks, clubs or sports, are more likely to drop out.

Sometimes students worry that committing to activities outside of classes gets in the way of doing well academically, but often it’s the opposite.

Calista Damm, a freshman at the University of South Florida, joined the ad club, the film club and one called Swipe Out Hunger as she struggled with her coursework, particularly algebra. “It’s been really important to me,” she said. “It keeps me kind of sane when I go to my clubs. I’m not just thinking about homework 100 percent of the time.” She added: “It can be hard to meet people freshman year so it helps with that, too.”

Living-learning communities, which house students who have similar personal or academic interests, have long been a strategy to help students develop social networks and more easily find academic and emotional support. Universities report more engaged students and improved academic performance, especially for underprepared students.

Some universities now require that first-year students live in such a community. At the University of Iowa, all resident freshmen must sign up for one of more than 25 living-learning communities. And because adjustment to campus life can be especially difficult for underrepresented students, who may feel unwelcome or stigmatized, the university has recently hired peer mentors to live in its “Young, Gifted and Black” housing and its “All In” living-learning community, opening in the fall for L.G.B.T.Q. students.

Falling Behind: Three Strikes And

College has always been a lot to manage, but these days students are juggling more distractions than ever. They work more hours outside of class, they are more likely to commute and have family responsibilities, and now there’s social media vying for their attention. All of these factors can distract from schoolwork, requiring much tighter time management. It’s hard to cope.

Many of our students did great in high school, but they come here and don’t realize that you can’t just study the night before for a test,” said Zulmaly Ramirez, an academic advocate for first-year students at the University of South Florida. “They used to spend 80 percent of their academic time in class and 20 percent on homework.” In college, that’s reversed. (One U.S.F. effort: an app called “Cold Turkey” that blocks social media for an hour or two so students can study without disruption.)

Springfield College in Massachusetts wants students to take more responsibility. It has raised the stakes in an effort to force students to manage their time better; administrators call it the “three strikes rule.” Students on academic probation must meet weekly with a coach, who helps them prioritize their work and connects them with tutoring services. Three missed meetings are grounds for expulsion.

We have found that you can’t just tell them that they’re on academic probation; you need to press the immediacy of the problem,” said Mary Ann Coughlin, Springfield’s associate vice president for academic affairs. “Because it’s not worth it if they’re coming and treating us like a country club and enjoying the facilities, and not getting the academic benefits.”

Ways to Show Appreciation
William James, the father of psychology, stated that the most fundamental psychological need is to be appreciated. We all want to feel fully appreciated for our work. The payoff for inspiring leaders is that people do more for those who appreciate them. Although leaders widely recognize the need for appreciation, it tends to be a blind spot. That is, we generally believe we are much more appreciative of our team than our team thinks we are.

For example, I think I am more appreciative of my wife than she feels appreciated by me. The same can be said of most leaders and team members. The reason is that we often do not convert our invisible thoughts of appreciation into visible acts of appreciation. With all of today's technology options, it's easy to find ourselves too busy for face-to-face interaction, but that's one of the best ways to charge up our teams. Showing appreciation is not a matter of time and intention; rather, it's a matter of priority and action.
Research by former Gallup chairman, the late Donald Clifton, revealed that workgroups with at least a 3-to-1 ratio of positive to negative interactions were significantly more productive than those having less than a 3-to-1 ratio. In other words, more productive teams had at least three positive interactions for every one negative interaction. By the way, the same study showed the bar was set even higher for more successful marriages - the key ratio was 5-to-1. Showing your appreciation is certainly a positive interaction and is a simple way to boost your ratio.

Consider tracking your ratio for a week to gauge how well you are appreciating your team. Look for opportunities to acknowledge your team's results and positive progress. This is basic psychology - reinforce those behaviors that you want to see more frequently. Catch them doing something right ... and do it often. If you look for your team doing something right, opportunities to reinforce them will be plentiful. The key is to be sincere and specific. In other words, don't fall into the trap of blurting out the robotic "Good job". Take the time to thoughtfully explain why you appreciated the specific action taken by a team member.

For example, you might say, "Kayla, I really appreciate the way you quickly resolved that customer issue without adding more time or cost to our delivery schedule. That makes a big difference for the company." Demonstrating appreciation for your team and their efforts can put them on the fast track to inspired performance. There should be plenty of opportunities since a Harris poll found that 65 percent of the workers reported receiving no recognition for good work in the past year! That's a pretty low bar. So, we should not worry about recognizing our teams too much.

Here are some simple ways to make recognition a defining moment for your team:

Say "Thank You!" - An all-too-obvious, yet highly underused, form of appreciation.
Go old school and write a card or note to a team member expressing why you appreciate him or her.
Allow your team to present their work to your boss. This is a great way to engage your team, and it also shows your boss what kind of leader you are.
Offer team members a choice of projects on which to work. When team members buy into a project, they will put their hearts into it.
Put a sincere acknowledgement in your company or department newsletter. This takes only a few minutes of your time but creates long-term "trophy value" for the employee.
Tell an employee's story of accomplishment at a staff meeting. Detailed stories are perceived as more interesting, meaningful, thoughtful and memorable.
Take a team member to lunch to show your appreciation. Remember to do more listening than talking.
Find ways that are natural and comfortable for you to demonstrate your appreciation since your authenticity is the key.
The good news is that we have complete control over our appreciation. No budget limitations or excuses here - there are literally thousands of ways to demonstrate our appreciation at little or no cost.

Unforgettable Birthday Surprises For Best Friend
Birthdays are undoubtedly the best days! One is made to feel like a king or queen – as everyone around is busy in making the birthday boy/girl feel special! Out of all the people in this world, a best friend is undoubtedly the most special one – he/she is more special and precious than a partner/spouse. So, when it is the birthday time of your best friend, you simply cannot keep calm – right? There are many ways to make your best friend feel special on birthday and we have come up with some ideas! Have a look below and surprise your best buddy on his/her birthday:

Personalized Photo Frame:
Nothing can come anywhere close to the appeal and glamor of a personalized photo frame. You must be having some crazy, lovely, and nostalgic photographs with your best buddy. There are various types of personalized photo frames available these days. Some come in the shape of a tree while some have the shape of a butterfly. Choose well to surprise your best friend on birthday.

Movie Tickets & More Movie Gifts:
If your best friend is a movie buff, then you can plan for a chain of gifts. Firstly, book a movie voucher that he/she can use as per choice. Make sure that the e-mail of movie voucher drops at his/her mailbox around 12 midnight – that will make it special. Now, when you meet him/her the next day to cut a cake, make sure that the cake is also a special one. It should be a fondant cake depicting the posters of your friend's favorite movies. There are numerous books on movies and you can select some for your best buddy. Your best friend would never forget these amazing surprise gifts!

Surprise Lunch At Work:
This is something that your best buddy could have never expected. Go to his/her workplace unannounced and surprise with a special lunch packed from your friend's favorite restaurant. Or you can surprise with a box of chocolate by going to the workplace and then drive him/her to some good restaurant for the special lunch.

Cook For Your Best Friend:
In case you are someone who loves to cook, then you can think of cooking something special for your best friend. Invite him/her to your place and cook a special meal. Something which is your signature dish or something new that you want to try – it can be either of the ways. Enjoy the birthday moment with some nice mocktails and food and of course Netflix!

Midnight Cake & Gift Delivery:
A birthday cake at your best friend's doorstep right at 12 midnight is the best surprise. You know the favorite flavor and type of cake your friend prefers. So, simply log in to an online gift portal and place an order for that special day and time. You may also add some birthday chocolates and flowers too with the cake!

Post A Letter:
Sometimes, we all miss the good old days which were full of innocence. Everything was not so "easy" back then. To express the feelings of the heart, one had to write a letter and then wait for the answer and the whole process fetched to a month or 2 months also. Compared to that, we are living in a superfast world where expressing any form of feeling is just a message or call or click away. On your best friend's birthday this year, write a letter to him/her to greet a happy life ahead. It would come as a big surprise to your best friend. Make sure you post the letter in time so that your friend receives it by birthday.

Bake Cakes & Cookies:
If you love to bake sometimes, then you can think of baking a cake and some cookies for the birthday of your best friend. Pack the cake well in a sturdy box and keep the cookies in a mason jar. Tie the Mason jar with a cute small ribbon and write something on the jar with a marker. Now make sure your friend receives this gift right in the early morning hours so that the happy feeling of getting surprised sustains all through the day!

Surprise With Old Gang Of Friends:
How about surprising with your old gang of friends right at the terrace of your best friend – just like the good old days? This is a superb idea that would forever remain etched in your friend's memory. After a certain point of time meeting and greeting old friends really becomes a challenge. So, plan this thing among your friends and get to know the plans of your best friend beforehand through his family members. Make sure that your friend stays at home around and ring the doorbell at 12 midnight with your gang's signature drink, cookies, and some birthday gifts! Those friends from your gang who stay in a different city or country can connect with you all via Facetime or Skype.

How To Appreciate A Boss?
Today is National Boss's Day, a day to show you appreciate your manager. This is your opportunity to improve work relationships, which can make your work easier and support your career advancement. With work relationships, keep it professional. Avoid balloons and cakes. Boss's Day is not a birthday. Here are five ways to show your manager that you appreciate them in a professional manner:

1. Say “Thank you.”
Say "Thank you," and give a detailed example of appreciation. Reflect on your recent work, and identify particular things that your manager did that you appreciated. The recipient of your thanks will appreciate it.

Did your manager bring in another person to support your workload? Did they recognize your good work in front of people that allowed you to be considered for another opportunity? Did they give you flexibility with your schedule so you could work from home while your child was recovering from an operation?

Show that you notice their good deeds. When people see that you notice, they will be more inclined to continue exhibiting supportive behavior.

2. Share a handwritten note.
Briefly thank your manager in writing. Handwritten notes are rare nowadays. When you receive a handwritten note, it is memorable and helps you leave your mark.

3. Compliment your manager in a group setting.
When you are in a meeting, mention something nice about your manager. Say thanks for something they did for you, or congratulate your boss on a recent award or accomplishment. Put your manager in a good light such that other people will see their leadership and will want to work with them, as well.

