sacramento1212:


Not during office hours. Time up during closing time and meet with her. No big deal in doing so. The ball is in your court.

I want to send flowers/chocolates with a card to her. At least that will ease the tension a little.

bugggg:
These days people misinterprete a good sex to a relationship.

Funny thing is, we never had "good sex" she is boring in that aspect.

OILOFGLADNESS:





AS A LADY, I KNOW WE GIRLS LOVE HUMBLE AND SINCERE GUYS


IF TRULY YOU REALIZE THAT U WERE AT FAULT AND OWNED UP TO IT ( VERY RARE OF MANY MEN, VERY VERY RARE, THEIR EGO IS TOO MUCH EVEN WHEN THEY KNEW THAT THEY AS SHIT).

CONSIDER HER AGE AS WELL
CONSIDER WHEN PROBABLY YOU ARE READY TO SETTLE DOWN

I AM TALKING WITH EXPREIENCE


YOU CAN WOE ANY GIRL YOU LOVE TO YOURSELF, YES YOU CAN ,IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER

YOUR ACTION SPEAKS, AND YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER,

APPROACH HER WITH REMORSEFUL AND REPENTANT ATTITUDE ( IF ITS ACTUALLY COMING FROM YOUR HEART, IT GONNA FLOW EASILY). DONT BE DEFENSIVE IN ANY WAY, JUST BE READY TO FLOOD THE WHOLE REUNION MEETING WITH SORRY, SORRY, SORRY.........

I PROMISE YOU, SHE WONT ACCEPT IMMEDIATELY, BUT LET YOUR ACTION SPEAK FOR YOU AFTER THE MEETING, BELIEVE YOU ME, EVEN IF SHE HAVE MOVED ON, FOR THE FACT THAT SHE LOVED YOU INITIALLY, SHE WILL TRY TO COMPARE WITH HER NEW GUY AND YOUR NEW ATTITUDE , GIVE HER 2 MONTH OF CARE AND UNDERSTANDING, SHE WILL BE ALL URS AGAIN,

NOTE SHE WILL KEEP THE OTHER GUY, WHILE STILL STUDYING YOU............. UNDERSTAND HER THROUGH OUT THOSE PERIOD, COS HE WILL DEFINITELY TRY YOU!!!!!

GOODLUCK.... U ARE INDEED ONE IN A MILLION GUYS... GUYS ARE TOO EGOCENTRIC , EVEN WHEN THEY ARE DYING..

Thabks for the heads up.

I am trying to make a move so we can meet up she seems not to be ready for that. So I'm planning to send her a card and some flowers. Lol good idea?

sacramento1212:


Apart from the aspect of call, is there no way you can meet with her physically? If there's, that should be more ideal than the call.

I know her office but I don't want to bump into her uninvited. She will certainly not appreciate that.

sacramento1212:


So you expected her to quickly tell you to call? You have to do your own work and win her back if indeed you really want her back. If she's not involved in a relationship and also considers getting involved with you, then you sure will have her back.

With her new reply. Should I still go ahead and call her?

kiddoiLL:
Bro you don't ask a babe you on her bad side if you could call after she replied your text before.. Just call her, talk to her, how she's doing how she's feeling, how you'd like to have an open conversation with her in person.
Trust me she'll pick your call if truly she's not mad at u anymore, it's been two months, u texted her n she replied... Man pick up the phone nd call her, you're fighting for her but the one thing you should know is You don't need her permission before you fight for her[b/]

I made a mistake by texting her I guess... Her reply is [b]I don't think it is a good idea if you call. now I'm sad

Offpoint1:


First of all who did the broken up? you or her? if you were the one your chances of getting her is 50%, but if was the one your chances of slimmer.

Second of all, did you know you've started another relationship in the last past 8 weeks? if she's aware, your chances is zero to none..

3rdly, what will happen to your current girlfriend if she gives you a second chance?

I need asks, which ever way give it a shot, but with zero expectations.

one thing about breakup is the way you misses her is the same way misses you.

She broke up with me and she doesn't know I am with another girl (which isn't a serious relationship).

I am giving it a shot but she replied and said she doesn't think it is a good idea if we talk on pgone.

sacramento1212:


And so what happens to that girl now? Or are you guys no longer together?

It isn't really a "relationship"

ecstasy357:


I'll suggest u go to her. You guys should have a conversation, not about the relationship but about her well-being and what's new in her life, and then some random stuffs. Try as much as possible to make her laugh.

After you've left her, send her text about how this day made you felt. Then arrange another day to tell her how you really felt.

You guys r gonno get back together, but try not to mess things up again.

So she just replied my text and said she is not sure it's a good idea if I call... What can I do?

eyinjuege:


The guy in question has had another relationship after the breakup, within 2 months and has been physical(had sex) with someone else. From your assertations, he never loved the girl in the first place. So he should let her be

Lol, I am being sincere here. You wouldn't know if I hadn't imputed it in my story. I just don't love this person I'm with. She is a rebound relationship

awuf2008:
Just create some thing that will bring two of you together, like party, date , holiday or even church meeting, just anything.

My plans. Reason why I sent a text to request if I can call but she hasn't replied

Shawlambivert:
This song by Taylor Swift will help you. How you get the girl. Just try to listen to it.

