₦airaland Forum

Merry100:
The boyfriend-girlfriend relationship is still in the selection stage. There is no power struggle; it simply entails mutual understanding. Both parties have to put in enough effort to ensure satisfaction for one another.

Mate,there's already a power struggle right from when they exchanged names and contacts.

Who needs the other party the most? You can't tell me they need each other the same way.

Ibkay32:
The both partners should feel equally valued and fulfilled in the relationship. If one partner sets boundaries, like saying no to sex, there should still be mutual effort to maintain the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual connection.

Love isn’t transactional, but it thrives on give-and-take. If she offers genuine affection, support, and respect, the relationship remains balanced. However, if either partner feels they’re giving more than they’re receiving, it’s a sign to communicate openly and reassess compatibility. Balance ensures both partners feel secure and valued, regardless of physical boundaries.

You're trying to paint a picture of an equally balanced power relationship which is far from possible and not very ideal.

In any relationship between two people,whether platonic or romantic,one party must inevitably hold the most power.

AntiZikist:
address the topic or gtfoh .

This is the shithole savage yeast you all claim will be better off as an independent nation..

All of Una get luck that I am not the President of this country because I will not only grant you your containment zone aka Biafra but ensure all and everyone of you is banished to it.

The best thing to happen to you savages is Nigeria and I will take that away from you and leave you to your own devices and let nature carry out the rest.

I'm solidly behind anyone willing to carry out such plan. These folks are lucky nigeria made them,but yet still insult the same stepping stones at any given chance.

Believe it or not,if i have the power to do so,i would have granted them their biafra a long time ago.

After that,any igbo man residing in any part of nigeria will be taxed specially,an igbo man no longer have the right to purchase any property in nigeria. No igbo will be allowed to do business anywhere except in their biafra.

tunjijones:
Lol... Why do you think Peter Obi will step down for Jonathan. You don forget say politicians are greedy.

Why didn't Peter step down for Atiku?

Ajeh all of them dey on the same ship. Peter obi greed is one of the reasons for tinubus victory.

If he really cares about nigeria,he could still make an impact even as a vice president but due to greed and short-sightedness,he lost both chances.

Mathewrichard99:
You said it all my brother. Have experienced such in my business etc....Nigerians are very wicked people.......it's hard to believe unless you experienced it yourself......

Tell me about it.

The citizens are the reflection of the leaders. It's a messed up situation that one has to deal with when unfortunate to be birthed here.

I now see reasons why some nigerian families choose to give birth overseas. I don't think your child can thank you enough when he realize how shitty the country will be in the future.

Mathewrichard99:
That's a real thought provoking deep truth I always pinched myself not to think about.

It's the absolute truth, are the people worth fighting and probably dying for.

Nigerians can actually be very wicked people. Just handful among millions you can consider humane. It's so sad.

Believe it or not,I'm one of the nigerians that genuinely wish this country to be a great nation and a pride among africans but over the years,I have to dropped such thought after i realised the people are not worth fighting for.

Now i can only fight for myself,families and some close ones. Nigerians only respect selfishness. Still i repeat,nigerians deserve their leaders.

Try to employ nigerians in your company without constant supervision and watch it crumble down.

Miramonica:
I cannot even marry a 35 year old woman, either knowingly or unknowingly, consciously or unconsciously.

A woman nearing menopause.

When 18 to 25 litter everywhere like sand. Nawa oo, eh get some kind thing guy man like me no fit do

Bros me i no dey pass 18 sef,dem swear for me ni?

If i plan to get married,then it's definitely sweet-16 or nothing above the age of 18.

I be mallam so this is a normal thing for us. Even ned marry regina when she dey 18 because na wise man.

Any idiot that want to marry a girl looking like his aunt have my approval to go ahead.

Mathewrichard99:
Hey bro, take it easy. Ain't enough for all these epistle now....nwayo, nwayo....take cold water abeg.....We are all feeling the lopsided policies of Tinubu. Most of us or rather large percentage of us knew it as well as you that Tinubu will be a failure as President of Nigeria. I never voted him and infact, I campaigned to my friends and neighbors not to vote him cos even his demeanor, attitudes and spoken words during campaigns already said a lot that he would be brutal and unsympathetic to ordinary Nigerians. Let's pick up from where we stopped the last time and create awareness among us that would be still living till 2027. I don't believe in INEC but I believe in the will and doggedness of the people of Nigeria. It's said by the elders that affliction don't occur twice in a lifetime but that's a big lie cos Ebola affliction came and also Covid 19 affliction too came within a short years apart. Thunder doesn't strike twice at the same location, that's a fat lie too..... Disaster Buhari came and left and Emilokan druggy is on the beat and practically killing Nigerians with harsh policies.....We need to move enmass and deal with the situation that wouldn't make this nation great.... We must wake up to the situation and show that we really mean business....

