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Do your investigation properly before marriage. Love is one side of the triangle. Compatibility is the other side. The base is the history of both of you. You wife was raised by her mother, she probably doesn't see the need to include you in raising her daughters. I'm sure if not for financial provision, she would have left you long time ago.

My advice: forget police, contact her family if they have any influence on her and her mother. Start looking for another relationship. Check the history very well this time around

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

osesology:
Fellow Nairalanders, l want to first of all use this opportunity to thank God for saving my life from this dreaded virus called covid 19.

I'm from Edo state. I was one of the 20 people that were discharged on the 13th of this month.
My purpose of writing this piece is to enlighten the people, especially the unbelievers on this forum that this virus is real. It is not a propaganda. Yes, l do not argue the fact that Govt has a way of taking advantage of situations like this, but when you are knowledgable, there is an extent at which you can be fooled.

This desease does not have the power that we are attributing to it. It took me just 7 days to recover because my case was detected early. The reason why people are still dying from this virus is due to ignorance and scepticisms. And when they eventually fall sick, it becomes too late

The day l received the call that my result came back positive, the health officials told me to take my time to get ready, and, even though they had my home address, told me to let them know where it will be convenient for me to wait for them to come pick me up. I'm saying this for those who keep say how come they don't see videos of patients on t.v. This was done so people don't stigmatize people close to me. Trust me, Nigerians are very good (or should l say bad) at that. Infact, the day after l was checked in the facility, one driver that works at my office who lives on the same street with my sister, went to that street to announce to anyone who cares to listen that her brother has tested positive to corona virus. Immediately, they started to stigmatize my sister, her husband and their three children. And these are people that l have had no contact with for weeks.

So, my main reason for writing this is for people to stop being ignorant. Get tested immediately you start to feel unwell. Early detection is the key to fighting this thing. When you are been screened, answer all the questions truthfully, don't hold any information back because it is due to the information you give that determines if you are eligible for testing or not. It is better you get tested and it comes out positive and receive treatment immediately than lie about your health, go home and die in ignorance.

Covid 19 is Real! Thanks.

What about the treatment you got. Are you barred from sharing the formula they used to treat you? What drugs did you use? What symptoms did you notice during the early, peak and recovery stages? Kindly share more info

GBSS:
Hello all,
Please if there is an August 2019 AOR Whatsapp group, I would like to be added. Please if you are on the WhatsApp group, please PM me.
Many thanks

Send your number

Talkwisdom:
I saw skills related to my field,like electrical installation and maintenance but it has been on partime basis considering the nature of my job in the Bank...can i still be eligible to apply? Or does work experience mean general work experience or those that has to do with your field?,thanks in anticipation.

I actually meant you should search for noc code that relates to your role in the bank as an engineer. Not all bankers count money. Same way an electrical engineer can work in the maintenance unit of a hospital. Just let your work reference reflect the noc role

tollybb:
Am surely starting the process next year and I hope to share my testimony this time next year... I was really hoping I will get married first so I can start the process with my hubby but no hubby yet so I guess I start the process as a single lady then...
I really want to share my testimony too...
Congratulations to everyone..

Hubby dey ooo. You just need to locate each other

Talkwisdom:
Hello house,
For someone that wants to migrate to Canada to work or better still do his masters..he has a degree in Electrical Engineering and have worked in a bank for 4years as a POS Technician; POS configuration and troubleshooting...in the NOC ,he is not seeing anything related to his job role.what do you advice such a person?

Don't search for bank related experience, rather check for electrical maintenance and installation category. I'm sure you'll get something

Use your international passport as ID since you'll be using it for the rest of the EE process.
I uploaded my degree certificate, can't really say if they'll accept notification. Just the copy of my transcript was what I requested but you can as well include your certificate if its available. Just inform the officer in charge.

HazelCanny:
Hi Adeleks pls did your school email just the transcript to ices or with a copy of your certificate.?

