Here is an update.....when I asked him how he felt he said that it was totally up to me and he did not mind. When I asked what would his mother think, he just laughed and said she would love it and that she loves that kind of thing. He said that he would go with me to pick something out, but he suggest something that she could use personally. I was shocked that he chose suggested something that was fragranced....so Bath & Body Works it shall be....I think.....hmmmm.

Thanks so much for your input. I will update you when I she responds.

That was hilarious yet sad. As an American, I have a couple of Nigerian friends and they say the same thing. Americans are stereotyped about how they view people from the Africa, the "continent". However there is a population that is not knowledgeable about different cultures period. I am not justifying it, but our educational system does not demand the study of cultures outside of the U.S. I am 39 years of age, and I remember only being taught about the pilgrims . The U.S. has been a country that for years has been so blessed and has not had to demand too much from any other country. Now the global era inwhich we live today demands that we become more knowledgeable about the world we live in.

I certainly understand this guy's frustration, because of comments made about Americans.

Sometimes it is challenging to go against our parent's wishes, but as children we must realize that they are not always right. If you feel that your husband is the man that God ordain for you and he feels the same then trust that you have made the righteous decision. No one is going to live with and seek to please your husband whether he be American or Nigerian. God is going to hold you accountable, not your family.

Lastly, God is the creator of reconcilation. "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all of His righteousness and all other things will be added." In other words pray to God and allow him to change the hearts of your family. It may not happen over night, but that is not your burden to bare. The other thing that I would consider because she is your mother, and in all things we should show them honor (even in their wrongness...notice I said honor and not total submission)send her flowers and a card from you and your husband....signed by both...do not talk about the issue, but something that communicates that you both are thinking of her and love her. Mother's Day is coming up. With these type of actions love, let God be the judge of all.

Oh! You should pray that your mom forgives you and your husband (this is not to admit that you were wrong), that she know that you love her, and that she is delivered from the pains of her past that would cause her to respond in such a manner. Sometimes people suffer from levels of pain and dissapointments that are not evident nor would they ever reveal to others

I pray that God richly blesses you and your family.

Hi All!

I am new to this forum. Currently I am dating a Nigerian man. I can't remember the name of his tribe. Mother's Day is coming up, and as an African American woman I enjoy giving gifts during this time (women who I adore & are old enough to be my mother). Is it inappropriate to send my boyfriend's mother a gift for Mother's Day. I will have to send it to Nigeria, hopefully I will receive some responses in time. Also, my boyfriend and I have not made it to the 90 day mark yet but we seem to be hitting it off really well. He has shown me pictures of his family, and talks highly of them. It may be better to ask him, but I wanted to know what you thought before I asked if it was ok to send her a gift. Also I welcome gift suggestions: nice picture frames, perfumed lotions, jewelry, household items etc. By the way, his mom is in her 70's.

Thank you in advance for your advise