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MrCork:
Ok so yor 18year old husband wanto get pregnant for you becuase of your chritianity in germany....corrrrect?...
Is he ok in the head??... are u lightskin? (No oofense)

He said it's what he wants before marriage

Hello my fellow nairalanders, My name is Sonia, I hail from rivers state. I'm a professional hairstylist. I am sharing this post to reflect on the current State of my relationship. I will greatly appreciate your contributions on this matter.
My relationship is 8 years now. My man is doing very well. He is a single father of an 18years old girl child that lives in Germany with his elder sister. He is also based in Nigeria.
I'm not going to lie, he has been taking good care of me. Everything is fine between us.
But just as they say, there's is no man on earth without a problem.
Here's the problem, my man is insisting that I must get pregnant for him before he can marry me. I have tried to convince him that it is against our tradition and also against Christianity for one to get pregnant before marriage. For the past three years, that is what he has been saying
I'm so confused, what should I do now. I really need your advice

okomile:
Take him to rehab

Say no to drugs
Get information and bundle him out of the house
Mum should let him be treated before he does the unthinkable things
Goodluck

My dear, if that boy wants to reacts, you will be extremely surprised... Sometimes, I doubt if he's truly my brother. One day I was at work, they call me and said he was trying to put up a fight with my our dad

My younger brother of 22 years attacked me this morning after taking a substance called crystal methamphetamine popularly known as ice. For the past one year now, he has been giving everybody in the house heat. Ranging from insulting people, picking money in the house, eating food that is not his own, Bullying everybody in the house, wearing clothes without washing and not even thinking of sweeping, fatching water or washing the plates in the house.
I was looking at him, hoping and believing he will change for good. But as days passes by, it's becoming worst. Yesterday, he wanted to fight our mom, I prevented him and I warned him not to even raise his voice at her again. I tried fighting him but my Mom pleaded with me not to attack him...
This morning, while I was still in bed, my elder sister called me and said my brother was trying to break the padlock to my bag so he could collect clothes from it. With my sleepy eyes and subconsciousness, I went outside just to collect my bag from him.. I dragged the bag from him, the next thing I felt was a heavy punch to my face.. That was when I realized that this was no longer a joke. I quickly responded by trying to him back. We exchanged punches and he ran away. Till now, he has not come back. He added that everybody should be ready for him.
Sometimes, I wonder if he is truly my brother. I sustained an injury on my nose from his punch. He doesn't want to change for good. Sometimes, I do ask some of his friends that take ice why is he behaving like that. They will tell me that I should look for what is wrong with him.... I feel so bad because he's my only brother

faithsystem:
let me see the joystick first before i advice

You be Ashawo

I'm beside you

Romanoff:
I've be great o. I'm still here, I just dey reaf from page topics and dey observe.

@romanoff
God bless you, sis! Keep it up sis!

Romanoff:
Whether you marry her in church or court, the same rules apply in case of a divorce. Both church and court wedding are guided by the Marriage Act of the Federal republic of Nigeria.

So your fear is unfounded and it gives you off as a dishonest person.

If you love someone, you'll treat them right. Na if you dey plan to do bad to your wife you go dey consider all these things.

E better make you no just marry.

@Romanoff where have you been? I miss you so much on nairaland, please take good care of yourself for me

Just your fan on this platform

SenecaTheYonger:
This is your future:

-You’re going to break up with your loyal GF.
-You will date your old crush. After a while, you’ll come to realize there was nothing special about her.
-Your old crush will also come to hate you and seek out another guy to sleep with.
-You will fight to save the relationship.
-You will fail.
-She will leave.
-You’ll be alone.

Chai, this one touch me

Biglittlelois:
The annoying part is him giving you options "anal or we done" he's high I have no problem with anal, but making it seem that's what's keeping the relationship is a no no, he should go to hell abeg, rubbish.

God bless whoever you are, you opinion is beyond greatness

Samantha124:
Thank you..😊😊😊

I'm a lot better now.

Thank God
Wishing you all best

Samantha124:
I've learned that food poisoning is real... I've been 🤮🤮🤮 all evening.

