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BrotherJapa:
So, you want God to give you money so you can give to a girl is that correct?

These people wan turn God to a simp a swear

Thankfully God sef no fit turn simp.

The most high explicitly condemned simping both in the Quran and bible to show us being alpha is the natural order of things for a man.

Helpout12345:
Yes. Because most of their teachings must be legally and politically correct in the country they practice to maintain their licenses.

And an idea being legally and politically correct doesn't necessarily mean that idea works.

A case study is the western countries ideas of marriages. Marriage practices in the western world are just legally and politically correct. Most of these practices don't work to make marriages last a long time. Thus they have high divorce rates.

Well said mate. A politically correct method is quite different from an effective method.

fatosky1:
Oga please no try am. It is not advisable.

If you have opportunity of marrying earlier probably before attaining 30 say 25 or thereabout do it. Retirement age is 60 years. At 70 you will be using retirement and pension money to train your children.
Before 60, endure your last child had graduated or married so you can reap the fruits of your labour. Also don't embark on high capital intensive projects with your pension.
The pathetic situation painted by the OP is a sad reality of what men suffer at old age when the children kept their mum away from the husband and wife turned vindictive to punish the husband for spousal occasional misbehavior at early point of marriage even though positive events must have overtaken the past lifestyle.
Women tends to be selfish at old age.

This template is for those approaching live challenges through the lens of fear.

What happens to you building such a financial investment that won't make you worry about money till you die? Why would you have to rely on "pension" or your children to take care of you in old age? Why are you not keeping it in mind that your child could be dead anytime or the worth of your pension won't be of much value in your later years due to inflation? Why are you not thinking like a father to a son and not a future burden to your son? Does dangote otedola,atiku and co have to rely on their children to take care of them?

tuoyoojo:
In your own words, who would you define as a powerful man. I would like to learn from your perspective

Alright,here i go.

A powerful man in my own term means a man deeply versed in the nature of humans and unapologetically Machiavellian.

Narcissism is the invisible cloak he can't take off even when asleep. He is always detached morally and emotionally when making decisions which might make him appear psychotic.

The powerful man is fully aware that the earth is a jungle where only the strong survive and thrive.

Its such a ruthless jungle that The weak can barely survive and when they manage to do so,their survival will always be threatened.

With such reality firmly in his mind,the powerful man spend everyday trying to build up his power especially by using others either as stepping stones or pawns.

Anyone's lucky to learn from a powerful father will have a less tough times dealing with other humans which is something you can't escape.

zoedew:
Now, that sounds like The American President!

You can say that again.

It goes without saying that kamala wouldn't have dared to take bold steps like this.

Elusive001:
I think you are the one who does not know what being a father is. The person you quoted is right.

Okay. Mr right. Ensure you raise your boys with strong "emotional nuturing and support".

tuoyoojo:
The issue of brain washing to me is cheap excuse to me. I am not trying to say it doesn't exist but this so called brain washing can only be successful with the unintentional collaboration of the man. What do I mean

Many men have the belief that being a father is just about providing money for the house and thats all. This is just a part of the responsibility.

A father must also be present and visible in the life of his children, someone who is there for their emotional needs and be a Co nurturing parent and not leaving it alone for the mother. Someone who is firm and loving
As humans emotional connection leaves a more last impression than physical provision. This is not to imply that physical provision is not important but it is only part and not the only package

As parents we start "writing" exams as we bring up our kids. They score us on physical and emotional provisions. Many father score low on physical provision and even worse on the emotional and nurturing part. The report card is how they treat us when we are older. This is not to say all kids would turn out well even with good home training and nurturing but it goes a long way to hav children who would make our old age more fulfilling.

You have no idea of what being a man is. A father is supposed to be the son's model of a powerful man. A man that is good at being a man.

Emotional nuturing have absolutely none of this impact.

Enemyofpeace:
Hausa Muslims and pretence be like yam and red oil and na for their hands all the bad bad things dey. They keep hiding under religion just to deceive people that they are holy whereas they are related to devil himself

No be lie. As one of them,what you said is the fact.

90dbest:
Fifple da bex por dis kwantiri injiria, wallahi.

