@ Mrs Eve

yes it sound simple and SHOULD be simple but we often forget that love is sacrifice and both sides have to learn to choose what is worth the sacrifice. I think both parties need to agree on the non-negotiables, thats a good start and helps eachother to know when to backdown or agree to disagree.

Hi English1

I am a foreigner (Oz) seeing a yoruba guy. I found this site yesterday whe I was looking for youruba phrases online. I can relate to what you have said and I also would like to get some advice and tips. he is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time. we are in the same country just in different suburbs. He never wants to cook with me but if he is alone he cooks for himself. I even asked if he could teach me to cook a native dish but he told his brother to do it. I can cook and clean and what not, I know this important as it is in my culture. We have been together a year now and we want to get married soon. I havent met his parents as they live in Nigeria nor have I spoken to them. I kinda think that there is something more as to why he hasnt made the effort for me to speak to his family. He wants us to get married and when I am pregnant then we will go to Nigeria with baby. I am older than him and Ithink he is testing me to see is I can get pregnant and if I dont then what?? I beleive he is genuine when he says he loves me and will stick by whether I conceive or not but I feel his cultural roots are deeper than our love. This guy treats me like a queen. I have met his brothers and his family know about me but my gut feeling is cautioning me to be cautious. I am very independant and we have many 'debates' especially about him being bossy etc. Im not asking advice whether to dump him or not, im in this and im committed. I just want a heads up of what to expect and maybe any similarities.

I want to do a background check on my 9ja boyfriend. were just starting out and before it gets serious i'd like to check him out. Is this over the limit? I think its wise, for any relationship. He lives in another city and I dont like long distance, so how does one play P.I and get details from Nigeria?

I look 10 years younger than I actually am and I HATE it!! no seriously because I get hit on by younger guys (25+) and I am by nature shy. I find it invasive to have to explain why im not interested and I hate to lie, well it depends on how creepy the guy is, lol, BUT the upside is that my man appreciates my looks (younger than i but not a boy) and I guess we cant change what we look like but we can slow the aging process by not smking, healthy diet and excercise, that my 2cents.