What else did you send personally to ices? Can I use a notification of result? I want to use ices to evaluate my masters and to save cost.

Pls anyone else with the answer relating to ices should kindly respond.

Can I use voter's card as I'd?
Thanks.

Eyan R. Kelly

I used ices. Sent soft copy from Unilorin. Advantage: cheaper( no courier fee), faster (took Unilorin 3weeks to process transcript and it was acknowledged after 3 weeks)

ikcbn:
Help guys,

Please a quick question,
Going through the ICES webpage, I came across the attached.

My questions;

1. Has anyone tried using the email option to send his/her transcript? If yes, what’s the timeline and any advantage?

2. For Nigeria credentials, I could see waec or Neco, does this mean ICES has also started mandatory verification for those credentials?

Hi everyone, i'll like to join a whatsapp group if there any active one.
08037997035

Thanks

lovedappie:
Check it on YouTube, search for AY gonna make it, I downloaded it to my phone recently

Thanks. Got it finally



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xatee53zW7Q

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PuntGenius:
Hello everyone, is COREN certification for Engineers of any advantage in the express entry process

bolajibaok:
can someone pls send me the video or mp3 song of ay gonna make it , where ay rapped with yoruba .song goes like
ati ibadan seko
ati eko si london
ati london si yankee

to my email bjpumpindogg@yahoo.com

this is 2019. we still need this track

Emma4321:
I could've posted in the job section but I was denied access.

Pls people I had to open a new account to avoid some things, I am working in a bank as PA to the state area manager, they started me with 11k march 2018 with promise of increase but till today I'm still earning 11k, pls note the 11k don't even take me through the month and basically not a single savings since I started.

Pls nairalanders should I quit this draining job or should I continue?
Note I don't have any other thing to do for now but I think I'm hustling backward.

Pls I need ur candid advise here cos I'm so confused

Sorry op, but I find this very funny. How much do they pay cleaners, gatemen and security guard in that bank. Seem you're some kind of ghost worker

OgaKazeem:
scan for battery drain? hehehhee
i laff in igbira...

Yes, scan. Something might be malfunctioning causing the the drain. If you've used a Passat before, you'll understand

MILLYWAYS:
good evening, pls people I need help. I bought this VOLKSWAGEN passat 2006 model for my wife, and ever since then the happiness I was looking for totally vanished. electrical faults here and there...the latest 1 now is that the car is discharging every battery that enters it. including a new battery that I bought last week. I have gone to VOLKSWAGEN market several times under 3weeks that I bought the car. please people I need help urgently.... thanks. I have also spent 180,000 that I dnt have, and yet the car is still killing me......

Scan scan scan

Check your alternator, to be sure it's performing its function


Did you install new parts like car stereo/reverse camera? Those can drain your battery

Check electrical connections using the fuse box to ground technique.


Get a good and patient electrician.

Try notjustokay.com

Three people got Benz last week

This isn't 08. It's Passat cc. Should be from 2012 upwards... Nice ride

We all know how it goes. There’s a paper you’ve got to write or an errand that you have to run. There’s still some time before the deadline. And there’s also that other task you’d rather do, which you enjoy more. You decide to do that first, so the one you’re dreading won’t feel so bad afterward.

Or you want to do such a good job that you dive in too deep to come to the surface in time to meet the deadline.

Most of us procrastinators are always set ourselves up for failure or at the very least, some really stressful late night hours of chasing a looming deadline that takes on monstrous, anxiety-causing proportions.

As a procrastinator, you may also often grossly underestimate how much time you’ll actually need for the task. And by the time you realize you’ve barely started, the clock’s ticking and you’re panicking.

Just like the way to the Christian hell, the way to procrastination is often paved with good intentions.

I’m not even going into the distractions of your favorite Netflix show releasing, that concert you’ve been wanting to watch, or any of the other last-minute things that life throws at us.

Of course, there are some of us who claim we are master procrastinators but always get the job done on time. For the rest of us, we need to sit down and figure out a way to cure this often-stressful habit before it takes over our lives and destroys our peace.

