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IyaTola:
Decision: Send my brother to Canada or invest in business in Nigeria? Which one makes more sense?

I perceive you're a Christian!

Because this a huge destiny decision that alter the cause of your brother's life forever.

Take a 3-day fasting and prayer exercise, God will speak to you in a dream on what to do!!

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

Me i don't blame this girl at all!!!!
Marriage is a serious matter, and she's handling it seriously.

As a big brother to a 24 y.o, if you come to me to marry my sister, be rest assured you will answer more questions than that lady asked you.

Everybody wants to be safe; her inclusive.

Guy, Imagine yourself as a big brother or a father, and tell me if this lady is being 'too serious'. Absolutely NO

Incognito403:
So what should I die as? A christian that worships a man like him and is confused if he's worshipping one god, three gods, one god divided into three, god through a mortal.

Even idol worshippers have their sheet together. They can explain their creed despite how ridiculous it is.

LMAO. Please shift. Islam all the way. Heaven assured.

Torrrh, I delivered the divine message. Die a Muslim and hell fire is assured.

Bye!

Incognito403:
Where do IPOB, militants, Epsteinists and OPC read from?

When you're done lying to yourself, your eyes will clear.
Just make sure you don't die a muslim, or else, hell fire is where you will spend the rest of your eternity.
Don't say nobody told you

Incognito403:
But Christian killings won't. So we can easily know that all killings 8n coming weeks are by Christian marauders.

Thank God we all know that Boko Haram, Alqaeda, Makaruwa, and co do not read the Bible, they read from quaran (their killing guide) 😂😂

Lukgaf:
Today is the 25th of Sha‘bān. In just a few days — depending on the sighting of the crescent and the official announcement by the Sultan — Wednesday or Thursday may mark the first day of Ramadan.

SubḥānAllāh… how quickly time flies.

Ramadan is not an ordinary month. It is a month Allah chose above others. A month in which the Qur’an was revealed. A month in which gates of Jannah are opened, gates of Hell are closed, and the devils are chained. If something is special, it must be treated specially.

So how do we prepare?

First, sincere tawbah. Enter Ramadan with a clean heart. Forgive people. Seek forgiveness from Allah. Drop grudges.

Second, settle unfinished obligations. Whoever still owes fasts from previous Ramadan should hasten to make them up. Do not carry debt into another blessed month.

Third, adjust your routine. Begin reducing unnecessary screen time. Train yourself for night prayer. Revive your relationship with the Qur’an from now.

Fourth, purify your earnings and intentions. Ramadan is not only about hunger; it is about taqwa.

Fifth, unity. We must wait for the official announcement of the beginning of Ramadan by the recognized Muslim authority in our land. This is from the Sunnah — fasting begins with confirmed sighting and proper leadership. No rebellion. No self-declared dates. Unity is part of our strength.

Let us not enter Ramadan casually.

Let us enter it prepared. Prepared hearts. Prepared homes. Prepared schedules.

May Allah allow us to witness the glorious month in peace, piety, unity, and harmony. May He grant us the ability to fast, pray, give, and be forgiven.

Āmīn.

AS A CHRISTIAN, I'M ALWAYS HAPPY WHEN RAMADAN APPROACHES.

BECAUSE I KNOW ISLAMIC KILLINGS WILL REDUCE

GreenCovering:
Them say them say I think them say ... where did he say that he doesn't know where he will go after death o, let us know.

dey there dey whine yourself, just make sure you dont die a muslim. hell fire is not anybody's mate. shikena!!

Umadam:
I totally contradict ur answer, this is how we have boko Haram, bandit, etc and majority of them are Muslims, definitely they were lured into all these devilish acts because some scholars have confused them.
Am a Muslim and it's high time we should start preaching love other than division, the doctors that treats u in d hospital is not a Muslim, why going to him, please don't confuse us.....

Finally, i found a muslim that uses his brain.

I always tell people, islam came 600 years after Christianity, imagine if Jesus told us to kill non-Christians, then islam wouldn't even exist today.

All those boko haram follow the sayings of the quaran. It's just very obvious that Islam is not the right path to the God of love. Honestly.

KiNg0G:
Just this year alone, I have had sex with over 20
prostitutes. It's almost like I am cursed or swear for with this kind of lifestyle.

While people were in church Jan 1st I broke my resolution before the year even started, had marathon sex that night and one would think it will be enough but it never is.

Before then I have been trying to change the whole last weeks of December, even on Christmas eve and the 25th I was still holding myself, the urge to patronise them kept calling but I kept my cool was adamant on my resolution but on new year eve I lost it all and the relapse is so bad that I haven't rested since Jan 1.

From one brothel to another, different spots carrying daybreak, short time. I have lost a huge amount of weight within this 2weeks but I can't just stopped it's almost like I am jazzed... like a reflex action that I don't even think, it just happens..

I know it's the price I got to pay for starting with prostitute in my teenage days and it became a habit but now it's getting worse and I'm starting to think this isn't normal, they've gotten to me.

