₦airaland Forum

tot:
You are a TERRIBLE person for derailing this thread of a person clearly in need. Sanctimonious senseless human being.

. Y r u so bitter? It is well with ur soul. Take a little honey

rastaLivity:
the most stupid post so far this year. There's alot of mono-carbon in your brain

same as urs honey. It's is showing full blown

Eberex:
I disagree. Its not every time something bad happens that you seek solace in attributing it to parents past deeds. I'm sure you won't say the same if he was living a decent life.
He made a choice to live in this way, that was his decision and has nothing to do with any curse. I'm sure he is one of those who attended boarding schools or boys only school. This is an example of influence from bad friends he made at his young stage in life.
This is an addiction. I have someone who is like him but not as worse as this case. But they both share similar behavior in terms of not keeping to one job. Inconsistency follows their pattern and for me, the best is to take them into a church and let them work there. Somewhere they can be sober and also listen to God's word.

ur opinion matters. But I still stand on d point that it's still d parents fault either by oversight or deliberate negligence.

AhoadaRivers:
Close your mouth, I've seen strict disciplinarian parents with terrible kids that ended up in jail. It's not all black or white.
There are several factors, co-factors involved in having bad kids.

what type of discipline? U think by beating and shouting in d form of abuse and restricting children, help them?

Psalms5522:
It is also very obvious that your parents went wrong somewhere while bringing u up. Because if you were brought up properly, U should have known what it means to be sensitive to other peoples feeling, U should have known that if you have no word of comfort to give then u ought to shut up. I was even suprised that 57 of your type liked the TRASH u spew out. You where even quoting Bible u are obviously a pharasee (self righteous and delusional) have you read about the Story of Job? There is no difference between you and Job's evil friends who instead of comforting Job, they were accusing him of a secret sin that caused his problem.
Please appologise to the OP for your senseless comment.

likewise, yours did not bring u up well. Because, if they did, u won't be under my comment. I need an apology from u. Job was tempted by d devil. His story is different from d op, own. I think u r like d saduces that believe they r always right about their own beliefs.

HonourableUche:
This is a no no; and come to think of it, you had to drag God into this.Every ill situation someone goes through is not due to the wrong things they or their parents have done. I don't know if its too difficult to understand.

wisdom is profitable to direct. I repeat. God is not mocked

Temidayo9:
With the way you reacted here, it shows you also suffering from excessive drug intake. Watch yourself Couse you are already a product of failed home. Be careful

so do u. Anybody that don't read and understand with wisdom is a failed product. My son, get wisdom and in ur finding, get understanding

queengift:
Remember you will be a mother tomorrow and feel the pain of a derailing child. Most kids that misbehave have parents that train them well, but peer influence do affect alot of them.

Don't be quick to judge people you don't know.

it's not judgement. It's d fact. Parents tend to pamper and spoil a child thinking they love him. Spare d rod and spoil d child.

merahki:
What “fresh hell” is this!?
In my experience anytime somebody says “God is not mocked”? They then proceed to be their most unkind and judgemental selves. If you have nothing kind and or useful to add here, just read. Gaud!

so u see

AfricanKingkong:
This Your idea got me sick. May God help you though. You mean Thieves, prostitutes corrupt politicians are products of bad parenting? You need to look for another verse and quote again

yes. And it's a big yes. Foundation of upbringing matters

oluplus:
What sort of comment is this?
Is this the best you could come up with. Who made you a Judge over the matter?
Why not keep shut when you hVe no positive solution to offer. Hian!

that's my comment, kindly coment urs

doggedfighter:
Shut up and stop littering everywhere with rubbish. Fanatic !!

hmmm. Y r u bitter?

themonk:
You can’t even write correct English, I wonder what your parents did that made you to be dumb. All these stupidity you are showing here I hope your kids are not punished for it.

and u think u do? Guru

WeRblessed:
You should cover your face in shame right now. You are utterly out of line here. Do you know what drug addiction is? I'm glad that you may have kids one day, or already have one. How dare you put a blame on his parents? Did you know how painful it is after training a child they went the oposite direction? Have you also considered peer pressure? I'm so glad that Karma doesn't forget. He will definitely remember this your comment. People like you are the reason why Nigeria is totally backward. I pray for your children.

pray for yours shuga. Mine have got nothing with u. Hide in ignorance and romance naivity

