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Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by BalleyB: 9:18am On Mar 21
kiddoiLL:
Bro you don't ask a babe you on her bad side if you could call after she replied your text before.. Just call her, talk to her, how she's doing how she's feeling, how you'd like to have an open conversation with her in person.
Trust me she'll pick your call if truly she's not mad at u anymore, it's been two months, u texted her n she replied... Man pick up the phone nd call her, you're fighting for her but the one thing you should know is You don't need her permission before you fight for her[b/]

I made a mistake by texting her I guess... Her reply is [b]I don't think it is a good idea if you call.
now I'm sad cry
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by BalleyB: 9:20am On Mar 21
sacramento1212:


So you expected her to quickly tell you to call? You have to do your own work and win her back if indeed you really want her back. If she's not involved in a relationship and also considers getting involved with you, then you sure will have her back.

With her new reply. Should I still go ahead and call her?
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by sacramento1212: 9:25am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


With her new reply. Should I still go ahead and call her?

Apart from the aspect of call, is there no way you can meet with her physically? If there's, that should be more ideal than the call.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Psoul(m): 9:29am On Mar 21
Which other advice do u need here?

When we advice all these upcoming boys on how to handle girls, they will go back and take advice from their co hard guys thinking that u succeed in a man-woman relationship with macho man, hard man and thug life thing. When the real time comes, u will see that it's not by bn a hard man but by building urself together with ur partner with love, understanding, maturity, mutual respect and sacrifices.

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Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by OILOFGLADNESS: 9:39am On Mar 21
BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.




AS A LADY, I KNOW WE GIRLS LOVE HUMBLE AND SINCERE GUYS


IF TRULY YOU REALIZE THAT U WERE AT FAULT AND OWNED UP TO IT ( VERY RARE OF MANY MEN, VERY VERY RARE, THEIR EGO IS TOO MUCH EVEN WHEN THEY KNEW THAT THEY AS SHIT).

CONSIDER HER AGE AS WELL
CONSIDER WHEN PROBABLY YOU ARE READY TO SETTLE DOWN

I AM TALKING WITH EXPREIENCE


YOU CAN WOE ANY GIRL YOU LOVE TO YOURSELF, YES YOU CAN ,IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER

YOUR ACTION SPEAKS, AND YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER,

APPROACH HER WITH REMORSEFUL AND REPENTANT ATTITUDE ( IF ITS ACTUALLY COMING FROM YOUR HEART, IT GONNA FLOW EASILY). DONT BE DEFENSIVE IN ANY WAY, JUST BE READY TO FLOOD THE WHOLE REUNION MEETING WITH SORRY, SORRY, SORRY.........

I PROMISE YOU, SHE WONT ACCEPT IMMEDIATELY, BUT LET YOUR ACTION SPEAK FOR YOU AFTER THE MEETING, BELIEVE YOU ME, EVEN IF SHE HAVE MOVED ON, FOR THE FACT THAT SHE LOVED YOU INITIALLY, SHE WILL TRY TO COMPARE WITH HER NEW GUY AND YOUR NEW ATTITUDE , GIVE HER 2 MONTH OF CARE AND UNDERSTANDING, SHE WILL BE ALL URS AGAIN,

NOTE SHE WILL KEEP THE OTHER GUY, WHILE STILL STUDYING YOU............. UNDERSTAND HER THROUGH OUT THOSE PERIOD, COS HE WILL DEFINITELY TRY YOU!!!!!

GOODLUCK.... U ARE INDEED ONE IN A MILLION GUYS... GUYS ARE TOO EGOCENTRIC , EVEN WHEN THEY ARE DYING..

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Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by bugggg: 9:59am On Mar 21
These days people misinterprete a good sex to a relationship.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Lovelife433(m): 10:00am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


Like I stated, I had someone else after the breakup. This isn't about sex.



We all make mistakes. Our mistakes doesn't define who we are.
u need sense, pray to have one its free.

Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by BalleyB: 10:01am On Mar 21
sacramento1212:


Apart from the aspect of call, is there no way you can meet with her physically? If there's, that should be more ideal than the call.


I know her office but I don't want to bump into her uninvited. She will certainly not appreciate that.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by BalleyB: 10:04am On Mar 21
OILOFGLADNESS:





AS A LADY, I KNOW WE GIRLS LOVE HUMBLE AND SINCERE GUYS


IF TRULY YOU REALIZE THAT U WERE AT FAULT AND OWNED UP TO IT ( VERY RARE OF MANY MEN, VERY VERY RARE, THEIR EGO IS TOO MUCH EVEN WHEN THEY KNEW THAT THEY AS SHIT).

