but some women actually push some men to the extreme.. especially if the man is a quiet type

A GOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE.
Read carefully...

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret
them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

. Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand on starvation for too long (even the anointed
ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural.

Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative.

Keep sharing...

I will Appreciate a 2-day permission to be absent from work sir.. My sister will be getting married...

I haven't finished when my boss shouted... Who will clear the files on your table? Who will do this and that? I'm sorry, you can't go.... I felt bad but important...

One day, we lost a colleague of ours....

Everybody was summoned, as the speaker addressed other employees who were sobbing... "A minute silence to honour her.." he said...

In less than 30seconds, he said May her soul Rest in Peace, Amen. YOU can all go back to work...

Then I asked my boss, "Sir, who will clear her table and do all she was doing?

He smiled and said, "someone will resume with us next week to take her place...."

I used to think I was irreplaceable but this has thought me that if I were the one who died, someone else would resume to clear the files.

Hmmmmmmmmm!

- To those who shout at people at work and make them feel irrelevant, be Careful you're just a colleague.

- To those who act in mosque/church like without them things can't be done properly, ask Elijah; God has over 7000 better servants waiting to step in.

- To all who are so pompous and feel d world revolves round them and should be treated with so much respect they don't give to others..... go ask Nebuchadnezzar; he was disgracefully humbled.

- To those who are so disrespectful to constituted authority by virtue of knowledge/experience/status etc.... watch out you'll be on the side of authority soon; expect more than what you've done/given because it will always come back to you.

Someday you will go..(Death.. Retirement.. Resignation.. Promotion.. Transfer.. Relocation....)

And guess what? Work will continue...

- Mosque/Church will wax stronger....

- Family like water will find its level...

- Persons/Friends will adjust well in good time...

- That thing you think cannot be done without you will not die nor suffer.

It is like Military barracks....Soldiers go Soldiers come but Barracks/Military base remain.. they might miss your ideas, But trust me, YOU ARE NOT IRREPLACEABLE

Experience has shown that when your kind/type leaves the system is when greater opportunities open for others.

As a matter of fact they'll not miss your unpleasant nature but make a mockery of it at their leisure.

Do what you can and let others do theirs.

You're NOT Special than others; it's just a Privilege that you're enjoying.

Be calm,
Be submissive
Be Humble
Be Reasonable
Be Accountable
Be Respectful.

Show Love to others even wen they make mistakes.....

Your nature is what you're remembered for, It is the memory of you that remains with the people.

Bad nature easily overshadows good ones.

Therefore, watch your actions because what we have here is really a small WORLD!

The World is like a Small Garden. Take care of your bit to Glorify God.
Stay blessed as you read & understand.
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"Don't tie all your happiness to anybody, not even your husband"
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Yes, I know I am looking for trouble but it is what it is, do not tie all your happiness to anybody.

It is very common to have people who have either been mis-sold the concept of love or who are naïve enough to claim all their happiness is tied to their partner.

You need to be selfless in love, true.
You need to give your all, true.
However, you also need to be sensible in love and that is the biggest truth hidden away.

Love can be parasitic where one person truly loves another who doesn't reciprocate but that's not love you are getting, you are just giving it.
To get love back while you are giving it, the relationship needs to be symbiotic, you give, you get.

You can tie your happiness to a man or woman and it will go well until he or she starts to hurt you emotionally or even physically.
What happens then?

A better way to go about it is to love yourself first then let the love you have for your partner be because you love yourself enough to want him or her. While we don't pray for anything to happen, if it does, it just becomes one vacant branch of love.

Will it affect you? Yes, a bit.
Will it take you down? No.

Say you have a wife, children, passion, parents, etc, but you tie majority of your happiness to one person or thing (say 70%). What happens if that person suddenly hurts you in a manner that's relatively irreparable? You are left with 30%. It will break you.
On the other hand if it is split equally and it's just 20% loss, you have 80% left of your life.

Don't mix it up, give 100% of the allocation for partner to him or her. But let that be only a portion of the total happiness in your life.
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Scenario:
2010 - Get a source of income: "my husband takes care of me"

2013 - Develop your skills: "what am I looking for?"

2015 - Go back to school: "I am already married and comfortable, what am I looking for?"

2017: "He left me with all the children, where do I start from?" Is it at this age I will start looking for a job with a BSc and no experience or skill. Where do I get a capital if I want to start a business? How do I cope?

Many of the issues we have in the home today are as a result of the order of the home.

There is a prescribed default where the husband is head and the wife is a support, but for so many reasons, that is now being contested.

