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Bottling up your emotion is very wrong cos it is rotteness to the bone, it causes stress and low self esteem. Problem shared is half solved no matter how big that problem is.

I dont agree with you, the first months of marriage should be a time of blending between the couple - learning each other the more and trying to adjust their life to accomodate each other, even her own mother should not disturb the newly married (am not against the mother inlaws visiting latter) you said what if the woman is a widow or is sick- get a helper for her, you dont immediately a woman is married to you bring in your sick or widowed mother for her to start taking care of, it will simply look as if you married her cos you needed someone to take care of your mother. BUT AFTER THE FEW MONTHS OR YEARS, the mother inlaws can visit the couple.

owobokiri: We tend to blow this thing out of propoortion most times. A young gal is courting a guy and gets on well with the guys mother, pretending to find no problems with her presence in her guys place all the while. Then the marriage is solemnized and she turns a tiger finding faults with her every act all of a sudden. This just happened with a relative and I don't think the young gal is totally innocent. She knows why the woman was/is there! She just lost her husband and has no female issues. You don't expect her to go and die of lonliness in the village! It is not the ideal situation but be flexible sometimes! He is your husband, we all know, but he is somebodys son too! Everybody is saying no no no as if a mother in law is one wingless witch from hell, including ladies who will use the excuse of childbirth to bring in their mothers on almost a permanent basis. The man should take charge. You know and understand the two women, try to manage things in a matured way. While mothers shouldn't make their married childs home their permanent home unless situations like the above example forces them do so, any marriage that can only succed when the mother in law is treated as an outcast should not be consumated in the first place! You freedom loving ladies should find ways to accommodate your mother in laws. Your husbands came from a family, they didnt drop from the sky.

Interpretttttt Plesssssss

eluquenson:

MY SIS, THANKS A LOT, SLIP OF THE FINGER

Creamish: Wetin u de talk sef?@bolded..
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MY BROTHER, UR VERY RIGHT, NO MATTER THE ANGLE THEY SEE IT FROM IT CAN NOT WORK LATTER IN LIFE ONLY 5% WORKS, THERE IS ALWAYS THE TENDENCY OF THE GUY CHEATING WHEN THE LADY IS OLD. AND THE WIFE WILL NOT EASILY SUBJECT HERSELF UNDER YOU, ME PERSONALLY WILL ALWAYS FEEL (THIS GUY IS A SMALL BOY WHY RESPECT HIM) .

heywhytech1: It depends on individual but me personally I cant do that . 1.will I be able to handle the pressure from my parents, Later in life will I be able to still love her because generally women grow older than their age ( is like if the age difference is 10 ) when am 60 she will be 70 ( ain't possible for me ) I know myself very well. That will definitely make me cheat and I always pray not to cheat on my mate. It can work for some people though, but for me definitely no.

I WILL NEVER MARRY A GUY THAT AM OLDER THAN, I WONT EVEN ALLOW THE LOVE TO START COS WHEN IT GETS STRONGER YOU WILL NEVER HAVE THE WILL TO STOP. AGE IS NOT JUST A NUMBER IN AFRICAN CULTURE- NEVER, EXPECIALLY OUR OWN PART OF THE WORLD, EVEN IF THE GUY DOES NOT REMIND YOU OF YOUR AGE HIS FRIENDS, FAMILY, NEIGHBOURS ETC WILL ALWAYS REMIND YOU THAT YOU ARE OLDER. I PREFER A GUY AT LEAST SEVEN YEARS OLDER THAN ME IT WILL ALWAYS BLEND THAT WAY, THAT WAS WHY ADAM WAS CREATED BEFORE EVE - LOL.

All dead people go to the same place (GRAVE, SHOEL, HADES ) the ground where they come from, remember God told Adam he will return to the dust cos he came from the dust. The same place Christ went to when he died, same place Lazarus went to when he also died and there they awaited resurrection, so when anyone dies he /she goes to that same resting place awaiting ressurrection which will be detamined by the giver of life HIMSELF.

there is nothing like perfect life cause things can change at anytime either to good or to bad. But to live a simple life is close to perfect, being contented with what you have, maintaining a good relationship with your creator (Jehovah) summarizes it all. cos it will make you have a clear conscience which will help you live stress free life now and everlasting life in the future when you enjoy a perfect and real life.

If you r sick and tired of hearing the truth maybe ur hard earned money was also used to build such schools, why not accept the truth and seek for ways to stop the trend. Church goers contribute heavily to build these schools, even the poor widows some sell their belongings to contribute most are compulsory contributions, at the long run their generations will never hv the privillege of attending these schools. The churh is supposed to bring the fee a bit down so the poor masses that their money was used to build can send their children to such schools, instead such schools are built for the greedy politicians, 419neers, etc's children.

feran14: idk... Am just sick of hearing the same line

IK IS CUTE

Na u fine pass

gladpresh: How far me na...
i no tyt?

ur pick is fine but that environment !!!! e spoil the pic wela

AbdulAdam56: and me

TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LOOOOONNNGGGGGG!!!!!

