Tozinetita:


Anextin ur response is out of context cuz rape is anoda issue entirely & mind u I understand d Op situation perfectly. Sex in itself is marriage not 2talk of avin a child 4rm it. D truth has been twisted cuz we live in a pervert generation & I don't expect u 2 understand.

I tried to understand bro, just didn't see how having a child out of wedlock made her a married woman, and now u refer to her one and only husband as her second best. That's why I brought in those examples cos they are sure ways of women having kids without marriage.

Senorprinz:
las las you go dey alright.

Try and the jab in her comment. When some little girls are raped, most psychotic people Here blame it on the way she is dressed. Even 2 year olds are warned

I remember a case like this where the woman , a mother of 3 year old twin unfortunately did not report when she noticed these changes and blood stool. Instead she made a video tape and sent to her ex,thinking she's solving the problem. Not knowing is the ex that was abusing the children and the snake of a man turned the tables on her. Don't even know where she is now.

chronique:
I think a lot of responders here, have missed the point. He has mentioned two things that caught my attention.

1: why the biological father of the girl is returning her to the mother because he just got married. Why should he be the one to deal with a child that two people apart from him, had out of wedlock. That's a very dicey issue here and it's selfishness on the part of the father of the child. If the girl had been with the mother all these years, it would have been a different story entirely. But returning her to the mother because he is now married, is a whole lot of something. The fact the mother-in-law is also asking for the girl to be taken away from her, is something else.

2: he also mentioned that he knows very well that if the reverse was the case, his wife would have non of it and wouldn't accept that. That tells you something is wrong somewhere. We might out of sympathy and humanity ask him to take the child in, but there are critical underlying issues that needs to be dealt with. I personally understand how single moms of this generation behave. In a relationship, everything must be about them and their child/children first, before you. Their first love and attention would be to their child before their spouse. This might affect the relationship between this man, his wife and kids pretty soon. The person who should be pressured to keep the child, is the biological father of the child. He is alive and capable and should take up the responsibility. I'm sure the wife he married has told him she doesn't want to see another woman's child in their home and the idiot is doing her bidding, forgetting he is a man and should put his foot down to say his child is staying.

I hope this sounds a warning to ladies who carelessly get pregnant for men and the men are not interested in marrying them. These are the type of things that would eventually happen in future.

My dear, that wife of his will turn this girls life into hell. Except if he didn't tell her he has a child and is hiding her. Cos if she knows he has a child that lives with her, I don't see why the woman would not accept that child.
So my take is the bastard father is hiding this poor girl from the new wife. Hes a coward.

Aquariann:


Nice choice of words there. The biological father doesn't get a stroke of cane from you, the new wife who made him return her after seven years with him isn't called out, her maternal grandma doesn't get a word from you, but the op gets called names for not wanting to take care of her knowing her own dad is able and alive.

You assumed he threatened her to give the child away? What do you mean by that? The father accepted his child for seven years and suddenly because of a woman like you choose to reject the child yet you blame Op.

Let's flip the table a bit, can you willingly raise your man's child who wasn't in the picture when the marriage was contracted in the first place?. Yes you knew he had a child but was with the mom. Now you a have a young child of your own and a set of three months old twins, can you honestly deal with another seven years old knowing her capable mother dumped him just to be with another man?

Let her go ahead and choose between her husband and the child and let's see who loses out because you can be sure he'll take his kids from her.

Next time you decide to quote me, read and understand before commenting so u don't shot yourself with your bullet. Your last paragraph was exactly what I referred to when I make that comment. If you read it well, you will understand that I blamed the ex boyfriend for taking her daughter away maybe to show he can and punish her. Now he's dumping the poor innocent child cos it doesn't suite his new status. Pls read again and slowly.
You said if she decides to choose the daughter, the man will take his kids abi. My point exactly, when the going gets tough he will then return the kids to her again to cause her another wahala.