If I know anyone to go tomorrow to get a permanent solution even if it means paying for it I will. I met a pharmacist sometime last year if there's any medication I can take to kill my sex drive. He didn't give me a reasonable response, I just need help on how to reprogram my life, my brain to live like a normal human being with purpose and focus in life other than patronising prostitutes..it gets so bad that I take loans from friends and app to expense this lifestyle. I can't watch 2026 passed me by yet again with this kind of living. Now I am sober but give me 24hrs time especially tomorrow Sunday, I'm back to the same ways.

I need help.

Got MFM, they will do deliverance for you

GreenCovering:
This forgiveness after death is promised for us muslims by the holy Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.). It is not of your bible. Stay your lane

I thought they said he said he doesn't know where he will go after his death. And he still promised forgiveness?

Odewaleadesoye:
He was appointed the 12th Chief Imam of the Ilorin Emirate in 1983 and served in this role for over four decades.



DAILY POST

I hope he gave his life to Jesus before he died fa.

Because na straight to hell fire with his turban,😭😭

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Fisher007:
Please don't start. Lol
You know how many people you are giving false hope with this sentence.

Ok OO keep it up.

I'll rather receive this "false hope" than head to a fetish Alfa Ilorin, who adds juju to his holy book

I made a decision to draw closer to God this year!

And stay more chaste concerning the opposite sex.

I must confess I have really seen the hand of God this year.

I didn't even know God could speak to somebody in a clear and with an [b]immediate [/b]response.

In 2026, I pray God helps me get closer even more.

PureSperm:
yes. What should I do about it bro?

Go to a bible-believing church and speak to the pastor!!

He certainly will advise you on the best thing to do

ebukal67x:
I find it hard to believe that the North-West number is just 25. That figure seems too low.

If you've lived in the north before, you would believe

Fynestboi:
YouTube here

https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_mjby3Apomk8I2tVuHo3fp-zFYFs97ub8s&si=SZKSmbCj25Fu_Bbm

Wow, this blessed me brother!!


God continues to bless your ministry sir

breadtoaster:
Please, those of you who are married — how do you cope?

I am married to someone I don’t think is my friend. We dated before marriage, but during that time, I had a very senior friend whom I always went to for advice, help with decisions, and assistance with things that required initiative or “manly” effort.

My husband, on the other hand, is very quiet. Living with him feels like living in a graveyard — no TV, no outings, nothing lively. It’s not that he isn’t intelligent (trust me, he is), but he’s too lazy to put his mind to work sometimes. By 9 p.m., he’s already asleep. He eats, goes to work, and that’s all. He has no drive for more. Whenever I talk about progress or goals, he says, “It’s a process; it’ll take years to come to fruition,” but he never thinks of ways to get things done efficiently or on time.

So in terms of ambition or drive for achievement, I’m suffering living with him. I feel alone. I’m scared that his lack of motivation and his slow, passive lifestyle will kill my own drive. I’m not even extremely driven myself, but I know I want to achieve greatness. That desire pushes me, but I’m afraid that living with him will make me too relaxed and unmotivated — and I don’t want that.

Before marriage, I had friends — both male and female — with whom I shared advice and ideas. I’ve always had male friends because they tend to be driven. From them, I learned about crypto, stocks, business ideas — they inspired me. But my husband doesn’t trust them or me around them. Since we got married, I can’t talk to most of these friends at home unless I’m at work. It’s affecting me mentally. I’m scared that my circle for growth and greatness is being trimmed down, and soon I might start behaving like him — with no ambition or hunger for achievement.

Women, how do you handle such relationship dynamics?
How do I keep my drive while being married to such a man?

Every Friday night, he’s already asleep. One time, I dragged him to a lounge on a Friday night, and he was dozing off there. I ended up dancing alone while other couples danced together. If there’s something important we’re supposed to do, he won’t take initiative or push for it.

For example, I suggested we start going to church regularly to build our spiritual life. One Sunday, he woke up first and went to bathe. When he finished, he didn’t wake me up, and by the time I opened my eyes, it was already late. When I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he called me but I didn’t answer. For me, I wouldn’t act that way — especially when it’s something that helps build our faith together.

We also planned to pray as a family. We did it for two days, and then he forgot — and honestly, I’m struggling to remember too. I don’t know if our marriage is under spiritual attack or if it’s just his personality, but my mental health is suffering. I’m not happy. I don’t genuinely smile anymore.

He doesn’t know how to pamper me or show warmth. If I complain about something, he just lashes out. He didn’t date much before marriage; he was one of those “spiritual brothers.” I was spiritual too, but I thought quiet men were more romantic or deep inside. I was wrong. I feel like he’s choking the life out of me.

At home, I can’t even make calls freely — he gets unknowingly aggressive if I’m on the phone and says things like, “Don’t you have things to do?” So I can’t talk to the people I’d love to.

After our marriage, he had issues going to my family, claiming I blackmailed him because of earlier arguments. He would get upset about small things, like me dancing to Afrobeat music. He’d say I shouldn’t, then later deny he said it. Or if we go out to eat, he’ll say we should leave early or that the place will soon close, even when I just want to relax and enjoy being outside.