4. Write a LinkedIn recommendation for your boss.
Let your manager's network know the good work that they are doing. Write a paragraph that highlights the person's skills as a manager and organizational leader that can be posted on your manager's LinkedIn page. People at work and outside of work should know the good things they are doing. When it comes time to enhance your LinkedIn profile, they will be more willing to provide you a recommendation.

5. Reach out to their boss.
Not every "thank you" has to be expressed directly to the recipient. Generally, you do not want to go above your manager's head. That is, you don't want to report a problem to your manager's manager. But when it comes to praise, let their boss know. When their boss knows about good work, it can help the person rise. And when your manager rises, you have the opportunity to rise, as well.

Send your manager's boss a brief e-mail mentioning the leadership your boss exemplified on a project. Keep your note general. Executives do not need to know details. They have less time to read e-mails, and you do not want to share something that your manager (in hindsight) should have brought to their manager's attention. Keep it positive and concise. And in communicating with your manager's boss, it gives you exposure.

It takes little time and effort to show appreciation for your boss. Be intentional about giving thanks to your manager, and try to show appreciation on more occasions than just today. Make your boss feel special, and enhance your working relationship to position yourself for success in your current and future roles.

About Love You Absolutely Need To Read Right Now
It's happened to the best of us: we've all wondered at some point what makes us so lovable. It's one thing for our parents; we feel like they have to love us like it's ingrained in even the worst of parents. But what makes someone love us who never knew us before that fateful day we met? And if it's so easy for them to fall in love with us, couldn't it be just as easy for them to stop loving us, too?

Sometimes it's not even our self-esteem that's the issue. Maybe we've just been with our partners too long, and telling them that we love them just feels hollow. It's been said so many times over the years, that we look for different ways to express it. One of the best ways to do this is to give them a short list of the reasons why we love them.

Another good time to bring up a list of reasons for loving someone is to pick them up after they've had a hard day. No matter what we're going through, hearing the reasons why we're loved and what makes us good people is always a surefire picker-upper.

Another good time to bring up a list of reasons for loving someone is to pick them up after they've had a hard day. No matter what we're going through, hearing the reasons why we're loved and what makes us good people is always a surefire picker-upper.

How They Treat Others
You may say to your friends "one of the reasons why I love him is because he is so respectful of other people's feelings." This is a great thing to pass on to your partner! It shows him that not only do you pay attention to how he treats other people besides yourself but that you also appreciate and respect his manner of doing so.

Maybe you like how he helps your mom bring in her groceries when you're visiting so that she doesn't have to do the heavy lifting. Or maybe you got the warm and fuzzies watching him help your little brother out with his homework. Telling him these things that you love about him can strengthen your relationship as well as his self-esteem. On those days when he may not be feeling so great, a reminder like this can encourage him to think better of himself because he truly is a good person.

That Laugh
Does your partner's laugh never fail to crack you up, too? Especially when they get super giggly - or better when they laugh so hard that no sound comes out? If your partner's laugh has picked you up on even your worst days, then this is a great thing to share with your partner. Maybe remind them of something funny you guys went through so you can hear that laugh again right now!

A Positive Attitude
Has your partner's positive attitude saved you on some of your crappiest days? Have you often wondered how your partner could stay so upbeat all the time, but appreciate it nonetheless? This is a great reason to love someone when your partner is that bright ray of sunshine that the world so desperately needs.

Maybe your partner isn't overly optimistic to the point of being an annoying Sally Sunshine, but he or she just doesn't get miffed by the small stuff. This too is just as admirable, and you can tell your partner just how valuable such a laissez-faire attitude can be when life gets so crazy sometimes.

Great Communicator
Does your partner ask you every day how your day was - and genuinely care about the answer? When you fight, is it something that generally blows over quickly because you two are so good at talking it out? A lack of communication is one of the most common reasons for relationships to fail, so if you have good communication with your partner, this is something to show your appreciation for.

On a related note, does your partner give some of the best advice? This is another reason to love them. When there's no one else to turn to, either because everyone is too busy or because the people who are available give terrible advice, your partner is always there with the right thing to say. This is a perfectly valid reason to love someone, and you should tell them as much.

Selflessness
Is your partner the very definition of that guy who will lay his coat over a puddle so that your feet don't get wet? Okay, maybe no one does that anymore, but maybe there are other selfless acts that your partner does without a second thought, and that speaks to the content of his character.

Maybe she makes you a separate dinner because what she wants is different from what you want, but she doesn't want you to have to cook after a long, hard day. Maybe he does your laundry for you so you can take that much-needed nap after spending all day watching the kids. Maybe she often makes a special stop to pick up coffee for you on her way home, even though it's a bit out of the way and she doesn't even want any.

Selfless acts are one of the most powerful ways a person can show another person that they love them. It is therefore appreciated when you show your appreciation for your partner's selflessness. He or she didn't have to do your laundry or grab your coffee when there was nothing in it for them, but they did it because they love you, and how sweet is that?

Unconventionality
Do you have the kind of husband who doesn't expect dinner to be on the table and the house spotlessly cleaned every night when he gets home from work and is okay with that? Do you have the kind of wife who would rather not be a kept woman, and who would rather be seen as an equal and goes out to her full-time job every day, happy and proud of what she does? If you appreciate that your partner does not conform to what is typically expected insofar as gender roles are concerned, feel free to tell them this.

For many of us, this is just a part of who we are, and we take for granted that others in similar situations may be living a more repressed lifestyle. If we are thrilled to be thriving in an environment where men and women roll up their sleeves equally, where it's just as okay for both parties to do the chores as it is for them to go out to work every day, then this is certainly a thing to be celebrated.

Of course, the opposite is also true. If you don't have to work because your husband works, and because all you've ever wanted to do is be a housewife and take care of the kids, then this is a good example of something you can tell your husband you love him for. Similarly, if you're a man whose wife enjoys nothing more than making sure you have a home-cooked meal in your stomach when you get home from work, let her know every once in a while how much you appreciate her efforts.

The main thing here is that both partners are happy and that both partners are doing all they can to ensure their partner's happiness. And when such efforts are made in a world where selfishness tends to reign, then these are the things that should be celebrated. So the next time you're trying to put your love for your partner into words, hopefully, these examples can get you off to a good start.

Interested in learning more ways to express your love for your partner? Our licensed counselors can offer you both inspiration and advice.

How to Celebrate an 18th Birthday
For many people, turning 18 is a big milestone. With new rights and new responsibilities, 18 year olds are officially considered adults in many cultures, so you'll want to celebrate the right way. Learning to throw the right kind of party, whether you want to have an informal gathering with your family and stay in, or throw a big party, or head out on the town, you can celebrate in style.

Throwing a Party
Release the kid in you. Why not invite some friends over and have a birthday party? Hang streamers, balloons, eat cake, play games and watch movies! Just because you are now considered an "adult" by law, does not mean you lose your youth. Enjoy the time with people you love. If you want to have a more "adult" 18th birthday party, there are also plenty of ways to celebrate your new-found freedom.

Consider a quiet party. Some people don't require a big blow-out when they turn 18. Spending a few quiet hours at home with your family? Opening presents? Eating cake? If it worked for 17 years, nothing needs to change now. Spend time with the people who love you and relax.

Make it quality time. Organize some spa time with a sibling or parent, or spend time working on cars with your dad. Do something you'd normally do, but take the time to really appreciate it. Most people assume that turning 18 means that these moments will start to dissipate, but that isn't entirely true. You can make them last, even if you start taking on new responsibilities.

Make a list of the childhood things you'd like to do, and use your 18th as an opportunity to do all of the things you've always loved doing. Hang out with your brother and watch samurai movies late, or go to your favorite ice cream spot with the family. Remember, turning 18 has more responsibilities, but you don't have to stop being a kid.

Try a less common party activity, like camping. You can do this at a park with camping spots, or even in your own backyard. Grab a tent, some snacks, some video games, and a few good friends! It's like an all night hangout but without your parent's over your shoulder. If you want to camp in a park, tent spots are usually about $15 a night, give or take. This can be a great way to bond with your friends while also tasting freedom away from your parents.

Invite a manageable number of people. One good way of celebrating an 18th is throwing a house party for yourself. Depending on the house you've got available, you may want to have a big throw-down or a smaller gathering appropriate for your purposes. Whatever you want to do, make sure you invite an appropriate number of people so you won't have a big crowd spilling onto your lawn and attracting cops.

If you talk about your party on Facebook or other social networking, keep it to private messages. Don't post about your party publicly, or you may have unwanted guests and attention.

Consider celebrating multiple 18ths at the same time. If a couple friends are all turning 18, mash up all your parties together to get one big throw-down, rather than a few smaller parties. Think epic.

Think up a theme. Set up your party with a style that suits your theme, or your own personal taste. You could keep it elegant and tasteful with some nice flower arrangements, photos, and crepe, or you could do it up with a smoke machine, disco ball, and a trap DJ for a grimy dance party. Maybe you want mason jars full of lemonade, a bluegrass band, and hay bales. Decide what kind of vibe you want for your part and go with it.

Quick tip: change your light bulbs from the standard white to red or yellow and set the tone to the house party quickly, cleanly, and cheaply.
Prepare your house properly by tucking away all your valuables and things that may get knocked over. Place them in a lockable room, or move things into the garage or a shed.

Think about clean-up. If you've got to start scrubbing goo off the floor after the jello-wrestling tank overflowed, you might have a bad start to your 18th year. try to keep it manageable.

Set up the entertainment for the night. It's important to have something for your guests to do at your party. This could be anything from games to dancing to movies to cooking. It's your night, so pick something that you will enjoy doing with your closest friends.
Choose something that you and your friends will enjoy doing. If you're a gamer, set up a video game gauntlet and move from room to room in an epic circuit. Super Nintendo in the Attic and Xbox One in the living room. Game your way from floor to floor.

If you want to hire a DJ, remember to give them a list of songs to play that you like and your guests will appreciate. As your guests arrive you can always have them write down two or three of their favorite dancing songs and this will ensure they get up and get the party started.
If you go with a live band, it's essential that you make sure they'll have enough room, electrical hook-ups, and other materials necessary to play, especially if you're going to pay for it. Make sure they're there early to set up.

