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onumadu:
Firstly, understand that you are a human being, and human beings are not perfect (including the hypocrites here calling you all types of names and accusing you).
As a human being, you fell for hardship (that is why poverty is very dangerous).
Understand this and forgive yourself.
Secondly, tell your husband everything now. Return the man's money, too. ALL OF IT.
I presume you are married to a mature man (not a kid like those ranting here).
I also assume that you are telling the truth about this being a one time mistake and not your character flaw.
If your husband has always known you as a normal trustworthy woman, and he is not the deeply insecure type (BTW I warn women to never marry insecure man no matter what), he is likely to forgive and let bygone be bygone.
Just like Jesus told the woman caught in adultery, GO AND SIN NO MORE.

Jewessgratitud3:
What I have to say is for your girlfriend. If I say it to you, you might feel offended. Wish she was here though so she can see this.

Leave that girl for a more suitable man to marry. Stop manipulating her. You want to set her against her Mom that carried her for 9 months with other sacrifices she made for her from birth and they said bring money for her education you refused.

That girl had better run away from you. She should know better than to struggle with a man. Many who tried it are now living like flats mates after years of struggling together while the men are busy frolicking around small dirty girls who can't stand their wives.


Struggle with a Nigerian man at your own peril.

Jewessgratitud3:
What I have to say is for your girlfriend. If I say it to you, you might feel offended. Wish she was here though so she can see this.

Leave that girl for a more suitable man to marry. Stop manipulating her. You want to set her against her Mom that carried her for 9 months with other sacrifices she made for her from birth and they said bring money for her education you refused.

That girl had better run away from you. She should know better than to struggle with a man. Many who tried it are now living like flats mates after years of struggling together while the men are busy frolicking around small dirty girls who can't stand their wives.


Struggle with a Nigerian man at your own peril.

ASAPFERG:
All this stupid boys self. Must you have a girlfriend?
apart from pussy, what other thing does that girl offer you?

Leave girlfriend for now and focus on your business.

IkeIgboNiile:
Agozskey
You retard, come on go lick anus and face front

Poor weakling. Have a nice day idiot

labake1:
See person that can't feed himself, spits

IkeIgboNiile:
Agozskey
I will never train any girl in school, if that is your anger go and jump inside a river and drown, I will never be a simp to a woman, I will never carry the responsibilities of another Man in the name of relationship, if I get married to her I will.
You are a simp and a fool, na people like you dey train woman for school, the woman no go still marry you, na people like you dey lick anus of their mother in law, Na people like dey train another man pikin, You are weakling, bastard


Is this stupid man child still talking? If you can't marry then break up with her and stop wasting her time. You've been with a girl for 2 years yet, you're reluctant to invest or marry her.

labake1:
Oponu

labake1:
See person that can't feed himself, spits

IkeIgboNiile:
Agozskey

You are either dumb or you refuse to read and you are a fool... Idiot

You're a hungry fool who's want power without responsibility. Stupid goat i hope you're enjoying your 5 minutes of fame cos that's the only thing you'll have in life. Idiot!

IkeIgboNiile:
I don't blame you. You have the mind to call a follow man "weak" because he's poor. You don't want to better her life or marry her but you're mad she's using her mother picture as profile picture the same mother, who's trying to get her education.

I really hope she sees the light and break up with you because if you can't train in school, you definitely won't marry her.

I wish families could provide basic things for their kids so they won't have to suffer insults from children parading as men.

IkeIgboNiile:
I don't blame you. You have the mind to call a follow man "weak" because he's poor. You don't want to better her life or marry her but you're mad she's using her mother picture as profile picture the same mother, who's trying to get her education.

I really hope she sees the light and break up with you because if you can't train in school, you definitely won't marry her.

You are either dumb or you refuse to read... You are a fool
I wish families could provide basic things for their kids so they won't have to suffer insults from children parading as men.

AngelicDamsel:
It seems to me that the 21 years old jambite girl is still naive. This complicated situation can be simplified thus-

Marry her quickly if you really love her and send her to school asap.

Or take a bow out.


Honestly, no inlaw likes a stingy man. Even if it's tips, do something.


At 21 years, she can not be relied on to handle the tension between you and her parents.



Conclusion: I sense you are a controlling type, probably in your late 20s or early 30s, controlling the girl.
No girl will choose her man over her mother, never! and no sane man should come between a girl and her mother. It's dumb!


Same way no wife should try to come between a man and his mother. I find it unreasonable. There are ways to go round it...... Wisdom is profitable to direct.



Modified: this guy has no good intentions for the girl.

