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dre11:
Had Ladi Adebutu, the candidate of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) in the 2023 governorship election in Ogun State, emerged as the winner, it would…




https://dailytrust.com/adebutus-emergence-as-ogun-gov-wouldve-been-a-calamity-running-mate/

iwaeda:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_j9oLVbndtY


Abubakar was first appointed DG of the NIA in 2018 by former President Muhammadu Buhari, who extended his stay in office in December 2021.

Until his appointment, he was Senior Special Assistant to the former President on International Affairs/International Relations.

Previous Thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/8194797/ahmed-rufai-abubakar-resigns-national

LVStone:
Hello everyone,

I am married for five years now and I love my marriage.

I have an issue and I need your advice on how to detach myself from being emotionally connected to my wife.

She mostly have mood swing and I use to have issues attending to her emotions, I want to always at each time check what exactly as gone wrong and how I can fix.

Most often I apologize because I want peace(she picks fault easily and gets angry)

The worst is that we do have sex but we mostly don't make love;

My wife hates being romantic, I can't play with my wife's breasts or buttocks, 90% of the times I tried she says she doesn't want.

I do ask the following questions

1. Am I not attractive?
2. Don't you have emotional attachment to me?
3. Why did you marry me if 1&2 are yes?
4. Is there something I did wrong?
5. Are you thinking about something?
6. Is there something i need to do?

In all she will Only say she doesn't just want it.

It happened that this evening, she was on the couch and I tried touching her best in a romantic way, she immediately changed her mood and said I should leave her as usual.

I asked her why she did that and she said that doing that will turn her on and she doesn't want to be turned on. I then asked if it was a crime for a married woman to be turned on, she said she doesn't want to be turned on because she doesn't want it to lead to sex because she doesn't want sex.

Again I have still not understood how a married woman who claims not to be having any emotional/phycological issues and no offense from the husband will avoid being romantic or being sexual with her husband.

If I need sex she gives as a duty, but I need more than sex, I need a romantic contact mind you i dont have extramarital affairs.

I feel very stupid, I feel like a fool, I feel I am too emotionally connected to her.

How can I stop having feelings for her? As in including sexual feelings for her? I wish I can also give her sex as a duty any day or year she needs it too.

Please I need help on how to do this.

I will appreciate mature responses without insults.

Thanks

Efuaye:
In 1984-‘85 specifically, as secondary school students, we were made to make contributions to support anti-apartheid activities in South Africa. In fact, all our school teaching board had the inscription “Apartheid is a crime against humanity”
You couldn’t turn anywhere without being mobilised to stand in support for the freedom of our South Africa brothers and sisters

donbrowser:
Their reply on Twitter:

"Thank you for your concern. It’s important to clarify that geopolitical zones are not a factor in the disbursement process. NELFUND sent a verification list to every institution eligible for disbursement. Payments are being made to institutions that have responded to this verification. Unfortunately, we have not yet received any response from the institutions in the South-East. We urge these institutions to complete the verification process so that their students can benefit from the scheme."

https://x.com/NELFUND/status/1826991650939244755?t=ErnVLbC2c88MXkkU6aDlAg&s=19[/quote]Omo seelie sha...so alld institution in southeast refused to comply....chai derisgod

Kobojunkieee:
They are not as intelligent as I think yet they have been able to hold an entire nation of about 200 million people hostage for almost 2 decades. Come on naw!! Even this little intelligence of theirs has your government stymied. It should count for something!

lordm:
How will the French president respect him. Stay and fix your country. I wonder who will vote for him in 2027. He should just do his one tenure and leave it for a younger man

Kobojunkieee:
The kidnappers were paid for the job and committed a murder so why would they out the one who hired them knowing the person could easily lead the authorities to them and possibly end them? I say an investigation be carried out first to be sure an innocent man is not being fingered here for elimination.

Kobojunkieee:
I hope people do not target the man without a deep investigation into the claims supposedly made by the kidnappers abeg! It just seems too convenient that the kidnappers fed the boy the information, killed his father, and then let him out so he could tell the world what they told him. 🤔

CyrusVI:

She wasnt granted Visa based on "inability based on sanctioned activities"

I have thought she was banned. Her visa wasnt granted in Feb 2023 and na our news for today, August 23, 2024 be that after dem swear he in as CJN?

And the USA is what? The ICJ or the UNO? Thats just one country abeg

Na una go talk say "The West" dey control us like puppet, na una go still dey seek their validations upandan

Tochukwu, Pick a stand and rest

nlfpmod:
DJ Cuppy posted pictures from her recent water baptism at the Holy Trinity church in Brompton, UK, reflecting on her re-dedication.

In her caption, she wrote:



https://www.instagram.com/p/C_AtGoPI4qY/?igsh=bW55c3B5ZDA4b2hi

Hemanwel:
I don't know if it's just me but these days whenever I hear judiciary in Nigeria, I liken it to other corrupt institutions like Customs, Police, NEPA, Immigration, etc, since justice is always served to the highest bidder.