Warn the neighbors. Nothing ruins a party faster than a call to the cops and a knock on the door. It's common courtesy to warn your neighbors that you're going to have a party and let them know the specific details. Go around the neighborhood to make sure you'll be in the clear.
Pro tip: Don't treat it so much like a warning and treat it more like an invitation. Tell the neighbors you're going to have a party for your 18th and that you wanted to let them know they should stop by. Slide a little caveat in there: "Not expecting too many people, but there'll probably be some music. We'll try to have it over with at a reasonable hour. Hope to see you there!"

Going Out
Only invite a selected number of friends. 18 is a huge milestone, so grab some friends and make a night of it. Try to keep your group to a wolf-pack sized crew–no more than five or so, close friends–and hit the town. If you go out, always travel in a group.

Make reservations if you've got a big party to make sure you'll get into the restaurant, club, or other venue you want to get into. If it requires tickets, buy tickets ahead of time. If it requires a cover charge, make sure everyone's got cash.

Depending on when you turn 18, this might be one of the last chances you have to catch up with your close friends before college, or before jobs start. It might be fun to head to a loud dance club, but it might also be fun to just hang out quietly and talk. Do what feels natural.


Find an over-18 club. If your town has one, finding an 18-and-over club can be a great way to explore the town and have some fun. Theses types of clubs are usually like most dance venues, but without alcohol. Lots of venues will have 18 listed as the minimum age, and if there's an event that happens around your birthday, it can be a great way to celebrate.

While it might be fun for you, also try to plan on underage members of your group. Don't make plans to go anywhere that everyone can't go, or just invite people who are over-18. Do a little planning to make sure nobody will be left out.

Get a ride from place to place. Before you head out, make sure you know how you'll get from place to place and that you've got your rides arranged. Best to let someone else drive, especially if you're going to be drinking at all, but even if you're not. Taking away the stress of driving around can make the whole evening a lot easier and more fun.

Taking a cab is a safe bet, or arranging rides with family members or other close friends, but if you want to make your 18th epic, there's always the possibility of a limo.

If your town has access, using Lyft or Uber is a great way of getting from place to place. You can arrange to have a car meet you somewhere at a specific time.

Take lots of pictures. In a couple years, you'll definitely want to make sure that you documented your 18th. It's easier than ever these days, but don't forget to snap enough group pictures to keep track of everything you do this night. The pictures will be priceless.

Have fun, but stay safe. Your 18th should be a night of freedom and fun, but if you're going out you need to be extremely safe. Always stay in a group, make sure everyone's exchanged numbers before you go out, and let your parents or someone else close to you know where you're planning on going and what you're planning on doing. Make sure you start your birthday out on the right foot.

Exploring New Possibilities
Figure out what's newly legal in your area. Depending on where you live, there may be a whole host of newly legal things for you to try to explore as a freshly-minted adult. Whether you're planning a party for someone who's about to turn 18 or planning your own get-together, it's common for it to include some kind of thing you couldn't do when you were 17.

In some countries, 18 is the legal drinking age. If you're going to have a few drinks to celebrate, make sure you drink safely and don't test your limits. You've got a whole lifetime of legal drinking ahead of you. No need to cram it in all at once.
Lottery tickets, tattoos, tobacco products, marriage licenses, military enlistment, and voter registration are all things that 18-year-olds suddenly have at their disposal in most areas. Learn what's available in yours and plan to celebrate like an adult.

In many areas, turning 18 means you have to get a new driver's license or ID card. In some states and provinces, it's a different color, with different designations. While it might not be a fun way to celebrate, it's a good idea to get your new ID as soon as possible.

One of the first things lots of 18 year-olds do is buy up a lottery ticket or two. It can be a fast and fun way to do something with your new ID and your new adulthood. Buy up a scratch-off or a power ball card and have some harmless fun. Who knows, you might even win a little folding money to help fund your party.

Register to vote. Yeah, yeah, it's not the stuff of parties, but spending the pre-party portion of your day doing newly adult things might be an exciting and fun way to celebrate. Exercise your rights by registering to vote in your area, so you'll be ready by the time the next election comes along.

Reason Weddings Bring Out the Worst in Sisters
Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007. Here, she explains how to deal with a sister who has become problematic during wedding planning.Your sister is supposed to be your best friend, right? At least that's what they tell us. So with that in mind, why do some sisters misbehave when their own siblings get married? Sometimes it's really hard to supportive and excited depending on what's going on in someone's life, other times it's a long-rooted sibling rivalry. Here are six examples to ponder.

The Older Single Sister
It isn't easy to be the older, single sister with no boyfriend when your baby sister is planning her dream wedding. No matter how happy your sister may be for you, if she's alone, she's got to dread all the nosy questions that are sure to come from the older relatives. As the bride, you should be supportive of your older sis and stick up for her when your great aunt Edna can't stop asking her why she doesn't have a date... That's what sisters are for, after all.

The Divorced Sister
People get divorced. It happens. But when a recently divorced sister has to be a part of somebody else's happy day before she has completely healed from her own failed marriage, it's hard not to be a little bit uncomfortable. If this is your sister, don't force her to participate in any wedding-planning activities until you have an open and honest conversation with her about it.

The Jealous Little Sister
She's a bridesmaid but wanted to be the maid of honor. She wants to choose the dresses but you have completely different taste. She's in the middle of all of your wedding details because your mom tells her everything and she has an opinion about absolutely everything. She a little terror. However, she doesn't mean to be. And you can harness that negative energy if you embrace it correctly and get her to stay up till the wee hours with you tying little bows on wedding favors.

The Uninterested Sister
This is the most irritating situation if you've actually asked this sister to be in the wedding party. She's the one who will miss your dress-fitting deadline, skip some of your wedding events and complain about the money she has to spend to be a part of your wedding. To remedy this, politely ask her if she would prefer not to be in the bridal party and then go from there.

The Controlling Sister
A sister who wants to take control can be really painful for everyone to deal with. If they haven't been asked to participate in the planning, there's probably a good reason for it. The bride knew what she was in for and didn't need the stress. That doesn't stop this sister from acting like she's in charge and has the authority to order the staff around, complain needlessly, and general make herself a nuisance. You only get one wedding day, and you cannot let your sister spoil it for you if she's not capable of controlling herself.

Be prepared and let it roll right off you.

The Supportive Sister
They do exist! And just for the record, supportive sisters make the best bridesmaids.

To My Sister On Her Wedding Day
My dearest sister,[i][/i]
I've been staring at my screen trying to come up with the perfect words to tell you, the best advice I can give that you are suppose to give someone on their wedding day. I've written these sentences countless times, trying to get it "right," but I've come to the conclusion that the best things to say are words that come from the heart, which is where what I'm going to say to you comes from - all of these words are filled with love.

Seeing you happy on this day fills me with so much joy. You are starting a new chapter in your life and I am so honored that I am able to see you on this day and share this moment with you. While you may be older, I have still been able to see you grow into the woman that you are. I have seen you during the good and the bad, some of those times involving both of us going through it together, side by side, hand in hand. I have witnessed your greatest achievements and those rare moments when you needed a helping hand. I've seen you be you and it has lead us here to this day. I wish only the best for you and your future, my sister, and I know that it will be a bright one.

As the days whined down and your wedding got closer, it made me reflect on you and me. One thing I have always prided myself on was that not only have I been blessed to be able to call you my sister, you're also one of my best friends. You've been the one constant in my life, someone I could go to for advice or a laugh or anything else I may need. As we've gotten older, our relationship has only gotten stronger. Of course, we've had our few (very, very few) disagreements, but that is typical with all sisters, and it has never changed the way we feel about each other. I can say without a doubt that you are my role model and my hero. If I come to be a fraction of the woman you are, I'll be ecstatic. You have influenced my life in so many ways - too many to count. As you go about your wedding, know that I will be there for you always and that this new part of your life doesn't change anything.

Enjoy your wedding day sister, because as long as you've waited for it to come, it will go by quick, quicker than you could imagine. Enjoy the love that you have for your husband and the love that everyone will be showering you both with. Enjoy every aspect of your night from the food to the dances to the jokes that will be made. Enjoy the laughs that will be shared and the tears that will undoubtedly be shed. Enjoy this night and enjoy your future.

Congratulations sister.

In Additional Of Positive Reasons to Say “Good Morning”
I am a northern girl who has lived in the south for 20 years. Everyone in the south speaks when they make eye contact. Not doing so is perceived as being rude. In the morning, strangers greet each other with "good morning." Friends and acquaintances say "how you doing," "how are you," or "hey." At the very least, they will wave their hands or nod their heads. People, who are close, greet each other with a hug, a touch of the arm or a handshake. The morning greeting is often followed by conversations to 'catch up' on the events of the last 24 hours or 24 days. I suppose we are just happy to see each other.

The most effective form of saying "good morning" includes making eye contact and smiling. Smiles are contagious. It is almost impossible to smile and not have it returned. In the south, you may end up saying "good morning" 20 times walking from your car to your building.

If you have ever ridden public transportation in the north, you know that no one speaks. A rider may speak to the bus driver or the conductor as they pay their fare, but for the most part riders listen to their music, read their newspapers and separate themselves from the masses.

At this time of year, northerners are tired of winter. It is dark when they leave in the morning and dark by the time they get home. The weather is cold, wet, or both. People are grumpy and ready for winter to transition into spring. I don't know if this is why northerners don't greet each other when they make eye contact, but I do believe that southerners have it right.

Greeting each other in the morning is more than a genteel form of manners. Speaking to others in the morning has many positive results.

It connects us with others. This is important because we are social beings who thrive on having positive relationships with other humans.
It makes us feel good. Feel good hormones are released when another person smiles at us. Our self-esteem is massaged when others acknowledge that we exist.
It takes our minds off our problems if only for a moment. Making eye contact, smiling and saying "good morning" forces us to focus on something other than what makes us sad, angry or frustrated.
It is and energizing, positive way to start the day.

Reasons a Good Morning Text is So Important: Make Their Day
You may think that a good morning text is pointless but it can mean more than you know. This is why it's so important and how you can make it the best.

Everyone knows just how sweet a good morning text can be. There are countless memes on the Internet depicting just how much those texts can mean to someone. But why is it that something so ordinary and expected can mean so much?

