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nuelsam:
most girls out here cant keep an interesting convo, they depend on guys to do the convo while they sit back enjoy like it's a monopoly even though they crushing on him��lol
so guys, share your experiences..... what's the worst shot a girl had attempted to shoot at you?
I think I've got two.. yeah
the first one
outta the blue, she just sat next to me, pulled out her phone and started showing me her gallery thinking I'll compliment her.. mtcheew I didn't say shit!! ��just looked away.
the second
she hit my dm with the wackest and unrelated bio I've ever seen, then she dropped her phone number with the instruction " call me" ..... caller tunes ni mtcheew

I used to visit a particular lady in her place when I was still in Nigeria, we stayed in the same street and knew each other in the same street and became friends after NYSC when she came to write a recruitment examination in her state of origin, she based in Lagos when she was still schooling. I used to stay in her place till when I feel like going home, she was cool to be with and I was fun to be with as well.

One day she gave me a balm, took off her clothes in my presence though backing me, after removing all her clothes and under wears she tied her towel around her waist, told me that she had walked a long distance during the day, the time was some minutes past 9 in the night when I checked. She begged me to help rub her back that was aching her as she lied down on her bed facing down. Then I was still a virgin I did as requested, I did not know she was playing a game initially, she requested I apply more force at the lower part of her back when the towel she tied was nowhere to be found in her body, then I knew where she was heading, as I didn't mind anything that might come up as I told myself I have tried.


She stood up brought some water and detergent with a bowl, I washed my hands, as I was washing my hands she appreciated my assistance. While my hands were still inside the bowl, she starred at my trousers noticing I was totally swimming in the mood, she rested her chest on me, no single cloth was on her not even a towel. I couldn't resist this temptation anymore, she dis-virgined me and taught me almost everything a virgin man should know as I pass the night of that day in her house, the act continued till when she got an offer in Lagos three weeks after and she returned.

Richnerd69:
Your write up contains a lot of mis appropriations of punctuation, for that kind of brain you have, if truly your assertions are true that you practically made a 5.0cgpa. To think you are a masters student, I find it unsatisfying to read . Pls make good use of paragraphs and punctuations , like the other lady said.

Lol, thanks.

lefulefu:
better focus on what u went to the uk to do.it wont be good if u flunked ur studies cos of pussy and u now went back to naija with nothing

Lol, it's not really about pussy, I'm not the pussy type, I could even count the number of times in my entire life that I have done things like that, not even up to four.
With the grace God gave to me, I don't think I can flunk, I'm not being proud but I really know that academics is the easiest task for me, I graduated with a CGPA tending towards 5.0 in one of the toughest engineering courses. But I really want to come out with an excellent grade, not average, that is what the point is.

Like when should I do that, now or towards the end of my program? UK masters is one year and maybe few months maximum, faster than some countries that don't speak English, no additional year for learning language, so when will you suggest I do that if I must?

Notasaints:
If you still have feelings for her, give her a second chance.

Martinez39:
Keep being confused, keep misplacing your priorities, and don't focus on your studies. When you fail, you will explain to your children why you screwed up something important for a girl that didn't marry you, give you the p-sleeve but gave others, and ended up with someone else. Go son!

I appreciate your comment though harsh kinda, but the truth lies in the lines, I will focus on my studies, in fact I must. One of my targets is to start my PhD immediately after my masters, and coming out with the required grade is paramount, not willing and wishing to do any other masters again. Thanks boss.

Octopusssy:
Op, you must be seriously joking if you think i will read all these.

Mscheeeeeeeew

Your comment could really go a long way, kindly read.

Ucheraymond:
All the signs that you should try again are there...for your sanity and concentration in your studies I think you should too. Heck even fate wants you guys to be together hence the chance meet up in a foreign land.. Go for it bro ASAP.

Thanks, I was also having the thought that it wasn't a mere coincidence.

Not that I'm not interested, I still love her as I have said, what is delaying me is: why did she suddenly pick interest in me despite all the efforts I made to have her in Nigeria? Wasn't she seeing good future in me while I was still in Nigeria? Is she now seeing compatibility in our tomorrow due to the present location of the two of us? These are the things delaying me not to do the necessary, I want to be sure she's not loving me based on what she's seeing.