Tozinetita:


I read up on d comments & most r blaming u, telling u 2marry her if u truly love her. I bet u dat all dos advising u 2do so won't do such if they were in ur situation. In fact none of dem will marry a single mom cuz op wat u don't kno is dat wen 2pple av a child btw dem the child has binded dem 2geda & it is good as being married. So in ur case u r ur wife's 2nd husband wether u like it or not. Dat is d truth, if not 4d stupid family influence ur wife would have been with her 1st love, so accepting 2b d 2nd husband den u must b ready 2deal wit d consequences. & mind u, u r in an adulterous relationship bcoz d bible says whoever marry a divorcee commits adultery

I felt like giving u a few choice words but I had to restraint myself. It a people like u ,who won't read and take time to comprehend what they read, buy will be quick to come and comment. Marriage ko ni, when did having a child outside wedlock turn into marriage, when did having a child outside turn into love. You have not heard of people being raped and they got pregnant abi, or they had sex for fun or money and got pregnant.

An sure the stupid man might have threatened and cajoled her into giving her daughter up now he feels it's ok to dump her like a sac of potatoes. God punish devil. Its hard to leave your child for another. Op if you reject that child, your marriage will crumble before your eyes cos your wife will never understand why you said no.
The dad dropping her off doesn't mean he won't contribute to her education and upkeep.
So you all can have a meeting and discuss how he will contribute towards her growth.
Don't make your wife chose between you and her daughter. Its not right, and in the long run she will chose her girl. Any mother would.

globaldream:
Both NPS an FRSC are good, they are established for different purpose with different assignment, the question you knowing what is your direction why did you want to work with them

You and I know 90% applicants are here cos its a Federal work and there's nothing better lined up. I doubt if we have genuine fire fighters in this country, or people who want to really be in jail for the sake of guarding prisoners.

femiyayo1:
In my opinion, the One with the best pay is the best

Hahha abeg which has a better pay package for level 9 and 8

ehinmowo:
I want us to use this thread to guide ourselves appropriately, provide help where necessary concerning these jobs.



If u hv slot to give out, even for cash, lets knw here. If u hv interview questions to share (free pls), let's knw.

If u hv info concerning date, required number of candidates and so on, share with us. God bless!

Do you know what their take home is for graduates

ehinmowo:
I want us to use this thread to guide ourselves appropriately, provide help where necessary concerning these jobs.



If u hv slot to give out, even for cash, lets knw here. If u hv interview questions to share (free pls), let's knw.

If u hv info concerning date, required number of candidates and so on, share with us. God bless!

Do you know wbat their take home is for graduates

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Vacancy: location is Abuja.
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Spy17100:
The police sabi slap people for this kind of case eh..chaii...i pity ur face oo

Are you talking from experience

Ziggylady:



Dude you are a talkative and a nag who specialises in blind and silly arguements.Perhaps to ease off some plethora of frustrations consumming you...Go buy yourself some brains and do better things with your self instead of withering away on this thread.. It is only acute imbecility and mega joblessness that will make a grown-ass male adult like you spend hours and days replying and quoting every single stranger on something he is too stuppid to realise is a futile effort...

1)because his points are baseless and lacks the minimal intelligence,just pure incoherent rants like a lunatic because of gender bias

2)Clearly a minority opinion.

I have no problem with jobless trolls on a faceless forum constituting nuisance in the name of 'educating' their ancestors when they are clearly in need of education themselves..it is the sane minds here replying jobless and idle trolls like you i blame.

You can continue with your shameless dance of the absurd here,but i have made my point...Adios!

On point. Thank you

MIKOLOWISKA:
your mates have husband. You have money and unhappy life

What is wrong with you, are you an emperroor that one can't have a divergent view from yours. You keep attacking everyone who doesn't applaud the man.
The business was even the woman's idea, and am sure most of the 65% money came from her irrespective of what the op said. She started the house, and he just added what he had left from the travel which means 75% funds did come from her, yet she's willingly to compromise, and all she's asking for is how to make her proud man understand and accept joint ownership. Yet you see her as the villain.
Please enough of your tantrums, go and get busy!!!!!