Truthfully, it shouldn't. There shouldn't really be any reason for a good morning text to make someone smile the way it does. After all, do you really get all giddy when you wake up next to someone and they say good morning? Probably not.

Sometimes the little things mean the most
Think about all the things your partner has done for you. Which things meant the most? More than likely, it's a collection of little things that popped into your mind. The daily things they've done time and time again are the things we appreciate most.

Because they're consistent. They might be small things but they add up to one big result: your happiness. It's not so much the major things they do that make you happy for a day but rather, it's the simple things they do every single day that adds up to long-term happiness.

Why that good morning text can mean so much
The next time you think you can get away with not texting your lover good morning, you may want to remember why it's so important. This might also help you understand why they could be upset if you don't send it to them.

#1 It means you're thinking about them. Who doesn't love to know their partner is thinking about them right away in the morning? It's the best feeling. When you wake up to that good morning text sent right when you know their alarm went off, it makes your whole day.

They just woke up from being basically unconscious for eight hours and the first thing they think to do is text you? That's insanely romantic and definitely meaningful.

#2 It's almost effortless appreciation. Every person needs to show appreciation for their significant other. A lack of appreciation is one of the main reasons couples split up. You have to show them you love having them in your life.

And sending a good morning text is a super, super easy way to do just that. When you wake up and send that message, you're telling your partner that you want them to have a good day. That's enough to show your appreciation on the small scale.


#3 Starting the day with a message from a lover feels good. It feels really, really good. Put yourself in their shoes. How do you feel when it happens to you? Probably amazing. To know your partner thinks of you right away in the morning helps you feel good about your relationship. It makes you feel secure and it sets you up to have a great day.

#4 It's simple chivalry. For those who say chivalry is dead, it's not. Anyone who says otherwise probably never gets a good morning text. Sending that message is a great way to be chivalrous.

It's basically the same as opening the car door for your partner or paying for a meal. It's simple, easy, and lets them know you care about them.

#5 It'll make their whole day. It might seem insignificant but it has a powerful effect on their entire day. You have the power to turn their day into a great one or a bad one. Not texting them will only make them insecure and think you're upset with them.

So send that message. It doesn't need to be any more complicated than, "good morning, babe." If you want to make it even more meaningful, you can switch it up so it doesn't seem like you're doing it out of routine.

1. Don’t be a cliché
Don't do things you're 'supposed' to because people say they are romantic. I realize that statement is a tad ironic considering that I'm writing an article on romance, but hear me out. If roses, chocolates and expensive dinners aren't your thing, don't do it! News flash, not every girl likes that stuff. I know I don't. We're not actually all the same. Take the time and effort to be romantic in a way the other person will appreciate. For the record, a game from my Steam wish list and some enchiladas will do nicely.

2. Do some chores
This may not sound particularly romantic, but saving your significant other from doing some of the domestic jobs they hate is damned sexy.

3. Cook their favourite meal
Food holds more power than people may think. Sure, we have to eat it to live, but it also has the ability to bring people together. Why else would most major holidays and festivities have a large food-related element? Nothing is better than coming home after a long day and finding someone has not only already taken care of dinner, but that the meal is one of your favorites.

4. Order in
No good at cooking? No problem, order in some delicious food from your partner's favorite restaurant. I firmly believe that this is far more romantic than going out to eat. You're in the comfort of your own home and can therefore relax. Plus, you don't have to deal with any of the mouth breathers out there.

5. Go out for dinner
Maybe you two like going for dinner and would prefer that to eating in. Just make sure you take them somewhere they will love. Again, this doesn't mean it has to be a cliché. If they prefer the Lebanese restaurant down the street to the French bistro, take them there. If this means they'll be having garlic breath for the next three days, well then you've just proven your sacrificial love even more.

6. Spontaneous date!
Surprise your partner with a spontaneous, mostly unplanned date. Head somewhere and go with the flow, or perhaps take a random drive. Sometimes it's nice just to break the routine of everyday life, just so long as you don't end up in a House of Wax situation.

7. Talk to them
It can be easy to stop talking properly, especially in a long-term relationship. Maybe you've gotten too comfortable, or don't feel like there's much to say. Just try! You may find out something you never knew, which hopefully will be a positive thing, as opposed to finding out your first cousins or something.

8. Listen to them
It can be even easier to not listen properly when you have been with someone for a certain amount of time. You may not know it, but not listening properly can be really hurtful. Whether you think the topic isn't that interesting or you feel like you've heard it all already, make the effort to listen. This is the person who is supposed to mean the most to you, why wouldn't you care what they have to say?

Wax nostalgic
Ninety-eight percent of romance is remembering not to take each other for granted. So tap into long-lost crush feelings by regularly thinking back to those first exhilarating moments that made you fall in love: the first time you met, your first date, your first kiss, your first time naked together, the first time you had teary, face-holding, we-adore-each-other sex. Remember how lucky you thought you'd be if you ended up together for the long haul—especially during those moments when the way they chew is starting to annoy you.

Don't overshare.
There's a fine line between intimacy and TMI. We're not so prudish as to suggest you should never pee in front of one another, but is it so much to ask that you keep your #2's private? And when it comes to eliminating errant facial and body hairs, it might be a good idea to lock the bathroom door. Ask that your partner do the same for you. Just think of it as quality alone time to pamper yourselves.

Go on dates.
Someone told us recently that it's pathetically suburban to call it a "date night." We say, save "hip" for your wardrobe and music library and embrace the cheese in your relationship. There's a reason dinner-and-a-movie is a decades-long tradition—it works! Besides, if you don't call it a date night, how is your partner supposed to know that you want them to change out of their old college sweatshirt and act all date-like? Subtle hints don't work; calling it a date night does. If you really can't stand to say those two words, then help clue them in with a new outfit for the occasion—or just ask them to wear a certain outfit that you love. and also before doing this suggest , it will be very nice by sending him or her Romantic Love Messages and it Acts of love and kindness may be a great way to do so, but words are an even greater tool. It is believed that words are the truest manifestations of a person's reason.

Exchange just-because gifts or treats.
Don't wait for the officially designated romantic holidays—anniversaries, birthdays, and Valentine's Day—to give your partner a thoughtful present. Surprising them with something out of the blue shows that they're on your mind, that you don't take them for granted, and that you care all of the other non-holiday days of the year, too. If you're broke, just bring them breakfast in bed with their favorite section of the newspaper on a random Sunday (and yes, "favorite section of the newspaper" may also be a euphemism for "fantastic MouthAction". Remember to reassure them that they didn't somehow forget a major anniversary, otherwise their mind will be racing all day.

There are two types of men: those who enjoy birthdays and those who do not. Things that you can say to your boyfriend on his birthday differ depending on which type of guy he is. You may want to send a love letter or you may want to send something sweet. Consider your boyfriend's personality before you decide what to say or do.


1. You have a constant snuggle buddy.
Whenever you have a terrible day at work, all you want to do is come home to your man and cuddle. Life is better when you have a human teddy bear to lie on. You feel so secure and comfortable being in his arms that you forget about how pissed your boss got when you bleeped up on a huge project. Until tomorrow….

2. There’s always someone there to vent to.
Let's be honest: Girls need to vent. Whenever something bad happens, you either go to your closest gal pals or chat with your boyfriend about the situation. No matter what, you know your boyfriend will be there to lend an ear and comfort you when times are rough. He won't ever snub you or make you feel like you're being stupid because he's on your team!

3. The way he looks at you!
This "look" makes you feel special, wanted, and loved. When your eyes meet his, you feel like you're the only girl in the world and that's the greatest feeling ever. Only your boyfriend gives you this glance and you cannot help but smile and coyly giggle.


4. You never feel lonely.
You know those nights where you yearn for the human touch? You no longer need to feel a sense of loneliness because your boyfriend is there to fill that void. You don't need look for other ways to feel less alone because your boyfriend will scoop you right up and hug you.


5. You can totally be yourself!
Not everyone will like your personality, but that's OK because you know your #1 fan will never get sick of you being you! Your boyfriend fell in love with you for being yourself, so you don't need to hide or shield who you are. It's a great feeling to just totally be you and not put on a front!

1. Reasons Why And Things to Say on Your Boyfriend’s Birthday
There are two types of men: those who enjoy birthdays and those who do not. Things that you can say to your boyfriend on his birthday differ depending on which type of guy he is. You may want to send a love letter or you may want to send something sweet. Consider your boyfriend's personality before you decide what to say or do.

A Few Phrases to Say on His Birthday
A few great phrases you can say or things to talk about to make your boyfriend feel special are:

I love you. How did I get so lucky to have you?
Let's make this the best birthday yet for you!
Here's to many more birthdays together!
You're my favorite person in the world and deserve to have the greatest birthday ever!
You mean so much to me and I feel blessed to spend this special day with you!
You are an incredible person! I am amazed by you and so proud of you. Thanks for sharing your special day with me.
How can I make this day extra special for you?
I have a special day planned for your birthday because I love you so much!
You deserve the best on your birthday!

A Guy Who Enjoys Birthdays
For the boyfriend who likes celebrating, you can say and do the following:

Obviously, you can tell him "happy birthday," and give him a huge hug.
Keep calling him the birthday boyfriend throughout the day. Talk about how special the birthday boy is (or birthday man, if you feel more comfortable).
Tell him all the wonderful things you love about him. Spread them throughout the day rather than lumping them all together, and he is sure to feel special.
If you are in a serious relationship, his birthday can be a great way to tell him where you would like the relationship to go. You can say, "I love being in a relationship with you and can see us spending our lives together."
Plan a fun activity for him and tell him you have a special surprise for him later. You can tell him, "I've got something awesome planned for you later and I can't wait for you to see it!"
You can say, "I love you so much and can't wait to celebrate you today!"

A Guy Who Does Not Like Birthdays
Some people just don't like birthdays. No matter how much you may love your boyfriend, he may not want you to remind him of his birthday. A few things that you can say to your boyfriend who doesn't like birthdays are:

You can tell him how much you love him. No matter what day it is saying, 'I Love You,' is always a great idea. You can say, "Have I told you today how much I love you?" If you aren't in love you can say "... care about you."
Don't tell him it's his birthday but don't make it obvious that you are trying to avoid the topic either.
If you must mention it is his birthday, just call it his special day. You can say, "Let's have a great day together and enjoy this special day."
Birthdays are a good time to discuss how much you mean to each other. Even if he isn't into celebrating, you can still spend quality time together. You can say, "I love spending time with you."
You can mention, "You make me so happy. I appreciate what a great boyfriend you are."