CONSIDER HER AGE AS WELL
CONSIDER WHEN PROBABLY YOU ARE READY TO SETTLE DOWN

I AM TALKING WITH EXPREIENCE


YOU CAN WOE ANY GIRL YOU LOVE TO YOURSELF, YES YOU CAN ,IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER

YOUR ACTION SPEAKS, AND YOUR WORDS AND ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER,

APPROACH HER WITH REMORSEFUL AND REPENTANT ATTITUDE ( IF ITS ACTUALLY COMING FROM YOUR HEART, IT GONNA FLOW EASILY). DONT BE DEFENSIVE IN ANY WAY, JUST BE READY TO FLOOD THE WHOLE REUNION MEETING WITH SORRY, SORRY, SORRY.........

I PROMISE YOU, SHE WONT ACCEPT IMMEDIATELY, BUT LET YOUR ACTION SPEAK FOR YOU AFTER THE MEETING, BELIEVE YOU ME, EVEN IF SHE HAVE MOVED ON, FOR THE FACT THAT SHE LOVED YOU INITIALLY, SHE WILL TRY TO COMPARE WITH HER NEW GUY AND YOUR NEW ATTITUDE , GIVE HER 2 MONTH OF CARE AND UNDERSTANDING, SHE WILL BE ALL URS AGAIN,

NOTE SHE WILL KEEP THE OTHER GUY, WHILE STILL STUDYING YOU............. UNDERSTAND HER THROUGH OUT THOSE PERIOD, COS HE WILL DEFINITELY TRY YOU!!!!!

GOODLUCK.... U ARE INDEED ONE IN A MILLION GUYS... GUYS ARE TOO EGOCENTRIC , EVEN WHEN THEY ARE DYING..

Thabks for the heads up.

I am trying to make a move so we can meet up she seems not to be ready for that. So I'm planning to send her a card and some flowers. Lol good idea?
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by sacramento1212: 10:04am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


I know her office but I don't want to bump into her uninvited. She will certainly not appreciate that.

Not during office hours. Time up during closing time and meet with her. No big deal in doing so. The ball is in your court.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by BalleyB: 10:05am On Mar 21
bugggg:
These days people misinterprete a good sex to a relationship.

Funny thing is, we never had "good sex" she is boring in that aspect.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by BalleyB: 10:06am On Mar 21
sacramento1212:


Not during office hours. Time up during closing time and meet with her. No big deal in doing so. The ball is in your court.

I want to send flowers/chocolates with a card to her. At least that will ease the tension a little.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Lovelife433(m): 10:08am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


Thanks. I will send a text tomorrow.

She is a very busy person do I don't want it to seem like I'm bugging her.
how old are u?cos The dis girl disorganize ur brain dat u can't reason as a man is still a miracle to me. Move on and look for Anorther one dey are plenty out there, beans and bread seller plenty evertwere na.

Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by OILOFGLADNESS: 10:24am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


Thanks for the heads up.

I am trying to make a move so we can meet up she seems not to be ready for that. So I'm planning to send her a card and some flowers. Lol good idea?

vERY GOOD IDEA,

YOU CAN SEND THIS TO HER OFFICE, WITH A SHORT NOTE BUT NOT SPECIFYING UR NAME....
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by tosyne2much(m): 10:25am On Mar 21
feelgoodstuffs:



100% TRUE Bro embarassed
Thanks boss cool
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by sacramento1212: 10:26am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


I want to send flowers/chocolates with a card to her. At least that will ease the tension a little.

You are an African man and not a white. Act like the African man you are. Except when you were involved she loved all those things but to me i see them as a waste of time. Chocolate or flowers isn't a recipe for settlement. You guys need to meet one on one.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by bugggg: 10:30am On Mar 21
Then deal with ur insecurities first better still make her understand better the things that makes you feel insecure. I find it hard to trust girls too and my babe knows and we are working on that ..... I always wanna know that male that calls and texts and what's all about these days we laugh it off
BalleyB:


Funny thing is, we never had "good sex" she is boring in that aspect.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by OILOFGLADNESS: 10:30am On Mar 21
sacramento1212:


You are an African man and not a white. Act like the African man you are. Except when you were involved she loved all those things but to me i see them as a waste of time. Chocolate or flowers isn't a recipe for settlement. You guys need to meet one on one.