You asked her to leave and of course your didn't mean it really!!!?? And u want us to believe u. Nah guy, she tried to paint u a saint and that's her undoing, cos u didn't waste time in painting her as the devil. And of course some bigoted people won't see the underlying in your words.
I believe her not cos am female but cos she tried to respect you in her post.
Now you think u can take the kids and leave, and she can tag along if she wants to. Next you will tell us how bad a mother she is!!!!
Op you better go home and settle issues with your with your wife. Enough of these blames. You guys have kids, she should transfer the property to their names, yes all the kids names should appear on it. Go and build your home, your woman wanted to find ways to mend your home, even in her response that's what she asked for. Yours is for separation and blame game. Living alone doesn't pay when u have a spouse you could have sort things out with. Go home to your family and stop that transfer. Work things out

Sorry to divert, but if the person doesn't know JSS mathematics or even SS1, no amount of simplified SS3 maths will sink in. If you don't get it from primary to JSS, its over

You slapped someone cos of 200 worth of food, yet If you take her out you will spend 2,000 on food. See reasoning, yet people think its ok.

Quality20:
Mr educated man . do u know more than d health personnel ? it has 6 month shelve life means it can b used 6 month after d expiry date ,so d drug is still ok

Do u reason at all. It's a vaccine meant for preventive measures, if Its less effective do u think its OK to administer it. What then are u preventing.

eyebee01:
Please can any one say if it is possible to apply for GT and be among EH mayb due d fact u filled experience in the portal but mayb not up to 5years

Nah, not possible, what you applied for is what you get. Your higher qualifications or experience only position you for easy acceptance

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Your assertion is not correct[/quote
He's very correct, sorry to say, even now churches use tithe card to wed people. No tithe card, no weddingi can categorically tell you that in my mother in-law nlaws church you can't even be visited if you are owing a thing, or worst still you don't have tithe card.

Is it just church, even umunna and ndi Ada do it in a horrible way.
Before they will attend a burial of which they will eat all the food without contributing a dime, you will pay off every payables. The most annoying is if you refuse to pay, same people will send pretenders to come and mock you that your person was not properly buried. Greedy bunch of hypocrites.

Wrong post

pedroito:


Congrats ......which state..........Seems no Economist has been contacted today....still keeping hope alive.

Are EH or GT Economist

Congrats to all whose tears has been wiped.
Has any EH received. Pls indicate

pocohantas:



Men asked you for it, you refused and gave it to women.
So, the mosquito doesn't bite men? Abi men don't die of malaria?

I feel no pity for her. May every woman who refuses to extend such trivial help to men, experience worse.

Pity!!! Wow, pls read and comprehend, she's not in trouble

Olabestonic001:



Most of you are really easily deceived. Women are good wordsmith and knows how to get the narrative to favor their desired end.

I've a feeling that she's not telling us alot. She said from the proceeds of the business, the man used his 'own part' (I'm damned sure they both agreed) to save the life of her father-in-law. The other was used to purchase a land and she (thinking she's smarter) bought it in her name. The husband never knew such.

The man apparently thought he had a great wife- began to judiciously pumped money into the land and a house 'germinated' outta it. One day, they had a sharp disagreement and she reminded the man that he had no portion in the property. He became angry and left the house. She tried to 'give the olive branch' but he was still stunned. The issue wasn't looking good.
She most likely reminded him that he 'squandered' his own share on his 'family' and that caused him to wonder what his wife was driving at.

He annoyingly and foolishly asked for a transfer away. She got wind of it and discovered that that man some of you foolishly called wicked for his 'stupid' request wasn't nearly as bad. He still provides for the family and leaving her in the 'big house' she is claiming is too much for her to bare. A divorce is looming! Worst still, even with the house, she still doesn't have the upper hand. So, she came here, gave her version so that people will queue behind her. And boy, are they?

Woman, let me tell you; you definitely know you betrayed and have wronged that man. He used a part of your deal to take care of his father and felt your agreement meant you loved his father! Your action to make the land in your name and you saw him dancing that he's building a family house not knowing he isn't is a bad choice ma. He himself is a man that needs wisdom.

Kindly go back to your man and ensure you show remorsefulness for betraying him while he takes care of his parents (remember, they're yours too). Don't mind those cheering you on here. Many of them don't understand marriage but takes it for agitation. And if you want to remain married, show genuine repentance and you'll be shocked he won't even ask you to change it to his name again.

God will save your home.