Kai shege! Dan ubanka see as i just dey laff am for me for here

3Dee:
You're just normal. I don't even follow any celebrity online. I be celebrity on my own lane
Even the so called popular comedians, I only stream them on YouTube or if I come across their jokes on Instagram.
NB: I've seen many celebrities before and I just waka past them and don't look back. Na blood dey flow my body too, make dem hail me😁

True talk bros.

Me sef i be celeb in my own rights. Mek dem hail me too

Barcalee:
My advice three things you shouldn't fight dirty for,land,money and women. If you fight and die in the process the world won't stand still for you. Know this and know peace

You're very wrong.

Life is all about battles and in my books,money and land is worth fighting for.

Anyone that fights over pussy is worse than a fool although such case isn't rare as we can see one now.

Mcslize:
God forbid bad thing. No even POP. These agents are truly wicked.

Guys, let me tell you something. I am a very inquisitive being. Not just inquisitive but highly intuitive. I can sense and foresee things right from my imaginations and they are real and happens as I see them.

Let me tell you something you don't know. Where you stay has great influence on your progress as a person. So, be mindful of where you stay. There are places you pack into and you will remain stagnant for life not until you pack out of that place.

These places are mostly associated with all those dirty ghetto places where nothing seems to be going on for the people living in that region. And all the evil people mostly stay in all those places.

Please, in everything you do, please work hard to be able to afford a good place to stay. Stay around people that things are going pretty well for and progressing in life.

Avoid all those dirty ghetto areas of face me and face you places. Most of those places are not good spiritually speaking. They will hinder you and make your life miserable.

You won't understand. But just pick something from what I just said. That is if you are looking for a house, make sure you find a better place where the people living around are at least averagely doing pretty well. If you want to progress in your life as a young man who is working hard to survive, avoid all those dilapidated and dirty ghetto areas. They are the breeding grounds for stagnation, evils, setbacks and the like.

You noh lie bros... avoid the unhappy and unlucky lest they infect you with their misfortunes.

pansophist:
Ok I change my mind. I don think am well, and I can agree that men should love women more.

If you will pay her bride price, take her as your responsibility and still find her appealing as she go through all stages of life from pregnancy to childbirth, then you better love her really well.

No talk like dat bros.

A man is not supposed to "love" a woman. She's the one that should be doing the loving in the relationship if the man wish to maintain the upper hand.

Zonefree:
If you're hoping on people to like you, you'll never go far in life.

That's your own mentality and I'm not ready to convince you to drop it.

All i know is likability is one of the most important aspect of success. Especially when you have superiors with authority over you.

See better thread but no engagement.

Back to the topic op. You see in this life,one thing you shouldn't joke with is "likability". If a person likes you,you can do little wrong in his eyes and you shall be entitled to his favors too.

Fiscus105:
Infact, maybe I should tell the guy, to go to universities and see the so-called, professors, that he biliv that they are deputy gods.

When he gets there,he would "largely" disappointed, even in their own fields.

Senior man,you've truly been around.

I say when you ask them tough questions in their own field,it's either they feed you with crap or English jargons rather than admit they don't know it.

That's one of the things i hate about academia,not admitting you know something is tantamount to being "unintelligent"...but does anyone in this world knows everything?

Some professors that can't even communicate effectively sef dey. Nahim one idiot wan turn them to deputy jesus.

Image123:
Lolz, forgive their ignorance. Professor that cannot professor his state. His professorship is in law, not politics. Jagaban and Buhari are professors in politics.

Senior man i like this response.

That ignorance need to be checkmated quickly when noticed.

Professor in academics na small boy to professor in politics. Even osibanjo knows and accept this na fools like that manchi dey cap rubbish.

Fiscus105:
Are they in the university, where professor must superior?

Which constitution makes professor superior to others, outside University environment, either in Nigeria or anywhere in the world?
Who stops professor to contest and be number one?

I guess everyone must give way for professors whenever they arrive at ATM machine or Petro filling station.

You just said my mind bro.

A professor dosent automatically make you better than everyone. You just have a specialised and advanced knowledge in your field.

