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Dr Olukoya of mountain of fire and miracles ministries has a popular saying which goes purpose before partner. In other words find out what you are wired to do on the earth before finding a spouse

Below are excerpts from today's keynote from the purpose preacher Dr Sam Ekundayo on Purpose and marriage. You can enrol in the school of purpose here >> http://www.spinuniversity.org

God may not approve of your choice in marriage but he honors that choice the moment a covenant is involved.

Make sure there is purpose compatibility between you and your partner before marrying among all the compatibility you are looking for.

Ask the person you're dating what they feel their purpose is so you know what you're signing up for and tell them yours so they know what they are signing up for. Is this something you can support them in and that they can support you in?

The greatest threat to the devil is a marriage that is committed to the purpose of God.

Marriage is supposed to help in making you fulfill you're greatest potential not to cut it off or limit it.

Don't marry someone that is threatened by your potential.

The greatest test of your relationship is when you are down. Is that person going to push you further down or help in picking you up?

What keeps us fulfilled is the purpose of God for our lives.

Marriage without purpose is like marriage without an agenda.

Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship.

Dr Olukoya of mountain of fire and miracles ministries has a popular saying which goes purpose before partner. In other words find out what you are wired to do on the earth before finding a spouse

Below are excerpts from today's keynote from the purpose preacher Dr Sam Ekundayo on Purpose and marriage. You can enrol in the school of purpose here >> http://www.spinuniversity.org

God may not approve of your choice in marriage but he honors that choice the moment a covenant is involved.

Make sure there is purpose compatibility between you and your partner before marrying among all the compatibility you are looking for.

Ask the person you're dating what they feel their purpose is so you know what you're signing up for and tell them yours so they know what they are signing up for. Is this something you can support them in and that they can support you in?

The greatest threat to the devil is a marriage that is committed to the purpose of God.

Marriage is supposed to help in making you fulfill you're greatest potential not to cut it off or limit it.

Don't marry someone that is threatened by your potential.

The greatest test of your relationship is when you are down. Is that person going to push you further down or help in picking you up?

What keeps us fulfilled is the purpose of God for our lives.

Marriage without purpose is like marriage without an agenda.

Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship.

God save our children

DaddyCK:
wifey material? bro the truth is I fall in love almost everyday with different lightskin women...its difficult to concetrate on wifey material quality especially when they lightskin and they gots boooobsi & yansh...they wifey materila thing goes outter the window. thats the problem. Even at one church I went to, I almost fell in love wit the pastor wife sir. she was lightskin. I was juss in love. I didnt even understand wot church walk sayin. Nigerian women are now business. U pay, they become yor girlfriend for at least one month. i am tired of heart break! (true story)

Well @DaddyCK, what you just described above is common with melancholic personality types as they have a strong love for beauty.

Play a game with yourself...practice searching for the finer qualities in a person asides their attractive physical assets even if you won't date those types of people that don't meet your standards.

Then move to level 2, practice searching for people around you that have both the physical assets you like, and deeper character qualities (kindness, prudence with finances etc)

Then ask yourself who you need to be to attract those kinds of people because ultimately, you attract who you are...

The two videos above may help you or anyone else experiencing the issues you previously described

I do know not everyone can relate with church or goes there, but do watch with an open mind and take what you can from what you view and it should help greatly

Rooting for you ❤

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0ZCALOTvRM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrOlzROU8wM

ahnie:
Most men are not only mannerless,their character is also yeye

What about the women? dear @ahnie

DaddyCK:
Nigerian women now charge you for everytin.
When you date them, they bill you
When you toast them, they Bill you,
When you say they look nice: They bill you.
You give them moiney, they still bill u for not havin enough
You go and visit them, they bill u sayin u cant come empty handed
And when you start gettin broke..then they giv u yor finally bill.

This is the EXACT reason why all guys now seettle for Olosho or 1 night stand. One night stand & olosho dont bring stress.
juss touch n go.
Nigerian women new excuse now is: well if u cant pay to look after yor car..u should be able to pay to look afta me,,,meaning u must SPEND!!! ((REAL TALK))

Interesting take on things @DaddyCK but, have you tried searching for wife material kind of ladies? They will not bill you but rather build with you. You just have to know what to look out for and where to look

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7kUELRVXHc

Special guest speaker - Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo

Three things have the Potential to change your life. Meeting Jesus, discovering your purpose and who you marry

A lot of people think that it's the Church, war or government that can make this world a better place but Genesis 2:18-19 shows after God gave adam a job he made him a husband. So for this world to be a better place, we must focus on the families.

