Somthing tells me he had his suspicion about your affair, hence the I dont give a damn attitude. You guys need to sit down and talk

Since I confronted him about this latest encounter he has been going out of his way to make up for it. He is coming home early every night after work, offering to help me in the kitchen and all and even planning to take me out this weekend so maybe he is willing to make it work after all. I am going to give him one more chance for us to try and make things work. It's really not easy just walking out of a marriage. It takes a lot!

well, good luck to you both.

~Minx~:

Since I confronted him about this latest encounter he has been going out of his way to make up for it. He is coming home early every night after work, offering to help me in the kitchen and all and even planning to take me out this weekend so maybe he is willing to make it work after all. I am going to give him one more chance for us to try and make things work. It's really not easy just walking out of a marriage. It takes a lot!

This is cheering. I hope you guys would be able to sustain and maintain the new-found momentum. Ensure that you do not again do anything that will hurt your conscience.

I wish you well.

Goodluck to you Minz, I wish you well in your relationship.


On lighter note

As it is in Nollywood films ''''To God be the Glory""" End of Part 2

rolchi:

Goodluck to you Minz, I wish you well in your relationship.


On lighter note

As it is in Nollywood films ''''To God be the Glory""" End of Part 2

LOOOOOOL!

Well good things have taken a good turn because I was going to say NEVER utter a word of this your cheating to him.
Change and move forward. NL sha

See who the cat dragged in?

Thanks Pukka

@ Rolchi

~Minx~:

Thanks Pukka

You're welcome.

dayokanu:

See who the cat dragged in?

What's good big head. You go dey this site till it closes down. Haba!

I'm not married thou bt i ll advice u to be strong n firm wit d guy to end things wit him. Rediscover ur luv wit ur husby. Ask urself y u accepted his proposal. Think abt d kind of lyf u want 4 ur future. Wen u regained ur luv back 4rm ur husby. Ask God for forgiveness n tell to speak to ur husby's hart so dat he ll forgive u. Nothin's impossible 4 God. All d best.

How come you have a 7 years old child and you have just been married for 4 years?

hildaa:

How come you have a 7 years old child and you have just been married for 4 years?

Smart girl!

I guess u should just leave a sleeping dog to lie, Telling him would amount to pulling a Lion by its tail. Not in African culture. What a white person would understand & probably forgive,is suicidal to an African man. Confess to your God in your secret heart, forsake the past & allow Him in your home. I see God healing your marriage.

Some info sink to the bottom of your stomach and go to your grave with you not torture ( may we not see torture) will bring them out.
Sex was bad at home, sex was good outside
Forgive yourself and stop beating yourself up.
Its morally wrong to sleep with another man when you have promised fidelity to another man however it wrong to sleep with a man you are no longer in love with even if he is your husband now that is my intimate ethics made for me by me,  but i can hear the sky clouding up, hahaha, we are humans none is infallible !
Your hubby sleeping with another woman yet not able to accept your infidelity shows self righteousness and hypocrisy but all will blame you alone.

Solution: see if you can develop feelings for your hubby again, if not decide what is best for you, i said you >Not what the society says is best for alot of people are bunches of hypocrites and listen to secret lovers alot,
However as an Adult woman i will advise you write your own intimate ethics, nothing eats at your self esteem like when you are doing something you feel is wrong.
Too many mediocre stuffs about, if sexx is not passionate and downright sensual whats the point and if you aint getting it at home you will always go out. See if you can teach your hubby what your lover knows ,
If you get caught the shame will be very bad becos you are married but if you were single.

I have run out of what to say, I know what i will do if i were in your shoes but liver no fit me write it down, I suspect my hubby knows my NL name, 

Take a decision that suits you and will not give you guilt trips.

I am quoting SA Lady's Reponse: @OP, you have no choice but to tell your partner. Rather he hears that from you than any other person. It depends on how well you know him too. Now If you tell him two things can happen:

1. He'll have all the reasons to continue his relationship with the other women since he had just discovered that you not a saint nor a victim in this. It'll clear all his guilt.

