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born dec. 3th 11.45 p.m.

what age difference are we talking about here? This issue has been up for discussion so many times already on NL. Read what everybody answered.

I am 5 years older then my boyfriend and we treat eachother equal. We don't have a problem with the agedifference because we find our relationship and what we want in life much more important then these numbers.

If you love her, then go for it!!!!

i have a long distance relationship and i know it isn't that easy. Especially if you live in 2 different countries. The most important thing is that you trust eachother and have daily contact in some kind of way. By phone,sms,email or chat. And if there is a day that you can't get in touch with eachother, don't think the worst, because there is always an explanation. If you start thinking the worst you will not have a life. Try to see eachother by webcam if that is possible. Because if you can't see eachother for a long time it's taking a lot from your relationship too.

And if you really want to be with eachother forever, then make plans together to make that happen, so you have something to look forward too. Both!

good luck!

PS: i disagree totally that you should have a second choice nearby. Because when you do that, it only shows lack of character. That your not willing to do everything to make it work!

the most things are said already:

1. lack of respect

2. lack of hygiene

3. cheating

but i got problems with the following things too:

4. being to late, i like to be punctual and expect my boyfriend to be that too. If he says he will call back in 10 min, i expect his call in 10 min, not 2 hours

5. stand for what your saying, don't make empty promises! Because it hurts that you tell me one thing, get me all excited on it and then tell me that it isn't what you want right now. It's like stealing a candy from a child 

6. Never take me for granted.

I guess you could say that i treat the guy as i want to be treated.

Hi

here the link to the video on CNN:

http://edition.cnn.com/video/?/video/living/2009/03/11/stevens.hk.worst.places.to.work.cnn

I wrote a similair topic about this a few days ago. The link to that topic is:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-246244.0.html

Just like any other foreigner working in another country then his/her own, if your not done working there and need to extend your workingvisa, you don't wanna spend money on a airplaneticket to go back to your own country and apply to the local Nigerian embassy for the extension. And i'm sure that the offices in Nigeria make the foreigners bribe the nigerians to get the extension. The only thing i have seen with my own eyes, you don't get anything done without a bribe! I'm sorry to say that, but it's true, everybody wants to have extra cash because they don't get paid well for there work. That's why i find it so important that the salaries have to go up so the bribing can be stopped.

@Pataki:

What i mean with more woman in politics is that there could be less corruption and bribes. I don't hear much about female politicians around the world that have been accused of taking bribes? And what i ment with more companies invest in the country i ment not that more companies should settle in Nigeria, but that they use a part of the money they make in Nigeria to invest in the country. For better schools, jobs, roads, electricity, etc, everything that can make the country going in the right direction.

@just good: don't the nigerians do the same? and not only nigerians, but every country that has this kind of visa problems?

can we stick to the topic please? if you wanna discuss grammar, please open a new topic

Getting back to the topic, what would you do to get Lagos from that first place? I know traffic is hell there, but that isn't so strange since everybody just can buy a driverslicence for 5000 naira and start driving cars there! There has to be rules! And people have to be willing to obey those rules. It's not only about the traffic, it concerns all the issues Nigeria has. Everybody complains about how bad it is overthere, but is anybody willing to do anything about it? I think the biggest issue is corruption. I heard that even teachers get paid for giving specific papers, it breaks my heart, it shouldn't be this way! There need to be more woman in politics and maybe even more companies willing to invest in the country. If the payments for the jobs would be better, they don't need to use corruption, Or am i totally wrong here?

So what can you do to make it a better place?

send the emai to the fraud department of Fedex, that will teach him a lesson,

here the (automatic) answer i got:

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will keep you posted if i get more replies

come on MrCrackles, make my evening, need a good laugh

if you open a topic and read it you can reply with the reply button on the bottom of the page,

good luck!

just recieved this email, watch out people!

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We understand that the content of your package itself is a Bank Draft worth $800,000.00 USD, in FedEx we do not ship money in CASH or in CHEQUES but in Bank Drafts only.  The package is registered with us for mailing by your colleague, and your colleague explained that he is from the United States but he is in Nigeria for a three (3) month Surveying Project. for he is working with a consulting firm in Nigeria West Africa.

We are sending you this E-mail because your package is been registered on a Special Order.  What you have to do now, is to contact our Delivery Department for the immediate dispatch of your package to your residential address. Note that as soon as our Delivery Team confirms your information, it will only take us one working day (24 hours) for your package to arrive at its designated destination.For your information, the VAT & Shipping charges as well as Insurance fees have been paid by your colleague before your package was registered.  Note that the payment that is made on the Insurance, Premium & Clearance Certificates, are to certify that the Bank Draft is not a Drug Affiliated Fund (DAF) neither is it funds to sponsor Terrorism in your country. This will help you avoid any form of query from the Monetary Authority of your country.

