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Esut 0 - 0 MOUAU


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Today, 18th.

Earlier

UI 1 - 0 Kogi SU

The West African University Games that is been hosted by UNN started on 15th. But official game kick was yesterday, 17th. There are so many universities in attendance. I will say, Naija is blessed. People from all part of the country are here.


17th Men football


UNN 1 - 0 OAU

my guy chill.... nobody is arguing about the beauty of the states. Just the bad state of a major federal road.

DelGardo:
My brother na wah.
Their hatred for Buhari was clearly stronger than their desire for progress and development.
M.I Okpara, Akanu Ibiam and the rest of our past leaders must be turning in their graves for what we have become.

That's what sentiment can cause.

OreMI22:
So this is how federal roads in the SE look ?

lol... though this is the worst that I have seen...

Any nairalander in university of Nigeria Nsukka for the West African University Games shld PM me so we can hook up.

Requirements
BSc /HND in Engineering or equivalent fields.. Two to three years experience in quality control /assurance in an Oil and Gas or Manufacturing environment. Other professional certifications and use of business related software such as SAP are added advantages.
Must demonstrate strong negotiation, communication and interpersonal skills in order to interact with Suppliers and co-workers in a team-based environment.
Must demonstrate good report writing and presentation skills.
Demonstrates ability to interpret and apply relevant policies and procedures. Ability to comprehend and understand geometric tolerance on blueprints.
Ability to interpret and apply ISO requirements to Data Base Information and components.
Must be competent in several areas of inspection (dimensional, magnetic particles, dye penetrant or hardness testing.) Must have multiple Level II Certifications in a Quality discipline. Must have gauge calibration exposure.
Must have good knowledge of quality auditing techniques and documentation requirements and demonstrate the ability to perform a technical audit of internal or external process.
Must have the ability to interpret test specifications.
Ability to use computers and Microsoft Office software for necessary documentation

Sourced from my signature.

Enoquin:
at bolded

freecocoa:
You stole my thoughts.

The lady even made it very easy for the dude to state his mind and back away, yet he's here asking questions.

The way I see it, he just wants the advantages of being close to the woman, without dating her.

If I had known she had such thought, I would have stated my mind back then. For now. I have now gotten the means of backing out in a polite way.

jaey:
Women think emotionally while men think logically. So, with you responding to her at times when she 'beckons to see you' in her mind means you are giving her a lifeline.

When a guy thinks logically, he wants everything to be spelt out for him to understand.

I got your POV. I will reduce the way I respond to her request.

Jennifer89:
op so u are now undercover boss abi? That girl is already seeing her self as Mrs AltarBoy1. She's desperate to settle down that's why she's flashing all the green light for u. you don't have to tell her anything coz if u do she may deny so the best thing is to chase her away with an attitude. just make her notice that ur attitude has changed towards her simple

Lol. No b my own altarboy she go do miss for. Anyway, just like enoquin said. My body language will do d trick for me.

Enoquin:
When she started telling you stories of older women marrying young men, you should have listened, nodded your head to some of her points and then tell her your stand.

She: Like three women I know that got married to younger men; they are so happily married. I would like to get married to a younger man

You: Hmmm...true. Marriage sometimes can work irrespective of the ages of the party BUT I don't want an elderly woman for a wife. I want a young wife because men get married to young women too and are happily married.
So, what is oga waiting for na, me I wan come chop rice.

She: No oga oh...oga for where. I am still looking up to God.

You: Sha do fast...no let me do my own before you do your own...one babe dey my area...etc.

What have you done in this convo? You have stated your stand.

Though the day she was telling me all those stories, it didnt ring a bell in my head. So I didnt take it serious. It was like after two days that I started sensing something fishy in all that she was telling me

She tries to feed you...tell her you don't eat from single women as you don't want any issue with 'her' oga; she tries to sweep for you...ask her how much she will take for sweeping. She calls you too much; pick it, say you are a bit busy. She says she misses you, tell her not to miss you before your madam gets mad.

1st, she doesnt ahve an "oga" for now, as she told me how the guy that was planning to marry her ended up with somebody else. 2ndly, I have longed stopped her from trying to feed me or sweep my shop

She is playing a subtle game and you should play the game with her as well. Be courteous, never let down your guard but do not show contempt.

I really appreciate your words. I think i now know how to tackle this issue diplomatically. Thanks alot.

goodmorning40:
Right on point.
Now back to ur issue, ur female friend is a desperate woman and it is very easy to offend such people, be careful.
Henceforth begin to refuse her help or favors, maintain a reasonable distance from her no checking on her nor bumping into her shop, don't call her. Whenever u have the opportunity tell her how u can never marry a woman a day older than u are
Gradually she will withdraw

Thanks, will start implementing this.