You spoke well. Only that she said he sent her packing before learning that the house has her name on it. The key word is sending her out of a home they built together.

adubiay:


One major problem we have in Africa is that we don't pay attention to details before we start saying rubbish, @op said she bought the LAND with her money in her name, but they BOTH contributed to build the house. I guess the husband never knew the land is in the wife's name when he was pumping his money into the project, that might have formed basis for his anger, though he is over reacting, pls madam don't scatter your marriage based on some advise here from children who are not married, admit you are wrong by putting only your name, and bring your husband back home. You have ego too, so ur caption here that your husband has ego is wrong.

Your wife goes out to buy land with her money, please be sincere, do u naturally expect her to use your name on it, especially since it was a shared money BTW you too.
I understand they built it together, so the papers should have changed to accommodate the Man's name,
But, see how life works, they had issues, tensed disagreement and the man immediately asked her to leave a home they built together. Built together as if he's the sole owner, and this is before he found out its her name on the docs, even forgot that the initial investment was made solely by her.
If he hadn't sent her packng before finding out, I can understand his anger, but now .....

Gidilagoon:
Pls house, I don’t know if am being stupid or not man enough but I just have to share this with you guys just for an advice.. it might be long as I really want to express myself pls.

I have been dating this girl going to 2years now and we are planning to settle down probably next year. I have known this girl for a very long time because we have dated before when I just got admitted to university but we ended after short period.

So After few years that we’av graduated, we met again and fortunately we were both still single ,so we decided to start dating again and this time we are more serious and planning for future, I realized she must have dated many guys when I left her because it was a long time ago, so I decided to change her phone number just to avoid any connection with any guy from her past since am planning my future with her now, but after awhile I noticed some of these guys still chat her on FB and Instagram and she replies, and one even sent her money and I was totally mad at her but later we resolved it.

So back to the main issue that just came up recently . I don’t know what took me to her Facebook profile and I decided to go through her messages, I noticed one of the guy she claimed to be her uncle was a man friend she has known from the past, this guy Is married with 2kids living in US. I noticed my girl sent her nude to him and they were having sex chat, so I acted like I didn’t see anything and I invited her to my house the next day and tell her what I saw, then she started crying, immediately I gave her 3 hot slap and asked her to leave my apartment but she wouldn’t leave but kept crying on the floor and said she’s ready to swear with death if such ever happened again, that she was just stupid.

Well I dragged her out of my house, and since then all her family from different places have been calling me pleading on her behalf except her Mom and Dad which she can’t tell about it. I noticed she has changed her phone number and delete her Facebook account after what happened, but I told her it’s already late when her aunty called me...

Honestly I still love her, because she’s the only girl I ever fell for but won’t I look stupid if I accept all the pleading and continue with her? And can such girl make a good wife? She’s too vulnerable, too emotional and she has dated a lot of guys in the past, so it scares the hell out of me to settle down with her, so that man no go die untimely death..

Her aunty said she wants to come and meet me this weekend but I told her I will get back to her. Do you think I should let her come?

Pls mature men in the house don’t abuse me, just advice your guy abeg.

You are very stupid, imagine, you changed her number, Really!!!on top you slapped her!!!!! What nonsense, and the fool is begging you after disgracing her. Oh my goodness, where do these idiots crawl out from, I blame the ladies who give your type attention.

Amumaigwe:


You are obviously single and at best with a casual boy friend who you may drop and pick up another at will. Therefore you lack the experience yourself to advise a married woman ( with children) who is seeking how to put her marriage back in shape. Until such a time you are able to attract a responsible man to marry you, don't offer such an infantile advise to a married woman again.

Did you read very at all. She has been asked to leave damn it. The only reaaon shes not in her parents home is Cos the property is not in the Man's name. No pastors would have housed her and kids if the man succeeded
Everyone is taking about the property, this marriage is hanging already before the property issue came up. Your parents should be your first point of call not some pastors and Rev or whatever.if she

Left for me I won't even share, if he has the guts to ask me to leave the house, for whatever reason, then it means am expandable to him. The problem is not the house being in ur name, its about his asking you to leave over what ever issue s u guys have.
Don't ever include his name and u better take those documents away a from the house.
Remember he asked you to leave before finding out the house is urs, count your teeth well.which means he's done, don't beg him, if he wants his home, he knows the way, if he doesn't, good riddance
Paraventure they finally convinced you to add his name, pls note, its no longer Mr and Mrs, nah, its john and titilayo