KLEINBASS:
Am a South African and is about the crimes you filthy animals are doing . People who hate their country always running away, I dnt fee for those who drown at the Mediterranean

londonbanks:
Nigerian girls are crazy in bed. As a foreigner i cant wait to visit nigeria again

Confirmedzombie:
I have PHD 5yrs ago. I never made noise. Why all the hyping for a kangaro PHD in Islamic Law.

Mtcheeeeew

AnonPoet:
https://newsdirect.ng/reno-omokri-exposes-daily-trusts-hypocrisy-over-new-presidential-jet/

elhakiimed:
Nobody is asking you to feel sympathy for a terrorist, but if you assume arabs are any less innocent than you are, then sth is seriously wrong with your brain.

remember what goes around, comes around.

the same people that are calling some people terrorists, enslaved millions with justification from the bible.


dont be a fool, don't be an accessory to unnecessary killing, because it will come back to you.

these same bastards will eye Africa and resume their claim that you are all savages wasting resources to usurp it.

Use your head

Jacktheripper:
I don’t even know who gave me the idea but I used to think marriage was like a delicious soup, a perfect mix of ingredients that, when cooked just right, becomes something greater than the sum of its parts.

Five years in…

I am starting to wonder if I have been served a plate of overcooked, burnt offerings instead.

Don't get me wrong o, I love my wife. Or at least, I'm pretty sure I still do.

It's just that lately,things with her feels like trying to hug a porcupine - painful, and leaving me wondering why I keep attempting it.

Why?

I usually drag myself through 12-hour shifts at work, working until my eyes blur, all to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table.

Meanwhile, my wife stays home with our son. It should be a fair division of labor, right?

Except lately, I feel like I'm working two full-time jobs: one at my work, and another cleaning up the messes my wife leaves in her wake.

Take last week, for instance…

I came home to find my son with a nasty bump on his forehead.

Well, my wife had been scrolling through TikTok videos while he climbed onto the kitchen counter and took a dive onto the tile floor.

When I suggested maybe she could pay a bit more attention, you'd think I'd accused her of trying to sacrifice our child to Moremi.

"Are you saying I'm a bad mother?" "Do you have any idea how hard it is to watch a toddler every second of every day?" she shouted at me like my manager at work.

I suggested it might be easier if she spent less time debating BBN housemates with her Twitter friends and more time, oh I don't know, actually watching our son. But I have learned that logic and my wife go together about as well as garri and palm oil.

Then there was the great stovetop incident of last month.

I came home to find the kitchen filled with smoke, my wife fanning at our glass-top stove with a dishcloth.

You won’t have guessed what happened.

Apparently, she decided to cook vegetables directly on the stovetop. No pot. No pan. Just leaves sizzling away on the glass surface.

"I was trying a new recipe!" she protested when I asked what in the name of the gods she was thinking. "The blog said to cook the vegetables on high heat!"

I took a deep breath like a supervisor when he had just finished listening to a terrible project defense, channeling the patience of a thousand ancestors. "Sweetheart," I said, as calmly as I could manage, "when recipes say that, they generally assume you're using some kind of cookware."

Her eyes narrowed. "Are you calling me stupid?"

And there it was.

The minefield I step into every time I try to address these... let's call them quirks. Any suggestion, no matter how gently phrased, is met with defensiveness sharper than my mother's best paring knife.

More often than not, I find myself lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling fan as it whirs above us.

I think about the bright-eyed girl I fell in love with, the one whose laugh could light up a room. I wonder where she went, and when she was replaced by this doppelganger who seems to view me as her personal enemy.

Some days, I feel the love I have for her slipping away, like sand through an hourglass.

I catch myself daydreaming about a life where I don't have to constantly be on guard like Arsenal supporters trying to defend why they have never won the UCL.

Where I can come home and relax instead of wondering what new disaster awaits me.

But then my son will come up to me, arms outstretched, babbling "Daddy!" And I'll see my wife eyes in his face, her smile on his lips.

In those moments, I remember why I fell in love with her in the first place.

She called earlier today, her voice tight with that usual tone that always spells trouble. "We need to talk," she said.

Those four words hang in the air as I write this on my laptop.

I know for sure when I get home that I will sit in the car for a long moment, gathering my courage. Whatever awaits me behind that door, I know it will test the very foundations of our marriage.

Nomercie:
All hisbah police should be arrested.

Richtaiwo:
Not really. Reasonable number of Northern muslims don't take alcohol. Though few, very few of them secretly do.

Kuginzi:
https://www.channelstv.com/2024/08/17/fuel-scarcity-fg-threatens-to-withdraw-marketers-licences-over-hoarding/

elhakiimed:
You must also think indians are worse than dogs and africans are waste of space, since everything your imperialist gods teach you is right.

If you think all Iraqis are guilty by birth, then you are definitely the worst kind of people and don't deserve peace of mind even in your sleep.