If your a single lady, do not turn your house to a motel where all sorts of men visit, keep to one friend and the visit should be moderate, never allow a male friend pass the night in ur house please.[i][/i] Do not pook nose in peoples business, never gossip with anyone, keep to urself expecially about ur relationship- never tell it to a neighbour,

Gift from God

MY dear, my man is one in a million he has never acted negatively towards me. that aside, am against any man that mistreat a woman no matter what she does, if she is not ok for you, you better let go than turn her into a punching bag, i just hope ur not like that.

heywhytech1: Am totally against domestic violence but some women cud be frustrating and make life miserable. I pray you marry the soul of ur and flesh of ur flesh or else u will know Dino is a better man than u !

them never born that man! i wonder how a woman will just stay put in a violent relationship or marriage, ur being mistreated by a man that paid ur bride price and u claim is because you love him- that means he does not love you to start with, cos if he does he will not raise his hands on you, some even die in such homes. the man will be told by his relatives to go ahead and marry someone that will take care of him that life does not end there. If a man is a beater you better run for ur dear life and sometimes fight back, i assure u he will never maltreat u again. I know of a man that is always fond of slapping his wife for every little mistake she makes; a friend of hers adviced her to slap back, so before the man would raise his hand to slap the wife will use all her power to woooozzzz a hot slap on the man, finally the man stopped slaping her. Dino is not man enough cause any man that lay his hand on a lady to me is not responsible at all. (He is an AGBERO)

First and formost, it is very shamful so do not expect ur girl to agree dat she actualy did, but you know the truth. if you really love her you can help her stop bedwetting, talk to her in a loving and respectful way and let her know u are worried just like she is, tell her never to take water 3 hours before going to bed, try to wake her up at intervals to pee, note when you wake her you dont do it in an arrogant manner, you could say- my dear i feel like peeing what abt you? if you do that for a period of time she will get used to waking up on her on to pee. for the friend, if he is open to you and accept his problem you can also advise him same. It is not only embarrassing to you but also the person dat does bed wet.

First and formost, it is very shamful so do not expect ur girl to agree dat she actualy did, but you know the truth. if you really love her you can help her stop bedwetting, talk to her in a loving and respectful way and let her know u are worried just like she is, tell her never to take water 3 hours before going to bed, try to wake her up at intervals to pee, note when you wake her you dont do it in an arrogant manner, you could say- my dear i feel like peeing what abt you? if you do that for a period of time she will get used to waking up on her on to pee. for the friend, if he is open to you and accept his problem you can also advise him same. It is not only embarrassing to you but also the person dat does bed wet.

OKARA MMADU OKARA MMUO!!!
ALUSI OKUZU!!!
THE PRIEST OF AMADIOHA!!
THE SERVANT OF IDEMMILI!!

MAY GOD HAVE MERCY!!!
TUFIAKWA!!!!!!!!!!

My dear read the story very well, it is a Catholic Church (Sa­cred Heart Catho­lic Church, Oguta, Imo State) if you are a member please you guys need to purify ur church cos it has been DESECRATED

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Mariojane: it is not catholic church> in catholic church priests dont stay with the congregation. no matter how many they are, they stay on the pulpit nd fill d front roll if neccesary but they dont mix with the audience. find ur fact before you talk. moreover it is not only catholic church that their priests worn such robes, all orthodox church priest does. make more research my friend

THIS IS A SLAP ON CHRISTIANITY, HE IS NOT SUPPOSED TO ENTER A HOUSE DEDICATED TO GOD DRESSED LIKE THAT. WHAT IS HE TRYING TO PROVE? HE CAN NOT TRY THIS IN A MOSQUE, WHY ARE XTIANS TAKING SHIT? IF I WHERE THE OFFICIATING MINISTER, I WILL WALK HIM OUT EVEN IF IT IS THE LAST I WILL DO. AND THE GIRLS? THEY ARE A DISGRACE TO WOMANHOOD. (THIS IS TO SHOW THAT GOD HAS LEFT SO MANY HOUSES BUILT FOR HIS WORSHIP)

I can say am a bit mysterious but the passive type. All i do is hello, hii, how was ur day, fine, it ends there cos i dnt have time fr gossips i pay my dues as when due, greet everybody but dont enter anybody's house, dont borrow anything frm anyone i manage what ever i have, no friend no enemy, mind my business, if someone is in need and it gets to my notice i help if i have, not a busy body in anyone's affair. the truth of the matter is i gradually earn my self respect cos no one in the compound knows anything serious about me, all they know is my name, i go to work , my religion, where i come from - Case Close!!!

they feel white collar job sounds more responsible never minding the megar salary and sometimes the company owes for months without payment, and they like it when their man dress every morning for work like a gentle man (on suit) , i personally like it too, but honestly speaking the businessmen make more money. i think is a thing of choice.