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[center]https://i1089.photobucket.com/albums/i342/austey10/help-me-save-my-marriage.jpg[/center] Marriage in trouble? Have you ever wondered, "How to save my marriage today?" Nobody said it was easy to save the marriage. It can also be painful. However, a fascinating set of statistics shows that the people to solve the problems of marriage, not just answer the questions, but ultimately are more satisfied than ever. If you feel uneasy in your marriage, and you're thinking about a divorce, try some options, such as getting advices on marriage, divorce, go to a marriage consultant, or have open communication with your spouse and family. But whatever you do, please do not choose divorce as an option, because it's going to completely change the rules of the game. Those couples who choose not to divorce, the only option left to deal with is their current marriage problems. It is an effective and proactive tactics lead to the recognition of the problems the couples face, and perhaps even further help them to find solutions. [center]https://i1089.photobucket.com/albums/i342/austey10/Relationship-Break-Up.jpg[/center] On the contrary, those who do not believe in keeping a marriage or solving the problems, as problems in the marriage build up, divorce could become increasingly attractive. When a couple in a marriage are aggressive in finding a solution to their problem, and both agree that divorce is not - and won't be - a chance, a solution will almost certainly be found. You and your spouse will ask each other what you can do to get things to work, instead of wondering if this is worth doing or if you must leave the marriage. Many couples find it difficult to seek a way to solve their marriage problem. However, given the long-term effects of divorce on your life, family and finance, you should commit yourself to find ways through the pain. It looks basic, but statistically, it seems to work well. Those who do not agree with divorce as a possible end to a faithful marriage will be more motivated to work on their marriage and work through their problems that can put an end to something that would be a lifetime relationship. Divorce will never be the end of your problems. Most of the time, it is only the start of a new problem to face. If you’re really looking for an solution which not only save your marriage, but also to nurture a healthier and more secure marriage relationship, do not forget to check out Save My Marriage Today! BY Hope Lin PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CHECKOUT MY BLOG BELOW AND DOWNLOAD THE 97 WAYS TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP! |
[center] https://i1089.photobucket.com/albums/i342/austey10/divorced-parents36577e.jpg[/center] Divorce is the summation of as many as five lies embodied in one action. In a generation gone mad with every sort of humanistic ideal and practice divorce has become common place in America, so that nearly 7 out of ten first time marriages end in divorce. Why is this so, and what can we do about it? Lie number one: Divorce is a slanderous testimony lived out by the actions of the unfaithful marriage partner (partners) in regards to the heavenly realities that the man and the woman in the institution of marriage were created by Yahweh to illustrate. In that the man was created by God to be a living mortal illustration (type or picture) of God himself, (Christ) and that the woman was created to be a living mortal illustration of that one who is the “apple of God's eye”, (the Church or individual Believer), and in that the marriage relationship was created to be a testimony (illustration) of the relationship of Christ and the Church, to divorce in any non-Scriptural manner is to act in a way that is slanderous to the truth. For the actions of divorce are contrary to what Yahweh had created man to live. Thus the action of divorce is expressing a lie concerning God, and His intentions pertaining to the relationship He has with the Christian. For a man to be anything short of a faithful marriage partner to a wife is to express that God will not be a faithful marriage partner with those who receive Him as the husband of their spirit. which every person does when they receive Christ as Savior. For a woman to be less than a faithful marriage partner is to express by her actions that the Believer has the right to live in an unfaithful and disobedient manner before God. For again, she (a wife) was created to be a living mortal illustration of the Church, as well as the individual Believer. Therefore, the actions of a wife give illustration as to what the actions of a Believer are. Lie number two: Divorce is an open lie before God (the All Present One) in that all marriage partners have vowed fidelity in both the presence of other people, and in the presence of God. Whether one wishes to admit to it or not, in all situations the eyes of the Lord go to and fro throughout the earth beholding both the evil and the good. That means in very simple terms that God is watching us. No, He does not watch with the expressed intent of finding fault with man, but if we by the actions of our lives portray evil, then evil (sin) is what He sees. Yahweh is always watching. He is the abiding witness of all transactions, of all contracts or covenants. He is the abiding witness of the words of every person's mouth. Therefore, in a very real sense every lie we tell is not only before Him, but to Him. Yahweh created all men to be creatures of truth, and fill the world with truth and faithfulness. Lie number three: Divorce is a lie before the marriage partner in which you entered into the covenant of marriage with. No matter what the words, or the style of the particular marriage