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Godmother:
Hmmm. Ok o

slyd90:
OP so guys don't get married until they are 30 and above

Aygem:
Dear Spiritual Sisters,

Just because a gentle believing brother asked you out at church doesn't make him any less spiritual, and neither does it reduce his anointing. Do not loose your respect for him because he ministers in the morning and woos you at night, do not look down on his level of grace because he leads Bible study on Sunday and sends you love poems on Friday, say no in a polite manner if you do not feel any personal conviction to return interest. Do not judge him, for above everything else love is a basic necessity of life, after all if we don't toast you in the presence of God where else again? Is it in the club we will now go and do it?

And you too Spiritual Brother,
Its like I will have to do a special series on how to woo a believing sister, because you people are equally not encouraging at all. The way you approach a sister in faith matters a lot, some of you are born again but your toasting skills still needs some serious repentance, you'll just carry your street credibility and enter the house of God ���. See guys, there is nothing spiritual about toasting, open up and say it as it is doing you, don't approach a sister and start talking about how Nebuchadnezzar prayed for a wife and God heard him, go straight to the matters arising and forget about how Jonah swallowed the big fish, abi it was the fish that even swallowed Jonah. ����

That was how I was doing my 5minutes mediation after service one sunday when one choir master approached a sister beside me like;

" hi, i was watching you all through service, I love the way you worship"

Arrh arrhh watchman! You love the way she worship how? Are you assistant Holy Spirit? all in a bid to maintain his spiritual status in her eyes, haba uncle, this is one of the few battles where we are allowed to use small carnal weapons, hehehehe, ����

Start by complimenting her first, shower her with a little honest Jesus praise. Let me show you, start like this;

"Hi, wow! you look so nice in that blue dress (pause and wait for her to smile and say thank you, then pounce) been kinda observing you around lately, and I just thought I could come over and introduce myself in a bit, my name is Allison, (pause and wait for her to tell you hers, if you like go and be rushing, then pounce again) nice to meet you Chocolate. Hope you enjoyed the service today? (Wait again for her reply, then end the spiritual move there, don't go and be asking her what she learnt from pastor's preaching, go straight to the point) will I be asking for too much if i ask you out to a movie next weekend? Or, got any plans for next weekend? Cos I have two karaoke tickets and I was wondering if you would like to go with me.

(If she says she's not free)
nicely say 'oh , alright, maybe another time then, I will see you at the midweek service on Tuesday, enjoy a good week Chocolate." That's it, don't go and be asking for phone number, relax, knowing her name is a first victory, there's always a next Sunday)

(If she says she's free, great)
Nicely sound a little bit surprise, like 'oh wow, really, so mind if I give you a call sometime during the week to remind you? (Sure she'll say okay) then ask for her number. When you get it, stand there and call her first to make sure it rings, because some of these our sisters too can weak somebody, before She'll go and give you Angel Gabriel's phone number because you have mouth odour, hehehehe ���. So when you confirm it, just end with "thanks Chocolate, I will give you a call, enjoy a beautiful week, bye.

If you like don't carry small carnal weapon and enter toasting warfare, be there doing smeh smeh.

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Aygem:
FORUM RULES AND STANDARDS
Bearing in mind the name of this noble group chat; SINGLES FOR WEDLOCK, we bring together everyone yearning for a partner as the ultimum expectation of a grown up adult is an healthy relationship which should consequently blossom into marriage...here you will meet people like you and we earnestly hope you can look back and be glad you were once a member here when you finally settle down.
Taking cognizance of your expectation being in this group, we implore and advice that you behave as expected of the "to be" husband /wife that you wantto be. Hence, FOUL languages, Tribal ethnic, religious bashing are banned.
There are different calibre of people in here, let respect one another. Respect their views. Besides, you can never tell who will affect your life for good even if you didn't end up in each others arms.
Unclad pictures or sex chat arent allowed in the general house, and its an offence to request or send Unclad pictures or initiate sexchat to a member.
You would be asked to post your personal picture to the open group upon admission, Pls do not hesitate to do so.

*Do not chat up a member privately before asking for his/her permission in the open group*


Only issues relating to relationships, marriages and its attendant follow-up issues are to be discussed as a TOPIC..other life topics can be discussed if need be but they shouldnt overshadow the essence of the group. *Weekends (Saturdays and Sundays) are the only days other topical issues, jokes, memes outside SFW scope are allowed*


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If u have a member you would like to be added, please contact the admins but note that the MINIMUM AGE FOR ADMISSION IS 25 FOR FEMALES AND 30 FOR MALES.

diamonderic:
if this thread is still active, Please i am in search of a wife,no games, i can no longer bear the shackles of bachelorhood.