Why Are Birthdays Special?
At some point, you may find yourself asking what makes birthdays so special. After all, everyone has one annually and thousands of people share the same birthday. However, many people value birthdays as more than just a simple day of the year. The following are a few reasons why birthdays matter:

Everyone grows older on a birthday. When you are younger, this is exciting (getting closer to getting your license or drinking) and when you are older it's not as delightful. However, birthdays signify aging and that everyone is human.
In astrology, a birthday is (in most cases) the only time of the year when all the planets fall as they did on a person's birth date.
Many cultures celebrate birthdays more than they do actual births.
Birthdays are a great opportunity to celebrate your relationship.
Birthdays offer a chance to express how much you care about someone.


You can let him know, "You mean so much to me and I want to make sure you have a perfect birthday."

Society has an image-driven culture that focuses on unrealistic standards of beauty for people of all genders, ages, and ethnicities. These standards not only have a negative impact on adults but are impacting children with alarming consequences.

Eating disorders among children have increased significantly in the past 20 years. While the greatest prevalence is among adolescents ages 13 to 18, children as young as 5 years old are dieting. More than ever, it’s important to teach children how to value healthy eating and stay active while also loving their bodies.

Here are some ways that you can teach your children to have a positive body image and develop healthy habits for life:

Be a role model for your child

Children tend to mimic the behaviors and actions of the adults around them. If children hear adults speak negatively about their own bodies, this may influence how they see themselves.

To combat this, work at being the role model your children need to see. State positive things about yourself and acknowledge that your imperfections are fine. Talk with your children about body diversity and why many media images are unrealistic. If you notice that your children are struggling with body image, be that understanding person they can speak to.

Change attitudes towards physical activity
Instead of focusing on exercise as a way to lose weight or maintain a certain body shape, have your children consider the other ways that being active can be a positive contribution to their lives. For example, physical activity helps your body reach its full potential, improves mood, acts as a social activity or artistic expression, and can be a lot of fun!

Try exposing your children to different ways of being active and engage their curiosities. They may be interested in sports like soccer or basketball, or find a passion for yoga, roller skating, or even Quidditch! If your children are concerned that they can’t pursue an activity because of their size, show them how professional athletes come in different sizes and shapes.

Develop a healthy relationship with food
Moving away from the binary of “good” or “bad” foods is an important tool in improving your children’s relationship with food. These labels create anxiety around food and may lead to consequences including food restriction and feeling like a bad person because they’ve eaten a “bad” food.

Promote healthy eating by emphasizing how the nutrients in foods help people become strong and healthy. Instead of focusing on calories, explain how the vitamins in an orange help their gums, or how nuts are good for their brain. And if your child wants to have a cookie or chips, there’s no need to shame their food choices. Allow children to make some choices about the foods they eat and cultivate an environment where nutritious foods are available and appealing.

Celebrate your child’s physical and non-physical attributes

Teaching your children to think positively about themselves can help develop a positive self-image that doesn’t focus entirely on appearance. Practice stating what positive attributes they have and what they are capable of doing or becoming.

What are some things that your children like about their bodies? Do they like their smile, or how their body helps them climb up a tree? Don’t forget your children’s non-physical attributes — are they kind, funny, smart or talented at something? A regular practice of saying affirmations can reduce negative self-talk and build your children’s confidence.

Teaching your children body positivity and healthy habits around food and physical activity can have a lasting impact on their self-esteem, self-perception and how they interact with an image-driven culture.

Source
4 Way To Teach Your Child Body Positivity: Temmy. Accessed Tuesday, 15 March 2019

What Are Good People Skills?
An accountant needs to be good at math, a web developer needs to learn the newest programming languages and a doctor needs to keep up on the latest medical research. However, everyone who wants to succeed needs to be fluent in a particular set of skills – people skills.

In general, good people skills are defined as the ability to listen, to communicate and to relate to others on a personal or professional level. Good people skills also extend to include problem-solving abilities, empathy for others and a willingness to work together toward the common good.

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Good people skills are defined as the ability to listen, to communicate and to relate to others on a personal or professional level. It can also include problem-solving abilities, empathy for others and a willingness to work together toward the common good.

Good Communication Skills
Strong people skills in the communications arena include the ability to take in information, clarify comments and participate in effective verbal and written exchanges. These skills can be developed by learning to participate in active listening in which you focus on the speaker’s words rather than using the time to formulate your own point of view or response.

Good communication skills involve choosing your words carefully, issuing clarifying statements and reiterating complex conversations to verify information. Communication skills are an especially valuable people skill in publishing, advertising and media roles.

The Ability to Have Empathy
Empathy is the ability to have a visceral understanding of what another person is going through. This skill allows you to put yourself in another person’s place and recognize the thoughts, emotions and experiences that person is having. The ability to have empathy allows a person to give more personal levels of attention and care and to provide a sympathetic listening platform. Developing this skill is particularly advantageous for those working in healthcare, childcare or educational roles.

Conflict Resolution Skills
Having the ability to mediate disputes and resolve conflict among customers and colleagues is an important professional skill. Conflict resolution involves the ability to clarify a specific dispute, listen in a non-judgmental manner to both perspectives and offer suggestions for reaching an equitable compromise. This ability can help keep peace in a workplace, stem inner-office issues and maintain high customer satisfaction levels. This trait is especially helpful for those working in managerial or oversight capacities.

The Value of Patience
Patience is an exceptional people skill that is valuable in every profession. Patience involves being able to maintain an even temper, to repeat and explain information as necessary and to control anger in even the most trying situations. Those in customer service, complaint departments and human resources roles should work particularly hard at developing this skill.
Tolerance and Understanding

Professional workplaces are made up of people from all walks of life. Having tolerance and understanding for the differences of others is vital to long-term business success. Tolerant people have the ability to accept differences, even when they don’t personally agree with or condone them. This is an especially valuable skill in workplace environments that cater to people of vastly different ethnic, religious and cultural backgrounds.

Source
Tips For Better People Skills: Temmy. Accessed Tuesday, 12 March 2019

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In the recent years the journey of having a good body structure as been in the mind of some many young and ever gorgeous personality, the thought of how to gain the nicest figure which will make them look younger even as the time passes and they start aging, it is not less expected as we all live in the world where even the old are still looking extremely young and radiant regardless of their age and children.

Well no body want to get these type of body that is not well suited, through fitness people have been able to give themselves the type of body shape they truly want without having to go for surgeries which happens to be riskier to the health. The journey of getting a nice body figure which at the same time keep us healthy is not a crime.

Yes, so many have been bothered on how they can get the actual model body structure they have been hungry for, well the good news is you are on the right track as I will be sharing few tips on how to build a fitness model body. Here few ideas you might be needing:

Eat more: Often times people do make mistakes of skipping food just because they are trying to burn out some fat or trying to gain muscles, these is often common among women they feel avoiding meals will help them gain the model structure they needed, No and in fact you must consume slightly more calories than you burn and in a great advantage having egg, turkey and chicken help you hit your protein and calorie requirement for the day.

Don’t overdo the cardio: Over doing your exercise is also a great disadvantage, often times women find them selves doing and doing the cardio just to burn out the calories faster and it often end up getting push to the back burner when it should actually be the opposite. In most cases if you don’t have extra calories to lose you should just limit your exercise.

Lift heavier: If you are trying to get these model fitness body you should also try these factor, try and lift heavier, don’t be scared to get out of the 12- 15 repetition zone instead try and focus more on getting stronger on the basic compound.

Keep a workout journal: Keeping a workout journal is also a good idea, instead of waking up everyday to the gym without having any plan just to do any form of exercise, try as much as possible to note down the things which you want to do everyday at the gym, these also help a lot.

Take progress pictures: Knowing your progress is one the way to encourage yourself, before starting a particular workout routine, you can try to take your picture and keep taking pictures almost every time after your work out just to know your progress and how hard or less you need to work more.

Have the right mindset: Have a positive mindset that it is going to work, in every area of life a good mindset helps, know that you are actually going to see result and you will. Aside from building your model body do you know fitness has also been the success story of many for instance the fitness model Sommer Ray who has become extremely rich and famous today spoke about her interest for fitness and how it has pave way for her among big brands. Yes, it is possible to attain greatness in body fitness.

Via: https://nouw.com/sarahreyes/how-to-build-a-fitness-model-body-35397498

In the recent generation everybody has been hungrier for fame even more than success, of course we have so many great famous personalities who are equally successful and like wise we have people who are famous but are far from successful, some youth have even misunderstood fame and success but at some great point majority of famous people are equally successful. We have look into the life of so many great famous personalities such as Lexi Rivera a famous American gymnast and YouTuber who has manage to combine fame and success. She is known to have gain a higher amount of success in her life and like wise she has gain a high rate of fame. We also have a lot of important famous people like Rihanna, Drake, Beyoncé and so many others who has manage to combine success and fame in their life and of course this are the people the younger generations have been looking up to in order to acquire fame and success.

In as much as fame and success are the sweetest part of life, they still can’t be considered as same thing, although success can be amount to power but there are so many successful people in the world we live in who are not famous and there are still some certain famous people who are not poor but have not been able to acquire the success they are hungry for.

According to my knowledge success means when you have achieved you dreams, goal and life desires. Getting your ambitions towards life while Fame is when you have high standard name among the society, you can be easily being identified among a high crowd of people without troubles. According to this point I just mentioned success and fame are not one of the same and can never be.

People have been thrown in this misery of their heart of which is more important between fame and success, well in your heart you know which is more important to you but as much as fame might be the goal of everyone in this generation success is equally important. It will be harder to maintain fame without success, when you are famous people expect much from you, the society want to see you on the peak of every great thing like a great and expensive ride, they all look up to you for a mighty kind of living.