vows that one may use they all embody the promise of fidelity. They must, for without that promise there could not be a marriage. I do not mean fidelity of action according to the traditions and manners of men. For these are always changing to one degree or another. I mean before the laws of the eternal God who created the marriage of the man and the woman as an expression of His very self to that one who is His great love: the Church. So therefore, in every divorce at least one of the partners, if not both, are expressing and living a lie toward their spouse. For each entered the covenant expressing (which is according to Yahweh's law) that death alone could sever the relationship. Lie number four: Divorce is a lie before the children who at the time of the wedding are yet unborn, but are by the very nature of all natural forces (that were put in place by God our creator) an expected result. Therefore, for people to enter marriage is by their action expressing a promise to the children that will come forth to them, that they (the children) will be provided that which is part and lot for children in a family. Which things include a home, food, shelter, and a loving-nurturing-stable environment as they grow to adulthood, and the possibility (if life continues) of parents who have remained together to one day be grandparents to their children. Lie number five: Divorce is a lie before the human witnesses that were present at the wedding ceremony, when by the words of one's mouth, he/she, offered the promise of fidelity. The very composition of the marriage covenant demands witnesses. There are two key bodies of witness necessary for any marriage to take place in a wise and just manner. They are God Himself, and at least two human witnesses. For the wisdom of the Scripture has ever taught that all the affairs of man must be settled by the minimum of two human witnesses. The reality of this truth is proven in that it is common any where in the world for a wedding to be a community events. For a man and a woman to simply just begin to live together and share the act of sex, which is meant by God to be the act of marriage, but without offering public verbal expressions of fidelity, is not marriage. I believe you'll find in most of these cases that the man and the woman are simply mutually using each other, which often continues only until one or both of them finds that the “grass appears greener” some where else. So reality is, that every divorce is by at least one of the marriage partners an expression of an outright lie to the body of witnesses that were present at their wedding ceremony when he-she-they publicly promised to live until death alone parted them. America, the land where one of its earliest colonies ( the Pilgrims at Cape Cod) had devoted them selves to being a community of people (in both civil and religious manners) where Christ was King. Then the Pilgrims were followed by their cousins, the Puritans, from whom sprang forth a great part of our nation's godly beginnings. Followed then by the 13 colonies, who separated themselves from King George's England in that their heart's cry was that God's law alone could reign as supreme. From which sprang our national constitution and bill of rights. Where even as late as the year 1900 in the city of New York the divorce rate was only 1.5 %, how is it that divorce as become so common place. It has become the expected norm! Why has this become so? It is because we have become a people unfaithful to God. Divorce among us is an expression of our divorce from God above, and His law. We have become a people who are very willing to live a lie. Expressing by our actions things that are slanderous to the heavenly realities that we were created to picture with our lives. To by our actions live an outright lie before God in Heaven who witnesses the vows of faithfulness on every person's wedding day. We have become a people willing to lie to not only the marriage partner we covenanted to live with, but also to the children that are meant by God, and every natural course, to come forth from the marriage relationship, and who have every right by God's law and design to expect parents to provide for them a continuing stable and godly home life. Beyond these, divorce is an open lie to neighbors who by their participation as wedding guests became witnesses of the promise of faithfulness in marriage. Woe to a nation of unfaithfulness! Woe to the preachers near and far who by reason of fear and confusion are unwilling to call divorce for the sin it is. For they shall one day stand before God and have to give account for being teachers of men, yet not insisting on God's laws. Let us search and try our ways and turn again to the Lord. Let us lift up our hearts with our hands unto God in the Heavens. Let us cry out to Him, seeking that a spirit of conviction for our many sins might visit our people, and that a powerful and wide spread season of repentance might be seen in our land, of not only this sin, but of the many sins that are practiced by our people. That from the Lord we might be visited by the promised last great season of the outpouring of the Holy Spirit, bringing forth the culmination of the expression of what the Bride of Christ is meant to be, as is written in Philippians 1:10-11. (KJV) That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ; Being filled with the fruits of righteousness, which are by Jesus Christ, unto the glory and praise of God. Also as is expressed in Philippians 2:15.(KJV) That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world; holding forth the word of life, Also as is written in Ephesians 5:27. (KJV)That He might present it to Himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Feel free to check out my signature below to get my 97 ways to a happy relationship. |