Eze2000:
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FashTheGem:
UNDERSTANDING A MAN'S SILENCE...

When a man keeps quiet and gives up on you, it means, he has tried all his possible best to change you, nothing has come out if it. He is tired of wasting his energy nagging, shouting or screaming, he has decided to find an alternative to you, when he finds an alternative, he shuts down completely, no longer cares about you, or suddenly becomes passive, accepting every damn thing you do without complaining and does his things without acknowledging you or seeking your support!

Don't wait until your husband shuts down or become passive before you work on your marriage. Pride and stubbornness will throw you out of marriage. If you are stubborn, rigid and opinionated, your marriage won't work!

What is he complaining about, work on it. Men as a rule don't complain until they can't take the shit any more.

Some women are just so stubborn! They won't just wake up till there is competition. They won't know their husbands are suffering until they see a strange lady with a protruding tummy in their matrimonial home. Pride won't allow them to see their husbands as the head who deserves some respect and submission!

If he wants you to get a job to support him, get the job, if he wants you slimmer, slim down for God's sake! If he asked you to end certain friendships please do so. If his food gets late, prepare them earlier, if he is ashamed of the way you dress, my dear, work on it. If he wants lingerie in his bedroom, please wear lingerie for God's sake, If he is tired of a single sex position, initiate others or follow his style! If he wants more sex, give him more sex!

Marriage is not static! You are either moving forward in your marriage or moving backward, you are either getting better or worse! You are either enjoying your marriage or not, there is no middle ground in marriage!

Learn to adapt, learn to be flexible, learn to submit. 2 Peter 3:1-2 says,"In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands (subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them), so that even if they do not obey the word (of God), they may be won over not by discussion but by the (godly) lives of their wives.

When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence (for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him-to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband)". AMPLIFIED VERSION.

Your husband is the most important person in your life after God! Place him above your needs and desires, that is what the Holy Book says. Your desires are secondary to his. You don't do anything he does not approve of! If you can't take the shit you shouldn't have married him in the first place. Now that you are married, bend down to work!

Adapt, be flexible, change! What your friends say about your marriage is not your business, God's approval is your business! Your husband's happiness is your business! When you make him happy, God will make sure you are happy! What goes around usually comes around. When you adapt to your spouse he will also adapt to you! When you change, he changes too.

A man can die for a woman who meets his needs. A man will lay down his life for a woman who honours, respects and submit to him. A man can move heaven and earth to stay with a woman who makes him enjoy marriage.

Be humble sister. Humble women are virtuous women. Humble women make their husbands happy, humble women have great marriages, you will not lose your husband in Jesus name. Feel free to share. God bless you. Cheers!

Aygem:
6 strategies for creating a winning marriage

There are several keys to being an effective partner in a marriage. First and foremost you have to know yourself well enough to be wise to your motivations, quirks, downfalls and strengths which will impact your marriage and you must know those same elements in your partner. No one is perfect, so the better you know yourself the better you will be able to know and have empathy for your partner. You cannot have an effective marriage if it is based in linear and one-way thinking. It can’t be all about you. If you are always right, then guess what? Your partner is always wrong. You may feel good, but your partner will feel resentful. To create a winning marriage you have to be flexible, courageous and quiet when necessary. Most of all you have to be someone your partner is inspired by and wants to be married to.

Keys to the Emotional Management of Your Marriage

1. Develop emotional wisdom:

To be an effective partner learn how to manage your own emotions. Analyze yourself and identify what your trigger points are. These trigger points will teach you when to act on an emotion and when it is smart to stay quiet.

Being in a committed relationship is a matrix of conflict and rebalancing. You cannot love effectively unless you can identify the emotions of yourself and your partner. Once you can identify what is in the matrix you can apply empathy and understanding. Empathy gives you guidance on how to lead yourself and then understand your partner. Therefore, the first person to manage in your marriage is YOU.

2. Use your mind to manage your emotion:

To take care of your emotions you must understand that emotions are always more powerful than your mind. In the face of conflict, even the most rational, when dealing with intense emotion lose their capacity to think straight. To be a great partner be wise to the contagious nature of the emotions and know it is your emotions, and not your partner, you need to control.