thinkmoney:
when I first started reading this response I was revolted, then I later see he has a point. only maybe he is mixing the reasonable point with a silly one, or he doesn't know how to express himself very well.
Many of this kids that mess up may have parents that are generally good, but that doesn't take away the fact that some of this parents indulge this kids when they were young (some even keep indulging them till adulthood) in the hope that somehow they turn a new leave by themselves.
I have a relative I lived with at a point, and I noticed with anger how after he threatens and/or complains, his mum and sisters end up giving him money. this guy being the last born and only boy, developed an irritating sense of entitlement.
I used to advice the family that they are only postponing the bad day(s) . I do show them example from the bible of the prodigal son. his father, after settling him once allowed him to stray. he never assisted him again (he would have only reinforced him, if he had). at this point, the Father knew the best thing to do is to let him go his way and live with the consequence. thankfully the guy came to his senses and retraced his steps.
that's what has been allowed to happen. but what can be done? I will still refer to that guy I know. the family ended up spending millions of naira on rehab, police case, and constant treatment of injuries he sustain when he gets involved in troubles. Recently I sat him down, talked to him candidly. I let him see that his lifestyle of almost 18YEARS as only resulted to one predictable outcome, which is unproductive, shameful life. I showed him picture of when he came back from rehab(he was looking good with few or no scar). I told him he needs to strengthen his will power and stop associating with the bad companies.
he is showing sign of a new life. I thank God for this. Still, has a well read person, I suspect I was able to help in this way, because the guy, still had control over his mind somehow. sadly in the case of your brother, he may have pass this point where he can grasp things.
I advice you take him back to rehab with the hope that he get control of his mind back in some way. Make videos of every stage of his life from now. And stop indulging him. IF HE WILL DIE, LET HIM DIE NOW. NOT AFTER YOU HAVE WASTED YOUR MILLIONS. You may have to finally come to terms with reality.
if he beats your mum again. lock him away. Give the station his story and be giving the police stipends to watch over him so that he doesn't have access to drugs even in the cell. He should learn. only if he still have his head with him again though. if you feel he doesn't, access that option of another rehab and stop indulging him after.

yea. I like this. But I had to say it bluntly without sugar coating it. As parents it's our responsibility to mould the child from 0-14 years. After that, they tend to learn from d environment and d society at large. But with little effort and prayers, the child will come out right at the end

Ceazario:
This person is wise, vast in knowledge and has deep intuition. The hard drugs does not have all these habits you aforementioned. It is what is in you that whatever you take bring out or escalate,it does not bring any new habit. Your brother has always been a bad person but instead of your parents to tackle him head on, they covered him up from the same community he is disgracing ur family,now it has gotten out of hand @ 42! U better free him and let d rest in the family learn.

tell them for me. Some of them were insulting me and romancing the hard truth

Ceazario:
Brother, all those attacking you are dead upstairs. They are probably from the same background with similar upbringing. Dem no reach you cuz you have the best reply so far. Respect to your growing up. Ur parents born you well.

thank jare

Such men only regrets in their grave. After everything, they must kill him

Fadefemi:
Maybe the children of pastors who later became wayward were trained in the way of devil right?
#Nonsense Talk#

pastors that did not bring up their children well will still become wayward. Whether he be holier than though or pope deputy.

ZionZoe621:
You are talking rubbish!

u r on on your own

Just to cheat. Some people get cheating spirit.

star4ever:
I have read all your comments and thus feel they are quite understood. Please refrain from adding more salt to the injury by your appraoch.. I quite undersand that individuals are entitiled to their opinions but please allow people to contribute meaningfully here. What we need is solution to our problem and not distraction! Thank you.

ask so that u won't be beating around the bush. Seek and u shall find d solution to ur bro situations. Then knock on God's door and he will bring healing to him and ur family. Nothing u can do that will help him now except God intervene. Bye bye

Octopusssy:
Oh please. So all the children who lose their way in life had a poor upbringing, including children of clergy men?

yes and very obvious.

Sixfeetbelle:


From your write-up, I only have one observation and one comment.

^{They are coming for you}

I know and am already getting it from them.

AnonymousLives:
Some Women and spewing thrash are 5&6! Someone is asking for a solution , you’re saying something else . We all have in a way fall short of the glory of God. Don’t come here with the holy holy personality .

it's not some women that wrote the law. Face it and stop mentioning me.

Octopusssy:
Oh just shut it! You sit down in your cubicle and act all sanctimonious, running your mouth here and forgetting that many times we are entirely responsible for our own poor choices and actions.

u should Shush and pause a little. Who was responsible for him when he was vulnerable? Answer and meditate on it.

Ningen:
But yet, here you are trying to reap gauva on a mango tree. OP said “drugs” and you're saying something else about parental sins.

I rest my case

Ningen:
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Oh. Please, shut up.

Don't dare blame the parents for an unknown “evil or sin” you know nothing about. There's no room for that here. Sending her on a wild goose chase when the problem is obvious — DRUGS!!

abi? Time and Time again people tend to ignore d spiritual and faces the physical. I will shut up but no man plant mango and reap guava

Mstick:
Your God must be a crack head then, why not punish the parents for their do called evil instead of the child that has nothing to do with it?

I am guessing you feel you're well trained right?! If you were you would know this simple rule, if you've nothing nice to say don't say anything.

well, from ur comment here, I think I already know that. It apply both ways. God is not mocked

LadySarah:
Something is wrong with you.
Thieves and cultists who give birth to morally upright ppl abound. Did they plant leaves?

ur opinion though. I think it's u that something is wrong with. No parent bring up a child in a proper way and reap calamities. Do well and read the book of Proverbs. Also read the laws of karma