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davdandam: Very soon guys will be like hey dear wow it's really nice to meet you, you are way more beautiful in real life but before you eat that sharwama or touch that ice cream,are we heading to my place afterwards ?if not swerveeeeeeeeee mi o raye oshi lol

OkwaIfugo: Oga, dont pay in advance.
Please be there inspect it, drive it around then go come back the next day without calling the seller.

When you see the car again there then make payment, get all documents and drive away.

Dont send any money in advance.
Hope your not in OLX ?

GAZZUZZ: Its naija used price is ok. Ensure u inspect well engine and transmission can set you back by almost 700-800k if faulty.

mstik: All dese bloggers that'll just attach false stories to pictures sef...

Blockus: That Babe wear Jeans under all that bubble still tie two wrapper sef join.



Na Vicker I dey pity.. Ehn Blockus go wan bust for under there.

blacky4race: Not that I care about your opinion.. Just saying everything on net aint so right. #myths

mstik: Nawa oh! You don't sleep?

blacky4race: Wow ... How easy it sounds. U just jump into the bed with someone who said "hello" insane*(don't believe everything u see on net)

mstik: I still don't care.

brilapluz: who is the moderator incharge of this thread...it was a draw 1-1 not a loss..haba
http://www.fifa.com/u20womensworldcup/matches/round=267990/match=300251264/match-report.html

tr3y: OP, thumbs up
but the first three reasons dey kinda amusing.

Kanwulia: Only in a 3rd-world country!

If you’re a parent, you’ve likely given your children the confidence to make their way in the world. But what should you do to offer comfort if your recent graduate can’t find a job or your not-so-recent grad just lost one?

It’s a growing concern. A recent survey shows that more than 1,000 young adults who graduated from school in 2011 and 2012 found that 60 percent of them don’t have full-time jobs.

First, Do No Harm
Well-meaning parents, unfortunately, may inadvertently make the situation worse by saying or doing the wrong things.

If you want to be more helpful than hurtful, here’s what I suggest, based on my experience as a career coach and a parent:

Let’s start with what not to do.

Don’t ask more than once a week how the job search is going. If your child has news, he’ll tell you.

Don’t constantly fret over how your son or daughter is going to pay his rent or monthly bills. Your anxiety will make your kid's anxiety worse — and I'm assuming you’re not paying those expenses or your child isn’t living with you gratis. If your son or daughter is living with you, try not to constantly express concern about the added costs you're incurring as a result.

Don’t offer to connect your child with business contacts who aren't relevant to his or her career goals. That’ll just put your son or daughter in an awkward position if he can’t make use of the introduction.

Don’t encourage your child to get a graduate degree just to avoid being idle. Unless he or she truly wants to pursue higher learning, the amount of debt they'll incur may not be worth it. Sadly, there are many out-of-work grads who are discovering that their pricey degrees from a business school or law school don’t guarantee a job.

6 Ways to Be Helpful

Now here’s what you should do to comfort your unemployed adult child (and maybe yourself as well):

1. Treat your kid as an adult, capable of making informed decisions. Show him or her the same respect you would a colleague or friend.

2. Ask if your child would like help before offering it. This is harder than it sounds.

You may be tempted to tell your son or daughter that they’re going about their job search the wrong way. And it’s natural to want to ask your professional network for leads or assistance. But your child may prefer to go it alone, even if that means making some mistakes along the way. Or he might not have the same timeline you do.

He might also have a different idea of the type of job that would make him happy. Trying to help my college-age son get a summer internship showed me the wisdom of the saying: “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.”

3. Be sensitive to your child’s need to feel independent. This is especially true if he’s been living on his own and has just moved back in with you to cut costs. Returning to a childhood home can make any adult feel like a dependent child — and you can easily find yourself in full-on parent mode.

Be willing to create a different kind of relationship from the last time your child lived with you, one that will work for both sides. It can be as simple as stating there’s no expectation to eat meals together.

The best way to suss out the new parameters is by asking your kid what he needs from a relationship with you. If the answer is financial support and you decide to lend or give money, be sure you don’t attach guilt to it.

4. Listen more, talk less. If your child asks for help in the job search, take the time to hear what he needs before offering advice. He may just want to spill his feelings to get your support, rather than learning your tips on interviewing well.

The friendly shoulder you provide may offer the validation he’s looking for, even if it won’t “fix the problem.”