Amidst intense conflict, it is critical for you to do your best to maintain presence of mind. To establish presence of mind face your marital conflicts head-on and learn how to work through the emotions to a resolution. The more exposed you are to turmoil the better able you will be to rise above the smallness of the emotions and focus on the bigger picture. The bigger picture is where you want to envision your marriage so focus on solutions, not problems.
3. Understanding emotional patterns:

Emotions follow a logical pattern if you know how to look at them. They rise and they fall. With negative emotion it is difficult to manage them when they are at the peak where there is little to no rational thought. Allow yourself and your partner the space and distance to come down and gain some rational perspective before communicating again.

If the emotional state is fun-loving and exciting then it is ok to step in at the peak of that intensity and push hard. It is in these positive states of emotion where we have the capacity to create loving and irreplaceable memories.

Having a great marriage is the art of looking beyond the now and calculating ahead. Managing timing with emotion is the great strategy to mitigating conflict and creating positive movement forward.

4. Utilize emotions to grow your marriage:

Different emotions help your thinking in different ways. In a marriage you must learn to navigate your own emotions and then to spot them in your partner by the signs and patterns that reveal hostility or excitement. Once you have these patterns in your sight be deliberate in how to move those emotions into a deeper motivation for yourself and your partner to want to work things out.

This self-awareness fills your marriage with purpose and direction because in growing together you create the emotional rewards at the end of a conflict or the end of a great day which keep the marriage in a positive and evolving place. To ensure that both of you stay motivated to make the marriage work, follow through on the rewards so each of you feels you can count on the other to bring their full self. Effective partners live by their word and walk their talk.

5. Conflict Management:

The challenge in navigating any marriage is that each partner inevitably has their own agenda. To have a great marriage, both have to create an environment in which neither feel constrained by the others influence. You must live with a mutual sense of participation, but have neither fall into “groupthink” where individual importance is minimized. Each partner will require something different from the marriage.

Each partner has be self-motivated to make the marriage work. Each must encourage the other to lead their individual lives to their fullest while also contributing to the marriage guaranteeing it reaches its own place of victory.

Each partner must commit to their individual happiness, not to sweat the small stuff of their partner or the monotony of marriage and make sure to reward each other’s contribution to the whole.
6. Create Positivity:

Emotions determine experience and perception. To have a beautiful marriage is about each partner thinking less selfishly about themselves and more about the marriage. The marriage becomes the cause worth fighting for.

The critical elements in creating a happy marriage are self-love and adaptability. Partners need to move on from challenge and make decisions for the marriage where each partner wants nothing more than to have their individual and marital goals achieved.

By each person committing to taking care of themselves for their partner each become a person who can operate on their own emotionally. This eliminates the relationship killers of neediness, jealousy and expectation. When each partner is infused with the spirit of being in a happy and successful marriage this turns their motivation from simple goals into a crusade. Total commitment cuts through all doubt and meandering and happiness is the result.

Creating a winning marriage means you must manage yourself and your partner intuitively and intelligently. Anything you do successfully requires self-analysis and self-control. Self-analysis helps you to understand yourself but more importantly your partner.

FashTheGem:
It all goes back To the time When, for you The drop was deep And my fall, for you Was hard and fast. Looking at you Makes me bless the Lord For giving me eyes Consuming all that you are And all that you represent Comes with a satisfied belch Smoothed and creamed With an aroma of grace And propriety. Those days I could stare at the mole Above your mouth And be lost in its drool.. Those days Your voice made my heart skip Like a cracked CD.... Those days when sleep was my best pastime Since you would lace my dreams... Those days when words would fail me Like an exam written by an illiterate. Those days When I felt the check-ups in tons And the calls in truckloads The visits-late night Could scale me over the fence And hand me, you Those days I mistook your few calls For ownership And our deep laughs For exchanged hearts Them days I thought I was holding An equal half of my world And yours... I hope, I hope Atop hope He will offend you irreparably I hope sorry won't be enough When his sins come knocking I hope he cheats, and beats; I hope he becomes a slur, and a blur To your ears and eyes So I can have you back... I hope he goes wild with the girls at Tampa And when he goes knicker-clad at Zanzibar on the sand I hope he lies about his location I hope he forgets very soon What a goddess you are So u can remember me And I sure won't spare each word This time Letting you know as I feel. And I hope you get bad news Each day, after today. I hope you don't taste love 'Less its my brand... I hope life teaches you Love isn't always verbal.


Written by Ogbonaya Henry