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BAT should do good for once by picking up the remaining Kanu brothers and reuniting them in sokoto. If he does this, he would win my heart over. Gov Otti is too sentimental on this issue.

Sampalo:
Trump worshipper sighted , plastic brained

Tinubu worshipper sighted. Brain dead

They will soon comeback and be made Obas’ and Baales’.

Sirchiboy:
Abobi I don get your id.
No lele

Hold the id well o, make e no loss. You know say you dey very careless

QuinQ:
He never removed the quote, heartless guy.
Here it is:

Justicepluto:
Life is like a two-sided coin.

Three years ago, I met a young woman fresh out of NYSC. When we started dating, she told me she had graduated with first-class honors and was exceptionally intelligent. Impressed by her potential, I began supporting her in every way I could. I encouraged her to pursue her ICAN certification and provided financial help, even though I was struggling myself. At one point, I had to ask her to stop making random financial demands, assuring her that I would always support her when it was truly necessary.

For the first two years, as she grew professionally, I focused on building our future. My dream was for us to travel together after our first year of marriage. She was indeed brilliant, intelligent, and hardworking, which only fueled my commitment.

By our third year, we had seen significant progress: we acquired lands and a car. But amid this growth, one persistent issue overshadowed everything, the lack of basic respect. She never respected me the way I respected her. I held her in such high regard that I even tempered my sexual energy around her. During intimate moments, I often appeared subdued so as not to overwhelm her, especially since early in our relationship, she had mentioned that sex was painful for her.

One day, during a disagreement, we went out to resolve our issues. In the middle of our conversation, she abruptly stood up and left. I was stunned but swallowed my pride. After talking to her about it, she repeated this behavior during another attempt to settle things this time, I took her phones in frustration, and she snatched mine, even pulling my second phone from my pocket.

I began questioning why she couldn't show me respect. I never hit her, abused her, cheated on her, or shouted at her. Whenever I tried to correct her gently, she would raise her voice to counter me, and I'd stay calm to avoid escalation.

She rarely did any chores when she visited. To be fair, she would cook, but that was it—nothing else. Helping with something as simple as cleaning the toilet seemed like an act of divine intervention. My laundry was never her concern; she could wear my clothes and just leave them for me to wash, as if it were none of her business.

Over time, it became difficult for me to address her behaviors without sparking fights, so I started avoiding those conversations altogether. I even bought several plots of land through her, and her company at the time gave her commissions, yet not once did she ever say "thank you." I overlooked all of it.

Her constant disrespect and eagerness to walk away during conflicts made me realize I needed to test her loyalty. I couldn't pinpoint the issue, as there wasn't a single aspect where I thought I was falling short—and when I asked her, she couldn't name one either. Was it the gifts? The phones? Extending my generosity to her family in small ways? The advice I gave? I was truly confused.

During one argument, she left our shared bed, slept alone, and packed her things the next day.

I decided I had to confirm what was really going on, especially since February 14th was the day I had planned to introduce myself to her family officially. When she later came to apologize, I lied to her that I was a sickle cell patient. She cried, accused me of wasting her years, and left. As she was going, I expressed my interest in her regardless, pleaded with her not to tell anyone, and asked if this was a sacrifice she could make for us—that she should think about it and get back to me.

Did I go too far? I don't think so. At one point, I had sacrificed my job, my source of livelihoodbecause her actions had triggered me so deeply. We met again later, and I begged her not to walk away. I promised everything: adoption, sperm donation, IVF. She refused, saying the money we could save and channel into other things shouldn't be wasted.

This was a woman who, in our three years together, had never done anything for me or my family financially. I borrowed money from her when times were tough and repaid it almost immediately. She earned well currently in the hundreds of thousands but never once had she given me even 5,000 naira as a gift. The first and last time she gave me any money was for a hospital bill, and it was 10,000 naira. Yet here she was, complaining about wasting money.

I laughed it off inwardly as she left and sent her belongings after making sure she asked for them. Weeks later, her mother called me as usual to ask about our issues. Because of her daughter's pride, her mom would rather intervene to settle things than her make any genuine efforts to show she was sorry. I felt there was no point discussing it, if her daughter's pride and ego weren't in the way, she would have stepped up to make amends herself, rather than involving her mom.

