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1. Not spending enough time with your children

A startling majority of working moms feel like they haven’t struck the right balance between their work and children. If you’re at work worrying about the children, work isn’t getting the best out of you and the kids aren’t getting anything. You should give your full dedication depending on where you are, whether at work or with the kids. That way everyone, including yourself, benefits.

2. Not losing extra weight

More than 70 per cent women report being on a diet at any one given time, regardless of whether they are actually overweight or not. If you want to look gorgeous and slim, choose to change your situation and make time to go to the gym or a slimming group. Recognise it is your choice and no one else is to blame.

3. Spending money on yourself

Going on a shopping spree may be fun, but the after effects can send some into a spiral of self-loathing and guilt. However, if you rationalise your reasons for spending money on a spa break because you need the downtime, or a new business suit because it will help you in your work, then you have no reason to feel guilty.

4. Your partner is unhappy

If you do feel guilty that you’re not doing enough to make your partner happy, then it is suggested that you both sit down and look at your timetables and agree on how you can make more time for each other. Discuss it and come up with a change in your behaviours that will make you both happier as a couple.

5. Always being late

Sometimes, situations arise which will make us late, no matter how well prepared we are, prompting feelings of guilt and panic. Sitting on a train and getting aggravated about what you could be doing if you were there already is a waste of energy. Ask yourself how you can use the moment? You could write out a full shopping list, rehearse what you want to say in the meeting or call your mother. Sitting there winding yourself up hurts only yourself and no one else.

6. Not being able to play the perfect hostess

Many women say they would like to put on the perfect dinner party or a drinks bash but they often set themselves high standards that they then fail to meet. The desire for social excellence derives from our need to be perfect all the time. Go on, host your party and be a bad party hostess. The moment you accept you can do it, but do it badly, it takes the pressure off. We give ourselves a lot of ‘I should be the perfect dinner party host’. Everyone has a different perception of everything so you can try to host a dinner party but you have to do it your way.

7. Forgetting birthdays

It’s not deliberate. Some of us are running about for 18 hours a day and have a million things to do. If you do feel guilty then simply tell yourself you know you’re doing your best, apologise and make clear that it wasn’t something done deliberately. If the person chooses to take umbrage, then that’s up to them.

8. Taking out some me-time

Living up to the ‘superwoman’ image that many women wish to maintain, can lead to terrible feelings of guilt over giving themselves time off to get their hair done or read a book. But doing nothing is very important in allowing us to physically and mentally recharge. But it is very difficult for other people to see you doing nothing and allow yourself to do it. Tell people the truth. That you need a break because you are at your limit – then accept that the world is not going to fall apart without you.

9. Letting your parents down

Women can inherit guilty feelings through the generations of not doing enough for their elders and in some way failing their parents. Learn to accept that your parents will love and judge you no matter what. Obviously do try and be sensitive but if you go your own way and you are successful and happy, then if they are decent human beings, they’ll be happy for you in any way.

10. Saying ‘No’

Saying ‘no’ is hard because we don’t want to be seen as the baddie and because women are taught from a young age to put others first. The first thing to do is to give yourself time to think about each request and it is suggested that you say something noncommittal like, ‘That sounds interesting, give me half an hour and I’ll get back to you on it’.
If you really don’t want to do what they ask, then give the person other options to help solve their problem.

LesbianBoy: Are you a fan

yeah.. whose that guy beside him.. hmm shina i guesss

oga oo

1=Kiss her hands,forehead and nose regularly *hmmmmm

2=When crying DO NOT ask her why just hold her tight *thatsimple

3=Let her stay with your phone for 1 day just to build trust ;-)

4=Hold her waist from behind unawares

5=DO NOT be mean with cash*ohYES

6=Never be too close to her friends for whatever reason*NEVER

7=Cover her with your jacket when cold*howsweet

8=STOP sagging,you are no longer a teen PLEASE.she might not tel you but it throws her off*

9=Finally she will feel great if her pic is your phone or computers wallpaper.

Ladies I'm I wrong
Guys what do you think?

acidtalk: Good one. Did something of this nature in the past.

Ladies : Clear Signs To Know He Won't Marry You

https://www.nairaland.com/1032128/ladies-clear-signs-know-he

oooh

It is very important for a woman to
know how the man she is dating
feels and whether he will
eventually step up and propose.
These 7 signs help you clarify if he
thinks your relationship is for
keeps or just fun for right now.

1. He only makes plans for the
immediate or short term. He is
always ready to make a date
for tonight or this weekend but
rarely makes plans for the distant
future. For instance, you
ask him to plan a romantic
vacation for next year and he acts
hesitantly telling you, "That
sounds great, but let's wait until it
gets closer before booking the
flight and hotel."

2. He rarely sings your praises to
his friends and family. This can be
spotted when you are around
those closest to him and they say
something to the effect of, "Wow,
Bob never told us how smart and
talented you are!" A man who is
serious about you and your future
together raves about you.

3. In social settings, when the topic
of marriage or children comes up,
he quickly changes the subject. In
addition, if he cannot
change the subject, he will try to
distract you or remove you from
the conversation. He may mention
the buffet and that he is hungry so
he can avoid having to face any
questions from the conversation.

4. He tells you he is too stressed at
work to think about getting
married now but maybe in a few
months he can focus on it. He is
doing this to buy more time with
you before being cornered into
dealing with the subject of
marriage.