In our society, the biggest reasons are age, finance, status and character.

The position of a husband is binding but age seems to play a part in altering things, so if you have a wife who is older or even the same age, it is more likely to affect order.

Finance is also important because in our definition of what the head of a home is, financial responsibility plays a huge role so, if we have a situation where the financial order is affected, chances are, that the leadership order will also be affected.

More women occupy public leadership roles today, add this number to those who are royalty and you have an increasing number of women with higher societal status than their men. In many cases, the order of the home is affected.

Finally, there's character which seems to be the root of all that's listed above. You can be an older, richer wife with higher societal status and still be a good wife who takes her husband as the head.
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Obviously, it's an ever changing society and more people are asking why a man needs to be the head of the home, so let us ask ourselves....what is the current position of wives in the home and what should it be?

Can she head the home?

cc:lalasticlala

Wife X: Fine boy, how far?

Husband X: I'm good, what's popping?

Wife X: You don close?

Husband X: I never close o, tired sef

Wife X: I got popcorn and drinks then I'm
making peppersoup. If you are a good boy and you get home early, we go chase those little rascals go bed by 7pm (after all na school night)

Husband X: if I collect query tomorrow na you o, LOL, baddoooooooo.

Wife X: wetin, abeg do quick dey come jor

Husband X: 'weapon' still remain for house?

Wife X: ashewo, na only wetin you sabi, every time weapon

Husband X: no worry I go buy come. We still get fuel wey go last abi?

Wife X: Yes

Husband X: I wan shut down abeg, make I go tell dem say belle dey do me one kind say I dey go house.

Wife X: LOL

Husband X: I love you

Wife: You and who? Abeg dey go, LOL.

Husband X: Make I run dey come

Wife X: See you in a bit
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I am not saying you should chat your man but this woman knows her man and owns him.

#LostLoveForm

Do you know and own yours?

"Sweetheart you cannot go out dressed like this now, ahn ahn..."

I didn't understand her so I asked "but what is wrong with what I'm wearing?" looking at myself again, as if to check out my combat shorts, fitted T-shirt and trekkers.

"What is wrong with what I am wearing this time? At least I have removed the chain and rings which you called irresponsible"

"This is not befitting, and does not make you look responsible and mature, you are married and should dress so. What do you think my friends will think if they see you like this?" she replied.

"I am married to you not your friends so I will wear whatever I like, do I know them? Abeg abeg.....and the idea is to be responsible and mature, not look it." I answered.

"You are always doing this and it is not fair, I have been pleading with you to take down this hair. Barb it low and look clean, look like someone with a wife and children."

"Is it me you are talking to like that?" I needed to know because this was becoming rude. "You know what, I shouldn't even be here wasting time with you" I said as I walked away
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How does a man dress married?

Divay22:

It happens..
I have seen, I have heard...
Some men don't mind..If they are questioned, they'll tell you that's how dey wants her to dress and they love her that way.

like seriously?

6 weeks after the wedding....

"Where are you going dressed like that, don't you know you are married?" He said

"I am married and I know it but let me remind you that this is how I was dressing when you met me and found me worthy of becoming your wife. I still dress the same way so what is your problem?" She retorted

"I said go back and change what you are wearing" this time, his voice louder

"I have told you, I am not changing, I am your wife not your maid.

" You are a wife so dress like one" he almost screamed.

Then she asked " please tell me, how does a wife dress?"

She left him pondering on it "Look, I have gone to work"

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How does a married woman dress?

50 is too much nah ;D50 is too much nah

If I could write a letter to myself before marriage it would read.

Dear single male,

It's nice that you are thinking about marriage, it is the way to go. However, here are some things you need to know:
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1. "No God no marriage" - True, but no effort no marriage too. Prayers need your efforts to work on, so put the efforts in.

2. Understand yourself first before looking to add a life to your life. This will let you know who and what you are, it will also let you know who and what you need, which will then guide who and what you seek.




3. Look for someone you are attracted to today, but more importantly, someone you'd still be attracted to without the physical bit of it because that part will not always be as you currently have it.
In other words, look beyond the physical.



4. Yes, get someone you'd be attracted to without the physical features but more importantly, seek someone who can feel the same for you because you are also not going to have it all as you currently do.
In other words, be more than the physical.











5.Learn more tolerance and patience. You know what annoying siblings can be like sometimes right? Now imagine a sibling more annoying than all of them put together (that you cannot avoid).
It's not always like that but you are better off being prepared for that.