Hopefully I'll be okay tomorrow.

God please protect this my friend, amen
You will get better okay

Samantha124:
I only received insults...😩😩😩

You too dey worry

Evil is not good

virginprincess:
Who told you women hate male virgin,it is only a sexually loosed woman that will prefer a used condom to a brand new one,as for me if a man is not a virgin i will never give him my whole heart and love because i can't trust him 100%.

One cup of fresh pammy for you

Eyinju112:
Shey you don ready for suicide yes or no? See I’m done convincing people over suicide, lot of people are going through problems bigger than yours and yet there’re still pushing, Abeg guy if na accommodation problem wan make you commit suicide do it in peace don’t disturb us...

Sweetheart, you are blessed

Please help me with the price of this refrigerator

EastAlchemist:
Lol
Do what works for you
One internet advice cannot change everybody

Na truooooh

Dangrace01:
But the previous story never said the guy was a pastor. Abi na me no read am well

Go and read it again

Maynmann:
How old is the girl?

23 years old

For those of you who saw and heard about the story of a certain pastor that rejected his bride-to-be three days to their traditional marriage due to the bride price list he got from his in-laws, here is the latest update concerning that particular unfortunate incident.
After the so-called pastor has rejected the bride, giving his reason to be the long list from his in-laws, I personally persuaded My mom to go and hear from the horse's mouth, because I was now interested in the whole drama as it has been unfolding before everyone's eyes.
My mom went to the mother of the bride-to-be, and asked her what really happened that made the pastor to quit the marriage three day to the traditional marriage.
My people, you won't believe what the mother of the intending bride told my mom.
She said the pastor had already disappointed three ladies before that of her own daughter, making it the fourth and lastest victim of his unpredictable behavior. When my mom asked her how did she know that, she said that her own daughter was even lucky. That one of the ladies he disappointed, was on the day of their wedding day, adding that he didn't even show up on the day of the wedding. This is after everything had been done which included all the marriage procedures.
She further said it was because of this his unpredictable life, that they transferred him from the headquarter of the church to the present branch of the church where he is presently now.
I don't know if this is related to spiritual assignment or he is just after sleeping with ladies under the guise of marriage. You know, men of God nowadays are something else. Not all are men of God. But here is what really baffled me about this particular incident, how come this was so hidden that nobody could spill it out during the three months of dating, and even the girl didn't know about this deep secret about her husband-to-be?
By the way the mum of the lady got to know through somebody that knows the pastor of very well and, that was when the girl got to find out by herself.
So the whole bride price list stuff was a camouflage.
But honestly speaking, sometimes, it is good to know about the past relationships life of your present boyfriend or girlfriend, spouse or whoever you are dating, how is started, and how it ended. The reason is that it has a way of helping you in your decision making and how you plan your future too with him or her.
For now, two men said they want to marry the girl, but the father of the girl said no, that her daughter needs a break and rest....
So that is just what happened.

Recently, let me say two to three weeks ago, my mom came back from church, discussing about an upcoming traditional marriage and wedding ceremony of the daughter of one of her church members with my dad. They were busy, I mean my mom and dad were busy talking about how the groom is a wealthy man and how the marriage will be glorious

I didn't even pick interest because I got better things to think about.
The bride-to-be is a graduate from akwa ibom, while the groom-to-be, on the other hand, is a pastor of one popular church in Nigeria, I won't mention the name of the church because not all their pastors are the same.

When they started the relationship, the pastor was rushing everything, he was like he can't wait to marry this pretty damsel.

According to the story, the parents of the both families have met each other, and some part of the traditional marriage has been done.
Everything was going according to plans, they even brought out a pre-wedding photo, which I myself saw on her Facebook. Here is how the marriage took a new twist,

Now, three days to the traditional marriage, the groom-to-be came out and said he's not getting married to the Bride anymore, that is no longer interested in the marriage.

When they asking why, he said it was because of the bride price list they gave to him.

Now, his church said there's no problem about that, that they will sponsor everything, the pastor still vehemently insisted that he is no longer interested in the marriage...

The parents of the girl said the marriage list is always open for negotiation, that it is not compulsory to pay everything at once, or even everything no the list to be paid,The young man still said no.