YOU ARE RIGHT BUT I TEND TO DISAGREE,

HIS ACTIONS EVEN BEFORE THE MEET UP IS CONTRIBUTORY


U HAVE TO BE REALISTIC HERE
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by sacramento1212: 10:36am On Mar 21
OILOFGLADNESS:


YOU ARE RIGHT BUT I TEND TO DISAGREE,

HIS ACTIONS EVEN BEFORE THE MEET UP IS CONTRIBUTORY


U HAVE TO BE REALISTIC HERE



He knows the lady in question more than everyone of us commenting here. Except the lady loves things like that, then he can go ahead but my kind of person will hit the nail on the head.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Nobody: 10:38am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


Not in my intention
So of what use is it to you?
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Mariangeles: 11:24am On Mar 21
ElsonMorali:


How much of me do you know exactly to know what and what I'll do or say?

Lady, it's too early to argue with a NL "feminist" who thinks all men are scum.
There you have it !
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Jcole1985(m): 11:34am On Mar 21
Kendrick80:
We wasn't spzd 2 get past 25..... grin
Jokes on you mother4kers we alive grin
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Offpoint1: 11:34am On Mar 21
BalleyB:


She broke up with me and she doesn't know I am with another girl (which isn't a serious relationship).

I am giving it a shot but she replied and said she doesn't think it is a good idea if we talk on pgone.
Yeah, she's right, you shouldn't have discussed it on phone. Take her out to a cool place, If there's anyone you guys are used to, take her there. own up to you mistakes just like you did, let her know you've grown pass that now, let her know sincerely you've changed, the old you is dead and gone.
Whatever the outcome might be, handle it like a man. If she insist she's have moved on, wish her well and tella you wish things really worked out with you two.

Please just what you do don't show sign of desperation while doing this, else she might use it as advantage against you. Wish you best of luck man.

Just prepare for the worst, but pray for the best.

Go get your woman back man!
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by ElsonMorali: 11:41am On Mar 21
Mariangeles:
There you have it !

My apologies for sounding too brash. embarassed

You did make heavy assumptions about a faceless online personality though.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by kiddoiLL(m): 12:07pm On Mar 21
BalleyB:


I made a mistake by texting her I guess... Her reply is I don't think it is a good idea if you call. now I'm sad cry
That's shat you get for seeking permission to do the right thing, you never needed permission to do what's right.. If I were you I'd still call her, ask her not to no hang up and that I couldn't stay away n really needed to hear her voice n talk to her, I'd let her knw even she wanted me not to call, I couldn't fight the urge n I'm sure she seems like an understanding nd matured person, she'll give you the chance to express yourself, then you can ask her if it's possible to see.. on the contrary to what I've read here mostly, ask her to pick a place she'll b comfortable to discuss with you. Don't take her to any spot you're both connected to, don't take to any of your sweet spots (She's still fighting to let you back into her life, last thing you need to do is remind her or make stuffs worse by taking her to spots she doesn't feel connected to at the moment) I hope you get my drift??.. call her, tell her you need to see her, ask her to choose the place you'll meet, the aim is to make her be in control for now and comfortable
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Kendrick80(m): 12:17pm On Mar 21
Jcole1985:

Jokes on you mother4kers we alive grin
Ur head dey der...glad 2 chat with a fellow Cole fan smiley
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Jcole1985(m): 12:20pm On Mar 21
Kendrick80:
Ur head dey der...glad 2 chat with a fellow Cole fan smiley
Yeah,Its a Cole world out here! smiley .
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Kendrick80(m): 12:24pm On Mar 21
Jcole1985:

Yeah,Its a Cole world out here! smiley .
Yea...4 your eyez only tho wink
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Blueeyedboi(m): 12:25pm On Mar 21
Dude you should be reading the hand writing on the wall by now.... The signs are all over the place...Sad truth is SHE'S GONE and there's nothing you or anyone can do about it... Brace yourself up,learn from this experience and move on...Some things are not just meant to be...makes no sense forcing it... Apparently some people come into our lives to make us better and prepare us for future challenges in life... Every relationship must not end in the fairy tale lived happily ever after.....Thank her for making you a better person and move on... No amount of text or call will bring her back ... Trust me, that ship has sailed a long time ago... Stay off relationships for a while to get your acts together... It's part of the learning process.. A nice girl will cross your path soon enough... Then you'll be more mature and experienced in handling her.. Someday you'll look back at this whole episode and smile...Good luck..
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Jcole1985(m): 12:27pm On Mar 21
Kendrick80:

Yea...4 your eyez only tho wink
That is why we KILLING OUR DEMONS like them bloody KIDS ON DRUGS killing their moms
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Kendrick80(m): 1:12pm On Mar 21
Jcole1985:

That is why we KILLING OUR DEMONS like them bloody KIDS ON DRUGS killing their moms
Hmmm...same way niggas acting woke but dey broke.
Re: I Pushed Her Away With My Attitude Now I Want Her Back by Shhhh01(f): 1:16pm On Mar 21
BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.
We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her. What advise do you seek again son?

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