You're right when you said we need to join forces and show the leaders we mean business but the thing is are most nigerians even worth being a good leader to?

Nigerians are group of selfish,greedy,stupid,egostical and tribalistic set of individuals that one could argue they deserved their kind of leaders.

Henryfocoyo:
bruh you no really get wetin you won talk just let this topic be abeg.
Bcus nobody on earth will do that aside the most foolish man on earth, telling your wife you want to give your family money all the time, the money she has never contributed before in earning it, but she will give her mom or siblings without telling you.
The day my wife tells me that shit , my love for the marriage and her is gone for ever

Bros your cappings dey legit. Leave that manchi mek hin dey yarn nonesense dey go.

Women plenty. Men are the one that propose marriage and not the other way round. If a bitch ain't acting right you better put her in her place. And her place is out of your abode and your life.

FRANCISTOWN:
Hi guys! It's been a while. I took on a project and the client wanted to choke the life out of me. These retired professors are dangelos with their big big grammars.

First thing first, no Nigerian 21st century woman is good for a romantic relationship.
They might be good for something else, but you see this romantic relationship, forget it.

All of them are like that.

But some men will swear with their lives that their own women are different.
Some men in Equatorial Guinea would have sworn that their wives were different until they saw the videos they made with Baltasar with their own eyes.

To those men who say their woman is different. I agree with you that your woman is different, but she's only different because her secrets have not been exposed. The only decent woman is a woman whose secrets have not been exposed.

My older cousin once bought a car and smuggled it in from Coutonu, he repainted the car and fixed every other thing and the car was looking new. Two years later he wanted to go out one morning but the car wouldn't start. He called a mechanic only to discover that the engine knocked. How come? The car he drove home himself the previous day. He was even more confused because he serviced this car regularly. Since then, he made up his mind to only buy brand new cars with nylon.
He bought another car, this time around it was new , and he used the car for almost 6 years before he sold it out.

I'm not saying new cars won't get faulty, but it will be a known fault, a fault that'll arise under your use and with proper maintenance, the faults can be managed before they escalate..

For those who use cars. You'll understand that you don't make just any random mechanic repair your cars. You'll have your own dedicated mechanic.

The reason is because several mechanics have different skills and approach to fixing a car and also, when you suddenly change your mechanic, it will tell on your car.

The same way with phones. If a phone that has never been loosened to repair develops a fault. The technician will ask if the phone had ever been loosened or fixed. This is to show you that new things comes with less complications even when they get faulty.

I've broken up with women who came back begging. I once asked one of them why. One said because I was very honest and straightforward, one said because I'm a loner,one said because I have a very weird and unfriendly personality. Now! That's not even the point 'cause this is where it gets interesting. One told me there was a particular sex we had that she just can't get it out of her head. Another said I've spoilt her life that no other guy fits in.
These don't make me special shit because some of these girls also did that to me.
One went back to kiss her ex because he was a better kisser.
One went back to her ex because he was richer.
One went back because the ex was taller even when I'm 6.3.

One even told me her ex had a longer p*nis but my own was thicker and she liked something that'll push her stomach. I said whao! But here she was, begging.
What happened? Did stop liking long bajumba? She said she didn't know that thickness was better.
I understood that she was tired of the length and wanted girth. What do you think will happen when she's tired of the girth too and will want length again. She'll be back into her ex's arm. Or when she finds a guy with a thicker stuff than myself, of course I'm very small compared to what some men pack in their pants.

This is a typical scenario of a non Virgin girl with many exes.
A non virgin girl is constantly accessing your bed skills with her ex. There is always one particular ex that she can't get out of her head.
While I was working with a certain firm, there was this girl that naturally showed me hatred. So, one day, she came clean to me that I had the same eyes and I speak like her ex whom she had bad memories with.
Imagine if she had had a good memory of him, what do you think woulda happened? She'll find herself helplessly falling into my arms.