2. If he is mature and honest about his ish, he'll see this as an opportunity for you guys to start opening up to each other and be brutally honest about the underlying issues in your marriage.  Which is a good thing, that way as a team you can work towards a common goal be it fixing the marriage or ending it.


Of the above two which one do you value the most and which one would you rather live through  Huh Huh Huh

Good Luck, Hey remeber the saying "only the truth shall set you free"  Wink

And horny4u's

horny4u:

Some info sink to the bottom of your stomach and go to your grave with you not torture ( may we not see torture) will bring them out.
Sex was bad at home, sex was good outside
Forgive yourself and stop beating yourself up.
Its morally wrong to sleep with another man when you have promised fidelity to another man however it wrong to sleep with a man you are no longer in love with even if he is your husband now that is my intimate ethics made for me by me,  but i can hear the sky clouding up, hahaha, we are humans none is infallible !
Your hubby sleeping with another woman yet not able to accept your infidelity shows self righteousness and hypocrisy but all will blame you alone.

Solution: see if you can develop feelings for your hubby again, if not decide what is best for you, i said you >Not what the society says is best for alot of people are bunches of hypocrites and listen to secret lovers alot,
However as an Adult woman i will advise you write your own intimate ethics, nothing eats at your self esteem like when you are doing something you feel is wrong.
Too many mediocre stuffs about, if sexx is not passionate and downright sensual whats the point and if you aint getting it at home you will always go out. See if you can teach your hubby what your lover knows ,
If you get caught the shame will be very bad becos you are married but if you were single.

I have run out of what to say, I know what i will do if i were in your shoes but liver no fit me write it down, I suspect my hubby knows my NL name, 

Take a decision that suits you and will not give you guilt trips.

See, the bottomline is that you do not enjoy sex with him and that you started losing interest, Once that sets in, sorry, it will take the grace of God and genuine repentance, mental reinvention for you to continue with this marriage, We are flesh and as such we often times succumb to our cravings, One advice: If you are ready to go through the hurdles of seeking God's face on this matter(This is important as it is going to take genuine repentance to sail through this situation), undergo some personal reinvention of mind, then you can salvage the situation. Otherwise, get a divorce because it is going to be a terrible stigma when people around begin to notice your underg moves, God bless you and I pray you will be able to salvage this situation.

Now,this is a very dicey situation you are in now.I would strongly advice that you take things slow.
When you find yourself in such a rather dicey situation like this,i would advice you take it God in Prayer and supplication.Because there this absolutely nothing God cannot solve no matter how colossal it is.

Step 1:You must stop your friendship with the GUY in question and concentrate on marriage,because you chose to carry the cross and that cross you must carry no matter how turbulent your marriage is.
Step 2:Fervently seek the face of the lord,because he is always near you,all he is just waiting is for you to give him that call for him to charge over your marriage.

FRET NOT BECAUSE NOTHING WILL HAPPEN TO YOUR MARRIAGE!

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hildaa:

How come you have a 7 years old child and you have just been married for 4 years?

Answered yet?

WHO TOLD THAT NON OF FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT IT, IS JUST THAT THEY ARE WAITING TO NILE U THE DAY U OFFEND THEM.

topic reminds me of a particular estate in ph.....its not a new thing

You see, when I said I just want kids and not marriage people said its odd, unnatural, and all that sermon. Why can't one have the freedom of doing what u want with who you want? Now she's cheating on the husband and surprisingly now, she's forcing herself to love the man. Is that not pathetic?

Welcome to H-OPIN MARRIAGE 001. . .MU HE HE HE HE HE

PLS DNT TELL OOOOOHHHHH..........

stpat1:
You see, when I said I just want kids and not marriage people said its odd, unnatural, and all that sermon. Why can't one have the freedom of doing what u want with who you want? Now she's cheating on the husband and surprisingly now, she's forcing herself to love the man. Is that not pathetic?

DNT SAY THAT PLS were u born out of wedlock or raised out of wedlock dnt wish dat or encorage dat for smone els

Olosho