Who you marry will affect the rest of your life.

In Malachi 2 we see that God brings two people together so He can get a Godly seed. He has stake in every marriage, He wants Godly children to be raised. That's his own picture and idea of how the world can become a better place.

You don't choose your parents or siblings. The only family member you choose is your spouse so you better make that decision right.

Who should I marry? (Ten things to look out for)

1. The person must be in Christ - You must marry a fellow born again believer. The issue is not about niceness or morality, the issue is about the nature being changed.

In Ephesians 2 it says we were by nature children of wroth. When you become born again it's not just your actions that change but your nature. A born again person doesn't just stop committing sin; they don't want to commit sin. Even when they commit sin, they feel bad because they do not want to live like that.

Don't marry someone you will force to love God and go to Church. Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers.

2. The person must have character - What is their behavior like?
Don't look at only outward appearance.

You can't build your marriage on those things as they can't hold a marriage together.

Of course you should marry someone you like but looks are not enough. A woman that fears the Lord she shall be praised.

Don't just look at someone because they are beautiful or handsome, what is their character like? The Bible says " a faithful man who can find?" - Not a handsome man. The Bible says "a virtuous woman who can find?" Not a beautiful woman. Nigeria is filled with beautiful women, the one we are looking for is virtuous women, Nigeria is filled with handsome men, the one we are looking for is faithful men.

That's the one that's hard to find. What were looking for is character. It's not everyone that's in church that's eligible for you to marry.

A church is a hospital. We have all kinds of people in church. Just because someone attends a church doesn't mean they're a Christian. Because you sleep in a garage doesn't make you a car.

You must check for Christ-like character. There are all kinds of people in Church. Some people are still growing in the things of God. Check their character; the person that is lying for you today will lie to you tomorrow.

He's threatening to beat you today, he will beat you tomorrow.

The guy pressuring you for sex is an adulterer in the making.

It's not about his desire for you, he lacks self-control. Is he or she impatient to marry? If they can't wait to marry and want to hurry to enter without counseling etc beforehand, they won't wait in the marriage and will come out again.

It's a lack of patience not love.

Everything that God asks you to do in marriage, he has already asked you to do as a single person

Start living your life the God way now. Don't wait till you get married. Marriage does not change anyone.

If God has asked you to forgive people, forgive people now.

If you've been practicing forgiveness to the person who you don't know on the street, you won't find it difficult to forgive your wife that you love.

The lady that is fighting her boss, elder brother, parents etc will fight you because it's simple... she hates authority.

3. Is there compatibility?
Check for it. Amos 3'3 says two can't walk together except they be agreed (paraphrased). If you can settle the issue of compatibility, things will flow easily. Compatibility doesn't mean similarity, it just means the ability for two people to get along. One person can like to talk and the other likes to listen, that means they're compatible. On the other hand, if both people like to talk - there can be issues. Compatibility means we have certain strengths and things that complement each other. Before you ask "are we compatible?"
check some basic issues like your values - do we believe the same things about life? It's not every Christian you can marry. There are some churches where, women don't wear earrings while there are some where: men wear earrings.

Check your purpose for life. Discover it before you choose a partner for life. Where are you going? Then that's what determines who is going with you. For instance it's not everyone that should marry a pastor or a businessman. If you're going to marry a businessman you must know how to pray because they live by faith (income is not steady or guaranteed).

As an example, if you're a sister in the choir and two men called Michael want to marry you, Michael tyson (boxer) and Michael jackson (singer), who would you pick? Michael Jackson of course!
Marrying that kind of person will be good because he will understand your career and add impact to it.

There are many people that have gotten married and their visions and their dreams were destroyed. So make sure you marry someone that can accommodate your vision. Someone that can appreciate what you are called to do.

4. Companionship - Marry your friend. Don't make the mistake of thinking your being too close to someone means you can't marry them. A Friend is a great choice, or Is it your enemy you want to marry?
Proverbs 17:17
Friendship is one of the main things you will do in marriage. One of the main things married people do is talk.

If there are 24hrs in a day, yes you will make love and if you do, it will it will last 1 hour leaving 23

Then if you're spiritual you pray for 1hr.

What will you be doing for the remaining 22hrs?
Answer: TALKING

Don't try to make your wife a friend instead.. out of your friends, choose a wife.

Many people pretend when they meet a potential partner because they're under a lot of pressure already.

When you meet someone through friendship you tend to be more real because there's no pressure.

5. Capacity - before you start to choose a spouse, do you have the capacity. Marriage is not for boys, it's for men.

Marriage is not a joke. Many people crash in marriage because they entered too early. They're not ready.