I feel alone, yet married. I miss home. I’m not sure what to do.

It even took us one month after the wedding to consummate our marriage. We were both virgins, but his manhood wasn’t functioning well, and we had so many arguments that our emotional connection broke down. I felt it literally fall apart. Now I feel like I’m just living with someone.

He often says, “We’re not aligned,” or that he trusts me only 60%. If I go out, he sometimes gets angry or accuses me of lying about where I went. I can’t stay indoors all day like him — I’d just die inside.

I need help. I feel like I’m losing myself. When I visit home, my mother’s voice feels loud or too much, my friends when i talk to them, it feels like they are talking too much — not because they are talking too much, but because I’ve been living in such silence that I’ve lost touch with voice, morelike in a graveyard.

I am even crying as I type this, and he is sitting somewhere on the other side asking me if my head is swelling or what is making me cry.

I’m just… tired. feeling so strongly emotionally starved tooo.

You both need to go see a Christian Marriage counsellor. The truth is that there are too many issues in this marriage, and if not handled both professionally and spiritually, things might go south (God forbid).

Please don't keep quiet about this matter, go see a Christian Marriage counsellor ASAP.

aribisala0:
So what is it that is the double standard
I confuse

Really

You don't know he just signed a 5% fuel tax few days ago?

Commentor:
He said so.

They are not even newspaper quotes but direct video statements.

Once you confirm this, you'll look for an excuse.

he must have been taken out of context. send me a link

motymop:
according charlie kirk...black commits all the violent crime in america even though they are 13% of the populations

what an irony...He got shot by his fellow white man

All his quotes about black people

Blacks are violent

If I see a Black pilot, I’m going to be like, boy, I hope he’s qualified.

Happening all the time in urban America, prowling Blacks go around for fun to go target white people, that’s a fact. It’s happening more and more...

If I’m dealing with somebody in customer service who’s a moronic Black woman, I wonder is she there because of her excellence, or is she there because of affirmative action?

Liarrr!!

He didnt say this

bigpicture001:
Should the flag be in a pack..?

Naija own go different

E suppose dey inside pure water nylon bah?

Because i dont understand your point exactly!

ucheheart:
Yet there are homeless people in this state. Why not convert this buildings as home for the homeless. They go out every day to work and come back here for shelter at night, instead of sleeping by the road side.

Oh I forget, all that matters to govt are the rich and political class. They don't give a damn about the poor.

This has to be the most thoughtless comment I've seen today!

Homeless people should be taken to a property that still has owners - a private property? Oh wow! The fact that a building is unused doesn't mean it has no owners.

By the way, how many homeless people in your city have you let into your own house??

haggai247:
Anty there are more women than men in Nigeria.

That's why most women especially newly married want a son rather than daughters.

In the world it's 1.01 ratio male/female

everywhere in the world where there's conflict the ratio of male to female further reduces.

If you're 30+ what you should do is make yourself marriageable like you tightly said

They should invest in knowledge and how to fatten their purse.
Not depending on men to give them money...hard for most Nigerian ladies.

Ladies if you get nothing going on for yourself it'll be hard to see any man to take you serious.

Truth be told a 30+ lady is at a disadvantage because of the biological clock of women.

Our women should learn how to earn their own coins

According to Google, there are more men than women in Nigeria.

Your assertion is according to what publication or authority stat?

Neyopumpin02:
The interview, which lasted an hour and five minutes, was conducted verbally. The questions were similar to those asked in the pre-CAS interview. It's not particularly difficult if you're prepared; the questions are answerable if you research the schools and remember the details of your application.

Any NOTTINGHAM TRENT UNIVERSITY applicant here? Let's talk please

Usmanovic95:
There are 3 sides to this story. The parents,the school management and the actual truth.The school can't just expel student because of a petty reason of not paying party fee.

You make me laugh 😂

You obviously don't know the wickedness of private schools.

Kobojunkie:
You are joking, right? No be the same dunamis wey 10's of 1000s of its members dey dey wait their own turn for healing after so many years? Na there you wan make OP go come shook head enter too?

Why are you people so wicked like this?

Ok bro. Since You have a better advise, give her then

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

This matter requires a divine intervention.

You will be a joker to think all these things happening are natural.

Please find a Godly church, I recommend DUNAMIS INTERNATIONAL GOSPEL CENTER.


The spiritual rules the physical, please fight the battle from the spiritual realms first.

Matrix137:
Dear Nairalanders, so I was born in Nigeria and have lived all my life in this country till this moment ( I'm 22 now). However, my aunt based in United States has offered to bring me to the country. Processing my documents already.

However I'm scared I may put me or her family in trouble when I get there cos America is a civilized country and I'm used to the crude ways and behaviors here which is already part of me and will likely replicate them in America which will surely put me in trouble with the law.

Behaviors like urination on the streets, throwing garbage on the road and many uncivilized behaviors too numerous to mention. So please how do I Behave myself over there. Thanks for reading.

Visa never reach your hand, you don dey overthink.
Oga rest, first be praying that the visa application will be successful