AngelicDamsel:
It seems to me that the 21 years old jambite girl is still naive. This complicated situation can be simplified thus-

Marry her quickly if you really love her and send her to school asap.

Or take a bow out.


Honestly, no inlaw likes a stingy man. Even if it's tips, do something.


At 21 years, she can not be relied on to handle the tension between you and her parents.



Conclusion: I sense you are a controlling type, probably in your late 20s or early 30s, controlling the girl.
No girl will choose her man over her mother, never! and no sane man should come between a girl and her mother. It's dumb!


Same way no wife should try to come between a man and his mother. I find it unreasonable. There are ways to go round it...... Wisdom is profitable to direct.



Modified: this guy has no good intentions for the girl.

funshint:
You can't win the fight against her mum; first know that.
That family is full of red lights.
Thread carefully; I pray you find peace.

labake1:
Why will my brother falls into your situation when he is not stûpid like you. I pity that girl, she should find a better option because you go make her suffer. Let her listen to her mom's advice Mr INEVERCHOP. Go and hustle

labake1:
Yen yen yen yen yen yen yen M u m u
See brother may m u m u

AngelicDamsel:
It seems to me that the 21 years old jambite girl is still naive. This complicated situation can be simplified thus-

Marry her quickly if you really love her and send her to school asap.

Or take a bow out.
I am 23years old doing well for myself and I am not stingy, I bought my girlfriend a phone, I give her money for upkeep and I give her money for feeding but what I will not do is give money to the family because we are not yet married, how is that a crime, I am not the controlling type, Thank you



Honestly, no inlaw likes a stingy man. Even if it's tips, do something.


At 21 years, she can not be relied on to handle the tension between you and her parents.



Conclusion: I sense you are a controlling type, probably in your late 20s or early 30s, controlling the girl.
No girl will choose her man over her mother, never! and no sane man should come between a girl and her mother. It's dumb!


Same way no wife should try to come between a man and his mother. I find it unreasonable. There are ways to go round it...... Wisdom is profitable to direct.

tobenuel:
of course your a finished man. since you want to exchange words with me, come on. na your type go dey on top of woman and she go dey chop chewing gum. dem don see you finish na. It's quite obvious your not mature or you have shallow reasoning. run from that family and face your hustle. e be like say you no watch nollywood movies when you small. quote me again, make that your relationship go scatter this night. the yahoo boy go soon carry out him threat, dey there

labake1:
Childish îdîot, if you are not financially buoyant, leave relationship and focus on your life. Relationship vs marriage is not for I NEVER CHOP BOYS

tobenuel:
This OP is a finished man

labake1:
Both you, herself and her parents are childish. I always stand with girls and in as much as I don't support men possessing excessive power but there is a red flag you are covering up. I quoted your words her Dad on the other hand is a weak man that can't stand his ground in anything . What do you expect from a family that the head of the home is weak? The wife is already removing her husband and you don't want her to control you, you never ready. You are not only marrying her, you will always accept her family same as how she will accept yours. Besides, her you trying to say that you don't want her to post things about her parents? You never marry her, you don dey separate her from her family. You already know what to do, you are just looking for who will spelled it out for you bro.

Walk away if you no like her family treatment

Holluwhakemmy:
I know she's after money she should have allowed you to grow in your business before asking for money now afterall you haven't marry her daughter yet. You can surprise her once in a while too

labake1:
Both you, herself and her parents are childish

Holluwhakemmy:
Try and close to her mother you may win her heart later, you can't stop your girlfriend not to post her mum picture she's her mother and want the best for her. May God prosper the work of your hand

CandyOps:
Calm down, boss. Women be like children.

First of all, buy a lubricant. Anytime she's dry apply it. Just ask your pharmacy for KY Lubricant. It will improve the dryness issue well.

2ndly, if she is up to 29 she will usually get dry especially if the fan is facing the bed. So try and be turning off the fan.

Finally some babes no sabi initiate sex but they can initiate it indirectly by wearing sexy night clothes or being extra happy around you

That's why u think you make the move always.

A stressed woman is not Hot. It's you that can tell. My ex was like that. She's one of my best relationship. No stress just small nagging when I smoke or don't want to commit.

So it's you that will know the problem. Maybe there's a pending issue. That you did not mention

Talkisneeded:
Maybe your sex game is bad, maybe she doesn't feel it again...
One of the two..

I sell herbs rho

Talkisneeded:
Maybe your sex game is bad, maybe she doesn't feel it again...
One of the two..

I sell herbs rho

Wawelexy:
Your first advice is out of it bro... That girl still wants her ex back... She missed the way he used to give her hot hot... This op is overfed and doing gentleman reason why she's not enjoying him. She only stays because of the money