₦airaland Forum

What if they did?

Regardless, it is stvpid to blame this administration now.

x240:
And why should it be the husband that has to help her get her groove back?


and aside that, your assertion that most women lose apetite for sex is a big lie with no single fact backing it. Y'all Nigerian ladies were groomed to see sex as something not to be enjoyed, something you do just to satisfy him. sleep on the bed tie wrapper and lay like a log of wood. Yes, some males are to blame but most guys would want a lady who is "mad fun and crazy" in bed. Let him try introduce a new style or taking it a notch higher and she starts complaining that she isnt a slut and he cant expect her to do those acrobatic styles.

What do we get instead? Log of wood, no action, dead style of sex. Why won't it be tiring and get boring?


When you would never take the initiative to request for sex or try to enjoy it. Our mothers made the mistake and the new generation ladies are towing that same line again. No wonder there's so much failed marriages and bitter people out there. If the sex was good and mutual you would be 50% more happy and this would sip into other areas of your lives and makes bonding much more stronger.
It is a no brainer.


This is not absolving the male of wrongdoing but you ladies should please remove the "getting old and loosing apetite story".It's boring to hear already.

I disagree with you

Some women lose confidence, some lose appetite etc

Also, you need to recognise that Nigeria is patriarchal. I have read stuffs about men who wants their wives to lay like a log of wood...literally


What's wrong in telling her what you want? This boils down to lack of communication and social structure. i blame both genders. I don't think we should blame any gender exclusively.

Cavemnnn:
If u think he made sense, either u 're both retarded or u guys are some bunch of 13yrs old that never leaves your mum's bedroom

I am going to have 1 million bfs because I don't want to friendzone any guy

I am going to date all men if they appear to nice regardless of whether they ate my type or not!


Sounds logical right
Dvmbass!

Cutehector:
my God is a God of all tribes

That is all religions not tribes!

MMotimo:
Yes, yes, yes. . . . . since the 90s too and no regrets. Cooking is overrated, there's a lot more to marriage.
Eating out is not a sin, neither is buying takeout, please support food/restaurant entrepreneurs, let them eat too
The way to a man's heart today is not his belly, it is being a partner and a complement.. . . . . to one who offers you the same

You are weird!

Strahovski1:
I do. The lady who friendzone you. Already has a bf. If she doesn't she wouldn't unless she doesn't just see you as her type. So my point is, as long as a lady has a bf or someone she is crushing on, any guy who comes her way WILL BE friendzoned.

You are making sense for the first time

What changed?

Friend-zone=access to sex closed

Bunch of dunderheads!

I will do almost everything for my friends. I give as much as I receiver. In fact, I am usually the giver! Kini big deal?

Cutehector:
what if he converts to Islam and still goes to church.. and mosque too.. like he is just open minded

My God does not share o

You are either in or out!

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Joy1706:
I can't o. Who wants a liability in the kitchen/a big baby?

Lolz

Don't worry, bread and oats will do

ify84:
Mama pot will do.... I don't just like cooking and have no intention to cook..... But, I can do indomie on extreme cases

I understand not liking it. I don't understand the gender excuse. It is retar.ded.

seaga:
So the act in isolation of the public wasn't a show of love and respect, so had to wait so many years after to come to the public to show her love to her husband by telling us all.Damn it's worse than I thought. Just listen to yourself.I am not doing this with you ever again

Why would I go through that trouble with all the money? Listen to yourself!

Clearly, it was a choice!



Do you know that the prophet used to wash and mend his clothes himself?

I think none of his wives loved him!

seaga:
In iboland it is a bank breaking endeavour for a man which is nothing compared to hosting .So on the contrary the purchase of a bride is more significant in your land than any other,to the point it's a huge debt to be paid back which explains why divorcing is so much difficult in your land.
Speaking of hosting a lot of groom still contributes to that and most time even pay for the venue, except in few cases the brides family is buoyant, even wedding gown who pays for it...

That is iboland

In Yoruba land, it is not. You contribute because you want to. I was hoping you would insist on not contributing because it is culture. Culture for you must be rigid because it is culture. No excuses! It is wrong to be flexible or considerate!

seaga:
So this is daretodiffer , if I had known wouldn't ve responded because you re....
as for the underwear i applied logic to that topic too,which you obviously didn't and still don't understand. She mentioned it for a reason. ...but like I said she was wasting her precious time because those who needed to learn from her humility are so lost. Adios

She mentioned to show that to tell us how she shows love.

