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Both men and women dey feel am for this system. Even plenty men 35–40 still dey that same boat.

PerfectStranger:
For this hard economy that instead of helping more men with job roles, na women dey collect am.

If we start employing more men in different job sectors, over 70% of spinsters will get engaged.
Majority of today's 30+ men will not be getting married any time soon or at all, highest na to find one girl give belle, case close

There’s a group we no dey really talk about… involuntary single ladies.

Not the unserious type. These ones are fine, educated, stable. You see them everywhere, hospitals, offices, events. Doctors, nurses, professionals. Complete package.

But relationship just no dey stick.

Many of them are actually ready. They’ve tried, dated intentionally, even adjusted expectations small. Yet na same story. They keep meeting guys wey no serious. Promise today, disappear tomorrow. Waste months, sometimes years. Some don’t even know what they want.

At some point, some just settle. Some give up. Some still dey hopeful but tired.

Truth be say, dating market don change. Plenty options, less clarity, less commitment.

I'm spiritually enlightened.

What I'm saying is an allegory.


Heaven is a state.


Even as you are alive now, it's just another state.


The physical world as you perceive it is just an illusion warped in time and space.

Beautifulday:
Majority of the people in most places in Nigeria don't know some places in the same Nigeria. Does it mean those places don't exist.

What you call practical terms is your limitations. When those limitations are lifted. Your perspective changes.

Practical is not based on experiences but on facts. Heaven has never been presented as a physical space. When you are able to enter into the spirit space, you will understand.

StillDtruth:
Is it not with your mind you go to places and do things like smooching an o.s?

Smooching OS na self-inflicted problem, not some separate place called hell... but yes, e fit push person into his own “hell” through consequences

Beautifulday:
Heaven is a place. God created it first before he created the earth.

Religion may describe heaven as a place, and that’s fine for belief. But in practical terms, what determines your experience of “heaven” or “hell” is your inner state.

Same Lagos, same Nigeria… One person is at peace, grateful, fulfilled (Heaven). Another is restless, bitter, suffering (Hell).

I don’t believe heaven is a physical location somewhere in space. There’s no measurable evidence of that.

Sunday reflections my people…

Truth be say, heaven and hell no be one faraway place that you'll go after life like movie.

It's right here.

As you are alive like this: Some people dey live their heaven... peace of mind, contentment, purpose, love. Some others dey live their hell... anxiety, greed, bitterness, suffering, even with money.

Same world. Different realities.

When you die, na simple matter: Body go return to earth. Soul? It will return into the universe.

So the real question no be “where you go go after?” Na “wetin you dey live NOW?”

Make sure say while you dey hustle for money, comfort, enjoyment… Your soul no dey starve.

Build your mind. Guard your peace. Choose your life well.

Because at the end of everything… Na who you become matter pass wetin you gather.

Happy Sunday 🙏🏽

Heaven and Hell exists only in the mind of human.


As you are alive now, some are living their heaven, some are living their hell... And when you die, it ends, your soul leaves, your body returns to the earth from where it was created.

Make sure your soul gains more than your flesh while you are here. That's the ultimate aim of living.

God knows best. Obstetrician and Gynaecologist Specialist in training, at a Federal Teaching Hospital.


May God rest her soul and grant the family left behind, the fortitude to bear this irreparable loss.

Marriage is like secret cult. Most of those men saying yes, don't mean it. It's just COPE.

Times have changed. Most girls are still delusional

I think one thing many people from other parts of Nigeria don’t fully understand about many Yoruba people is that religion is often approached with a kind of flexibility and pragmatism.

You can see one person go to church on Sunday, attend mosque with family on Friday, and still respect traditional beliefs when serious life matters show up. To outsiders, it may look confusing or like lack of loyalty. But to many of them, it is just life, culture, family, and survival mixing together.

In some places, religion is followed with a more rigid identity. But among Yorubas, there is often a kind of sophistication to it. A person can be deeply Christian or Muslim and still not totally disconnect from traditional roots. They don’t always see it as contradiction the way others do.
I’m not saying this applies to every Yoruba person.