On the other note, guys. The more we make girls cry, the more they get more feminine. Not cheating or nothing, but by strictly standing our grounds. Women can never be tamed but they you can get them to respect and honour you at least.

There was this girl who had A1 in silent treatment.
If she felt offended, the next thing is for her to go silent and form busy.
And I used to just give her time and she'll be back the following day. So one day, I said to her: "I understand that you can be angry, but taking your silent treatment up to 48hours is the end of this relationship. I appreciate your companionship but my honour as a man is mostly important to me".

She thought I was joking. About a month, she did her silent thing again. And I didn't just wait for 48 hours, I blocked her after the first day. I guess she remembered what I said and called me with an unsaved number 12PM the following day.
I already blocked her everywhere so she couldn't reach me, the reason for the unknown number. She was shocked, that was the day she knew she was in trouble. She left her place of work under the guise that she wasn't feeling fine to come to my house. Come see the way a whole baddie was begging.
You see, men are very intelligent but women make fools out of men thru tactics and deceit, men are easily deceived. But as tactical as women are. They have a very terrible weakness. Women are very pruned to manipulation.
If you're very good with the art of manipulation, there is almost no woman you can't conquer. Now back to the point. I'm not saying virgins are hundred percent faithful, but I'm saying. You won't be having an unknown competition that you must exceed.


Dey chop this one dey go first. I'm about to get busy.

You dey 6'3 you be senior manchi be that o. Carry on boss,i dey with you.

Abeg this your wisdom ogara olohun,help me with some books recommendations na.

TooMuchStuff:
To naji.....in kunni ta ji, to gari ta waye.....

Ni Kai na...dan wahalla ne...ba na ji ko kussa...

Kai wlh maza ka ban mugun dariya

Wai bakanji magana ko kusa. Ai dama namiji dole sai da taurin kai,sai ka zama jan wuya shine ka amsa namiji.

Kaga kai gwaska ne kenan.

TooMuchStuff:
Yi hakuri mallam.

Yunwa da talauci ne ka damen yawanci mu a haka.
Ba abinci ba kudi ba dadin gari

Toh abunda yafi shine ka tashi ka nema da hadawa da adduwa.

Amma ba wai ka dinga zagin wani ko wata ba. Fadi alkairi ko kayi shiru.

TooMuchStuff:
Shegiya yar iska.. cin amana jagora da jamma a.

Neman kudi da karwanci kawai ta sa a gaban ta.

Allah ya ci gaba da tonan asirin su...Ameena

Kai meye haka? Ita kadai take karuwanci a kanon ko ita kadai ce ta bar NNPP zuwa APC?

Mallam hating on another person cuta ne fa.

Carndidlaydid:
You are maaad for this stewpid question ⁉️ ⁉️ just imagine....

So what happens to her after you stewpidly carelessly fooooooolishly exposed her nudes..

Una men dey really sick

You wanna dump her after you F-up bah... Swear most of you yaros on here can never have anything to do with me iwould shut down the door of heaven to your corpse and open the gate of hell to y'all where your father the devil is

Devil spawns them

Wallahi ke dabba ce. Jaka kawai mai ja wa mata zagi

Funkyswagzz:
If not for the way you spoke to me I would have saga you very well. The problem here is that when we speak up Ur brother will be on every social media platform defending this government with there last blood. Listen it's better this country divide let everyone go there separate ways cos we all have different belief system and cultural practices, we don't[b] have the same values and our leaders are not ready to recognise our differences. A typical igbo man will never guard a corrupt politician and that is what irritates most of your brother's when we criticise[/b] the government.. bro I have some many things to say but honestly it's better we go our separate ways.

Abobi die this your cappings! You dey jonse? Igbo men that cooperate with each other to scam innocent customers in this lagos.

Ogbeni igbos are also humans and no human is a saint. Are you saying there's not a single corrupt politician in the whole of south east?

No be small pikin full here,better be careful.

lymelyte:
I don't usually comment frequently but I was force to by your submission. You are so right bra. Lesbians have no hesitation approaching anybody but you see straight women,they hardly or don't even approach.. I don't know why this is. Talking from few experiences..

Most lesbian act or try to imitate men. So it's no surprise that some of their actions come off as manly or confident afterall,a man is expected to be bold and take the lead any interaction.

