We are only human and thus in this course of life we make mistakes of minor and major consequence, we secretly made the decision unknown to family and friends in the beginning. maybe if we had gathered opinion someone cld have talked sense into us. that is why I ask consensus now,

Hello.

7 years ago my husband and I decided not to have any more children. We already have 1 boy and 1 girl. At the time, I suggested he get a Vasectomy because it was only a minor surgery, compared to me getting female tubes tied, would be a major surgery and need 6 weeks recovery time. HE AGREED and had the procedure done.

Now he wants more children. Sometimes I think I want more children too-- and he now says that I FORCED HIM to go to the doctor for his procedure and has been very BITTER toward me. He has said he wants nore children for a whole year. This is straining our marriage. HE WILL NOT CONSIDER ADOPTION.

Its very expensive to have it reversed (In U.S. its $12,000) and still no guarantee that it will work after all this time.

Is it better to raise the money and try for surgery, or just expect that God will have mercy and give us a child by miracle?

Are there any agencies that supply housegirls who can work in the U.S.?

How can an ex-pat go about finding a reliable househelp age 16 or older that is willing to work in the U.S.?

@Bawa---


I NEVER ever ever ever said GOD did this to these people. Read my post.

((I wonder why people who believe there is a God- do frequently forget there is a devil as well.))

I know God is not the author of confusion.

Fine-- cutting off people's body parts and selling them for rituals may not be wicked to YOU, doing spells for the purpose of controlling someone else's life, fortune, and destiny may not seem like wickedness to YOU-- but many others would beg to differ.

Haiti was hit by 4 major hurricanes in 3 weeks time just over a year ago---- I'm just wondering if this degree of annihilation is linked at all to certain practices-- just makes one wonder.

Horrrrible!!!!!!
Haiti Earthquahe--Like the KATRINA HURRICANE that hit New Orleans---Both (Port-au-Prince, Haiti, and New Orleans, Louisiana) both have something in common, VOODOO!!

Is there a link between these NATURAL DISASTERS and their wicked certain traditions---or just coincidence??

I'm just wondering--

I want more information.

Haiti suffered a whopping 7.0 earthquake. Much of its infrastructure and buildings are similar to that of Lagos. How would Naija fair in such a circumstance

Would Nigerians ban together to help his neighbor, or Every man for himself?

Would the nations of the world help-- or would they claim fear of fraud, corruption, robbery and bandits would meet their relief efforts

What do you think NL?

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newsvideo/6979143/Hundreds-feared-dead-in-Haiti-quake.html

@Topic: Naija men ofcourse!

All colors except black, brown, and dark green, and navy blue

OK- My last try--- the think at top the OP should be active now.

^^^LOL - No- but I think it showed white attitude toward the sexual prowess of black men-- and mississippi burning was soooo horrible-- U can't watch a movie like that twice and live among white people-- it messes with your mind seriously---

BLACK MEN are seen as the MOST SEXUALLY astout (African Mandigo)

followed by Latinos (Latino Lover)

and then Itallion (Italian Stallion)

the latter two are just watered down versions of the 1st.

REMEMBER - "BLACK BUCKS" were selected to "breed" strong slaves - and white mistresses often took them as lovers -

you need to watch the movie "Mandingo"

@oneloveb55: You are a very pretty young lady - if thats u in your profile pix- _(no-homo)

@OP: My first direct insult to any Nairalander ever, goes to you!!!!


[center]You are a complete ignoramus, jackass, and waste of brain matter!!!![/center]

^^^Don't challenge me o- Yes dats my real age. And my profile pic- is how I look "old" using make-up. Without makeup- I can look younger.

LMAO! ##4,5,6, AND 17<<<<<TOTALLY ON POINT!!!!

^^^^^^sooo true.

^^^^True, but it needs to be talked about seriously.

I have heard this same story from other women--and they question IF it was really despoil.

WHY WOULD THAT NOTION EVEN PRESENT ITSELF- except he did something- she voiced she did not consent to?

I think 9ja men are very sexually aggressive. The original poster said "all men have despoiled a girl"--- Maybe not all--but def, More probably have, than have not.


Women have to also get the notion OUT of their head-- that it isn't despoil just because

1- he is her boyfriend
2- he did not punch or hit her
3-she found no reason to scream despoil or cry out for help
4- you were already kissing and petting, or unclothed.
5- she has had sex with him before
6- he spent money for their date
7-she did not fight back, or actually try to harm him in her own defense