Here are ten ways to become better at beating procrastination and getting things done.

Take baby steps
When you’re not motivated to reach your goal, it’s hard even getting started. So even the first small step towards it will seem like an achievement. For instance, if you have some reading to do for your paper, spend ten minutes or so reading a page. Once you’ve taken that step, you’ve already told your brain that a change has happened. Your naturally lazy brain (we are all wired to be lazy) will no longer resist. You will then set off a momentum towards your goal, that will carry you like a wave and get you there.

Focus on the reward and the steps
Mountain climbers would get easily demoralized if they were constantly focusing on the sheer height of what they’re trying to achieve. Instead, they focus on the summit they want to reach, and they also focus on the small steps they’re taking. Not on how steep the path is.

There’s a lot we can learn from mountain-climbers about setting goals and reaching them. One big takeaway is that focusing on the reward or the outcome you want is going to give you an additional push towards it.

Make a To-Do list
If you’re fortunate enough to already know ahead of time all the tasks that need completion by the end of the day, make a To-Do list first thing in the morning. As you’re making it, visualize how much time each task will take you.

If you don’t already have an external deadline, create a deadline for yourself. Setting hard deadlines makes it easier to commit to tasks. Imagine you’re the boss that’s waiting for you to hand work in, and hold yourself to the deadline just as your boss would.

Prioritize the least-favorite task
Put the task you’re most likely to push down to the bottom of the list, at the top. This way, you can get it done first. You’ll have a sense of achievement from it. And the other tasks will follow easily.
Time yourself
Setting a timer (after putting your phone on the airplane mode) can be a simple way of defining an intent for yourself. You’ll find it easier to focus on. Breaking up the time you spend on the task into bite-sized pieces will break down a complex task into smaller, more manageable parts.

Be kind to yourself
If you failed to meet a deadline you’ve set for yourself, don’t beat yourself up. (At least, not too much.) The first thing you need to do to change the way you work is to stop calling yourself a procrastinator. Often, we are what we think we are. Think of the future, not the past. And cut yourself some slack while you focus on making that extra effort towards getting the job done on time.

Probe the reasons you procrastinate
Every time you find yourself pushing off something you need to do, pay attention to what’s really going on underneath. What are your thoughts? What are you feeling? What are the things you’re brushing under the carpet? How do you usually behave when you procrastinate?

Sometimes, perfectionists tend to procrastinate in an anxiety-ridden way. When you notice what’s really going on, you can begin to change your behaviors in a compassionate, positive way.

Switch off your phone
In other words, turn off all distractions. Keep away from any environments or external stimuli that could distract you. This means finding a space of energy and focus for yourself, in the midst of the chaos of your everyday life.

But let’s face it, in an ideal world, there wouldn’t be laundry to do, babysitters who cancel last-minute, that urgent help your team leader requests of you, or those emails that need answering urgently. Finding a calm, focused space despite the chaos is possible to achieve. Whether you do it with the help of mindfulness or a productivity-inspiring playlist on your headphones is up to you.

Get someone to hold you accountable
Rope in a partner to help you overcome procrastination. This could apply to your professional or personal life. Ask someone you trust for help, and hold yourself accountable to them. It’s harder to let someone else down than yourself.

Reward yourself
Give yourself a little reward every time you tick off a box on your To-Do list. Make it a bigger reward for the less agreeable tasks. It could be anything from a cup of hot chocolate to a few minutes on Instagram. You’ll keep things interesting and stay motivated.

There are other things you can do to help cure procrastination. Think about the things that keep you from doing the job. Is your desk clean? Do you need a more ergonomic desk chair? Are your morning habits making you less effective by the time you sit down to work? Do you need a change in your nightly routine?