Fame can not be sweet without success; you can only enjoy your fame when you are successful. As it is now we have seen many people who has to go for a reality show just to gain fame and success and we have also seen many successful people go through so many things in order to be well recon with in the society they live in.

The world has considered famous people to be a respected personalities and of course everyone wants to be associated with the famous people. Fame as really been the priority of so many of recent but it can not be considered as being successful.

Via: https://thriveglobal.com/stories/can-fame-actually-means-success/

The word I love Jesus but hate Christianity might sound so odd but to me it actually a reality and I can say fully of how much I love Jesus Christ he means a lot to me and I can fully say that he has truly die for my sins and in every area of my life I have experience his love and compassion. I have called upon God through him on so many occasions and he as answered my prayer, he has even fought for my unknown battles. He sees me as his and he has never neglected me, this Is the much reason why I love him so much but I hate the religion called Christianity, I believe in Jesus but I don't believe in Christianity. I celebrate Christmas and even send my Christian friends, Christian birthday wishes but I don't like being a Christian.

I have seen pastors build churches with billions and I have seen churches build on gold and the church member still suffer and go hungry for foods, their pastors are happy and living large but the members of the church are nothing to write home about. Regardless they still want them to pay tithe and offerings.

Churches as become a means of competitions, member don't feel like going to church if they don't have good amount to pay as offerings. Some even go to church in order to measure their wealth and they see people who don't meet up with their standard of life as low class. Some even borrow wears so as to meet up with a particular standard of living and all this are being encouraged how does serving Satan feels like if we are actually serving Jesus in this manner.

If Christianity is so good like they claim to be why does they discriminate, why does it bring so much war and why don't they see the need to be very companionate, why does their pastors neglect the poor and keeps enjoying in their own comfort zone. Why do they preach something and be doing another thing? This are the questions I kept asking myself and no one has been able to provide me with a suitable answer.

The funniest thing about Christianity is that they preach honesty, righteousness and love but they don't ever practice these things. They see the weak and neglect them, they see the poor and look at them with nasty mind, why, if they truly love their religion and see at as Christ like why so much discrimination.

Some Christian even welcome the rich and reserve their sit at the front while other remain at the back sit. Some even give post to non believers just because they are rich and neglect the poor who are anointed. They invite war to the present of God because of greed.

How do we call this Jesus will? Jesus never discriminate among people in fact Jesus loves the poor and the non believers, so why should Christian say they can't mingle with non believers because they don't know Jesus, why does it have to be like this?

Some Christian even go to church every Sunday looking like they are the most righteous but in the right sense of it they are the biggest sinner, they hide under the pretense of going to church and do so many ungodly things, they are in club on Saturday and in church on Sunday. Some even fornicate in church by having affairs and still call that the presence of God. Some pastors won't even attend to you if you are not rich enough.

I believe Christianity is like a bondage where they want you to do one thing but they are not practicing it. I love Jesus and I believe in his commandment but I don't like Christianity because they don't practice what they preach.

Via: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/i-love-jesus-but-i-hate-christianity

Having a sweet girlfriend can be fun isn’t? you play, gist and catch fun together and before you know it the bond you both share becomes unmeasurable, that you both began to see each other as indispensable. Your girlfriend is more or less a life partner, everything you do you have to put her into a consideration, loving her should be the first thing that comes to your mind and for a certain you must try to prove your deep love for her like recognizing her special like birthday, sending her a happy birthday girlfriend Wishes and practically being there for her on every other special day in her life.

After being so sweet has a boyfriend, have you ever consider in your heart if your girlfriend is a great one. Have you taken your time to notice or have you been thinking about it and you couldn’t arrive at a good answer? Here are few great signs that you have a great girl lover.

She doesn’t interfere in your business: When you have a girlfriend who give time for your business and doesn’t want you to have time for her alone. She believes there is time for her and there is time for your business and she doesn’t try to mix the two together then it proves that you have a great girlfriend. She understands that your business is important and she doesn’t try to compete with it.

She allows your friend to be close to you: You know you have a great girlfriend when she adore and respect your friends, she leaves room for them to be together with you. She doesn’t try to overtake their space in your life and she try as much as possible to respect their involvement in your life.

She respects your families: She loves your family and respect them. She sees your family as hers and try as much as possible to create homely relationship with them. She doesn’t try to create distance between you and your family instead she makes you get closer to them. If you have a girlfriend like these then you have a great girlfriend.

She accepts you for whom you are: A good girlfriend won’t try to change you because of her own selfishness but she will work to understand and learn to accept you for who you are. She loves you deeply and will love everything about you.

She understands your values and believes: She will help you build your life and of course she will understand your values and learn to talk to you on how to maintain it. She won’t try to force her own believe on you but try to understand yours even if it is against hers.

She gives good advice: When she needs to advice you about a particular thing, she gives you a good advice and she try so hard in making things work out for you and doesn’t add to your worries.

She pays listen ear when you need to talk: She try to listen to your heart desires and allow you pour out your mind. She listens with love and try as much as possible to understand you.

She understands your pain: A great girlfriend will understand your pain and work in order to help you ease your pain. She doesn’t try to add to your bad feelings.

She doesn’t complain about petty things: She won’t nag about petty things, often girls love to complain but a great girlfriend won’t complain about everything.

She helps in building your future to a brighter one: A good girlfriend will be worried about building your dream, she will give great ideas which can brighten your future and she will also talk about how to help you attain success. When she is concern about your dreams then she is a great one.

Every woman wants something sweet and extra ordinary from their husband, they want to feel their husband love for them and like wise they want to enjoy being marriage. Often time the responsibility of a happy home rest on the shoulder of the wife but there are some certain things a man can do to make their wife happy and feel the need to do more in order to make their marriage sweet and gracious.

As a man have you wonder what your wife truly want and have thought about the things that will make her happy and feel the need to always love you more. Woman want love and understanding but aside that the needs of woman are numerous. Have you wonder what your wife truly want aside your everyday Love messages for wife ? Here are few things woman also wants.

Deep Loving And Care: Every woman wants their husband to show them deep love and care. They want to feel your love every now and then. Every woman wants your action and words to be filled with love, it makes them feel loved and appreciated. No woman wants a one way boring man who doesn't show care and love. Having a loving home is the secret of every happy woman.

Forgiveness: Forgiving their mistakes is also another good thing every woman wants from their husband. Try as much as possible to forgive her wrong doing. Be very kind to know she is not perfect and be open to make corrections if needed. Every marriage has their own crisis; forgiveness is the key to a peaceful home.

Time: Giving your wife good time is a great way to keep her happy. She truly wants your time, spend quality time with her. Have a nice discussion and be very happy when spending time with her. Every wife wants to feel their husband present and never want to feel regretted. For the fact that she is always doing the whole house chores makes her weak already but neglecting her will make her feel weaker, try as much as possible to spend good quality time loving her.


Listening Ear: Listen to her heart desire and always be open minded when she is talking to you, show her so much understanding and make her feel you are always there for her when she needs someone to pour her mind to. These will also increase the bond you both share.

Kindness And Affection: Be very kind with her and endeavor to show her so much affection when needed, try as much as possible to be more concerned about her basic needs and be very open to share advice and your heart desires with her. She will feel loved and more satisfied with you.

A Happy Date Together: Have a nice date with her, you can surprise her for a special date, make her feel like you are trying to win her over everyday. Love her deeply and prove it to her many times, these will also help you in building your marriage in a stronger way.

Be Concern About The House Needs: Be very active in taking care of the house needs, make your home the most important thing you need to put in consideration. Make her feel the home is as important to you as it is to her. This will make her happy and fulfilled.

Via: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/what-women-wants-from-their-husband

As fun and challenging raising a child can be we all aim to achieve a particular goal at the end of our nurture and that's success. Raising a happy child is what give every parent sense of joy and satisfaction. Parenting is not about nurturing your child for success its more about giving them happiness. Every parent wants their child to grow up with a heart filed with love and no child can have a heart of love if they are not raised happily.

As a parent you will play a fatal role in the raising of your child, your contribution to their growth will either affect them positively or negatively. Your nurturing skills will be measured with the way you treat them from childhood. How can your role in your child life bring about their happiness in life? here are few ways to raise a happy kid.

Be Happy As A Parent: If you are happy yourself it will prompt your kid to be happy automatically, if you raise your kid with so much happiness and they often see you happy always trust me it will build their sense of happiness. No child will be sad in a happy environment. If you want to have a happy child, you should be happy first. Endeavor to build a happy environment if you trying to raise a happy child.

Guide Their Interaction: Be very observant about the way they interact with friends and family, teach them to talk to people with love and as often as possible teach them to love people around them and also learn to make them understand they have to deal with every thing with lot of love. It will make them happy and build their sense of interaction.

Don’t Expect Them To Be Perfect: Don't nag your children for perfection, know that they will make mistakes and be ready and open to correct them. The way your treat your children mistakes will determine their happiness as they grow up.

Teach Them To Be Emotional Capable: Teach your child to be emotional capable, make them understand the concept they need in other to be very active emotional. Teach them not to take everything to heart and they should also know who to love and they should never be an emotional fool. This will make them a happy child.

Try To Have A Happy Home: Building a happy home is very important when you are trying to raise a happy child. Make your home a happy one and try to make your children happy. Recognize their special day, endeavor to make their birthday a special one. Say happy birthday daughter and son when they are having their birthday. As they grow up they will also know how to share love.

Teach Them To Be Discipline: Teach them how to be discipline without having bitterness in their heart. Teach them the essence of correcting people who offend them with love. You should also teach them not to react on everything and trust me they will be very happy in life.

Be Very Accommodating: Be very open, let your children be very free in talking to you. Let them see you as their happiness, someone whom they can run to anytime and will receive them with so much love. Give your children reason to have a happy parent which will also help build their own happy mind too.

Via: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/how-to-raise-a-happy-kid

Your boyfriend is the source of your happiness so as much as someone gives you immersive happiness you should also be willingly to do much more for them too. Making your boyfriend happy should be one of your everyday responsibilities as the mind is always at peace when your partner is the source of your happiness.

Its not a big deal to see to the happiness of your partner and work towards making them happy. There are some basic things you can do with your boyfriend every day which will always put a big smile on his face. You just have to do little basic things and trust me if you do it with all your heart, he will appreciate it everyday. Here are few ways to make your boyfriend happy.