6. From tolerance and patience, emotions management is key. You will be happy, sad, angry, depressed, scared and elated. knowing and actively preparing to handle these emotions will surely come in handy.










7. Quality courtship is good and extremely important but please don't expect it to serve any purpose beyond the wedding day. Courtship is one thing, marriage is something different and you cannot know it all till you experience it all.







8.Marriage is not a race, neither is it a competition, it will not matter what image you are able to create if you don't mend your reality. In other words, mend your marital back end and the front end will always sort itself.









9.You will be up against a lot of challenges, go in with the mind of a soldier who has been promised victory if maximum efforts can be put in.



10. Love is good but so is finance. Don't start this journey without a good plan (no matter what anybody tells you).



11. Plans will fail, don't use a plan if you don't know how you intend to handle its failure.



12. Everything that you own, prepare to no longer own. What this means is that you go from a 'me' mindset to a 'us' mindset.





13. Sex will not always be fun, sometimes you'd need to 'do' selflessly to make your partner happy.




14. The making of 'happily ever after' involves many fights, some heated.





15. It takes two to make up after a fight, learn to always do your own bit.





16. "In learning you will teach and in teaching you will learn" - P. Collins

In marriage, you will have to be the teacher and the learner, you won't always know it all.






17. If you do not work on yourself to seek growth, you will not be able to teach and lead your home in that direction.





18. When it comes to marriage, 'early' is good, 'prepared' is better, 'prepared early' best. Go when you are good to go.




19. Exuberant bachelorhood is a road to loneliness that sucks you in and keeps you locked in.
It will seem like everyone is a boring preacher till you've wasted productive years.

“As a husband, I won’t pray for my wife to be bigger than me, I am the head”
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This is a global default, just a lot more emphasised in Africa. Your being a ‘man’ is heavily rested on your ability to be the head of your home by being the biggest source in the home, be it knowledge, finance or even physical strength.

Males are schooled for the first 30+ years of their lives on this being the way to be a man. “Work hard so you can take care of your family, or do you want your wife to take care of you?” to which everybody screams “NO”.
Similarly, females are brought up to accept this setting. The “go forth and be ‘acquired’ then limited for that is the way of the Lord” mentality, fully implanted by age 20.

Do I want my wife to be bigger than me?

Honestly, I don’t even know what that question means because she does not own anything, I do not own anything either. Everything is own by us, so it doesn’t really matter who is bigger, we are as big as the stronger of us is. If my maximum is 70% for example, praying for her to be bigger than that is praying for myself to be bigger than that! So yes, I pray to reach my maximum then I pray for her to top that maximum. Why be bothered? you are getting the maximum you prayed for!

You find, this is difficult to follow because couples never really start out together as a team. ‘my money’, your money’, ‘my car’, ‘your car’, ‘my house’, ‘your house’. You’d think this is common with just men till you see women with property quoting scriptures on how their things belong to them and the husband’s property belongs to all.
This, added to upbringing, is why we are where we are today.

Question: Why are we afraid of our wives being bigger than us?
Answer: So that we won’t be turned into ‘wives’ while they run us around.

This mind-set really is flawed but unfortunately, it is something that happens.

Where it starts to get confusing is how a man will become scared of being made the ‘wife’. This goes back to what a wife means to us in the first place. How bad is our definition of what a wife is that we dread the thought or anything that takes us there. As you are reading this, what’s coming to your mind? Grind pepper, wash pants, change diaper, cook….. LOL, it is enough to be scared over to be honest. If we improve the definition of what and who a wife is, we’d find, it need not be as bad as it currently is.

What, you want to protest that you treat your wife the best? Do you wish to become the wife then?
Don’t worry, you don’t need to answer that.

It is thought that women with more, are stubborn and difficult to control, and to be honest, there are examples all over the place but if attention is paid to personal leadership traits and setting the union up with an all-inclusive structure, it really wouldn’t matter who owns what or who is bigger.

Men will start a relationship with a mind-set that a woman that is bigger than you cannot be controlled, women will start the relationship with a mind-set that a man cannot be entrusted with one’s things else he squanders it or use it to marry another wife.

This is how we have been raised and unfortunately, this will continue until we decide to raise our children to better ideologies.

............Mr X : Mr Y : Mr Z
Age
21. BSc : JAMB : SSCE

24. MSc. : 300L : ND1

30. PhD. : Job hunt : OND

32. Lecturer. : Chevron : Trading

35. Lecturer. : MSc. : Trading

40. HOD. : PhD. : B.Ed

43. Professor : investor : MBA

50. Dean. : investor. : University owner

Make of the above, whatever you wish but remember, that you are not where you want to be today doesn't mean you have failed. Sometimes, the difficult times are there to prepare us for the success that lies ahead of us.