Abeg make person explain something for me.

Why be say anytime Nigeria hot like this, light go just disappear like say dem pursue am?

Sun dey roast person like suya for afternoon, still no light for night.

Fuel price don high pass anything. Generator wey go make sense now na like price of half plot of land.

So wetin government wan gain?

Or na punishment for sins wey we never even commit?

Nigeria no easy sha.

His only problem (and major problem) is that he doesn't look rich.

It's not the age that will work against him.


An under 30 lady recently offered to marry Otedola's son.

If you know.

It's well. I don't really understand why he's making the video.


We all know there's insecurity

One thing I’ve always found interesting in global politics.

Some radical Islamists celebrate suicide bombings, cheering (or looking the other way) when markets, buses, and schools explode somewhere in the world.

But the moment bombs start falling on their own people, suddenly we hear things like:
-War crimes
-Civilian casualties
-Oppression
-Why are they bombing us

So wait…
Blowing up civilians of other people is heroic, but getting bombed is injustice?

Interesting mathematics.

I think you cannot normalize violence against people and then expect immunity when the violence comes back around.


Food for thought.

America don also do some things wey favor Arab and Muslim countries:

• US get security guarantees with countries like Saudi, UAE, Qatar and others, plus military bases to help deter external threats.
• 1991 Gulf War, US led coalition push Iraq out of Kuwait after Saddam invade am.
• Billions in humanitarian aid to places like Sudan, Yemen and Syria.
• Broker deals like Abraham Accords to normalize relations between Israel and some Arab states.
• Millions of Muslims and Arabs live and succeed in the US.

Now make we reason am calmly. If you be American citizen and one government dey openly chant “death to America,” will you feel comfortable make that same country get nuclear weapon? Most people no go see am as small matter.

Geopolitics is not black and white. Everybody dey protect interest.

Plenty oil revenue money for the Nigerian government this year.. that's almost times 2 of the benchmark they planned the budget on.

Obasanjo.. even before checking comments.. he came to my mind... After checking comments, he's still the most mentioned

So apparently NYC now has a bar where you can go dine with your “AI partner.” Tables optimized for you and your digital bae.

We’ve officially entered Black Mirror season 7 in real life.

AI don move from helping with CV to collecting girlfriend title.

Na so we dey go? Or una still believe this one na cruise?

https://x.com/i/status/2022093790987821481

Reality. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

Success and poverty is location independent.

If you like run go UK, US, Canada if your consciousness is of poverty, you'll be poor there too... just maybe a little better than you were in Nigeria.

And if you are in Nigeria and your consciousness embodies success and wealth, prosperity will happen for you there too... And vice versa.


The evidence is all around us.

Ronaldo Ronaldinho, Zidane

His body, his business.... But he's living well and enjoying his life, so why are people bothered.


Does God really care, if you draw tatoo or not... The answer is "NO"... Except if it's evil related like cultism, prostitutes and gangs tattoos.

So I was at dinner with a friend this week. Guy has been married for about 8 years now... married almost immediately after uni. Tall guy, always had fine girlfriends back in school. You’d think na him go dey hype marriage pass.

Out of nowhere, he just sighed and said he regrets marrying… apart from the kids.
His advice shocked me.

He said if he were single again in 2026 Nigeria, he would never marry. That I should just find a woman, have between 1 to 3 kids if I want, make her comfortable, take care of my responsibilities... but avoid marriage completely.

I laughed it off, but then it hit me:
My boss had told me something very similar some time ago.
Then I remembered a former neighbour... fine wife, two kids, lovely family pictures on social media... he also warned me not to rush into marriage.

These are not bitter, broke men o. These are men society would call “successful”.

So now I’m asking myself (and una): Wetin really dey happen?
Is marriage quietly becoming something different from what we were sold?

Make we clock am.

Dating don change.

If you marry before smartphones, social media and dating apps, your experience no fully match today reality.

Before:
- Options few
- Competition small
- Communication slow

Now:
- Options plenty
- Attention dey everywhere
- One swipe fit end interest

So advice like “be patient,” “keep trying,” “she’ll come around” fit work before, but today e fit just keep man stuck.