When discussing about the worst things that can ever happen in a marriage relationship, many people point a finger at cheating. Cheating certainly shakes at the very root of marriage, as it goes to the heights of betrayal. If you have been caught in the act, your marriage will hang in the balance, and it can prove very challenging to restore your relationship. While your infidelity may be the worst thing that your relationship has ever experienced, it does not necessarily have to bring it to an end. However, if you want to save your marriage, you will have to be very committed and work tirelessly hard. Do not assume that infidelity can never happen in your relationship. You should therefore be prepared for any eventuality so that you are not caught off balance. If you have been caught in the act, as it were, how can you save your marriage? Be genuinely remorseful You will only make matters worse if you give the impression that your infidelity does not mean much. Even if it feels that way, the case will be very different as far as your spouse is concerned. Make a sincere apology and admit that what you did was indeed very serious. You should not expect to save your relationship if you fail to show that you are sorry for your cheating. Pay the necessary penance Whether you subscribe to any religious belief or not, you will need to go through some kind of suffering and walk the extra mile. Restoring the confidence of your partner will not be easy, and you need to do whatever is necessary to bring back the lost trust. Never give any impression of complaint in the process. Have patience Infidelity is a serious matter, and the difference between you will go very deep. You should therefore not expect to go over it quickly. You will need to be very patient with your spouse who finds it difficult to come to terms with your betrayal. Avoid any attempt at pushing your partner in any way, whether you want to be trusted or you want sex. Do not jeopardize your relationship further by your lack of patience. Try to put yourself in the place of your spouse. Be truthful When your spouse has caught you cheating, you must be prepared to ask some questions at some point. Do not try to cover things up, but be as honest as you can without being brutal either. Your infidelity will have eroded your partner’s trust, and lying will just make things worse. Of course, some of the answers may be rather painful, but it is better to be honest than strain your relationship further. |
[center]https://i1089.photobucket.com/albums/i342/austey10/dating.png[/center] Dating and marriage is different today than it was twenty years ago. In today's society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes "commitment" seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same. Feel free to check out my signature below for remaining part of this article! |
I would advise you apply curtsy in your dealing,don't just discard away like that.in as much as i do not subscribe to that fact that you must marry someone out pity,because the end can be very disastrous. Try to let know her know so that you don't keep her hanging off balanced,but apply commonsense. |
I quite share your pain,but you need to understand that you are the head of the house;invariably what that means is authority. So in simple term,i think is high time you use your veto power by sitting down and talking sense into her with the softest of tone. Please feel free to click my signature below to get more info on your topic. |
Now,this is a very dicey situation you are in now.I would strongly advice that you take things slow. When you find yourself in such a rather dicey situation like this,i would advice you take it God in Prayer and supplication.Because there this absolutely nothing God cannot solve no matter how colossal it is. Step 1:You must stop your friendship with the GUY in question and concentrate on marriage,because you chose to carry the cross and that cross you must carry no matter how turbulent your marriage is. Step 2:Fervently seek the face of the lord,because he is always near you,all he is just waiting is for you to give him that call for him to charge over your marriage. FRET NOT BECAUSE NOTHING WILL HAPPEN TO YOUR MARRIAGE! IF you are chanced you can click my signature below to get 97 ways to have a happy relationship or marriage. A must for all family have! |
This is a very pathetic story.And my simple advice is be patient and try to keep it cool,going by your story you fight a lot and like we all know we can never reach a compromise or a consensus by fighting or throwing tantrums.So the need for one to dialogue cannot be overemphasized,because in a situation whereby we have 2 angry people fighting every day over the same issue;one may want to ask who is at the receiving end-both of you,but going by your story you are having a larger share of the all fiasco. Thank God you've taken the right footing,by realizing that fighting will not and will never solve any problem. Always show him LOVE and give him the respect he deserves as head in the house just as the bible admonishes. DON'T be quick anger and Learn the habit of solving certain family issues amicably between the both of you with involving a third party. Apply this common but a very vital ingredients that can help spiced up relationship!If you are chanced you can click on my signature below to get about 97 ways to have a happy relationship. |
Simply for short the Nigeria MAN is a man who knows his onions and easy going.If the ladies out there would really understand this and agree to that fact |
nikita ;d |
that way too crazy, i think it is high time they grow up! |
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