Believe in yourself.

DON'T GIVE UP.


cc: lalasticlala, mynd44

WHAT'S GENDER GOT TO DO WITH IT?

Recently, I got my eldest daughter involved during animal killing and took her through the steps. It felt good.
Later she called me into the kitchen and asked that I explain the process of cleaning the internal organs......na there guru become olodo.
Of course her mum put her up to this (internal coup) but it was painful because she wanted me to teach her and I didn't know it. You see, as a child, I only assisted with killing the animal (boys work), the cleaning and cooking was for the girls to do.
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As a child, there were things that the girls did and while we were encouraged and even asked to do them when the girls weren't there, it was primarily their work to do.
It just was not going to happen that a female would be at home and a boy will cook. As at that time it was okay because, well, nobody wanted to eat rubbish and our cooking was rubbish compared to that of the girls.

On the other hand, there were things we were expected to do and when we weren't there, the girls would leave the work till we got back.
Say for example, there's need for the car to be washed or something heavy lifted, it fell to the boys.
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Today, I believe it helps the overall development of the child to be involved in all domestic tasks without gender playing a part.

Why can't boys learn to pound, why can't they learn to cook, do dishes and clean the home?

Why can't girls wash the car, why can't they learn to change tyres, bulbs and be handy with tools?

What's gender got to do with it?

To the question "How do I know if he loves me?"
There is no answer that is comprehensive but some come close.
My favorite is this
KEEP SEX, MONEY AND STATUS AWAY FROM HIM
If he stays despite that, the chances of him loving you for real are better.

Eventually, every young man matures to realise that real beauty lies in brains and character, not looks.
This, for many ladies, is the point where all they stand for, suddenly counts for nothing.

Eventually, every young lady matures to realise that real love lies in things money cannot buy.
This, for many men, is the point where all they stand for, suddenly counts for nothing.

Sir, money is good and important but you need more than that.
Madam, it is good to pay attention to looks but eventually, you'd be asked for more.

How are you planning for such a time? Think about it and start now.

cc: lalasticlala, mynd44

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"MY PARTNER IS BAD, THAT'S WHY"

Love stories are not black and white, so many greys in between and we all have our secrets, some of them dirty, fine.

I draw the line at making your spouse look bad to score points with side runs. So, while you are in your "nobody holy pass" mode, please keep the badmouthing of your spouse out of it, that is an all time low.

I understand those who do it, do so because it scores more points with some people.

Please, understand, runs is runs, which one is "he's doing it because his wife is giving him too much pressure"? (and you are the devil's advocate helping him plead his case and spread the word)

Nobody holy pass but please let's try to start from somewhere. You have already stepped out, which one is scoring points with the person at home again?

Jaqenhghar:
They will insult you for this

why would they insult me?

lalaaticlala, mynd44.. front page please

mynd44 please help push to front page

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WE DON'T HAVE TO EXPOSE OUR PRIVATE LIVES ON SOCIAL MEDIA ...ALL THE TIME!

(This post may not go down well with some of us, but please do a deep introspection and see how you can adjust)

While it is a personal stuff, I am beginning to worry about how some of us practically live our lives on social media. Some of us don't have privacy any longer. You upload pictures of what you do at home, even in your bedroom (with your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend and even manfriend), what you do on you way to work, at work, on your way back and so on.

If you are traveling, the whole world must know exactly where you going . If you want to buy something or you have bought it, the whole world must hear about it. You must take pictures everywhere you go. We hardly worry about the security implications of all these.

Your facebook friends can tell of your routine. Yet, they have never met you in person. They have idea of how your bedroom looks like. They know the car you drive, they know where your house is and even know the
places you have visited!

I told a lady yesterday that it is easy for someone to know if you are into 'aristo' (a socially acceptable word for campus prostitution). She asked why. And I explained:

Most young ladies like taking photographs everywhere to upload on social media. I said if someone notices that you have pictures taken inside different cars and hotel rooms (most ladies do this and they don't even know the message such photos send out about them) and most discerning observers know hotel rooms from a bedroom, he or she will easily conclude you don't take such pictures during evangelism!

Before Facebook, we had our lives. Above all, we had our privacy. We should not lose it to social media. You can celebrate your birthday or that of loved ones. That is once in a year. But you don't have to expose all your daily routines, undertakings and above all detailed informations that will make it easier for a criminal to get access on Facebook .

