₦airaland Forum

domopps:
Bode Judge! And b4 u pass a comment always have it in the mind that everyone is not the same and you need 2 really no the writer' point of view just bcus u ain't on the same frequency with the person I am more mature than hate talk don't always like passing insults to 3rd party all in thename we are in a faceless forum........and having said that I was part of the selected few represented my company with a project we tagged "GIVE FOR HOPE " as a part of our CSR and consciously focused on IDPs we were in Abj, Benue and few place while others visited this same Sambisa Idp with donations worth more than N47m as contributed by staff and not the company only that am not authorized would have shown you pix of trucks of items ranges from Rice,Sphag,Tomatoes paste,Noodles,Bathroom slippers, Camp tents,Mattress,Veg oil, Provisions, Some Clothing materials, Sanitary pads and what have you but it will shock you that they have some individuals coveting these items to themselves. So dear if they shld take advantage that these ppl are internally displaced and divert some of these stuffs to themselves how on earth do you think funds in a bank account would managed!

To start with who opened the account, Who and Who are the signatory to the account,what's the mandate on this account, how much do you think comes into this account daily weekly and monthly and how often do they withdraw from the account and who enforce strict measure on the money realized via banks donation such that the funds is being used for the said purpose !

I don't blv in Fire Bridgade approach and I also blv my choice of words are carefully selected......You av not being there physically but I have so I am more pained than you do dear!



Cheeeeeeers

I knew this would happen

It is not a surprise

Nbote:
And some idiots would come out to make noise about how refugees in IDP camps in edo state are denying d refugees mosques and some such nonsense.. How many of dem have gone to d ones in d north-east to make meaningful contributions. mtcheeeeeew.

Keep ranting.....

Simply put, I will use your resources to do good for you.

No extra point for this man.

Old trick

praxisnetworks:
fixed

postmann lezz toks2008 wordworld darlenese

May you die in your sleep

ogene007:
I guess you think you have said something sensible? Can I pray for you that what befell Ese may happen to your daughter,sister etc. The less we have people like your type, the better the world would be. Please, stop coming here to type these trash because there is serious anger against your evil religion right now. You guys should really be ashamed of yourselves.

Cry us an ocean bae

Pray, fast, give charity...nothing is going to happen to his female relatives

mummydirect:
in Jesus name I pray, as you have seen nothing wrong with what this demon of a yunusa has done, may what happened to ESE, be the portion of all your under age daughters amen. silly defenders of evil.

He won't be a bad parent na

1)Unless you were there, there is no evidence to support whether or not an abduction happened

2) It is not uncommon in Nigeria

jerayme:
Not surprise.

That is there way.

It is ‘their'

clarity4clear:
Please keep quiet don't come here with your defense mechanism, I was born and raised in that same part of the North and I know what is obtainable as regards issues like this. I have many experiences about them my cousin sister is a victim of theirs for the past 9years. Ese is no longer in her right frame of mind because she has been brainwashed.

The parents of your cousin should be ashamed of themselves. FYI, it happens everywhere in Nigeria unless abduction can be proven. I will not agree to any ‘facts' from both sides

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lezz:
[s][/s] Tried as I did, I couldn't sieve out your overlapping, leaking emotions from the point you're straining to make.

You needn't write a long epistle to pass the point. You tried 4 times earlier and you didn't scale through. Sorry.

Nah, you need to learn how to learn to reason logically and rationally.

I forgot to tell you a lil bit about my profession. Logic is what I do .


Admit that you are poor thinker, I might just be willing to teach you some tricks

lezz:
[s]Because men are more prone to logic and less with emotion.
Women do more empathy because it's in their genes. Biologically implanted by evolution to nurse the baby and surprisingly the man himslef Because the emotions of women is like a faulty fuel gauge of a car. They rant out of jealousy which is agsin doused by the sweet pleadings of the cheating partner. Nonetheless, ranting about it doesn't mean not being able to deal with it. Ego stands in the way. Your logic is spectacularly off mark!!! Absolutely no bearing with facts and logic.

Please answer the question I have asked; if women are conditioned or nurtured by society to be how they are, is it a coincidence that for millions of years in all human societies women were so conditioned?

This has reached the path of vain banter, bro.

I'm calling it off and putting a permanent lid on it.[/s]

What is so hard for you to understand. Let me break it down for you

My argument:


A woman is very emotional that is why she cries etc etc but the type of emotional strength she has is for empathy.

A man's brain is not for emotional empathy, he can deal with issues therefore he should be allowed to deal with emotional issues. Is that so hard for you to grasp? If men can deal with situations, shouldn't they be considered emotionally stronger than women? Shouldn't they be allowed to deal with emotional situations?


The society's and yours:

A women is very emotional therefore she is emotionally weak but not weak to stay with an abusive or cheating partner=she is emotionally strong to deal with a cheating partner.







There are societies where polyandry is practiced although they may be few but it proves one thing. It proves that women are capable of having as much sexual and emotional relationships as posiible






Your widower vs widow argument was so irrelevant, you should be glad I addressed it but here is a complex but simple reasoning.