Karmanaut:
I'm serious.
Essentially you're killing two birds with one stone:
First of all it might deter her, which you want.
Second it serves as a "test" of sorts: if she's pursuing a romantic relationship with you you'd want to make sure that she's loyal no matter what.

No need to be sure whether she is loyal or not, cos am not starting anything with her.

Tallesty1:
Not necessary.


@OP, you gotta be careful sha, you have made few mistakes already but nothing spoil.

Had a similar experience in Benue state.

It started the very day I opened the shop, her first move was to help me sweep but I refused.

Second time was to help wash few of my clothes but I refused.

She even brought food on few occasions but I didn't accept any.

She got tired and stop trying.

Later that same year, another guy took the shop next to her own and the lady did the same thing. He fell for it and they started dating. Everything was good in the beginning, she dey even use him do yanga for me but who cares?

They had a serious argument argument one day and the lady threw a bucketfull of water inside the guys shop(a chemist shop) no need telling tell you the amount he lost, just becareful.

It works for others but I don't date girls that are that close to me. Especially in business, nah.....

It is business or nothing.

I got your advice and I seriously appreciate.

kaycodes:
Again I reiterate, skills matter more.

I don't understand what people mean by having long legs, in my job search I discovered two important factors..

Just like you said. Having a network of people that can refer you to a firm or for a job.

Experience counts a whole lot
Networking is very essential.

Am with you on this

Securing the first job is usually where the challenge is, but securing experience is quite easy.

The bolded is where the problem lies. In this age where most job are advertised online and those who didnt meet the minimum requirment, mostly 2.1 wont be called up for an interview. What then do you want the candidate to do. Just take a look at most recruitment thread here on nairaland. When invite starts rolling, you get to see people who were not invited. Not because they dont have the skills, but they didnt meet the minimum requirment. At times, they might even have the specified experience, but the firm wont even ask of it. That is why I said, if you dont have long legs networking as you call, it will be difficult to secure ones first job.

I don't know the industry you work in, so let me not speculate, but if you're still a student, irrespective of how wonderful your results are, start learning some real life practical application of your choosen field. Develop the needed skills in your choosen job/profession.

Network and get to know people within the industry and human resources field.

What people refer to as "Long Leg" is actually a very vital part of job searching, ignore it at your own peril. It's actually called networking.

I got a friend who just got a job in a multinational firm through someone she met at a seminar who she didn't know from Adam.

We keep having this stereotype of how things work, and dish out advices we have absolutely no idea about, that's my point here (Misconceptions).

Let me paint a scenario here as an example.

A young graduate with a fantastic result, keeps applying for positions within the customer service industry, now this graduate has anger issues, and has failed to work on it over the years. After passing all the written tests and exams he/she gets to the interview stage, and knowing our Nigerian HR personnel with their knack for trying to corner you he is asked a very annoying question (remember he is applying for CUSTOMER SERVICE) he gets pissed and gives the reply that might be expected in such scenario. He will loose the opportunity, because he lacks the NEEDED soft skills.

I am very confident that results play a minimum role these days in regards to your earning potential. Once you are willing to start from somewhere and gain experience 2.1 2.2 3rd class soon becomes rather irrelevant. It's all a matter of time.

Now to those who came out with 3rd class and 2.2, listen everyone will tell you to give up, some might even tell you to go back and write Jamb, listen to them at your own peril.
What you must understand at this point is that the system will never give you a chance, rather you need to find a way around the system.

People will pay you for the value you bring, find a way to add value to yourself, and you will find a way out.

I once wrote a letter to 23 CEO's of all the top firms I wanted to work in guess what, I got a call from the Acting HR Addax petroleum, their MD actually asked her to give me a call. Yeah, I didn't get the job and guess what? It wasn't because I did not have a 2.1 it was because I did not have the experience.

Maybe you help us with the tricks on how you were able to write a letter to CEOs of different companies. Is it a hard copy letter or soft copy. Cos I know pretty well that during my active job search days, I accessed almost all the websites of companies in Nigeria, picking their HR/email address and sent a mail to them. Only few responded that they will get back to me, but till today I havent heard from them. On the experience part, I know how many company I visited in Warri, Sapele and some part of Lagos seeking for the position of a volunteer staff in other to gain some experience, yet, non granted me that chance.

Your opinion is your's reality is another thing entirely

Have a nice day.

In as much as I understand your POV, on a normal basis, not all the candidates will be able to have the chance/opportunity to express/present their-self before a an employer in other to show case their skills/talent due to one reason or another. Hence, their in ability to secure a job.