Be Involve In His Life
Be very involve in his daily activities, ask him if he has eaten and if the day is going smoothly. In the case whereby he is having a difficult day or time be his comfort. Let him see that you are always there for him and prove to him how much you want him to do better. Advice him about some basic things and see that your advice yield.

Be Very Romantic
Be a romantic girlfriend, tell him sweet words daily aside from telling him you love him, you can also tell him how proud you are to have him. Let him know he is making progress in his life and you are very happy to see him doing well for himself. Man often love woman who praise them often.

Erase Every Form Of Doubt
Don't be suspicious of him, he might be having a bad day already by raising any form of suspicious which might cause issues will make him get sick of you easily. Be loving and trust him 100% and trust me he will always work to keep your trust active. Man often love peaceful girlfriends.

Appreciate His Love And Care
Endeavor to appreciate the little things he does for you and he will always want to do more. Tell him how grateful you are and he will be happy that you appreciate the things he does for you.

Trust His Actions
Trust your man moves and trust his actions. Don't doubt his desire towards success instead motivate him that he can do better. Tell him how things will work better for him and in the case whereby you don't fully support his action, you can tell him in a more loving way.

Be Attentive
When he is talking to you be very attentive, always pay a listen ear to his words. Show him full attention when he is talking about things that's partaking to his life or career. Be an attentive listener, it's a great way to make your man happy.

Be Accommodating
Be homely, try as much as possible never to be aggressive beside him, be very accommodating and smile always. Its very attractive when a lady smile often. Be a very homely person, let him feel comfortable whenever he is with you and trust me he will always be happy to be with you.

Tease Him Often
You should tease him sometimes. Tell him nice things and you can as well send him a lovely and nice funny love quotes which will put a big smile on his face. Be sweet to him and see how joyful he will always be to hear from you. Man love woman who makes them laugh. You can tease him about his new hair do. You can both laugh about little things and trust me he will always be comfortable with you.

Via: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/make-your-boyfriend-happy

Having someone you truly love and adore is a one life time experience, meeting someone who mean so much to you is what gives the heart joy and a form of satisfaction.

The joy of the heart is knowing that the person whom you sleep thinking about deeply will be in your life when you wake up in the morning. The joy of having someone who cherish and care for you deeply can’t be trade with anything in the world. Have you ever taught about nice good morning quotes you can send to your lover which bring them joy? Here are few.
1. I wake up every morning feeling a form of satisfaction in my heart knowing that your love will serve as a light for me which will make my day as bright as the sun.

2. Your present in my sleep is what gives me a good night feel with happiness and waking to your thought is an everlasting sweetness.

3. Waking up beside you every morning is something I don’t ever want to trade away, I love you everyday and as much a new day comes, my love for you is always new.

4. The greatest joy of my life is the day I met you and knowing that I will always have you in my life through thick and thin is the sweetest joy I have every morning.

5. Good morning to the brightness of my world, the only person I hope to wake to, for the rest of my life. You are my world.

6. I dreamt of you all through the night, I had a nice dream of us having a beautiful future together. I wish to always have you in my life when I wake up every morning till forever.

7. All I need to be happy in life Is you. Without you I don’t know how my morning will be like and you know my day can’t be complete without you either.

8. I sent a sweet bird to you this morning to tell you how much you mean to me; I hope you saw the colorful bird singing the nicest song for you.

9. As long as a new day keeps coming my love for you will be new every morning. My sweetest morning gift is knowing that you are my motivator.

10. Every morning when I wake up to see you beside me sleeping like an angel, I get to fall in love with you more and more. My morning is not complete without your beautiful smile.

11. Your shining eyes is what gives me the light of the day. My morning fragrant begins when I think about your love for me.

12. Good morning to the best gift nature bestowed upon me, nothing is ever more pleasing than having you here with me always.

Sisters are the best gift in life, they are confidant, play mate, best friend and secret keeper. Growing up and spending most of your life encounter with a particular person isn't a child's play, they become your soul mate and you can't imagine life without them. Everyone loves their sister dearly and when its about the time of the year to celebrate their birthday it becomes the best period and moment to show our greatest love for them.

Sisters are someone who we should never go a day without showing how much they mean to us but once its their birthday the love should be shown in a bigger way which will make them feel more special. Here are few ways you can show love to your sister on her birthday.

Send Her Birthday Wishes: happy birthday sister is one the best way to show love to your sister on her birthday and of course your message means a lot to her. Sending her a lovely message will for certain put a nice smile on her face and it will surely prove our much love you have for her, make your message the first thing she sees when the time clocks 12 on her birthday and it will surely prove your deepest love for her. Treating your lovely sister with love on her birthday isn't a bad idea I guess.

A surprise shopping: Girls often loves shopping, everyone like seeing a new collection in their wardrobe and taking your sister out to get the collection is one of the best way you can prove your love for her. Gather the new brands of shoe and wears in town and take her out to get them or bring it to her in a surprise way will put a big smile on their face. You can also get her a rare kind of wears which is not common and trust me these will surely put a big smile on her face and by doing these with a big heart will prove your deepest love for her.

Watch Her Favorite Movies Along With Her: Going out to watch movies with her is a way to spend quality time with her, look out for her favorite release movies in the cinemas, buy ticket and then go out to watch it along with her, it will not only put smile on her face, it will also increase the bond between you guys. Going out to watch movies along with her will prove our much you love and care for her and its also a special way to celebrate her birthday.

Travel Around With Her: Traveling to her favorite place or dream place for her birthday to celebrate her big day is another super way to prove her how much you love her. Take her to her dream place and celebrate with her in a grand style, she will forever cherish this moment and trust me she is not bound to forget this treat for a very long period of time.

A Notable Shout Out: Sending are a nice shout out is one of the best way to wish your sister happy birthday. You can send her nice shout out through radio, television and on social media telling the world how much she means to you and how great she has been to you. A nice shout is one of the heartfelt ways to show your big love for her on her birthday.

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Have you ever wonder as a wife what your husband desire from you? Keeping a home often lies on the shoulder of a woman, a woman is often the secret to a happy home, although two head is required in the running of a home but of a certain the home won’t be called a home if the wife is not present. Husband often desire many things from their wife which will give them so much happiness. How do you keep your husband happy and how are you able to know what he actually desires from you?

Meeting your husband needs is the key to a happy home and successful marriage. Don’t let your marriage be the center of your own needs alone, husbands also want their needs to be met. Here are few of the things your husband probably need from you.

RESPECT: Showing respect to your husband is one of the most important thing you can do for your husband, show your husband a deep respect. Either he mentions it or not man often want their wife to respect them. Showing them that you respect their words and actions will make them love you more and more as each day passes by. Man believe you love them deeply when you respect them well.

LOVE: Love your husband deeply and as each day passes by always prove to him that you love him and you will always love him no matter what. Every man wants their wife to love them immersive. Don’t just tell him you love him; you can always prove the love to him by doing so many amazing things for him. Love your husband deeply that’s one of the things your husband wants from you.

UNDERSTANDING: Try and understand your husband in every decision he takes. Love him with great understanding. Husband often love an understanding woman because they believe in leading and no man can lead without his wife deep understanding. These is one of the few things husband often need from his wife.

HONESTY: Be very honest with your husband, never tell a lie to cover up anything from your husband. If you lie to him and he find out it will deem the great love he has for you. Be very open with your husband and never keep anything away from him, these is one of the great things your husband needs from you.

CONTRIBUTION: A supportive wife is a husband greatest blessing and joy. Be very supportive toward your husband, instead of nagging or complaining find a way to support him. Be very encouraging. Talk to him and appreciate every little thing he does for you, never complain about petty things instead be very supportive.

AFFECTION: Show your husband a deep affection and be very romantic. Don’t be a boring and dry wife instead spice up your marriage, act like you are trying to win him over every day and see how your marriage keeps glowing. Man often crave for affection and being a boring wife won’t make a man happy. Man needs a romantic partner.

TIME: Spend quality personal time with your husband. Take time to talk to him and share nice moment. Endeavor to share alone time as often as possible cause every man needs an alone time with their wife as often as possible. Try and spend time with your man, trust me he needs it too.

PRAYER: Prayer is what man desire from their wife the most, take time to pray for your husband. Your prayer is what he needs frequently as he goes out and come in, he needs your blessing and in every of his life activities he needs your prayer. Often take time to pray for your husband trust me he will love you more for that reason.

TRUST: Never doubt your husband, give him all the space he desires, he doesn’t want a clingy or a nagging wife, trust him with all your heart and prove to him how much you care for him. He will always respect you. Trust me every man desire a wife who trust them with all of her heart. Always find reason to trust your husband all over again. Trust is the foundation of every happy marriage.

Husband are the best strength for every expectant mother, the soon to be mother often see their husband as their supporter during this period, they open up about their pains and sweet time during this moment. Fathers are not the ones who are carrying the child but there are several roles you can put in place which will make you important during those moment obvious. As a father who is expecting a child there are some nice role you need to put in place to make your wife feel she truly loved and appreciated.

Taking part in the life of your wife during these period is a very essential thing as it will also help increase the bond between you and your wife and it will also create much love between you and your unborn child. Here are few important roles you can take as a father during your wife pregnancy.

Show of love: Show her how much you love and care for her at this period, be there to be her confidant and always and show her how much she means to you at every point you can, talk to her about things she loves to hear and be there for her always. These is one the important role of a father during pregnancy. You can also show her love by sending her a nice pregnancy quotes and sayings. Send her how much her pregnancy means to you, tell her the important of her present in your life and also prove to her on how much you love and care for her. Sending her nice pregnancy quote is a great way to show how much you love her and your unborn child.

Deep care: Show her deep care, care for her needs and show her the important of her pregnancy in your life, get her baby things and be very attentive about the things she will need. Take care of the primary things she will need and of certain take of her as a whole. Make sure she has her meal in time, learn to take care of needs as a whole, that’s one of the important thing you can do for her during this period.

Attention: Give her necessary attention, spend enough time with her and make sure you attend to her important request, you can take time off work to be with her or attend a nice event with her. You should take her for dinner if necessary and make her feel your present at every period of the time.