Do most women have a job and maintain their home at the same time? Yes


Are most men the same way? No, they go to work and come back, sometimes they run a few errands at the behest of their wives.



So it is common sense when a woman who is used to running both fronts to easily move on than a man who thinks it is a woman's job to maintain the home. Don't put it on emotional strength, blame it on experience and the society.




My society tells me to be independent and also be a ‘good wife', my husband only needs to be independent. I didn't choose it, it chose me. I have been told by virtually everyone on earth to learn how to run two different lives. Most Nigerian women love their lives based on it. If this is what you can emotional strength, if running both fronts together while having at the back of mind that my home is more important is what you call emotional strength, then I have more equiped to deal with infidelity than you are.





You have to choose one of the arguments or counter arguments. It is either you admit that no gender is emotionally stronger(we compliment each other) or you go ahead with your submission but agree that women should be allowed to cheat because they are emotionally stronger than men!!!

WORDWORLD:
I just told you its all about CHOICE. Its no case at all.

And there is nothing to defend more than the fact that instead of the Lady to be ALLOWED to have ILLICIT SEX and paid 10K. Another man sheltered her as a SECOND WIFE and not without the consent of the FIRST.

AND THE ARE ALL LIVE VERY HAPPILY.

Mind you, Monogamy is do suffer all kinds of TROUBLES too. BOTTOM LINE SINCERITY IS ALL THAT COUNTS BE IT POLY OR MONO.

Its about working as a TEAM.........and saving our society from all kinds of SHAME.

I DONT HAVE ANY CASE WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU READ THAT WRITE UP WITH YOUR EMOTIONAL DRIVE AND NOT WITH INTELLECT.

Typical of Phobia driven minds.

Stated clear. Ertiean may be a HOAX but lets look at the Logics.

WHICH IN TRUE LIFE DOES HAPPEN, IN WHICH THE OUT COME OF WAR PRODUCES SHORTAGE OF MEN.

Hence, Polygamy is a Solution, * A SOLUTION among others.

I dont fight for women. I fight for TRUTH and JUSTICE.

That is my DRIVING SPIRIT and not FEAR.

You can write your counter so that we can learn. The aim once again is solution seeking. JUST BE AS SINCERE AS POSSIBLE THAT ALL THAT COUNTS. And i will be willing to embrace your TRUTH.

Thank you.

I countered your arguments and you couldn't come up with anything.

lezz:
@bolded is why I'm giving up the debate. How could you bring the notion of having different lovers as a credential for fidelity?

Really I'm lost to the rationale or logic of your postulation.

You claim that because women have emotional interest when they cheat, then I am telling you taht thwre emotional interest is no different from a man who wants to relieve his sexaul tension or it will not affect their main focus. A gf can have four relationships and love one more than the others and also hope to settle down with him. A cheating woman can also love her lover and her husband and also find it easy to prioritise that is put her marriage before any other thing regardless of her feelings for her lover.


In one sentence, women who cheat are not emotionally blind to let what they care about suffer at the detriment of other frivolities. They can handle it, after all they are ‘emotionally stronger'


There are lots of married women who also cheat out there, and their husbands have no clue .

lezz:
And I wasn't making allusions to physical toughness. Women cry easily and relieve stress and emotional tensions.

Check your statistics for stroke and HPB between the sexes.

Widowers can hardly cope after the demise of their wives.

Widows cope better. There's no experience or statistics to support your argument.

You said it was societally conditioned and I have told you it is pure genetics by millions of years of evolution.

Why do you think evolution made women to be the one to conceive, carry the foetus for months, nurture and care for the child all through infancy?

It takes an emotionally powerful being to do that.

Men aren't built to withstand that kind of emotional pressure.

Quit this argument.

We have different types of emotional strengths. Women do more empathy, men don't however men are more able to deal with situations than women. It does not make one more emotionally stronger than the other rather I see it as a compliment.


If a woman finds it easy to explode or change gear at every opportunity, my logic tells me that she shouldn't be trusted to forgive a cheating partner. However if a man can move beyond emotions and deal with issues, he can definitely withstand his wife having sex with his best friend right in front of him.


Your argument is based on the nurture not nature. If a widower is the first son of his family, he would cope because of his position however a woman will always cope because she has been nurtured to act that way.

WORDWORLD:
I CAN UNDERSTAND YOUR PHOBIA FOR POLYGAMY. My dear its all about choice.

The little boy and his mother are happy in their new home.

It is not a phobia. Just admit that you cannot defend your opinion. I have told you earlier that you have no case.

lezz:
A still wonder why women equate sex with love more than men do.


Remember sex takes place inside a woman, it means more to her than men.

A woman will consider _fucking randomly than would a man would because evolution ensure she's more picky of her suitor and mate.

Women are pickier however it does not mean that a woman cannot prioritise her relationships.

If a gf can have four stable bfs for different reasons, she can maintain her marriage and her infidelity. She can also prioritise her marriage over her lover. Women who cheat do it all the time. Women who wants to cheat but who don't cheat, do so out of fear

The fact that it happens inside her does not mean anything.

lezz:
Forgive my personal remark, since your handle has no letter indicator to ascertain your gender.......are you female or male?