But if your result meets the minimum requirement, even if you are not all that sharp. By the time you attend like 3-4 recruitment exercise for an entry level position, you must have learnt enough lesson/experience to ace the next exercise esp as these days most interview questions can be found online and it seems like most HR just want to hear their candidates blow big big grammar and thats all.
Skills is good, but result covers a multitude of sins in the Nigerian labour market.

Nice day too.

goodmorning40:
Not it will miss the rice, only mouth scent it recognizes.
My username back at u

hmmm. Your plantain na heat sensitive missile?

Karmanaut:
Feign an epilepsy attack in her presence.

Or the next time she tells you about her marriages tell her about the girl that gave you HIV.

If these don't deter her then she's a keeper and you two should get married.

lol. You really funny.

goodmorning40:
The thing burn blackoo and it's bitter, but if u don't mind just open ur mouth wide hold it still for sometime let me throw the plantain through nairaland I have faith it will deliver

Am already eating rice, so just send d plantain info the rice. Your username to you.

Kingsasian:
@op, is she beautiful, attractive, articulate or presentable? Does she possess the qualities you need in your kind of woman? Age alone shouldn't be a barrier.

Truth be told, the character that she presented is a very good one. She is a hundred yards wife material. But, am not thinking of getting married soon. Even if I become Dangote today, it will still take me like 5years before I start to think about marriage.

jaey:
If you don't have anything for her( which am not certain of) you need to call the said lady and have a serious talk as to which way you the supposed guy want it to be.

#except
#my2kobo

My body language hv always shown that I want everything to end at the market. But she is not getting it. And since she has not explicitly stated what's on her mind, I can't just sit her down and start talking about it.

goodmorning40:
This ur story have made me burn my plantains and splash hot oil on my hands
Can I get a sooory

Sorry bro. But, can I get a taste of your plantain.

Ikaosunwon:
1) As in how old are you & the lady involved 2) why do you want to put an end to it? & besides if don't want to have anything to do with someone, why u still indulging her?

Am i my mid 20 and she, above 30. Am not indulging in her. There is no say I can escape her as my shop us next to her. Like today, I didn't mk it to the market, but I have started seeing her missed calls already.

Tallesty1:
Not necessary.

Help me tell her.

Hazardd:
tell her your mind the earlier the better... Abi you wan make we tell her for you?

I can count like three occasions where I jokingly told her my stand with her. I told her in such a way that, a normal thinking person would understand. But it seems like she didn't buy it.

FruityLass:


God don't want you for wahala.....
Lady don wakacome by self
Wetin remain

Ol d things wey I dey read for NL sef

Ok, Op are you also interested or just being strong head?

Am not.

FruityLass:

na land you come buy.

INTROVERT:
Are you a man or a boy?

Why do you ask.

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Greetings

I am writing this to clear my mind and to seek for advice. Am not certain yet if a problem is going to arise, but from recent happening, its as if there might be a problem in the future and so am seeking for ways/steps to take in other to avoid it. It all started sometimes in June when a friend of mine gave me one of his shop in a main market to start up a business after my failure to secure a job. After I had moved in and started, then came this lady that owns the shop next to mine. She just automatically became a good Samaritan to me. She had always and really helped me a lot in the market, which I had always appreciated and reciprocated without having any motive in me. Everything was moving smoothly until around September, when I started noticing changes in the way she act towards me. From calling me everyday, to trying to bring food for me and coming to my shop to feed me wherever she is eating, then on Sundays she will call and ask me to come visit her or vice versa so we can see/talk. This I always decline, sometimes by cooking up a lie (which I don't like doing). Anytime I travel or didn't make it to the market, she will be calling me and saying that she is missing me and that I should do and come back as she can't wait to see me. Any day, anytime, she will always draw up scenarios that will bring us together, and on my part I will always bring up something to spoil her plan, and one can see the disappointment on her face whenever I thwart her plan.

All this got me worried as her gestures towards me is way above that of a normal friend (and still growing) to the extent that people in the same line with us are already having the notion that we are dating (though I don't care what they think). This lady am taking about is someone who goes to church always and she is prayerful, so am ruling out the possibility of a sex*al attraction towards me and just to add, she is way older than me.
The incident that broke the camel's back was when she started telling me stories of men that got married to women who were older than them and how successful the marriage turned out to be. This just confirmed my fear as to the fact that she maybe having in her mind that we may end up together as a couple.

Now, I want to put an end to all these, but I don't know how to go it. And I really want to do it in a way that I won't appear ungrateful and rude, as she has really tried for me.

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NB:The lady in question is an active nairalander, so there are certain info that I didn't put up there in other not to blow my cover.