Now the marriage has been called off and the girl is heart-broken.

My Mom follow the mother of the bride-to-be to do the shopping.
They even invited so many people to the marriage ceremony but it unfortunately ended in the most unbelievable way...

What could possibly be the reason behind his decision?
Can a man go as far as performing some traditional marriage rite just to sleep with a girl?
Could it be because of the list?
Or can infantuation drive a man to do the unthinkable?
Could it be spiritual manipulation or just the matter of choice?

Urheadmaster:
Short story about me and my ex-girlfrend .

Married with a child, and when she heard that I have travelled out of the country to Germany.


On my Instagram page, I have my contact details.

That was how she got my contact and began to chart me up on WhatsApp messenger.


After telling me that, she regret married to the man she is currently living with.


One thing lead to another, she started sending me videos of her naked body while taking her baths.

Asking me to do the same but I declined.



She would call me on video chat while pressing her milky tits asking me to bring out my dick for her to see



I kuku ma blocked her because I couldn't take it any longer

I like this guy, wisdom will not kill you

UyaiIncomparabl:
So Rejoice wey dey always shout every Sunday on her Facebook page "It's time to go to church, make sure you get up and go to church" been dey chop prick? . The story no clear o.

Nawa o. Lowkey bad gal. Congrats sha.

You don see am nah

Romanoff:
This is not a thing to glorify.

Roman empire, you rock!

Romanoff:
The woman might just be desperate to get married.

You're the one on a position to weigh if you really love her enough to marry her.

But you just be ready to lay your ego aside, especially when it comes to finance.
If you're insecure about the state of your finances, I'll suggest that you abort mission.

CEO, more years to your age

[quote author=Romanoff post=118381845]Your suspicion is based on previous trust broken and I know too well that trust once broken cannot be put together like before.

Before you keep confronting her, have evidence, calls aren't enough, the calls could be innocent and really work related.

Sha check her phone to set your mind at ease.

Una wey dey stay with unfaithful partner, the Lord is your strength o. [/qu
Infidelity management should be a course in schools at all levels of education

Romanoff:
Your suspicion is based on previous trust broken and I know too well that trust once broken cannot be put together like before.

Before you keep confronting her, have evidence, calls aren't enough, the calls could be innocent and really work related.

Sha check her phone to set your mind at ease.

Una wey dey stay with unfaithful partner, the Lord is your strength o.

Roman off, where have you been? It's cool to read your comment on nairaland once again, please take care of yourself, I was looking for you, now that I have found you, it is time to follow you up

MALIGNANTGuest:
So, you mean illiterates don't go for illiterates or what? What about the theory of birds of same feather flocking together?

My friend you have to start believing such SHIT.
Most MARRIED MEN are hiding a lot from people because if such should leak, their wives will be heading back to base. Some kept such away and did like nothing happened to save the family's integrity, so that their daughters could get married. Because such can soil family image.

IF most married men start opening up, the enthusiasm of marriage across the globe will wane swiftly. I have been in a position where i have had to entertain the problems of both husbands and wife surrounding infertility & pleasure. So, I know what I'm saying.
Women carry bagages. And they know!

My brother, tell him ooh, what some people see as grammatical rules, some other people can take it as a grammatical error

MALIGNANTGuest:
That's the pathetic truth.
Most of these sidemen phuck them like whores without dignity and I guess they enjoy such that way. But our men should start learning how to divorce these women or torture them emotionally before leaving them. That should be the goal.

U don't have to beat your wife up to prove a point, rather adopt other measures worse than physical abuse. U can start by elevating ur maids to madam level & treating dem as QUEENS.
Or you can propose to her unmarried sister & divorce the deceitful WIFE. WAYS plenty naaaa!

My brother, may your days be long

UncleTJAY:
Na "how is my children..." and "your children is doing fine" funny me. English hard for them

English you no sabi, u dey Bleep another persin wife to stuporously

Mayng01:
What a beautiful soul wasted..... smh. Rip to the dead. How I wish you overcame the depression and see a beautiful future ahead of you.

I swear