A professor in arts knows little about artificial intelligence or robotics.

You don't expect a professor that has no experience in politics to be superior to a well-experienced politician and military leader. It's not possible.

In academia he may be superior to buhari,but in the realm of politics,everyone knows their place.

Fiscus105:
Are they in the university, where professor must superior?

Which constitution makes professor superior to others, outside University environment, either in Nigeria or anywhere in the world?
Who stops professor to contest and be number one?

I guess everyone must give way for professors whenever they arrive at ATM machine or Petro filling station.

You just said my mind bro.

A professor dosent automatically makes you better than everyone. You just have a specialised and advanced knowledge in your field.

A professor in arts knows little about artificial intelligence or robotics.

You don't expect a professor that has no experience in politics to be superior to a well-experienced politician and military leader. It's not possible.

In academia he may be superior to buhari,but in the realm of politics,everyone knows their place.

Natbrowny:
I understand what u mean no doubt. But that nigga use 99% money to run those babes.

He didnt run just any1. He was running women close to the men he knows, some are relations sef.

Well well. Using money n status alone sef na dark psychology in its entirety


U park beside a babe with a nice ride, she'll begin to answer politely. Thats dark. 😂

You're dark nigga

idahme:
There is nothing like toxic masculinity, only fuuuuuuuuls use those words. have you seen any one saying toxic femininity? Is there nothing wrong in been femine but everything wrong in been masculine, una head dey pain una.

True talk bros. And na for females "toxicity" plenty pass.

Nah them dey nag endlessly,gossip,paternity fraud,divorce fraud and all that yet these fools have the guts to put toxic and masculinity in the same sentence.

MadamVanessa:




That's for those that sees marriage as an achievement or winning laurel. However, those of us who have experienced it firsthand, we've realize it's overrated. Having tasted marriage and discovered its limitations, i no longer swayed by societal pressures. I value my independence and freedom above all else.

Ma'am,no human is truly "free" or "independent" as you stated.

Such person can only exist in the woods. Alone without any form of human interactions and you know such person woudnt last for long.

Mind you,i was a rebel and still am but they're some realities i realize i can't escape and have to accept it. Humans,or the society will always have an amount of influence over your life.

The only thing is this influence defer across individuals. Some people are more stubborn than others but dosent mean society wouldn't influenced them,even if it's just slightly.

Ayoefa:
Igbos are the worst tribalistic and religious fanatics among all Nigerians. They see tribe and religion before anything else even when abroad .
Whenever I meet an Igbo person in the US, the first thing rhwy talk about is what tribe you are and next is " oh you are a Muslim"?
Even Oyinbo don't care but Igbos from Nigeria cares about what religion you belong too.
Very annoying and pathetic.

Bros the way i take hate those people attitude is second to none. I believe they're the worst set of people you can come across in nigeria.

Igbos are the most ruthless and shadiest tribe in nigeria.

You'll do yourself a lot of good by avoiding doing business with them,or be prepared to take them up with their bullshit because most of them generally believe cheating means being smart so they have no qualms about ripping you off.

Their tribalism is second to none. Especially the ones born and brought up in village. The one in big cities are somewhat better but it's better to avoid them altogether.

By the way,i be hausa man and hausas and igbos will forever be enemies so i have no interest in dealing with them or worst,forming alliance.

meobizy:
My ethnicity has done nothing for me in this life apart from give me a language. I can disown it completely for a price. English is more than enough of a means to communicate with people.

False. You don't know how to utilise your advantage doesn't makes it useless. The fault lies with you.

Bobloco:
Curiously, those who screamed 'obey court order' in Rivers State have suddenly become silent, while encouraging Mc Oluomo to disobey and disregard a valid court order

Selfishness bro...selfishness is the reason.

Merry100:
Are you still talking about a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship? It seems more like a friendship than a controlling dynamic.

Do you enjoy using your words out of context?

Perhaps.

I'm talking about romantic relationship.

Merry100:
I tend to be assertive, but I can take on a controlling role when necessary.

My position - whether weak or dominant - often varies based on the type of relationship and the individual I'm interacting with.