Women aren't conditioned to feel stronger.millions of years of evolution made women to outlive and out-bear most tradegy men cannot bear.

Are you telling me women were conditioned to be something alien to their very nature for millions of years, by all cultures and civilisations known to men. Across all parts of the world wjo never share same culture or beliefs or ethics?

Give me a better excuse.

We are not physical toughness. We are talking about emotional strength. Women are not built to be tougher. It is a fact not an opinion. The society not genetics make them tougher. Also we have different types of emotional strength however women do not have a natutal emotional strength to deal with a cheating partner. Men's brains are better suited for that.

lezz:
You mean single men are not likely to get married to divorces and single mothers. You lost me here sincerely, you care to rephrase? But if I guess correctly, you seem to be making a conclusion that African women are still subjugated. They are not!!!
This isn't 1935. Today's women in Nigeria are sexually liberated more than most women in Asia and south America. Your postulation is ridiculously misplaced.

That was a sarcastic reply.


I was listing reasons why women are believed to be able to endure a cheating and abusive spouse. And I know I am spot on, ask Toks2008, his cohorts and other traditional men and women.

lezz:
OK, females do not as much as shadow men in the ego contest. That's a marked feature of males, for his good and undoing as well.


And I think women are built tougher than men to handle some aspects of life. Cheating, betrayal, emotional tumoil.

Western women who shoot their cheating partners are suffering from hyper-active personality disorder. And they are in the minority.

You convince them that they have no choice. Men are not liekly to get married to divorcees or single women with children. You ask them whether they intend to have sex with every dick and harry when they need sex. You ask them to consider the effects on their children etc etc etc

Basically, you make them feel helpless and hopeless.

lezz:
OK, females do not as much as shadow men in the ego contest. That's a marked feature of males, for his good and undoing as well.


And I think women are built tougher than men to handle some aspects of life. Cheating, betrayal, emotional tumoil.

Western women who shoot their cheating partners are suffering from hyper-active personality disorder. And they are in the minority.

Women are not built tougher. They are conditioned or asked to be tougher yet they still call them emotional beings.

What an irony?

lezz:
lolz, I don't want to take the route of my personal experience as this convo is thus inviting.

But a cheating wife takes a whole lot of factors. A girlfriend can cheat...easily.


A cheating wife takes more, either baggage of the past, E.G ex's or the complete emotional, sexual and financial abandonment of the husband.

Beleive me, it's a touch decision for a wife to make.

A man on the other hand can bang the _pussy just for the fun of it.

Banging a pussy for the fun of it sounds emotional and sexual to me


Having sex with another man for adventure or sexual satisfaction also sounds emotional to me. It won't stop her from loving you and her children. She might find it harder to do however it does not mean she doesn't have the will to do it to do it or restrain herself from doing it.

lezz:
Depending on a whole lot of factors!

I don't think so sir. If she wants to cheat, she will cheat. There are lots of interesting characters out there to make her feel on top of the world. Yours might just not be enough for her.

WORDWORLD:
Did you also read where i wrote in Bracket the Eritean story as ( Perhaps a HOAX but lets look at the logics)

Before writting this piece i honestly check their recent census which doesnt depicts shotage of Male. But men? its another statistics to verify.

Thank you for your remarks i truely appreciate.

What logic?


Stop trying to deceive yourself, we don't have a ratio of 2 women to 1 man and at most we will have 56 women to 44 men.

Also, men are living longer these days. That means in the next 20 years in developed countries, there will be an almost equal number of men and women (they are already approaching that mark ). We are going to reach that mark soon in developing countries. If a 30 year old woman is looking for a husband, ask her to go for widows, or single men of 40 and above. We have lots of them out there.




Now who the hell made you a women fighter/warrior? Who the hell ask you to fight on our behalf? What makes you think we are helpless? What makes you think we need your shitty help?

If you are interested in saving the world and putting smiles on people, move to Syria!!!









Wordworld, this was my argument. Stop trying to be smart by half.

This is no longer funny!

wasak:
This is just beautiful, when I try to encourage people to see the deeper truths of the world, they come off to me as shallow and incapable of such.
What annoys me more, is the response of men who are serial cheats, trying to uphold monogamy under the pretext of appearing civil, liberated or intelligent while believing their lies to be true.

Another feather brained weasel

lezz:
You mean seared conscience from religious tenets and moral obligation!!!

Men will worship the ground their wives walk and bang the very next pusssy that probably doesn't measure up to their wives.

It is a painful reality. The average men don't equate _fuck with love.

And ass comes shaking with a nice curve, only my religious beliefs will stop me from banging the stars out of that ass. And the love of my wife won't even be dampen one bit.

Some reason like women do not cheat. Your wife is still going to bang your gateman. She doesn't need to have lots of extras. Another one to switch the flavour is all she needs.

Wordworld

I was about to counter your points then I got to the Eritean example and I realised that you are so stupid. If you cannot tell that the Eritean husband news was a fabrication, you must be too thick for me to reason with.

I can see why you are a fan of toks2008.

Very annoying

I am used to it now