Someone in Australia knows what you had for dinner yesterday. He knows what you just bought for your child or your wife. Haba!

Some people achieve more than you but you don't hear about it. While admitting it is your life and can live I as you like, but you are one of us.

Cherish your safety...

Unfortunately, it is quite popular to have people, who before marriage will ask that the future be "checked" by going spiritual. If and when this hurdle is scaled, marriage feels like it will go smoothly without further interference until the challenges of marriage set in.
Because some have these worse than others, it is pretty common to have one or both parties looking at spiritual solutions to marital issues. Now, hold on, I have nothing against praying and fasting, I just do not agree to religion++

At this point, you might be thinking religion++ is limited to consulting shamans, IT IS NOT.
Right there in the more popular faiths, you have religion++

Wait, someone asked you to put red candles beneath your pillow and you think all is well?
You are being asked to observe salat in red clothes chanting things you find questionable, that is religion++
"Sprinkle it" - religion++
"bath with it" - religion++
"recite it backwards" - religion++

Now, one can only pray to have life easy but challenges happen. It is easy to stand from a distance and judge but some challenges will really test you and everything you think you believe in.
Having said that, it is really not right to go religion++ without the knowledge or approval of your partner. It doesn't matter if you are a man and think you have the authority, neither does it matter if you think you are a desperate wife and your husband may not agree, this is one issue you NEVER do without the approval of your partner.

First, whatever it is you are looking to religion++ for, will affect your partner directly so you have to carry them along.

Secondly, there are significant risks involved which your partner has a right to know about upfront, you cannot sign them up for something they do not know about especially if it is this controversial.

Now, here's the issue. As controversial as religion++ is, many of us go about it keeping our partners in the dark!

I honestly hope the comments will explain why anyone would want to do this as we all seem to judge from a distance.

Is there a reason that can possibly justify going religion++ without letting your partner know?

What happens if and when you eventually find this out as the partner?

One step at a time when it comes to relationships, no rushing (and no stalling either). Look left, right then left again before crossing every road, you can never be too careful.

Why has a relationship that has not been validated led to the female moving in?

The misplaced interpretation of the situation clouds so many.
The ring mark on his finger is not imaginary, the calls, the discrete nature of the relationship, the signs are always there. People can be very smooth but everybody drops a clue at one point or the other, deliberately or otherwise.

Don't let the desperation of getting a man push you to lower your standards. If he is truly interested in you, your refusal to have sex or move in prematurely won't chase him away, only make him more determined to seal the deal.

People who are quick to support you against your partner without proper investigation will eventually play a big part in bringing your home down. It would be too late by then.

A person who truly cares about you will care about your family and home first, a home whose welfare covers your welfare that is.

Yes, partners can be wrong. Yes, they can be wrong more than once, but regardless, someone who has your true interest at heart will always address your issues starting with a position that is pro good home (emphasis on good) before being pro you.

It doesn't matter if it is family or friends. A mediator should address an issue in a way that involves telling you the truth even when you are wrong, difficult to tell, with your partner present or even with your partner absent.

Many of us keep issues to ourselves for obvious reasons but for those rare occasions when the issue needs a mediator, look out for this.

cc: lalasticlala, mynd44

BACHELOR'S EVE (DIS)CONNECT

We were at a wedding and suddenly a friend tapped me asking if it was "them". I didn't answer, I didn't need to.....the smile on my face said it all.
You see, I'm not a party person but this was one wedding I had to attend and the groove started Friday night with bachelor's eve. As they were not serving fanta, I decided to chill outside and catch up with some other friends who didn't feel like going in. I had always heard of bad things but I was about to witness. We were outside but we could hear what was going on and apparently in a game, I can't remember what it was called, one of the girls in there was to called to 'head' the groom to be, right there on the stage.
"Ah, it had to be a lie" so out of crazy curiosity, we went inside......" (I can't remember what happened next)

Next day, wedding proper and everybody from the previous night had suddenly become elegant and glamorously covered up.

Lo and behold, the girls walked in. Red Gele, lace, heels but nah, we were not sold, it was 'them' alright and we knew....(can't remember the rest)

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In an unrelated post, why do guys think that all the girls at a wedding are nice ladies looking to settle down?

Our friend came in late and missed Friday but here he is today saying he's tired of being single and believes he can begin with this girl he just met.

Nice guy, good looking, gentle, brilliant, financially comfortable..... We had been on his neck and now he had brought her over to meet his friends.