If your child requests assistance with the nuts and bolts of finding work, consider offering to hire a professional resumé writer or a career counselor who specializes in working with job seekers and career changers. A neutral third party’s advice may be better received.

5. Encourage your child to do things that reinforce his self-esteem and make him feel productive. This could include anything from volunteer activities or picking up a childhood hobby to working out at the gym and brainstorming a start-up.

The job search can be rough on the ego, especially for someone who has never gone through it. There may be little or no feedback after submitting a resumé and your kid's friends may add to the pain by talking about how they've also struck out.

It’s hard for a parent to see a deflated child, knowing all that he has to offer. But try your best to be not just a cheerleader, but a wellness advocate for his spirit, heart, mind and body.

Find something to celebrate each week with your child, whether it’s the number of applications he has submitted or a milestone he achieved on a personal project. Your kid will be at his best during interviews when he feels good about himself.

6. Adapt your comforting techniques. Some people respond best to competition; some prefer gentle encouragement; some like to work with an accountability partner to keep their job search on track.

You know what makes your son or daughter tick, so take your cues from him or her.

You’ll be a true ally for your child when you forge new ground in your relationship. He’ll be grateful for your support during a difficult time — even if, like many people in their 20s, he can’t quite bring himself to say the words “thank you.”

mstik: Life is not all about getting laid...
Sex is so overrated these days.

I’ve thought a lot about whether or not to have sex on the first date, and a lot of people have told me that I ought to take things a little slower. I’ve given that advice careful consideration, and with that careful consideration, I’ve decided that it’s not an advice I want to follow. If sex presents itself on a first date and it seems appealing, the reasons to go for it are plentiful, and the reasons not to, very insignificant. I'm a guy though

You Get to Have Sex

If you have sex on a first date, you’re having sex! Most of the time, that’s a good thing. In fact, if you actually don’t like your date but you both find each other hot, this might be the only time you get to have sex with that person. Do you really want to bother going on more dates with someone who you actually don’t like that much, but who you think is hot? Sure, if sex actually isn't an option, it’s obviously not worth it to expend much effort trying to change that. But if you have the chance to give it a go, why not?

You Might Get to Have More Sex

If you have sex on the first date and it’s good and for whatever reason you want to see your date again, you probably will get to have sex again. The sex might even be a lot better the second time around. You might be on your way to great sexual partnership (SP).

If You Don’t Get to Have Sex Again, at Least You Had Sex

This may be an overly pragmatic attitude and it’s certainly unromantic, but sometimes when you haven’t had sex in a while (especially if it’s been a long time), it’s sort of essential to get laid. Having sex can sometimes be intricately linked in with your ego, and there’s a way in which even if sex is meaningless and bad, as time passes, you become glad that you had it. It’s sort of like getting really drunk and feeling hungover the next day; at the time you feel shitty, but when you look back after a sizable period of time has passed, it actually seems like you were having a lot of fun.

There’s No Needless Anticipation and Build Up

While courtship can be fun for it’s own sake and might lead to better consummation of a relationship, a lot of time it’s a big drag, because you’re not actually sure if that consummation is ever going to happen. Having sex on the first date greatly reduces the anxiety engendered by dating and all the trivial concerns that go along with it. Furthermore, the feeling of anticipation occasioned by courtship is often based on elaborate game play and careful, selective displays of both affection and indifference. This kind of sucks, and if you bone on the first date you hopefully circumnavigate a lot of that crap.

You Won’t Have Wasted Your Time

Dating is a endeavor that requires a lot of time and effort (and sometimes money), and sex is like a barometer of whether or not all that effort is worth it, so why go through multiple dates only to find out that you don’t really like each other and don’t want to sleep with each other? If you do it on the first date, you’ll know right away. In other words, if it’s inevitable that you’re incompatible, having sex will make that apparent all the faster, and you won’t have to meet for drinks, make small talk, and pretend to be interested, only to discover that it was all a waste of time.

Maybe You’ll Fall In Love

The fact is, if you’re destined (whatever that may mean) to fall in love with someone, the timing of when you have sex with someone probably isn’t going to make much of a difference in the long run, and if anything, by getting freaky ASAP you’re getting a head start on something that might be really good.

e shock all of us.

mstik:

mstik: passing by

Lorlaahlozz: I: liar