I prioritize mutual respect and collaboration in my interactions.

Oh I see.

From your write-up you have no qualms about being the weaker party but the person should endeavour not to rub it in your face by being a bit nice which is what you mean by "mutual respect" ,correct?

Many men like myself have mastered such like an art. We would assumed the dominant position but occasionally act nice and defer to some of your whims to massage your ego while still maintaining overall dominance.

PapaNnamdi:
There is nothing in marriage, don't let social media and your girlfriend's pre marriage behaviour fool you,

If you enter you go know say e better u de single .

Marriage go drag you down, I kid you not, mentally, financially, socially,
No good thing for a man inside marriage,
Na only woman marriage favour,

And your mama knw this but can't tell you the truth,

U fit marry now make ur wife wey no de do anything first you buy land,

The only advantage in marriage for men is social value. Politically,you won't go far without a spouse.

Also,some contracts and connections will pass you by if you're not married. Other than these things i mentioned,there's absolutely no gain for a man in marriage.

Merry100:
Nice input 👍

However, I believe "power dynamics" is a more suitable term.

Power dynamics exist in all relationships, but not all lead to power struggles. Some partners find r m effective ways to balance these dynamics.

Power struggle imply a competition for control while power dynamics encompass the structures and mechanisms through which power is distributed within relationships.

You nailed it absolutely. Guess i wasn't wrong when i said you were among the outstanding players.

Power dynamics is the correct term.

Now tell me,in any relationship with a person,whether same sex or otherwise would you rather be the weak party or the one in control?

Bizmind95:
What a very wonderful advice for very "SIMPle" men...so we men don't have mood swings ba...To hustle from morning till night 6/7 days per week...which mood swing worse pass that one ni...Dear Men, if you must marry, then never marry for fake true love...that's a real bondage...you will spend the rest of your life doing more than yourself just to satisfy one useless girl like that financially, physically, emotionally, sexually, even spiritually sef...instead, marry a girl you can control... someone that you can easily instill fear into...Women only respect men they fear! That was why our wise ancestors married girls as young as 15...Shalom!!!

You no lie manchi. Me na sweet 16 i dey plan marry sef

Merry100:
From this, we can conclude that power struggles do exist in some relationships, but they are not inherent to all relationships.

No ma'am,power struggles exist in all relationships involving humans.

You as a lady should know better. Women are naturally proficient in the game of power compared to men.

Most ladies will rather die than make the first move to a man they fancy. Why's that? They inherently know the outcome of starting a relationship as the needy party.

The term "playing hard to get" is something mainly associated with women and that tells a lot.

Playing hard to get is an effective way of either increasing your leverage by demonstrating non-neediness or balancing the scale of power if you start the relationship on wrong footings.

There's a saying that goes without saying;"women are Machiavellian as water is wet." You're probably playing dumb on the existence of or even your awareness of the "game" when in reality you're among the outstanding players.

Merry100:
I am not aware of any power struggles that exist in relationships involving two mature individuals.

Women often express their love for men primarily through care, emotional support, and sometimes gifts, while men often show their love and affection for women mainly through financial support and sometimes emotional support.

Money is a man's love language. Even if a woman is not the demanding type, some men will insist that she ask for things or will even offer her gifts on their own. When they genuinely love a woman, men are willing to go the extra mile to show their affection and prove that they are ideal partners.

Ma'am,you sounded respectful and I'll try my best to do the same. It may require an open mind for you to grasp it though.

Any relationship involving two or more is usually governed by needs. One party must have a need that he hopes the other party will give him/her. It could be anything;money,sex,emotional support,social value,fame you name it.

If this need is too much on one part,this will automatically translate to neediness.

Now the other party might not even have a single need for the other but with the huge neediness of the other the leverage in the relationship already lies with him/her.

This explains why some men spend crazy amount on ladies who have serious boyfriends they genuinely care about. And men banging that girl head over heels over them while being nice to and planning wedding with their fiancee.


Same also applies in business settings. Companies will treat you better and be more willing to pay you more when you have unique experience or skills compared to employee that will be easy to replace.

Bottom-line is the power games is being played even indefinitely.