We dey play new game.

Different time.
Different rules.
Different advice (iykyk).

This is showing that we are entering a period of economic prosperity in Nigeria.

Between 2004 and 2014, there was prosperity in Nigeria. But Som apart of Jonathan and much of Buhari's government destroyed the trajectory.

Nigeria is recovering.

Fate loves irony!
This was also the same reason why Ladoja was removed as governor back then. There's a video on Tiktok where the late Alaafin was saying he conspired to remove Ladoja because of this same issue (Ladoja attempted it as governor, but the rotation then was supposed to be just between Alaafin and Olubadan, before he was later impeached).

chopnaira:
Like the popular saying goes: What goes around comes around.

Before Osun state was carved out of Old Oyo state, Ooni Sijuade was the permanent chairman of the Old Oyo state council of traditional rulers. The late Alaafin Adeyemi fought Ooni Sijuade all through till the military government created Osun state in 1992.

The Olubadan and the Soun are now doing the same to the Alaafin. However, unlike Alaafin Adeyemi that was not successful in his bid to start a rotation in Old Oyo state, the Soun and Olubadan suceeded at it in the new Oyo state.

chatinent:
The system is rigged so that it revolves around looters, godsons, etc.. and that's why the wannabe godfather of Rivers wants someone loyal to him to keep making his bank accounts remain in their third trimester.

Honestly, is there really a future for this country for the average Nigerian?

Individuals will still make it.. through hustle, luck, or japa/escape. But Nigeria as a country, in the true sense of the word, is finished.

The system is built for looters and politicians, not citizens.

What we have now is just a place people survive in, not a nation that works for its people.

chatinent:
There's no plan for accountability to start with. If things are electronically done, they wouldn't be need for padding sums to be re-looted by cronies and godsons..

That’s the madness: public money treated as private war chest.
Until citizens force transparency and consequences, elections will remain a business model.. not a democratic process.

₦1 trillion for INEC ahead of the 2027 elections.

Let’s be honest: this money won’t just conduct elections. A large chunk will be funneled through INEC into political operatives, party machinery, and contractors for... ballot papers, ballot boxes, logistics, “security” . Each line item runs into hundreds of millions.

This is 2026, not 1999.

Before releasing ₦1 trillion, there must be real accountability:

- The funds should be publicly trackable in real time by Nigerians on their phones.
- Blockchain-based transparency systems already exist and can be built and integrated in under a month.
- Every contract, vendor, payment, and timeline should be visible... no black boxes.
- Reduce physical logistics that enable fraud; technology should shrink costs, not explode them.
- Independent audits before, during, and after elections should be mandatory, not optional.

If INEC truly wants credibility, transparency shouldn’t be feared... it should be demanded.

₦1 trillion without radical transparency is not an election budget.
It’s a loot framework with voting added as decoration.

I have a strong feeling another US strike on Nigerian soil is imminent.

The signs are there: rising terror threats, intelligence chatter, and Nigeria’s chronic failure to secure itself. The US doesn’t wait for permission when its interests are at stake.

Now, the hypocrisy of the “Trump just wants the minerals” argument is both ignorant and revealing. What exactly have the British been doing from Day 1? Or the Chinese? How’s that working out for Nigeria?

Nigeria’s primary wealth is minerals. This country should be prosperous. The Nigerian government already has the power to curb corruption... blockchain-based transparency has been proven, and basic law enforcement still exists on paper. It also has the power to structure mineral deals that benefit host communities, not soulless foreign criminals and their enablers in Abuja.

The real win is industrialisation: stop exporting raw materials, start exporting finished goods.

Until then, Nigeria has only a handful of serious mineral customers. Choose wisely. Look at how your current “partners” are treating you. Is this what Nigeria is supposed to be, in 2026?

Blaming Trump simply because the US is a mineral customer... while pretending the status quo is better, is peak hypocrisy and ignorance.

It's our money. Inec should behave. It's not tinubu's money. Serve Nigerians with the money, not Tinubu.


1 trillion what?

Who are the people Trump is referring to as BIG OIL.