Verydarkhearted:
that’s how you girls mess with a guys self esteem and ego.. you deny a guy sex cause his jobless and broke.. how do you expect him to feel confident to stand amongst other guys or even go out to seek a job. Why didn’t she use that sex as a motivator for him. By telling babe I’m giving you this just this time if you don’t get a job you will not see it again..

Guy you be bloody idiot. This your comment na total vertical capping and if i fit Facebook you for real life i go still call you IDIOT.

So na sex wey one banny go give you like a dog nahim go motivate you to hustle and better your life? You no care about your own future? Your
old age? Your parents? Siblings?

idahme:
Hahahaha you are funny, I leave you to your own assertion deal with it. Which opportunities will I miss? Opportunities with women or what exactly? I have gotta everything any young man can wish for himself in today's Nigeria, so I ask what opportunities are you talking about. I can say you need that knowledge you are talking about, I have money but can never rate myself or amy human just because of money never, if you like think otherwise that's your cup of tea deal with it.

You're being delusional,no offense. Even as mighty and vast the ocean is,it never reject raindrops.

Granted you might be rich,but I'm very much sure you're not a wealthy individual so your power is still limited.

Can you current "richness" level maintain your lifestyle without working for 20years? You'd better wake up and learn mate. You've already gotten a head start.

idahme:
It's because of men like us that enabled them with this entitled mentality. How will an adult be so selfish and self centered to a point where she has zero accountability and responsibilities until herself how did we get here?

Why then do we have women educated? . As a rule anyone with this mindset I jettison them don't, as a rule of thumb I ask questions in this regard which help me to weed out these leeches on the streets

You keep saying "education" in your write-ups,do you think civilisation eroded the inherent tendencies of humans?

No matter how far we go in development and technology advancement,humans will always remain humans.

Females are always attracted to strong men. And in the modern world,nothing screams power for an individual than being wealthy.

On this basis,A wealthy man is a powerful man and a poor man is a weak man. Nothing will change this even if all girls ended up getting degrees. As a matter of fact,the degree they've now gotten could only give them more reasons why they need to marry a wealthy man because a woman will reason; "I've got no degree,my dream is to marry a rich man and now that I've gotten a degree i will need to go for a more wealthy and powerful man". That's female mentality.

One more thing,you sound like someone without a deep knowledge of history and human nature. You should try educate yourself on that regard because lack of adequate knowledge in that area will be the same as a blind man wandering this world.

You are going to miss a lot of opportunities and face numerous dangers.

azeeza:

Bani lambar wayarki mana. Based on "ABOKI" levels fa. Bawai ina "toasting" dinki ba ne

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To say you're stupid would be an understatement of the year.

Allow the rich men to flex as much as they like,were any stupid lady with them when they were still hustling?

JAPAHTML:
So someone is just like me out there 🥲 I usually visit my caring father, whenever am coming to his farm I will be observing him from afar how he is so hardworking and caring no matter the little he have😢 even as a boy I am sometimes I will go inside our house in the village and do a 2 minutes cry 😭 you might ask why? Is because I know one day he will die 💔 same thing with mum, I don't know why we were made in this way, my siblings 😢 I will stare at them and be like so one day this one's will be buried 6 feet down 😭😭😭😭 including I 🥲 one day my children will cry cos they lose their father too

Soo Unfair

Abobi you sound too emotional for a man. You're supposed to know and accept harsh realities of life not behaving like a sissy over something you can't change.

If anyone of your family kpai,you can as well kpai yourself to follow them.

Shegzdave:
There’s something I realized in Life and that is: There are no rules to life, you can do everything and still be in debt.

Live like you’ll die tomorrow and dream like you live forever. In other words, Live life as it comes

You're wrong. Indeed there's no rules to life but we're talking about about future finance management here which contains more than plenty rules.

For one,don't go around lending funds to people,direct them to banks or lapo instead. Secondly,make sure you're saving some parts of your income etc.

ShescreamEWOOO:
The biggest setback for small businesses and owners in Nigeria is human resources, you can get past govt and tax palava, you can get your way round inflation, running cost etc the big issue is, how do you find honest and diligent workers?

Everybody sees every chance as an "opportunity".
"na were man dey work he dey chop" mentality has finished us down here, many people cannot work or function in an environment or workplace were they can't cut corners and steal.
If you like hire religious leader o, relative, monk o, northerner, southerners o, they will steal from you not minding the effort, hardwork, pains and time the owner had to put in to owing the business.