I checked out the lyrics. Maybe I'd use that method if we start getting comfortable with each other.

sacramento1212:


And how about the relationship you had after the break up? Are you sure you aren't a confused man?

Ok, the girl I am with isn't my type of woman (not a serious dedicated person). She is too dependant and exhausting

ibkkk:
She must have gone through lots enduring your insecurities and coping with your attitudes. The simple truth is:A GOOD WOMAN WILL ALWAYS STRIVE TO MAKE IT WORK NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS...WHEN SHE'S GONE,SHE'S GONE FOREVER.

I know I was a jerk...but I've had time to work on myself and emotions

Nanatrendy:
What about the other relationship you had? How did it end ? Are you sure you've changed? What we're you insecure about? Perhaps if you gave us more details of what ensued between you that led to the breakup you'd get a good advice. I honestly think you should ask to be her friend for a while until she is convinced you have changed because as at now am sure she'll be scared to have a relationship with you because two months is a short time for attitudinal change.

My plan exactly. I want to start on a clean slate as her friend. I want her to see the changes in me.

What I was insecure about.

The fact the had some male friends always checking in on her.

How it ended.

We were on a heated argument (which lasted till 2am)and she said she couldn't cope with my issues anymore. She broke up with me and I got emotional about it.

Ended up calling her all sort of names before she blocked me. That was two months ago. I sent a text to apologize for my misdeeds and she responded positively until the last message which is still hanging.

anonymuz:
go and meet her and Express yourself. I guess that's what she needed. For you to have realised your mistakes that will make her to forgive you. Mind you, women hates men that feel insecure around them...I have once been in the same position as yours and same experience too, but I outgrown it since. So you too outgrow it

We learn and grow everyday (sometimes through sad experiences).

The thing is, I am trying to work my way up to her by sending a text. It's been 12hrs and she didn't reply.

Viking007:
Dude, move on with your life. She's probably into someone else. We always deceive ourselves thinking our ex(es) are irreplaceable, not until we meet the perfect partner.

Probably into someone else. Doesn't mean she can't find me attractive still. Right?

Vickify:


And you were obviously jobless to have moved on quickly

I didn't "move on" I just had someone else to fill in that hole in my heart.

Apparently, it isn't working.

kiddoiLL:
I feel you bro, I did the same exact thing you did years ago..the only way for you to get her back is to open up totally to her, your insecurities, your worries and fears, admit all your mistakes, nd show re u really need her back n need just a chance back because you love her too much.
Guy don't give up on her, she'll come back but when she does, don't ruin it again, if you do, then forget her

I have owned up to her and apologized for the things I did. I also sent a text asking if I could call since last night but she didn't reply.

tosyne2much:
Yeah! That's if she has not moved on with another person

Within two months?

1. She is too busy to move on all of a sudden
2. Even if she has, it is most definitely a rebound relationship because I am more than certain she loved me.

Rejoice5000:
Time heal all wound just like dat news in brief.she dey give it to u hot hot.check urself

I don't get. She is gone?

amokeme:

Wow.. so a woman should stay in a toxic situation (in this case, go back to it) to prove her initial love? I honestly hope she has moved on, doesn't have to be with another man, but moved on enough to know she deserves better. The OP thinks he has changed, but he will still do worse this time. Please go and be better with someone else and leave her alone. Insecure men are the worse to deal with. Manipulative lots (talking from personal experience)

I wasn't manipulative. Yes I was insecure and this was due to the fact I was scared of losing her (a good woman). It was never toxic.

PrimadonnaO:


Without mincing words, I feel I'm the girl. But he said he texted yesterday... I didn't get that kind of text yesterday.

Lol, it seems you've got a soft heart. I wish she could feel this same way

tosyne2much:
If you chase a good girl away, believe me, the memories of how you spent time together will always trouble you

Sometimes you just have to find a way to bring her back. Right?

Oyindidi:
See as you humble I know sey you be tiger wey for tear this poster.

Why you bring this matter come NL?

I just needed a broad review so I wouldn't deceive myself of getting her back. She is yet to reply that text.

PrimadonnaO:


This would get me back, too. Perfecto! OP, here's your advice served on a platter of gold!

I already did with the text. She is yet to reply.

BuhariIsBURIED:

If you won't marry her, don't waste her time

Not in my intention

ifex370:



There are some mistakes you can't make if you truly know what you want..

Allow her be with someone else, you've had your chance

Is that what you do whenever you make mistakes? Give up?

Jcole1985:

Neither do you,your attitude towards that girl shows that.

I'm improved. Are you?

Jcole1985:

Yes

You don't have a mature mind. Your previous comment shows that

greatnaija01:
IF SHE HAS MOVED ON then she NEVER LOVED U.

so relax and plan your shot well.

Thanks. I will send a text tomorrow.

She is a very busy person do I don't want it to seem like I'm bugging her.

Jcole1985:
This is what I call a by-pass,next time plug your wires into the prepaid meter directly by going to meet her father than by by-passing by dealing with the daughter.OP if it isn't marriage leave our girl alone,stop putting san san for another man future garri.

Are you married?