Communication: Have a frequent communication with her, in the case whereby you are not around to care for her needs, you can always be on the phone with her, chatting and calling. Ask her about her health and in the case whereby she is almost putting to bed, always talk to her and be set in case of any emergency, these is one of the important role of a husband during pregnancy.

Assistant: Be very supportive during these period and always assist her when necessary, be there to take care of her petty needs and you can always help her with little house chores. Instead of stressing her to make dinner, you can go out to have dinner with her, its also a means to ease her from stress during these period.

Health care: Be very attentive about her health, you can take her for antenatal and always make sure she takes her drugs. Ask her about her health and be very observant about necessary things which is pertaining to her health as a whole.

Having a child can be a great blessing from above but having a clever one is up to you. Some children are naturally clever while some you have to take extra effort in building their cleverness. No child is born dull but in most cases the environment attracts their brightness and make them extremely sharp. Taking care of a child’s health is very important but taking care of their mental stability is another great thing you should put to consideration.

These are some factor that needs to be put in consideration in the process of raising a child which will make them clever and helps their sense of humor to be very active. In case you don’t know tips to help have a clever baby, here are few.

Keep them awake while feeding them: Don’t feed your child while they are sleeping and in the case whereby the child sleeps in the process of feeding them drop the food. Ensure never to feed your child while they are sleeping because its very bad for their mental stability. Abstain from feeding a child while they are sleeping.

Don’t stop people for talking while they are asleep: Don’t tell people to keep mute while they are sleeping. Let people feel free to make sounds even while they are asleep. Don’t hush people from making sound. Allow your child to be very use to sleeping in the midst of sound as its also a way to help their cleverness. Don’t allow your child to be use to sleeping in silence.

Create a nice communication sense between you and the baby: Create a nice communication between you and your child, you should smile at them often and you can say positive things to their hearing even for a fact you know they wont understand but you can still make them feel the happiness in your face while trying to create a good communication between you and them. You can also recite a nice poem and read knowledgeable things to their hearing.

Create comfort for the child: You can also create a good comfort for your child simply by taking good care of their meal, sleeping routine and also create a playing time for them. Make sure they are very comfortable at every sense and also ensure that they have a very comfortable life as it also helps their cleverness. Their environment determines how they grow up.

Sing lullaby: You can also sing lullaby to them so they can fall asleep, ensure that you sing nice and reasonable lullaby as it is what will stick to their brain while they are growing up. Take time to pet them to sleep. These is also a great way to make your child very clever from childhood.

Give them health meals: Make sure your child always eats a balance diet meal and they eat good meals at the same time. Give them food that’s very beneficial to their health and mental stability. Be very conscious about their eating habit as its one of the most important thing which help with their cleverness.

Correct them often: Don’t say because they are still very young and not correct them. Correct their little mistakes with love and point to the reason why they shouldn’t repeat it. For instance, if your child pee on his or herself you can easily tap him or her and ask them if they want mummy to always go through stress, trust me it will help the child grow with cleverness.

Breast feed them well: Breast feed your child well before you stop breastfeeding them, make them feel their mother love and also remember that by breasting your child well it helps with their cleverness while growing up as it’s a great means to help child grow with great mental stability.

Show them mother love: You should endeavor to read baby quotes to them. You might choose to read lovely quote to your baby as a lullaby. Tell your baby that you love him or her through nice quote which you can make a necessary to read to them every night before going to bed. These will also help the child grow up in good knowledge of love.

Nephews often considers their uncles and aunties as the best people they can always run to, they consider their love as their greatest love as they are always free to share their heart feelings with them and often times they want to feel the love they have for them in every area of their life. There are certain things uncles and aunties should endeavor to do with their nephews as they grow up.

Taking care of your nephew and loving them deeply is the best gift you can give them and trust me they will always love you for that reason and as you also grow older they will also support you and make you happy frequently. Here are few things you should do frequently with you nephews which will increase the bond between you guys.

Play Competitive Games
Playing games with your nephew is a great thing you should always do frequently which will help increase the bond you both share and it will also make them see you as a friend whom they can always share their moment with. Taking out time to be with your nephew and spend quality time with them is something you should do frequently as it makes them love you more and want to be with you.

Hang Out With Them
Hanging out with them is a nice thing to do with your nephews as often as possible as it helps create good bond with you guys. You can take them to watch movies, visit tourist centers and also do great things together which will make them love you more and want to spend time with you. It's a great way to increase bond between you guys.

Watch Movies Together
You both can spend time together watching movies. Select their favorite movies and both of you can watch it together. Spend great time together by doing what they love doing the most and watching their favorite movies along with them will help increase the bond between you guys.

Go For A Ride Together
Going for a long ride together is another thing you should do regularly with your nephew as it helps in spending nice time with your nephews. You can go for a nice ride with them, these will help create a nice bond between you guys and its also a nice way to get to know more about their daily activities and heart desires. A nice ride with them is something you should do frequently.

Have A Regular Home Visit
A regular home visit is also a great thing to do regularly so as to increase the bond between you and your nephew, have a nice home occasional visit. You can invite them over to your place or go and visit them at their own place, just make sure every moment spent with them is a nice and great one to do, by doing these it wont only increase the bond between you guys but it will make them love you more and want to spend nice time with you always.

Be Available On Their Special Day
Be available on their special day such as their birthday celebration. Take out time to celebrate their special day with them and you can also make it a habit to always send them happy birthday nephew quotes on their birthday, it will become a norm to them and it will also teach them to cherish your own birthday too and it will also increase the bond between you guys. Turning up for their birthday and other special moment in their life is something you should do regularly.

Aunties and Uncles are more unless like a father and mother to every children and having a nice uncles and aunties is a bonus for every child. Your niece often looks up to you as their confidant and they want to be able to share every stage of their life with you and they want you to be with them at every of their life celebrations.

There are several things you should endeavor to do and share with your niece as regularly as possible which will definitely increase the bond you both share and of course it will also make them happy and love you more. There are certain things you should do frequently with your niece such as.

Share A Meal Together
Sharing a nice meal along with your niece is something you should do regularly as it helps increase the bond between you and them. Plan a day to make their favorite dish and you all can have a joint meal on the dining table. These moments are what will stick in their brain and they will also love to come and have a meal with you frequently and it also makes them remember the taste of your meals and it will stick to their brain as they grow up.

Visit A Favorite Spot Together
You can always visit a nice spot along with them and make those spot filled with the lovely memories you both sharing together, as much time they visit the location they will always remember you. Sharing a nice outing with your niece is one of a great way to increase the bond between you guys and trust me those moments will be one of their most cherished time.

Talk About Nice Topics Together
You can also discuss nice and fun filled topic with them, you can share your childhood days' story with them and tell them nice things they will love to know about your childhood with their parents. Talk about what they should focus on and tell them how you want to guide them although their life and trust me as they move on with their life they will always see you as their escape root when the time are hard for them and when the days are bright too.

Share Cloths And Accessories
Share nice things with them. You can also share your nice cloth and accessories with them it will surely increase the bond you both share. You can share your favorite wears with them and make them see the love you have by sharing things with them in your eyes. Children often love a cheerful giver and trust me these feelings is what they will keep in their heart and for a very long period of time they will always see nice reason to share their things with you. Sharing is another great thing you should do regularly with your niece.

Sleep Together
You can find a day to sleep together, sharing same bed with them is another thing you should do regularly with your niece. You can fix a special day when they will always come and visit you and by that means you both can spend time together. A visit to your house can help increase the bond between you guys and by spending time and sleeping over in your house is what they will love to do with you regularly as they grow up.

Turn Up For Their Birthdays
Turning up for their birthday is a way to increase the bond between you guys, turn up for their birthday on a regular basis and sending them a nice happy birthday niece messages is a great way to prove your love to them and by turning up for their birthday on a regular basis will also make them turn for yours also, these custom is what they will live up to as they grow up.

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They say trust is the key to every health relationship, in a situation that trust is lost there is tendency for the relationship to break or lead to crisis. They said its better to make the trust between you and partner strong cause ones it gets shaken its hard to re build and no relationship can work without the aid of trust.

How do you maintain trust in your relationship without breaking, cause it more painful to lose the trust of your love ones than a heartbreak? How do you maintain a healthy relationship and keep the trust in your relationship active? Here are few ways to maintain trust with your partner.

Don’t Lie
Lying is one of the quickest way to make people stop trusting you, ensure not to lie about anything endeavor to be very blunt with your words and on most cases never lie about anything to your partner as its one of those thing you shouldn't even do in a relationship. Lying to your partner will make your relationship easier to break. Never lie to your partner about even the smallest thing cause if you are caught you will never be trust by them ever again. Don't ever lie to your partner as it's one of the few ways to reduce their trust for you.

Don’t Act Suspicious
Acting suspicious when issues pop up is one of the things you should try to abstain from during issues, try as much as possible to be very transparent about the things you do and say, try as much not to say one thing and act the other way as it will make your partner very suspicious of you and it will likely decrease their trust for you and am very sure you don't ever want to lose the trust your partner has for you.

Be Sure About Your Words
If you are going to say yes be very sure you don't mean No, as saying Yes and meaning No will make your partner lose their trust for you. Your words are your power be very sure you mean them cause if you fail in your words today it wont make them trust you tomorrow. Be sure the words you pour out are what you actually feel and don't ever say the things you don't mean.

Keep Your Promises
Keep your promises and don't ever back down on them and in the case whereby you need to back down on them make sure its of a good cause and never go back on your promises regularly. Your promise is what people look up to see how you fulfill. Don't say things you wont do and try as much as possible to be very transparent while promising your partner or someone else.

Saying Words
You can send your partner a nice trust quotes which will make them always remember the essence of trust in the relationship. Send them reason why they should maintain good trust between you guys. Let them understand the essence of trust in your relationship as a whole. These will also make your partner be cautious of what they do in order not to break the trust you have in them.

Communicate Openly
Try as much as possible to communicate openly, don't ever try to dough people while trying to communicate with your partner as it will only look like you are trying to dough some truth from coming to open, in a case whereby you need to talk in an open discussion, you shouldn't try to dough people instead open up about the word publicly as it will increase the trust your partner has in you.

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