Ask yourself why would a woman who could afford the best washing machine, wash her husband's underwear...there are million ways to show love. She made her choice!

She chose one that she could afford to do.

Is it not the same topic that a married man claimed that she was lying and it was impossible? That is logic for you. You should take in all factors, every factor not just one!

It is like telling me that Hilary Clinton stayed in her marriage because she cared for her husband. It does not make sense to wash it, but she did because of what.....

But as for me, i can't. I will rather cook efo riro everyday to show love.



All these humility, respect etc do not work for me because it works both ways. you respect one another, you are humble to one another, you love one another, you treat your partner the way you want to be treated.

What were you expecting?

seaga:
Yes that's norm for the bride''s family to host their guest who is paying enormous bride price.What is changing if to be noted is the groom to provide funds also to the bride''s family to assist with their responsibility of hosting.

In Yoruba land, you do not pay enormous bride price and you only bring the stuff on the D-day. that means if you do not meet up to the list, you are still going to get married.

Bride price=resources for hosting the ceremony. I think that is as equal as it can get.

Toks2008:
I totally second your standview but we must start learning to adjust to this fact.

look at this scenario..i have been with you for years and i have invested so much love ,time and resources then you got carried away for whatever reason and after you are found out you apologize.

Does it make sense for me to drive you out against all odds?

Except the man does not love the lady i guess it will make it easier for the guy but if you love a woman,you will certainly not want to send her out to the hands of one crazy slowpoke who will now calm down and really do her well..please does that make sense?

Who knows if the new woman you now bring home is even worse than a female dog.

An unrepentant adultress is very different from a strAyed one.

I like this new Toks2008

What changed?

Fanirandele:
Gifts were exchanged by both families so no one can say they bought anyone. Both families gave equal gifts and as they wished . Marriage is about 2 adults deciding to spend their lives together and not exchanging your child for material goods

@seaga, even if they didn't exchange gifts

Traditionally, the wife's family provide the food, venue etc . This means that things are changing!

Fanirandele:
I just laugh at Nigerian women. The married women in more office are most notorious than the singles ones sef the husbands will be feeling like they are the Don while their wives are quietly running things

I wouldn't have believed it if I didn't have a working mother and a school mother.....come and see stories


Our men are men, strong men. ,

joeace2020:
Mr man forget it. Nigerian women are groomed to be utterly submissive even though their brains want to fight it

SMH...Som epeople are just stvpid!

ChidinmaRose:
It was my birthday some days ago and this "guy" that claimed he "liked" me (mtchewww) got me something that was supposed to be a "phone"

It looked fancy and all but it had a 500 MB RAM. I looked at him and said WHY Who uses a 500 MB RAM in 2016?

He looked at me and told me that I should be grateful because he spent 60k on this phone.

I was like (WTF) don't you know you can get a 1 GB RAM for less than 60k.
Then he now started vexing and I didn't understand why

Long story short, I made him return the phone and get a a better one ; Tecno Boom j8 which was way better, it had 2GB RAM and was just 40k. I even saved him 20k, he should be thanking me.

Now he won't pick my calls and reply my texts, please tell me, ladies and guys, was I wrong or was he just plain selfish

You are not a good liar

For married couples...I am in support

For unmarried...no one forced you to have sex

EyeofanEagle:
But the guy is right

I know

To those with no grey matter, he is right

Fanirandele:
Are you minding them. Nigerian women have learnt from the men how ro play the game an now they out play the men sef. Most of the guys running their mouths here will never imagine their wives are cheating. Why do you think FNA experts say many Nigerian men are not the fathers o one or more of their "kids "

Some of them are just stvpid.

i agree with them

men can cheat but women have to do it secretly .
You will be nagged for cheating but the wife would continue to live in peace until she is caught with a BIG IF

seaga:
On this issue I am quite on the fence,I am just applying common logic.
But if you say tradition and culture. ...well will take that as a compliment because without it we just an individual roaming the earth without a form of identity.So yes I would gladly embrace it

Actually culture is dynamic. people can insult the whites from morning till night. The ere are something you can or still can't do

Culture/Tradition is not set in stone. if i decide that my family eats just oats in the morning...it is a form of tradition

There is no reason whatsoever why they can't eat a proper sandwich

That is exactly why I have issues with you.

You want to apply logic when it comes to bride price, but washing your underwear, mbanu

MadCow1:
For the sake of humanity, I wish I knew how to contribute to these people..



Is there a fund?

