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Starting a business takes a lot of courage and the best we can do is support our friends and family that has taken the bold step to be an entrepreneur. While we might not be able to support them with the start-up capital or expertise required to run the business; you can still support them in the following ways.

1. Buy Something

Become their customer or client! Does your friend sell or offer services, patronage them. If she runs an interior design company, see it as an opportunity to re-decorate your house or office. Does she make cakes and pastries, order one for your kids next birthday. Did she open her own spa or salon, go get a massage, a hair do (Yes please!) Whatever your friend is up to, become a customer or client and refer others to do the same.
I am not suggesting you visit your friends business every day or buy every product they offer. Sometimes it may not be appropriate to use the services they provide, you may not be their ideal client or you may not be in need of what your friend’s business is offering. That’s ok! You may be able to refer other people to their business or when the time comes and you do need what they offer, you’ll know exactly where to go.

2. Promote Them

The social media era is amazing. You can support them via social media by liking, sharing, commenting and posting about their goods, services, websites, and blog posts. Every business uses social media to build their platform and gain trust with potential clients. You can help speed up this process simply by interacting with your friend’s business wherever they are.
It is funny how some friends will actually expect you to beg them before they can share your business on their platform. This is so wrong, as a friend you should instead offer your support without begging, convincing or coercion.

3. Volunteer to help

It’s not easy starting or running your own business, even a side business takes up a ton of time and energy. Trust me. If you really want to support your friend in her new venture try asking her how you can help. Sometimes offer your help without asking them. These will go a long way.

4. Send them Encouragement

Encouragements are the most important part of running a business without them, it is so easy to give up. Be their biggest cheer-leader: encourage them with compliments, kind words and motivations. Let them see you as someone they can talk to if things get tough.
It is not easy trying to pay salaries when you are running at a loss, it is easy to go into depression when the business is not growing after so many hard work and sleepless nights. But the right words of encouragement will let them know they are not alone in the struggle.

http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/11/4-ways-you-can-support-your-friends.html

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1. Thou Shalt Not Post Anything Thou Wouldn't Want Thine Family and Friends to See
This is a good general rule for all social media. If you post something, make sure it's something your family would approve of. It gives you a good sense of judgement for future social media posts. If your family and friends wouldn't like it, don't click post. This rule works fine for me especially days I will be tempted to post my bikini picture and I remember my mother will have a heart attack; I don’t click post.


2. Thou Shalt Like Every Photo Thine Friends Post (Even If Thou Doesn't Like It)
Liking your friends' pictures on social media is a given. Even if your friend posts something questionable, you "like" it anyway out of sheer loyalty. You're such a good friend. One time I deliberately didn’t like my friend’s picture, she called me and ask if she has offended me. Now I know better. Even when her post is meaningless I just click like.

3. Thou Shalt Not Post Thine Drama Online.
Unless you are a celebrity looking for some publicity don't post your drama anywhere on social media. I promise, you'll regret it later.
If you need to hear the phrase 'you will be okay, babe?' after that break up, after that disappointment or whatever you are going through so badly, then record it and set it as a ringtone. Please, for the love of all that is good and pure in the world, no one is interested in your drama.
If you feel the need to complain or rant, talk to your friends about it or buy a journal.
And those of you posting about your drama in the form of nicely designed quotes don’t think you’re fooling anyone.

4. Thou shalt not like old pictures while stalking on social media.
We all social media stalk every once in a while, I like to believe I am the queen of social media stalking. I stalk my ex, boss, even people that don’t know I exist. Don’t judge me. This is totally fine as long as you don't accidentally like a post from weeks, months, or years ago. It makes you look like a creepy stalker.

5. Thou Shalt Not Post While Drunk.
You may think a post is a good idea while under the influence, but, trust us, you should wait until tomorrow. I once saw a girl snapchatting her nudes while drunk at the club, when I woke up she has deleted the snap after I and others have seen and I am sure some saved it.


6. Thou Shalt Not Post Anything You Wouldn’t Say To Someone In Person.
Just because there’s a computer screen in front of you does not mean there isn’t a real person on the other end. If you’re upset with someone, reach out to them to resolve it. Don’t post an insulting comment that you know will do nothing but make the situation worse. Keep your comment light and positive, if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.