Now, I'm starting over. This time, it's not about who's the most successful or intelligent, but about finding someone who will stand by you when the chips are down—someone willing to make sacrifices, even when it's uncomfortable for them.

Many highly intelligent and working-class women remain single or end up divorced for a reason. Some are married but face similar challenges. Ultimately, it's about recognizing your potential and finding someone who will stand by you to achieve it.

In the end, she was stuck in a fantasy shaped by her past relationships, which I don't want to write about. In the end, everyone will be happy.

N.b
I couldn't type everything i overlooked and endured but i am glad it's a fresh start..

How is he heartless?

honour8:
At times life is grace, one lady I know did not go to school, trafficked abroad, met a white man, an engineer as olosho things, the man went for an interview one day in shell looking for expatriate in Nigeria, to edge out other applicant, he said he had a Nigerian wife, that is how he got the job and to keep up the rues married the girl, contract open marriage at first, the man came to Nigeria was frolicking around, money don dey, the wife gave him some children over the years and decided to get serious with her life, the man did not agree, so decided to leave the man, when the company found out, they almost sacked him, till the man begged and the lady said 70 percent of salary should be coming to her, who would have known that the lady's talent was real estate, she said when the man's salary hit her account, nothing to do with it, so she was using it as down payment for any real estate she could find, till she paid it out, that is how this woman made the man a multimillionaire within a space of 15 years, the man later resigned from his job to enjoy life with the wife.

The woman is a saint in this story sha

elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going

Well you’ve made a mistake for sure but look on the good side, she can be good home maker, just put your foot down on the spending part.

autoez:
Private hospitals in Nigeria are business centers. All they treat is Malaria and force pregnant women to do CS so tbey can make good money. Everything in naija is just corrupt.

It is funny but it’s not 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Sijiade77:
And to think I spoke to her not too long ago before she passed on, I never thought our last meeting would be our last💔😞😪
Life!😔😞

You knew her ? What was she like as a person? Sorry for your loss.

saphiere:
I planned that this year I will have a pet snake. Last week I was at Hotel Presidential to see if those Abokis that sell different kinds of animals have snake for sale.

My aim of wanting to have a snake as a pet is for social media content. I am watching some YT tutorials on how to take care of a snake. Can someone recommend non venom snakes?

Ask those abokis when you meet them.

Nigeria and our lackadaisical institutions

MEGAWATCH:
The number woman in Nigeria....

Tinubu's wife is like a nursery school girl before her.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

In Remi’s life and if she comes back again in another life, they are incomparable.

Thedon22:
So they no dey die for where you wan people to go? Even Somalians are still in there country no to talk of Nigeria. If Americans had left their country who would have built it for them? Africans? Please, always use your sense.

If your sense advice you to stay back in Nigeria, please do. My own sense tells me to leave, if the advise does not resonate with you by all means ignore. Those who it resonates with it will see sense in it.

Kobicove:
If you like leave Nigeria and relocate to Australia, you and snakes will be dragging space in your compound

At least when they bite me both snakes and/or spiders. I will not be told there’s no anti venom.

If you can leave this country, pls do all you can to leave. A snake bite should not kill a person in 2026, if we are serious as a nation.

Techpik:
Happy Sunday guys, this have accusation of labeling me yahoo guy in the compound have happened on many occasions during compound meeting, side talks etc.

But I’m not to be sincere I’m a freelance website developer working from home, I have worked for lots of people even on this nairaland, within Nigeria and abroad at the comfort of my home.

What use to trigger this labeling is because most of my neighbors go out in the morning and come at night and I’m always indoor (at home) living good.

So this have been causing side talks and even confrontations from some neighbors.

Most times I have been explaining and try to prove to them, that I’m a freelance website developer that I worked from home.

Before anybody will think the same on nai.raland, you can check me on google Techpik and all social medias and my site.

You will even see good reviews from people I have completed projects for.

I also need your advice guys, to deal with those neighbors.