You should have a second question

Would it get to these people?

cold:
Yeah mr smart what difference does it make if one is privately run and the other is government run? We're talking about people's lives here,not institutions and you're making such stùpid distinction. And how do you know they're made to pledge allegiance to some god before they're assisted besides what the Islamic society has tried to make us believe?
Truth is,the north have always been a burden to themselves and the rest of us. From the talakawas to the almajiris to boko haram and now malnourished idps. This is not about religion because i don't do religion anyways. It's about a people totally insensitised to the feelings and plight of their own but are always quick to wave the religious wand at every chance they get. Hopefully,you just got smarter.

You are still not smart

We are talking about vulnerable people under government's management.

Personally, I expected it so i am not surprised

Mor.ons however will find it such a big deal as if they are not Nigerians.

ourchoice:
Any man that tells you that he would forgive his wife if she cheats on him is a LIAR!!!

No Nigerian man can or will sincerely forgive a cheating wife!

Nigerian men can endure, forgive other things but when they catch you cheating, just go and pack your load yourself or if he still pretends to forgive, watch it!

Don't ask me if a woman should forgive a cheating husband, of course 90% or more than 90% of married men now are cheating and their wives sure know this (so it's left for the over 90% of Nigerian married women to walk away from their marriage now cos their husbands are cheating as we speak and they all know it)..its a natural curse on all men, mature/wiser women already know this and have accepted their fate, blame nature!

Men weren't created to be mating with one woman till they die, don't blame men, blame nature; that's the painful truth 21st century ladies abi women don't want to accept, but as they go into marriage, they realize how true it is that men are polygamous in nature

Mind u, your husband cheating on u doesn't mean he doesn't love u...a man will love/cherish his wife and still cheat cos to men, sex is a game of number while to women, sex goes with emotion...so b4 a woman cheats on her husband, she must have falling out of love with him, but not same with men.

You can argue it, but that's nature's making not me

Keep telling yourself that

About 50% of the 90% of the wives also cheat.

You will never catch them.

doingood:
Don't pray ur wife cheats on U. If she does and u so much love ur kids, u'll be in d middle of d devil and d deep blue sea. It happened to me. I left her cos of my kids. I can't imagine my kids loosing there mother. They love there mum so much. I 4gave her but she's no longer my wife. I can't make her my next of kin. She can't get any tangible thing from me. And I'll never be faithful to her no more. She just gave me d certificate to sleep with different girls this days

I am sorry you had to go through that

And I love you, yo u know why? Most partners would either divide the kids or share the time they spend with one pf them!

Do you see them often? They need you too! I hope you also pay attention to all lil details their mum might have missed!

You should move on.

seaga:
In as much as I don't want to support. ..let's look at it from this angle,why put a price on a bride ,a property has a price tag once you purchase it,becomes yours.So what do you ve to say ...

You are always about tradition and culture

When did you become so rational?

AustineE1:
MURIC or whatever you are called,you pride yourself as people who fight for muslims wherever and whenever they are oppressed in this country,but we waited for you sycophants to defend the shittes when they were massacred in the most gruesome manner in this country by the regime of your revered Allah sent sunni/wahabbi president PMB. But you only turned a blind eye,now what does the CCT trial of Saraki has to do with you cowards.
I expect you lots to be mobilizing muslim faithfuls to be preparing for mother of all demonstration against this repressive and retrogressive regime,are you nt aware that many muslim ummah cannt transport themselves to Friday sallah,they dont ve electricity in their homes,they dont ve forex for their businesses,no health care,high inflationary rate unprecedented in the annals of this nation. But rather you are chasing rats when your house is on fire.
If you ever believe in allah then his watching you and the great judgement awaits you lots. PMB will surely come and go but the evil of your fawning obisequiousness will forever live with you.

They should fight for both. Stop making unnecessary arguments

cold:
Compare and contrast the lives of IDPS in Maidugri and IDPs in Edo. And this Islamic Society of blah..blah..blah honestly expect displaced children currently in Edo state to return to Maidugri solely on the basis of religion. Those idiotas surely have jokes. Are they saying they're blind to the plight of the idps in Maidugri? Why don't they focus their attention on improving the lot of those currently in Maidugri before spewing rubbish purely on religious sentiments. Those pictures look really horrible.

You are clearly not very smart

One is private, the other is government managed

Can you please point out one working government institution in Nigeria?
Hoa re these people different form Nigerians in Bakassi?

Should morally upright people demand allegiance to a god in return for basic needs?