Capacity simply talks about maturity. Are you ready for that decision?
Genesis 2 says "therefore shall a man leave his father and mother...."
One of the ways you can measure maturity is when you can survive on your own.

When you can leave your father and mother. It doesn't mean you won't relate with them but it means you can stand as a person on your own.

One of the things that breaks marital homes the most is the influence of in-laws who keep giving different advice (e.g build house and don't tell your husband/wife" etc)
You must make sure your perspective about marriage is right. Anything they are telling you must be rooted in the word of God.

If they can't show you scripture for it don't accept it. The Bible says "Let all men be liars and God be true."

Your perspective is important because what you expect is what you accept.
Expect the best in marriage.

A perfect marriage is not between two perfect people. It's between two mature people.

Fights in marriage happen when both parties decide not to have self restraint or act in love. It takes two to fight.

There must be spiritual maturity and financial capacity. If you don't have a job, you have no business looking for a wife.

Look for a job; Nobody wants to marry a liability. There's also a wrong notion where it's assumed that men make all the money and the woman will spend it.

Some ladies say "I can't Mary a man who doesn't have a car" and I tell them I can't marry a woman that doesn't have a car either.

There's nowhere in the Bible that says the man must provide for the home alone.

That mentality has made many women lazy where they think they don't have to do anything with their lives but wait for someone to come and marry them.

The Bible says the woman is the helper. If you don't help the man financially where else are you helping him?

When choosing a marriage partner be careful of undue influences. Make sure you're looking for real qualities that can sustain a home.

Be careful of undue influences such as men using money to woo you. The Bible says "a gift can pervert judgement..."

Also don't beg anyone to marry you.

Marriage is a commitment. The two of you must want to go along. You can't be the person begging the man or the woman now. The journey is too far for you to start begging from now.

If the man or woman doesn't appreciate you to marry you let them go. Someone who appreciates you will come.

Don't use sex to try and hold a man or woman.

Sex before marriage is a sin and if introduced can affect your judgement. You won't choose right.

Pastor Kingsley : "We've run out of time. To see the other five you'll have to get the book."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N4E4e6AdLY8

Text summary here > https://www.nairaland.com/6101084/finding-someone-marry

DaddyCK:
this one will not work with our Nigerian women sir!!! (no oofeinse)

Dear @DaddyCK,

no offense taken. Your opinion is valued. Why do you feel it will not work?

Death to porn

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jz-OpJTtKGE

Text summary of all parts here > https://www.nairaland.com/6101055/what-nobody-tells-sex

Good afternoon

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xbIMgqayT0

No to porn

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The habit can be stopped

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ue9jZpd_L4

7 mistakes single men make

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjRkGAwJGDA

1. Choosing beauty over character

Wisdom points
- Remember the importance of good character

- Make a list of qualities you find attractive in a partner

2. Not learning about relationships.

Wisdom points
- Start learning about relationships

- Get a mentor

- Pay attention to the ladies around you

3. Not managing their sexuality

Wisdom points
- Make a list of reasons you need self-control (e.g losing honor through sex, diseases etc)

- Build up your character and determination (grow spiritually etc)

- Always put clear boundaries in place (Avoiding people, things, and places of temptation)

4. Not praying about marriage

Wisdom Points
- Start praying about your life partner

- Start to seek God's leading (start practicing hearing God in all areas of your life)

- Confirm from God

5. Taking advantage of women

Wisdom Points
- Treat ladies with respect. Don't look down on or take advantage of them

- Think about how you can act better

- See all ladies as your sisters

6. Don't measure your value by money alone

Don't marry for where you are but for where you are going. Don't discount yourself from approaching ladies because you're not in as comfortable a position presently as they are.

Don't wait to be very rich before you choose a wife. At that stage it will be very difficult to know the women that like you for you.

Don't depend on money to lead in your home. Don't tie your ability to lead in the home to the amount of money you bring home in comparison to your wife.

Wisdom Points
- List what makes you valuable as a man asides money (what are your skills, gifts, purpose.

- List the leadership qualities you need and start to work on them (remember you're going to lead a home).

7. Not submitting to authority

As a man you need other men to speak into your life. You can't run this race alone.

You'll go further with mentors (Proverbs 11:14). Even the best of the best still need coaching e.g. footballer Ronaldo.

Wisdom Points
- Ask yourself "how can authority figures help me?"

- Take inventory of the authority figures in your life

Cleanliness makes one attractive

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dwqam0E-aU4

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