However, you will have to pay a sum of $205 US Dollars to the FedEx Delivery Department for the Security Keeping Fee of the FedEx company as stated in our privacy terms & condition page. Also be informed that your colleague wished to pay for the Security Keeping charges, but we do not accept such payments considering the facts that all items & packages registered with us has a time limitation and we cannot accept payment not knowing when you will be picking up the package or even respond to us. So we cannot take the risk to have accepted such payment in case of any possible demur rage.  Kindly note that your colleague did not leave us with any further information.We hope that you send your response to us as soon as possible because if you fail to respond until the expiry date of the foremost package, we may refer the package to the British Commission for Welfare as the package those not have a return address. 

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found this on CNN's homepage today:


http://edition.cnn.com/video/?/video/living/2009/03/11/stevens.hk.worst.places.to.work.cnn

Do you agree?

http://edition.cnn.com/video/?/video/living/2009/03/11/stevens.hk.worst.places.to.work.cnn

well, i got some friends in Nigeria that might be able to help me. I have asked for there help quit a few times now and i didn't wanted to bother them to much, but maybe i have to ask them to do me this favour again. It will benefit for them too, because they are as worried as i am


Thanks for the advice and keep up the good work here. Have read a lot of your topics and answers in other topics and you seem like a fun guy, maybe our paths cross again here someday


ps: where are you based?

I'm in Europe, Holland to be precisly

Have been to Nigeria a few times, hope to be there again during the summer if my BF get's relocated to Lagos

Hi MrCrackles,

Like you, I'm not in Nigeria either  

But i am a stubborn girl and when i put my teeth in things i don't let go untill i am satisfied with the outcome of it  

Travelling to Yobe state isn't an option for me, so i will have to find other ways to reach him. I know he went with a friend, i just need to find somebody who knows that friend and has his number so i can try to reach him instead, will take a while and hope to get help from our friends to reach that goal,

I know a lot of Nigerians find the NYSC very useless, a waist of time, but do you think that this people (including you) will have a chance for a good job in Nigeria without that paper?

Hardar4lag:

what i ment was that i thought you knew more about how the NYSC's first month is working. But i really wanna thank you anyway for your answers. It means a lot to me.

Hardar4lag;

thanks for your answers. I thought you did your NYSC so you could give me the answers

I wish you good luck with school and i hope that i will get some answers from somebody else here on NL. Because i can't wait untill you go and do your NYSC

MrCrackles

You know it better then me where my topic should be on NL

I just hope to get the attention so i can get the answers that i need to talk to my BF as soon as possible

Did you do your NYSC? I guess you did. Do you have the answers for me?

thank you MrCrackles, that is very kind of you.

Hi MrCrackles,

i saw your message that you moved my topic, but when i look under General discussion-Nairaland i can't find it? Should it be there anyway? Because this isn't a discussion how to use Nairalands forum,

It's very kind of you that you want to give me your brothers phonenumber, but to be honest, i feel uncomfortable calling strangers and ask there help. Your brother and i don't know eachother so i can't ask him to help me with this. He is in the city anyway like you said and not in the village, so the chance that he can help me is zero %. But thanks anyway. Can you at least answer the above asked questions? What is there daily schedule? Do they have time for themselfs during the day? Do they have days off? Would a local offlice help me to get a message to him? Did you do your NYSC? Then you should know this i guess?

I'd like to keep taking here so that other people that are in the same situation can benefit from our diolog too. Ok, so he is in the village, bad network there, but he can have his phone switched on. Do you know the schedule? When do they have some time for themselfs? Do they have days off or is it 7 days a week there busy? I found a number for a local office in Yobe state, didn't try to call it yet to see if it is working. Prefer to send emails anyway because it can be a bad connention and then it's hard to understand eachother. Maybe i should try go get help from our friends in Lagos with the calling,

Hi,

thanks for your reply. I don't know if this NYSC camp is in the village. It must be if his phone isn't reachable. I guess i have to wait untill he calls. I'm just worried that if something happend nobody can reach him. Is there a number we could call at this camp or a local NYSC office to get in touch with him? Do you know that?

Come on! There must be someone who has done NYSC in Yobe and will be done this month? Who knows exacly how it works up there?
Just need some answers please.

Hi everybody,

I'm new to this forum. Joint it because i have a relationship with a Nigerian guy. and wanted to learn everything there is to know about the country and the people. We are together a year now. He went off to do this NYSC in Yobe state last week. We didn't have contact by phone yet and now i am wondering if there are policy's when it comes to mobile phones and how this first month in the program is working? Tried to read about it on the internet, but didn't find out much. Can anybody tell me if you can use phones, if there is a good network up there (he has a GLO number)  if you even have some free time and if there are people out there that have the same problem? I read about problems with robberies, killing, accidents etc. Not be able to reach my boyfriend makes me worried. Even his mother and friends haven't heard from him yet.

Please serious answers only. Am not here to amuse anybody. So please not come with answers like " he probably wanna get rid of you and found this an easy way out" because i know that is not the case. We are getting engaged this year.

Thanks in advance for the answers.

hi everybody,

my boyfriend was send to Yobe state for his NYSC. He lives in Lagos normally. Does anybody here has friends out there? Tried to contact him by phone for the last 4 days, but it's never reachable. Is that because of the network or are phones not allowed in the camp?

plz, serious answers only, you all know what i'm talking about

it's ok. I just wanted to help the poster, not irritate you

thank you!