7. Thou Shall Not Let Social Media Change the Way You View Yourself

8. Thou Shall Not Post On Social Media If Thou Has Not Text Thy Friend Back

9. Thou Shall Call a Friend When That Friend Has Posted a Picture or Post That Makes People Question Their Sanity

10. Thou Shalt Remember That The Eyes Of Strangers May Always Fall On Thy Posts.
You are only one screenshot, share, or retweet away from broader, even viral, exposure, no matter how infrequently you post or how controlled you believe your privacy settings are. If you share content with this in mind, you are much more likely to stay on the right side of what is often a gray line

11. Thou Shalt Not Be an Evil Person
Nobody wants the photo posted in which they look terrible but you look awesome. Don’t be that guy.


Source: http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/10/11-social-media-commandments-to-live-by.html

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Location: Victoria Island

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If becoming a movie star in Nigeria were easy than Nollywood would be full of super stars. The glamour and glory blurs our eyes so much that we forget to see the hard work, commitment, disappointment, sweat and the many set backs it takes to become a Nollywood celebrity.

Becoming a star in Nollywood is not all about talent, connections and good look; there are other factors you need to know:
You Need To Have Passion and Talent for Acting

You have to have genuine passion for entertaining others but passion alone will not make you a star. You have got to have outstanding skill sets, this is what set you apart from the rest of the crowd.

Participate In Reality TV Shows

We all got to start somewhere, for some celebrities like Tonto Dikeh, Uti Nwachukwu, Okechukwu Ukeju, Tamara Etermo, their big break came in the form of an appearance on a reality TV how.
Reality TV show can be a stepping stone in your entrance into Nollywood.

Join A Modelling/Beauty Contest

Becoming a model or participating in a beauty contest is another easy way to join Nollywood. Models like Jemima Osunde, have the looks and most producers need good looking people in their movies to increase the sale of their movies. Good packaging is everything in the entertainment industry.

Appearance

Your physical appearance is very important; most times good look will help you get the job. Invest in yourself, join a gym and if can’t afford a gym there are good exercises to practice at home. Look good and be in shape so that when opportunity comes your appearance or lack of it doesn’t let you miss it.

Education

You should be able to read, write and interpret roles, to do this you have to be reasonably educated. Do have a basic education, go to a film school to learn the basic skills and ability to interpret scripts also improve on your spoken English, this will help you network.

Social Media

Social media has it many ups and downs depending on how you make use of it. Promote yourself regularly on social media. Make short films or comedy showcasing your skills this way you gain popularity and recognition.

Read more: http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/09/10-easy-ways-to-become-nigeria-movie.html

The first thing people do when they visit your Instagram page is to scan your bio and the first 6 to 9 posts on your page. If neither are interesting or aligned, they won’t bother to follow you or visit your page again. As a business owner you need to have a plan of action; decide what, why and how often you will post and what you want people to do when they see your posts.

1. Complete Your Bio Thoroughly

Remove anything irrelevant to what you sell, use a relevant keyword on the first bold line – it’s searchable. Make your bio interesting, appealing and honest.

2. Use Hashtags

Use all 30 and scale down as your account grows and switch up every 3 months. Use relevant hashtags with 2-3 words and create or use custom hashtags

3. Be Authentic, Genuine, Transparent

This humanizes you. People can smell fake and lies and you don’t want people thinking you are a scam.

4. Engage

Ask questions. Show you care. Give and share your knowledge. Use call-to-actions, pay attention to the people who consistently comment on your posts, grow audience organically and remember do not buy followers or use auto bots.

5. Use Relevant Photos

Your posts need to connect with the followers. Avoid using pics of recognizable people unless the post is about them, otherwise use random photo stock or you. Captions should describe the picture.

6. Create Branded Templates

Use DIY platforms like canva.com, photolayers, wordswag. Use same font type, size and color palette

7. Use Video

People connect with you deeper. Show behind the scenes with Instagram Live/Stories and video Posts

8. Use The Collections/Save Feature

Keep track of events, clients, fans, etc

9. Measure and Analyze

The only way you know you’re improving is if you know what’s not working and make adjustment to what works best for your business.

10. Schedule your Posts

If you are always busy and don’t have time to post regularly on your Instagram page; it is best you schedule your posts using services like Planoly, Onlypult, Social sprout, Hoot suite...


http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/08/10-ways-to-effectively-use-instagram-as.html

In order to get sales, you have to grow your audience, in order to grow your audience, engage your audience and convert them to sales, you must have certain strategies in place. Below are some of the reasons why your audience remains stagnant:

1. You are not consistent enough
Building Instagram followers takes time, dedication and consistency. You have to post every day, not once a week or once a month.

2. You’re not posting at the right time
It is one thing to post and another thing to post at the right time. You have to post when you followers are most active; when they are online. A great way to know this is by using Instagram Insight information.

3. You use poor graphics
To gain more followers you have to make use of quality picture. Images that are appealing to the eyes.