Go and report them to the nearest police station. Make them come write how they came about the information. It may cost you like 20k but those rumors will die away.

Sanwo olu will stay mum on this one

ikorodureporta:
What do you think about the new guidelines by the Catholic Archbishop of Lagos?

I'm bringing this here for us to talk about it because it seems there are people out there that are not telling the Archbishop the true picture of things.

The new guidelines says that all officers currently holding positions must vacate their positions for fresh people...
It also made the new leadership training, AEMP as a prerequisite...

Most of us are holding multiple positions in various levels... If you take us out, where are you going to see "Fresh people" to cover the vacuum??

Also, the AEMP being compulsory is an issue as people are not interested... How many parishioners have done the training that are now qualified??

The church is taking a wrong approach to solving the problem they're trying to solve..

Personally, I've occupied many positions in the past without having any leadership certificate to show for it. It should start from there..

The church should also make strict rules on indiscipline.. people just do things anyhow and walk away with it. Some mess up in one Parish & relocate to another parish without getting sanctioned..

Leadership tenure should be reduced to 2 or 3yrs to make it attractive...

The church should also make empowerment training compulsory in all parishes...

With these you can have a more purposeful governance in the system..

If I may ask, if the few people currently with the AEMP are those with issues, are they going to be selected unchallenged?

This is not a new guideline, I remember about 3!years ago in my former parish St. John the Baptist igando. The Parish Priest implemented it immediately, we the lay faithful even nominated the person we felt could lead in the mass. If your parish is implementing it now, it’s a bit late.

So Canadian loud is actually imported from Canada, wow.

Kukutente23:
A female Bishop
Paul must be turning in heaven
The Anglican church has fallen so far and hard and it's not so hard to see why
The foundation was faulty. What can the righteous do?

Indeed the foundation was faulty because King Henry IV who founded the church only broke away from the Roman Catholic Church in order to divorce his wife because she could not give him a male heir and marry another woman which the pope refused him.

These events doesn’t surprise any one who understand the implications of our actions vis-à-vis spiritual things

kals4luv990:
Baba rest Abeg
If heat do ijele make im come Abia collect fresh air

Do you understand Igbo language properly? Did you understand what I wrote in the context of ofeke and ijele ?

Pentecostal churches this is your doing

pigmania:
Cows eat grass, but see how sweet their milk tastes. Now imagine the milk from a woman who eats pizza, shawarma, honey, ice cream, e go sweet pass cow own normally na.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you no well bro

contentEngineer:
I wish you knew her past

What does her past have to do with it? If she has been loyal since she took a vow of faithfulness, what does her past have to do with it. It’s a shame that most of you have a mysognistic mindset.

ravensckar:
Easy fella!

It's I (an OG in the game) that you're talking to not some school kid who just fell in love! So, you think I wouldn't know if I married an "Angel" or a "devil?". Common man!

My wife has always been an angel to me. She can do anything for me, so long as it makes me happy. Yes, women are not perfect, but if you find a good one, appreciate her for being one.

All this una talk about a man being a "simpleton" because there's peace in his house, una no dey tire ni?

I bet you that guy is in his twenties, with little or no experience about relationships or life in general. He can’t relate to what you’re saying no matter how you try to explain it.

RichBoy247:
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The 300 concubines that he had were given to him by Angel Gabriel abi? He was just like his father David. A family of adulterers

Use a dictionary and thesaurus to check for the meaning of a concubine, then research the historical roles concubines played in the household of a king.

RichBoy247:
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Prove what he said wrong. Was Solomon not an adulterous bastard and was David not murderous adulterer ?

Where in the Bible was it alluded in anyway that Solomon was an adulterer?

bcomputer101:
FRICTION



Seun, all these nonsense must stop this year

Fiction*

Fake story but it happens anyways

Iran is a failed state, sooner or sooner Ayatollah will be disgraced and the oppressive Islamic regime will come to an end.

NLandIsHypocrit:
So you went as far as going to search for this just to vent your frustrations and envy. Ijele zukwanu ike.

I na kpo ofeke ijele, na gini mezi?