"We all had never met her before", she was dressed in red gele, lace and heels.

Keep that in mind as you answer this "who is a good friend, are you a good friend?"

If we are to get young ladies to start believing in young,hustling and upcoming men again, it is only fair that we teach young men to not leave said ladies hanging when the success comes.

We cannot keep rewarding decency with heartbreaks as we run away and expect decency to stay in vogue.

BE MY WIFE BUT DON'T BE MORE SUCCESSFUL

Maybe it is the way we have been raised or what we have come to believe but the truth is that most men want don’t want wives that are more successful than they are.
That is not to say that men do not want successful wives. As a matter of fact, individual success is fast becoming an important criteria in the spouse suitability test. The problem is with the upper limit of success.

Earn lots of money but don’t earn more than I earn
Be very educated but don’t have more/better degrees/grades
Basically, don’t be better than me.

Think about it, we have a society whose ladies also do not want a man they are better than so it’s a two way equation.

It is all nice until you go past him then suddenly, jokes become rude and what normally would be understood becomes grossly misunderstood.
Crack joke – rude
Don’t crack joke – arrogant
Stay at home – tension
Stay out late – tension
Ask for money – anger
Don’t ask for money – pride
Basically, everything becomes an issue.

Why?

Do I hear you say male ego? Okay, go ahead and say this prayer

“God please make me more successful than my husband in all I do”

Not so easy right? Now flip and try this prayer

“God please make my husband more successful than me in everything he does”

Funny prayer but not as difficult to say I’m guessing. Now, what was that you were saying about ego again?

So, what exactly is wrong with a woman being more successful?

And yes woman, the question is for you too.

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What sort of nurse screams at a woman going through labour? Yes, I had the sex and yes it was nice, how is that any concern of yours? Let alone a concern at my point of delivery?

Yes Doctor, I came for treatment and no, I am not going to keep my questions away, if you are not sound enough to answer every single thing I ask you regarding this then you are not fit to be here in the first place.

I know this is your laboratory madam but please don't think you have a right to get cranky if I show fears about how the test is being done, I have the right to do so!

Like that is not enough, this one is trying to guilt trip a patient that the bed sheet is soiled. It is a medical facility, you should expect it to happen often, get on with it and stop being a nag.

Like it is not bad enough that the doctor made a pass at you, his hospital nurse will give you attitude when you just want to be out of the place.

Keep on asking poor people to bring detergents, disinfectants and morning fresh from home after they have been billed for treatment, how wicked can you get?

Finally, you manage to get out but need to clear at the pharmacy and those ones just decide to discuss last night's television show.

Who are these people?

"After all I went through to raise you and ensure that you are successful, you are telling me you want to marry someone I am not happy with?"

What's your opinion as a parent?

Pause, what's your opinion as the child?

SEX, LOVE AND VIRGINITY!!!

A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because,they refused giving them sex,some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys�

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Virginity may not be the real reason why the guys go away, yes, no doubt, there are several guys who want sex, and if they don't get it, they walk away...�

The problem may not be the virginity or the sex...�

The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible reveals that both the wise and the foolish were virgins; the other Five were not allowed seeing the bridegroom not because they were virgins or because they lost their virginity...

NO! But because they were foolish and they were called foolish because they had no EXTRA_OIL �. And the EXTRA OIL here is CHARACTER!�

Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any relationship, while many brag about their virginity, that's all they have to offer. �

Aside your virginity, what do you have to offer to a man?

- Can you support him spiritually?
- Can you support him physically?
- How about mentally?

All you do is demand money for bag �, shoes��, clothes ���, and outing, making him spend unnecessarily.

Have you ever sit him down, and you help him plan about his future?�

Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in?�

How many times has he come being in a state of dilemma seeking advice from you?�

Rather than jumping from one club to another. ��

And for the virgins, they forget that virginity ends after the wedding, but EXTRA OIL continues...

Yes... Nobody is perfect...
We all have our bad sides...

BUT...

Try to be a woman that a man will always regret losing for the rest of his life...

Be that woman that your man can never afford to lose to another man �.

Build your man to your taste...
And stop looking for a ready made husband ���.

* Force yourself on that rich dude that you didn't work with to achieve what he has...,
And hear the story of your life from him one day ���.
- Did You Work With me to achieve all I've got?
- Ever since you've entered this house... What has added to what you met?

* Note:
- There's just nothing as best as building up your man yourself.
- And you will forever earn his respect ✌✌✌.

I hope this piece of advice is useful to all singles and married? �