4. You're not engaging enough
In a lay man tone you have to be able to make a lot of good noise to get people's attention.

Source: http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/08/4-reasons-why-your-instagram-audience.html

In order to get sales, you have to grow your audience, in order to grow your audience, engage your audience and convert them to sales, you must have certain strategies in place. Below are some of the reasons why your audience remains stagnant:

1. You are not consistent enough
Building Instagram followers takes time, dedication and consistency. You have to post every day, not once a week or once a month.

2. You’re not posting at the right time
It is one thing to post and another thing to post at the right time. You have to post when you followers are most active; when they are online. A great way to know this is by using Instagram Insight information.

3. You use poor graphics
To gain more followers you have to make use of quality picture. Images that are appealing to the eyes.

4. You're not engaging enough
In a lay man tone you have to be able to make a lot of good noise to get people's attention.

http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/08/4-reasons-why-your-instagram-audience.html

Does he make you feel unwanted but still claim to ‘love' you? We know exactly what you’re going through. If his attitude towards love, relationships and commitment nonchalant, he probably has commitment phobia. Avoid the heartbreak and confusion and check out these 14 signs he can't commit before it's too late.

1. He’s a total charmer
At first, they can be extremely charming and give you all the love and attention you need. Until, he knows he’s got your love locked down. This is when his less attractive side begins to show

2. He loves the chase not the catch
He will push back as soon as you start getting too close but as soon as you pull away their love for you has no end. Exhausting.

3. He has a history of infidelity
Make sure to quiz your man before you commit to anything serious. A dude with a string of broken relationships and affairs is bad news for any girl. NO exceptions.

4. You feel like your relationship has reached a dead end
Things probably went fast paced at first, seeming almost too perfect, but now it feels like things have come to a sudden halt. You hear from him less, your emotional connection has fizzled out, you don't spend as much time together... these are classic signs of a fearful man getting too close.


5. Lying is second nature to him
Lying about what he’s doing or where he is gives him a sense of freedom and space. It also make him feel powerful. They hate being controlled and confined to a single relationship, he needs to know he has total control over what you do together. Nothing less, nothing more.

6. He gets bored easily
Texts become scarce, calls zero to none…they want to have the freedom to still shop around. What (or who) is keeping your man from dialing?

7. The ‘I don’t want a title’ excuse
Otherwise known as the biggest BS excuse known to women- ‘I’ve been hurt bad’, ‘I like to take things slowly’… Let’s go with the flow. Please, save your breathe only dead fish go with the flow.

8. No personal stuff
If leaving your personal stuff like your earring, toothbrush, and clothes at his is still a problem, he may not want you to think the relationship is a ‘permanent’ one. Interrogate him! (You have every right.) After a reasonable amount of time there shouldn't be any excuse not to.

Read More: http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/07/14-reasons-why-your-boyfriend-is-scared.html

Source: www.xobeabeth.com

1. She Has Lots of Close Male Friends
A significant number of affairs begin as close friendships with members of the opposite sex. The relationship may be platonic at the beginning, but chances are, it won't stay that way. The closer the woman is to her platonic male friend, the more likely it is that he will eventually end up becoming her lover – unless he's gay.

2. She Has Girlfriends Who Are Cheating On Their Mates
Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. If a woman has one or more close female friends who are cheating on their husbands or boyfriends, she may eventually start cheating, too.

3. She Has an Excessive Need for Attention
A woman who constantly craves attention may cheat on her mate if she feels she's not getting enough attention from him. She will be easy prey for any man who showers her with the attention she feels she deserves.

4. She's Materialistic
A materialistic woman is likely to have an affair with a wealthy man because of the material things he can provide. She can easily be seduced with jewelry, designer clothes or the cash to buy these and other expensive things.

5. She View Sex as a Statement of Her Femininity
Her identity as a woman is tied to how many men she sleeps with. Seducing men to sleep with her is the focal point of her life. With this mental attitude, it's hard for her to stay faithful to just one man.


6. She's a Thrill Seeker or a Risk Taker
If she's the type who likes to live dangerously, she'll cheat just for the thrill of it, or for the excitement of doing something forbidden, or for the challenge of seeing if she can pull it off without getting caught. She views infidelity as other people would view a high-risk sport.

7. She's Easily Bored
A woman who is easily bored, or who leads a dull, routine life may cheat on her mate just to alleviate her boredom or add some excitement to her life.

8. She Has Been Cheated On By Her Mate
If a woman's husband or boyfriend has cheated on her, she may try to even the score by cheating on him in return. Many women who have been victims of infidelity will indulge in retaliatory cheating or have revenge affairs.

