Notasaints:
If you still have feelings for her, give her a second chance.

Argon18:
Like when should I do that, now or towards the end of my program? UK masters is one year and maybe few months maximum, faster than some countries that don't speak English, no additional year for learning language, so when will you suggest I do that if I must?

lefulefu:
better focus on what u went to the uk to do.it wont be good if u flunked ur studies cos of pussy and u now went back to naija with nothing

Octopusssy:

For me to do that you will need punctuations and paragraphs in your op.

Argon18:


Thanks, I was also having the thought that it wasn't a mere coincidence.

molybdenum0012:
I am coming back

Modified: I am back

Listen young man, never ask her out again, I repeat, never ask out again, you will regret it.

It is time for you now to play hard to get. Flirt with her, tease her, but never stoop so low as to ask her out. Not anymore! Just build attraction, make her chase you like crazy, but never talk relationship with her. Keep confusing her until she could not take it anymore and start begging you to date her.

You have your balls back now, don't be foolish enough to hand it to her on a platter of gold just because of one foolish emotions.

Let her work hard to get you so she can value you more. She did not send you while you were in Nigeria because you were cheap and readily available to her.
Be sendless! Be a scarce commodity and watch your value sky rockets.

Argon18:


Lol, it's not really about pussy, I'm not the pussy type, I could even count the number of times in my entire life that I have done things like that, not even up to four.
With the grace God gave to me, I don't think I can flunk, I'm not being proud but I really know that academics is the easiest task for me, I graduated with a CGPA tending towards 5.0 in one of the toughest engineering courses. But I really want to come out with an excellent grade, not average, that is what the point is.

lefulefu:
why u so naive
u were in naija she was ignoring u and now u are in the uk she is now signifying interest
so u telling me u dont know the reason? do i need to spell it out?
are u not a naija guy?
abeg stop behaving like a kenyan dude
focus on your studies and while you are at it u can make friends with any of the ladies around you in the uk..or are there no females in the uk?
dont let this girl distract u biko

dumo1:

Richnerd69:



Your write up contains a lot of mis appropriations of punctuation, for that kind of brain you have, if truly your assertions are true that you practically made a 5.0cgpa. To think you are a masters student, I find it unsatisfying to read . Pls make good use of paragraphs and punctuations , like the other lady said.

Dkyz:


That is why you can never win scholarship.... Dude follow you heart. You know her better than any of us her. Plus she's arlresdy falling for you... Just keep you cool and pay close attention to her. Form reading group... Yell her you dream... Call her now and then now everytime like a Mumu. Control yourself around her most of all

Argon18:
Not that I'm not interested, I still love her as I have said, what is delaying me is: why did she suddenly pick interest in me despite all the efforts I made to have her in Nigeria? Wasn't she seeing good future in me while I was still in Nigeria? Is she now seeing compatibility in our tomorrow due to the present location of the two of us? These are the things delaying me not to do the necessary, I want to be sure she's not loving me based on what she's seeing.

Argon18:
Please I need your candid advice, I had my first degree in Nigeria, I won a scholarship, now pursuing my masters degree in one of the leading UK Universities, I attended one of the federal universities in south west, toward my graduation, I approach this beautiful, brilliant and intelligent girl that I have been fantasizing our togetherness in marriage, so unfortunate for me that this lady rejected my proposal, I did all I could to convince her to marry me, but all my efforts were in futility, to cut the story short, I moved on, we were level mates, though not departmental mate, and not faculty mate, I knew of her brilliance, and she also knew of my level of academic intelligence, after graduation I used to message her on WhatsApp once in a while to greet her, most especially during festive periods and new months to greet her for new month and new year, but all her late one word responses confirmed to me that she wasn't into me, I gradually reduced the greeting chats until I decided not to send any message to her. Fast forward to last year, I was going to the university library to do some studies, I saw a lady that resembles this particular lady from afar coming out of the library, but I didn't consider putting my mind with the thought that it was just mere distance resemblance, the third step I climbed was a voice from my side saying "Hello" with a finger tap on my arm, I looked into the eyes of the person, it was amazing and surprising that I was greeted by "Favour". We greeted normally and I tried as much as possible not to allow any emotional greetings or talk and not to allow any emotions to becloud my reasonings. I greeted her normally, we exchanged contacts and we departed, I was going to the library for studies, but I could not open a page of my note all I was opening was pages of Favour in my mind, nothing meaningful was gained for almost four hours I stayed in the library, all my thoughts were revolving around Favour, this feelings was greater than ever. But I promised myself not to make any call to her or send any message, I wasn't treated well back in Nigeria when I was doing that, so I made up my mind not to call or text her. Around 9:00pm on the same day, I received a WhatsApp message from her, she greeted me and we discussed for a lengthy time at the detriment of my time. It was during the course of the conversion that I got to know that she won the same scholarship I won in the same year she won hers, we were both happy with ourselves, to cut the story short, as I have determined not to call her or text, after three days, she called me that she'll like us to meet at the corridor of her department, but I declined the request, turning down her request wasn't really coming from my heart, but I needed to regain my manly respect. She asked for the reason for not coming, I told her that our departments are far apart, the call ended on a good note. I got home thinking, contemplating whether I haven't overdo, but I summoned courage. For more than a month, I didn't call or text, all our conversion and discussions were initiated by her, on a particular Saturday, she called me and requested for us to meet and have time together, we met at a cafeteria, she paid for everything we ate, and I asked her to permit me to take my leave after being together for more than one hour, what we discussed was on the rigour and stress that we passed through in winning the scholarship and other things related to schooling in UK, the discussion of the our experiences were interesting to the both party. I took my leave as we had handshakes, she was starring at me as I was going, I looked at her face and caught her red handed, but she pretended not to be looking at me, since all these days I called her twice to initiate talks, after some periods of time there was a break in communication, for almost two weeks we didn't chat and we didn't discuss on phone, I was kinda afraid, thinking maybe she was tired of doing the callings, fortunately, I received her call after thirteen days checking through my call/chat records with her, after this, a day can hardly pass without calling me for at least three time on an average, also, she checks my WhatsApp status every now and then, and she'll always comment on them, I still have deep feelings for this lady, I'm not in any serious relationship, and with what I could deduce from our conversation, I think she's not in a relationship, I'm 60% confident that she really wants me to reshoot my shot. Which I'm actually considering as well, but I'm trying to give it a reasonable time and more conviction because ladies can be funny sometimes. To be honest, her thoughts of affections and feelings have being affecting my academic performance, I couldn't read for 6 straight hours, my reading time has dropped drastically, always thinking of her, my white friends in the department told me to do the necessary on time to remain focus with my academics, but a close friend from Nigeria though senior colleague that won same scholarship told me to still be patient. But her thoughts and feelings have overwhelmed my emotion. What can you advice me to do Nairalanders, I need to make a good grade in my masters, and if this thought should continue more than necessary, this may not be possible. Your advice is needed please.