Please I need your candid advice, I had my first degree in Nigeria, I won a scholarship, now pursuing my masters degree in one of the leading UK Universities, I attended one of the federal universities in south west, toward my graduation, I approach this beautiful, brilliant and intelligent girl that I have been fantasizing our togetherness in marriage, so unfortunate for me that this lady rejected my proposal, I did all I could to convince her to marry me, but all my efforts were in futility, to cut the story short, I moved on, we were level mates, though not departmental mate, and not faculty mate, I knew of her brilliance, and she also knew of my level of academic intelligence, after graduation I used to message her on WhatsApp once in a while to greet her, most especially during festive periods and new months to greet her for new month and new year, but all her late one word responses confirmed to me that she wasn't into me, I gradually reduced the greeting chats until I decided not to send any message to her. Fast forward to last year, I was going to the university library to do some studies, I saw a lady that resembles this particular lady from afar coming out of the library, but I didn't consider putting my mind with the thought that it was just mere distance resemblance, the third step I climbed was a voice from my side saying "Hello" with a finger tap on my arm, I looked into the eyes of the person, it was amazing and surprising that I was greeted by "Favour". We greeted normally and I tried as much as possible not to allow any emotional greetings or talk and not to allow any emotions to becloud my reasonings. I greeted her normally, we exchanged contacts and we departed, I was going to the library for studies, but I could not open a page of my note all I was opening was pages of Favour in my mind, nothing meaningful was gained for almost four hours I stayed in the library, all my thoughts were revolving around Favour, this feelings was greater than ever. But I promised myself not to make any call to her or send any message, I wasn't treated well back in Nigeria when I was doing that, so I made up my mind not to call or text her. Around 9:00pm on the same day, I received a WhatsApp message from her, she greeted me and we discussed for a lengthy time at the detriment of my time. It was during the course of the conversion that I got to know that she won the same scholarship I won in the same year she won hers, we were both happy with ourselves, to cut the story short, as I have determined not to call her or text, after three days, she called me that she'll like us to meet at the corridor of her department, but I declined the request, turning down her request wasn't really coming from my heart, but I needed to regain my manly respect. She asked for the reason for not coming, I told her that our departments are far apart, the call ended on a good note. I got home thinking, contemplating whether I haven't overdo, but I summoned courage. For more than a month, I didn't call or text, all our conversion and discussions were initiated by her, on a particular Saturday, she called me and requested for us to meet and have time together, we met at a cafeteria, she paid for everything we ate, and I asked her to permit me to take my leave after being together for more than one hour, what we discussed was on the rigour and stress that we passed through in winning the scholarship and other things related to schooling in UK, the discussion of the our experiences were interesting to the both party. I took my leave as we had handshakes, she was starring at me as I was going, I looked at her face and caught her red handed, but she pretended not to be looking at me, since all these days I called her twice to initiate talks, after some periods of time there was a break in communication, for almost two weeks we didn't chat and we didn't discuss on phone, I was kinda afraid, thinking maybe she was tired of doing the callings, fortunately, I received her call after thirteen days checking through my call/chat records with her, after this, a day can hardly pass without calling me for at least three time on an average, also, she checks my WhatsApp status every now and then, and she'll always comment on them, I still have deep feelings for this lady, I'm not in any serious relationship, and with what I could deduce from our conversation, I think she's not in a relationship, I'm 60% confident that she really wants me to reshoot my shot. Which I'm actually considering as well, but I'm trying to give it a reasonable time and more conviction because ladies can be funny sometimes. To be honest, her thoughts of affections and feelings have being affecting my academic performance, I couldn't read for 6 straight hours, my reading time has dropped drastically, always thinking of her, my white friends in the department told me to do the necessary on time to remain focus with my academics, but a close friend from Nigeria though senior colleague that won same scholarship told me to still be patient. But her thoughts and feelings have overwhelmed my emotion. What can you advice me to do Nairalanders, I need to make a good grade in my masters, and if this thought should continue more than necessary, this may not be possible. Your advice is needed please.

I am very sure that many that were disappointed and heart broken for not making the list will thank God in some months to come. Some times, God will intentionally allow good things to pass over you because of the best thing He has kept for you, not that majority really love this job with passion, but it happens to be the best alternative due to the situation that we have found ourselves in this country, we now see Road Safe job as the best. Many applicants that didn't make it will be thanking God in some months to come as I have earlier said when you see yourself doing your dream job and climbing the ladder of your chosen career, earning huge and fat income/salary twice and thrice the salary of FRSC, you will thank God that FRSC job didn't work, because if you got the job, you will be thinking you have made it in life, you may not apply for any job again, thereby shutting the wider door leading to the wider road, because you will be fulfilled with FRSC job in your subconscious, thinking you are already doing fine. If you get the job, you may not have the chance to go abroad for that scholarship that you will soon win, that will set your foot to the tip of your career, just relax and thank God in any situation and condition or circumstance you find yourself in.

To the applicants that made it, congratulations, God shall be with you guys.

In most cases, though not all, what will first attract a female to a guy will be her look, if the look is appealing to his sense of sight, he will go for her, after that, checking on other factors will follow. Factors like intelligence, moral discipline, good character e.t.c. This implies that no one can totally take away the beauty factor if we are to be real with ourselves. For the fact that a guy approached a beautiful lady at first doesn't mean that he cannot leave her if he later finds out she's not coping in other areas to look for another person. That means the guy isn't only looking for beauty but beauty was the attracting beautiful gate to the building. Can we now say the guy is prioritizing beauty? NO. On the other side a lady can still dump the rich guy if she later finds out that the guy is only rich but a drunkard, lacks caring, manners, good leadership and others, can you still call the girl a gold digger? NO. So most ladies will first be interested in a guy's financial strength before checking other factors and guy will be interest first on good look coupled with good curve before checking other factors.

No man can know the true character of any lady without moving close to her, and what will cause you to move close to her if you don't approach her. And what will cause you to approach her? Her Ugly face or flat figure?

If men can be looking for some features like good physique, beauty, intelligence and others (we all wish to marry women with good character, let's put that aside for this discussion) in ladies, and the society sees this as normal, should we be quick to judge any lady that wishes to marry to a financially buoyant guy and call them gold diggers? Reason for this thought is that, I think it is in the nature of every guy to marry to a beautiful queen with big boobs and butt apart from some few exceptions that prefer flat figure/shape. And it is also in the nature of ladies to marry to a man that can support her financially to a reasonable extent. So judging ladies on this area means judging wrongly or judging the nature. Do you have any contrary opinion against my thought on this?