A friend was working in a fancy lounge at GRA benin, if you see the way these workers steal from this place you would wonder how the owner meets up, over 60 percent of what they make there was been stolen by the workers, even to pay light bill ans salaries became an issue to the manager.

Imangine a scenario were Chef, waiter, secretary, accountant, manager all steal.
There's an extent my company grow to that all the employees in the sensitive position will be foreigners, Indians, Pakistanis etc they do their job simply and go.

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Kai baba and you talk true o. Nigerians are criminals. As long as you're employing them,you can't do away with theft. You can only migitate the frequency of it occurrence.

azeeza:
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Kinga wannan dabbobin sun fara ko? But i no too blame them sha. Wasu mutanene arewa ya dace a kira su da "aboki" saboda tsabar dakikanchi.

Amma Nima ina daga cikinsu but i no be dakiki. But ni ABOKI ne

JASONjnr:
Was your older siblings always suppressing you into doing things that you don't want to?

Were they always intimidating you into doing the chores at home as the last child?

Coz this can contribute to your weakness.

To come out of it, is simple. You must be deviant and disobey people. Do things they way you want and don't let people tell you otherwise. You must learn to manage your mistakes and face the consequences and feel free to chase them.

No cap. Wish i have you as an elder bro when i was growing up.

Na parents and elders they Bleep most people up sometimes unintentionally but other times deliberately.

greatnaija01:
Sir, Do you know that SELFISHNESS is the foundation of all evils and corruption in our world today?

For example, in the workplace.... if there were 5 genuine single friends at a workplace earning 200k monthly, they could all pull and pool 50% of their one MONTH salary and rent a place CLOSE TO WORK, a 3 bedroom or even 2 bed, depending on the area. And for the next one year, eliminate plenty expenses, to be able to save more.... but many are too selfish or self centered, that such idea would not work because of temporary pleasures and freedom.

Other case is, a family or even a group of 10 friends could pool and pull at most 300k to start a sizeable poultry business. They will make money from sales of EGGS.... and in a month the income from just 300 birds is about 1,500,000+
150k for each person and the deal is to set up the same business for each person before breaking even.
BUT YOU SEE, SELFISHNESS AMONGST THE 10 FRIENDS, WOULD CAUSE SOMEONE TO BETRAY AND EVERYTHING WILL SPOIL.


the government we blame are people like us.
If there is no personal internal change, NAIJA WILL GET WORSE.
DOLLAR WILL CROSS 2000 by next year and fuel will hit 2000 too.

Very superb analysis. Selfishness and self centredness can never make you go far above a certain point.

[quote author=JESHAL007 post=132590699][/quote]Senior man with legit cappings.

Nobe lie,females are brutal and to avoid getting the short end of the stick,you have to more brutal when dealing with them. Provided you're attractive of course otherwise they won't even look your way.

jorion:
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂, dey play.

You think say northern Nigeria and southern Nigeria na the same country.

Or you think say the sahelian belt and the rest of Africa na the same.

If I dey Northern Nigeria and I am a Muslim, I for don marry since na. Haba. It's a bit more safer to deal with women up north na.

Just a bit because I know guys wey dey bend northerners for back yard that time. But yea, it's a bit safer dealing with them. They are a lot more traditional

As a northerner you no lie bros. I don go true your cappings for this thread and finally conclude sey you be confirmed OG.

Na because of our religion islam,na hin curb the excess of female nature in the north.

Check any core Islamic countries in the world and you'll notice their ladies always a bit easier to deal with. No unnecessary sleeping around,no fear of infidelity of your spouse. UAE and saudi are case in point. Furthermore no stupid divorce settlements or one-sided law to the detriment of the husband.

I no dey talk sey muslims na saint. I be muslim and me sef i know sey i no good,but islamic laws really help in controlling the chaos of female nature. For instance,it's very much allowed for a man to marry up to 4 wives which is duly frowned upon in Christianity.

kkins25:
E don reach the point to ask weytin be SIMP?

Simp simply means a simple mumu man

On a serious note,a simp is any man clueless on the true nature of women. On this basis,nearly 90 percent of nigerian men are simps.

So are you a simp or not? How much understanding do you have of female nature? Do you learn how to treat women from other women or through experience?

bluefilm:
I feel you

But that virgin thing... is it really feasible in our world today?

It's more than feasible.

When searching for virgins,you should emulate sir ned okonkwo. Your target age demographics should be 17-19. You shall definitely find plenty of virgins within this age range.