With a will to change your habits, anything is possible. Even serial procrastinators, such as yours truly, can learn to be less bothered about perfection and more on deadline.



https://scholarship-positions.com/top-ways-to-beat-procrastination-and-get-things-done/2019/04/01/

kayalcomp:
pls did you write ur name and email? As i didnot see where we were instructed not to do so.

I did. Instruction says... Fill in every

nice

Don’t watch porn. Porn is for people who can’t attract mates. Masturbation kills your sex drive and prevents you from taking the initiative to meet a real woman.

Hit the gym. There are no ‘ugly’ men. Only unfit men. Hit that gym if you want that ripped body.

Pick one thing you want to do and do it well. Success comes from the perfection of a skill. Be it coding, business, finance, etc, perfection in a skill will take you miles.

Don’t be thirsty. Men who wake up every day desperately thinking of sex and trying to get laid will NEVER score. Women can smell thirst from a mile away. The men who score the most, the so called ‘Chads’, are the ones who never think about sex; sex comes to them automatically because they are dedicated to improving themselves every day, and women are attracted to it.

As a follow up from 4, don’t live life thinking of the fruits. Think of the labour, do the labour, and the fruits will come.

Don’t EVER be ‘the nice guy’.
Don’t be the one who subserviently serves others, scrapes and bows his head, and then gets angry and entitled when he doesn’t get what he wanted.

Be brave.
Don’t join online communities/forums that consist of people who CAN’T get something, and who discuss how/why they can’t get it. All they do is blame other people, genetics, or ‘the system’ for not getting it. They then use those things as reasons to conclude that you will never be able to get those things, and that it will be futile to try, as you are doomed to fail. These communities thrive by getting other regular people down and making them join. Essentially, they are comprised of bitter people who want to drag other people down to their level of self pity/hate. Don’t join them.

Don’t worry about what other people think/say about you.
“Toxic masculinity” does not exist. Don’t listen to the people who say it does. It’s NOT a thing.

And one last thing: don’t cry when wronged. Don’t give your enemies the satisfaction of crying. Don’t give those who have wronged you the victory of making you cry. Don’t let them do that to you, to your soul. Not crying is essentially like emotional body armour; there is nothing that someone can say to you that can hurt you.
Share your thoughts.


Culled from Kim Jones/quora.com

You derive so much joy from being an idiot. Keep it up.

weyreypey:
We are not all like you. Keep it in the family.

weyreypey:
Keep quiet next time!

This is a stupid statement.... I assume it's coming from a similar mind

Yeah. Got it from o2tvseries. Chuck roades is in for a tough time. Bob and Taylor will be the centre of attraction.

beatzone:
Seen episode 1 already

Season 4 starts on Monday. Who else is excited

Victoriousvic:
UPDATE

Oil and oil filter have been replaced, yet car doesn't start. Before the change, it, at least, would start and shut down immediately, but now it doesn't even start at all. Smh. Diagnostic scan is still not displaying any error codes.

The 'Service now' message is gone, but the oil pressure warning is still there

Kindly check the crankshaft sensor. I won't show on the scanner but can be the culprit especially if you stay in a muddy area and the undercover isn't there.

Give more details about what is happening. My guess is the crankshaft sensor is clogged or bad. Change the oil if you can. Check the fuel pump pressure if its okay then check crankshaft sensor if non of those solve it.

theoptimist298:
Casino
Good fellas
Live by night
Saving Private Ryan
Band of Brothers
Pacific

Nice collection
Also, gotti, carlitos way, august rush, the god father, centurion

Kindly comply with the thread. State price and car condition Sir

Jerryfemi655:
Call Jerry on 08059709977 for a very sound Honda baby boy forsale at give away price engine gear ac ok

Debsify:
did you upload a certificate or statement of results?

Certificate

Zinggi:
Hubby used ICES. Evaluation took 4weeks from the time they received his transcript. Took 2 weeks to get the hardcopy due to unforeseen delays.

Was there a change of status on the web page or you just got the report when the evaluation was done? I'm trying to monitor mine and I can't see any update. Its been 5weeks already.