5. He avoids talking about a deeper
commitment and tells you he is
"happy the way things are -- why
ruin it?" When a man tells you this,
it is a big red flag that he does not
have the intention of taking your
relationship to the next level.

6. He avoids serious talks about the
future by diverting your attention.
Often a man will do
this by trying to make you laugh or
engage you in a fun activity.
Remember his goal is to keep you
happy and around without having
to further the commitment.

7. He will compliment you without
adding himself in the mix. He will
tell you how great you are and
how much he admires you but will
not say anything like, "I am so
lucky to be with you ... You are the
woman for me!"

If you are nodding your head
thinking to yourself, "My guy does
that," then it's time to take a good,
hard look at the reality of your
relationship's future!

This is a Serious Question to all Nairalanders , Can you ever allow your Pastor / Imam Tell you who to Marry ?



Marriage is a Life Contract, Many People don't want to Start what they Can't Finish, Right? But will you ever allow a Religious Leader Dictate to you on Who to Marry and who not to ??

First of all , a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, a man should never "ask" for a kiss.

Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says "yes", it could mean she is just being polite, while on the inside her attraction meter will read a firm, "No".

Secondly , a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her.

A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "We should hang out... what's your number?" or tell her about a specific place he wants to take her to.

Thirdly , a man should never brag about the car he has or the kind of house he lives in, as it would seem like he is trying hard to impress her.

Women would be far more impressed by a man's material possessions if he does not mention them in conversation.

The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night, as she likes a "man with a plan".

The man needs to have a game plan before he calls her, so as to ensure that she will not be burdened with having to think about what to do.

Fifthly, a man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase that turns off a woman completely.

He should just assume that she likes him, and never ask the question, as it would look like he has no confidence.

The sixth tip is that a man should never ask a woman why she never answered his message, as one, it would show that he cared she did not reply back, and two, it would give her a guilt trip, which is seen as insecurity by women.

The seventh tip is that a man should never ask a woman how men she has slept with, as this shows that he is suffering from insecurity.

The eighth tip is that a man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has just met, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is somewhat of a "challenge", and will lose interest if she senses she has won.

The ninth tip is that a man should never end a phone conversation with a woman with a "next step", as firstly it would kill any spontaneity by being predictable, and secondly he would kill any chances of her calling him.

The tenth tip is that a man should never talk bad about a woman's guy friends especially if he hasn't met them and doesn't know her very well, as this is the fastest way for her to mark him as "insecure".

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-10-03/man-woman/29829800_1_woman-tip-insecurity

Men please ROGER THAT..

Feel free to share your thoughts.

Woman 2 woman: We r d ones makin men refer to us as having fish brains How can u allow a guy ave sex wt u left,right,back,front n center for yrs?He is nt a student,he is above 28,has a steady job,has accommodation,claims 2luv u n has bin dating u 4 ova a year yet hasn't proposed 2u...my dear if u date dis type
of guy afta a maximum of 1year,d probability
dat he'll propose is very slim.
How do u expect a guy 2propose 2u wen u ave moved into his house already n performing duties(cleanin,sweepin,sex,cookin,e.t.c)dat only a wife shud perform?? Well, just so u know ;if u r living in a house wt a guy who hasn't proposed 2u den u r very foolish. And even wen he finally proposes don't move in!!! Wait till u r married. Proposal doesn't mean marriage,anything can happen while u r courting so wait!!!

There r certain things a guy looks out 4in a woman dat makes her wife material in his eyes. And trust me none of dem is sex!!! Don't be deceived,if a guy really wants 2settle down wt u he won't mind waiting till ur wedding nite b4 he makes luv 2u. Don't misunderstand me this has nothing 2 do wt being a born again. Its d bitter truth.
A guy dat is very interested in taking u 2 d club,encourages u 2engage in a 3some wt him,drink/smoke,tells u he likes his babe 2b very crazy,is just wasting ur time. When he finally wants 2settle down sweetie,u won't even b number 10 on his list .He'll look 4a gud girl wt very gud character. If possible a virgin.
Bottom line, SEX doesn't keep a guy. If u lyk turn 360 in bed,upload his pic as ur dp,bleach till u become white,look lyk a goddess, or buy him all d most expensive gifts in d world..
If he doesn't see d qualities of a wife in you,he'll not marry u,he'll use u til he gets tired or kip u around til he finds d girl he wants 2marry,den dump u.
Finally,If he rily likes "It" den he shud put a ring on it..
Say no 2being USED n DUMPED!!.
LET'S START A MOVEMENT TO OUR SELF WORTH

It's really see through guys...look at the photo in the middle :-). Love love the shoes!

And what am i supposed to reply to this? i hope this is not the point @ which i'm expected to ask *HOW DOES THIS AFFECT THE PRICE OF THAT-WHICH-MUST-NOT-BE-MENTIONED?

And what am i supposed to reply to this? i hope this is not the point @ which i'm expected to ask *HOW DOES THIS AFFECT THE PRICE OF THAT-WHICH-MUST-NOT-BE-MENTIONED?

And how will this damn thread affect the speedy recovery of patience jonathan

Xo timaya stil dey sing?

Gun men Are they Boko haram?

And who is shamu GeorgE aGAIN mtsheeeeeeeew

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