9. She Likes Being the Center Of Attention
If a woman thrives on being the center of attention at all times, she is sexually vulnerable to any man who fawns over her.

10. She's Addicted To Alcohol or Drugs
Women who are substance abusers are much more likely to end up cheating on their mates. Female alcoholics are susceptible to infidelity because their inhibitions will be lowered and their judgment impaired. Female drug addicts may sell their bodies for drugs. Either type of woman is likely to cheat without realizing what she's doing.

11. She Has A Reputation As A “Party Girl.
If she's the type of woman who runs with a fast crowd, or parties all the time, or hangs out until the wee hours of the night, her lifestyle makes her vulnerable to having an affair.


Read More: http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/07/18-categories-of-women-who-are-more.html

Ifiokobong Akan is the creative director and CEO of House of Borah Global Limited. A fashion house based in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State.

She is an alumnus of the University of Calabar where she obtained a BSc, in Policy Studies and Administration. She is also a Data base administrator and a member of the Association of Image Consultant International (AICI).
The beautiful and elegant Ifiokobong has obtained several certificates such as the Certificate in Image Consulting and Fashion Styling in Arizona, USA, and many others to help sharpen the edges of her passion to dominate the fashion industry.
In her early days at the university, Ifiok began her long quest to create a niche in the industry by selling fashion accessories whilst in school. She realized it was time to follow her passion when every outfit she wore had a touch of uniqueness and originality.

She got commendations for her sense of style even at a very young age. She saw an opportunity to make a living out of making people look good, and she grabbed it! She stayed consistent in her service delivery and her clientele grew exponentially.
Discovering her new found niche in the fashion world, Ifiokobong in 2013,Founded the House of Borah fashion house. House of Borah, was launched at a time were people thought bespoke tailoring was only about putting fabrics together and making it wearable, Ifiok with her creative skills was able to transform the mind of the people with her innovative designs and creative detailing.
Proving to her growing client base, just how well a detailed bespoke can totally transform an individual. House of Borah is a household name in Akwa Ibom state and has created job opportunities for many, trained and inspired a lot of impending fashion designers in the industry.

http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/07/beauty-brains-and-brawn-beautiful.html

Whilst in the UK, in between my degrees in Business Administration and Masters in Finance, I have always had a strong passion for fashion. Before leaving home for higher education, I had the basic knowledge of sewing through my mother who had insisted on me knowing how to make the very simple items of clothing for example an apron.

My mum was a huge influence. To me, it’s the most modern way to be a woman. This was one of the many feminine characteristics she instilled in me. So, I did not actually study fashion but attended short fashion courses while I was living in the UK which further lead to my strong passion for vintage clothing.
I loved going to Portobello market in London and the London Vintage Fashion, Textile and Accessories Fair at Hammersmith, it was something I did frequently and I think that further developed my passion for fashion designing. I actually started designing pieces while I was still in University in the early 2000s but took it up professionally as a full-time job in 2005 when I moved back to Lagos to settle down and grow a family.
At that time the Fashion industry in Nigeria was beginning to kick off in terms of the media awareness and the interest of people especially younger ones like myself but everyone was still sort of conservative. People just usually went with the norm, you know they just wanted to blend in and be comfortable, fashion was not about standing out then.

But I came into it and introduced over the top designs and mixed colors that people were not used to seeing on a day-to-day basis. I think I came in with a certain level of confidence and introduced statements pieces, with striking colors and designs. I can remember making tops with exaggerated collars, bibs and sleeves which most people were not used to wearing at the time and I think the boldness of my designs gave me that edge.
http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/07/entrepreneur-spotlight-lanre-da-silva.html

wning a small business does not mean you need to think small and limit yourself. Everything you do today should affect where you see your business tomorrow, so you should be thinking big.

Many small businesses exist and you'd have no idea it is a one or two-man operation. If you plan smart, you can easily give this perception also.

1. Build a good, user friendly website

2. Brand and market yourself well

3. Remember... Branding = Perception

4. Use an email address with your domain at the end (i.e Creative@business name vs creative@gmail.com)

5. Use key words like "we" and "us" versus "me" and "I" - unless of course, it's a personal brand and you're representing yourself.


http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/07/entrepreneur-mistake-1-youre-small.html

These five reasons should help you see why using Instagram will make improve your brand visibility and in turn help you make profit.

Increases Visibility
You live in Nigeria, but want to reach potential clients in the UK. How? Social media. Posting and using hashtags helps people find you. People from all over the world are able to recognize how awesome your business is and why they should patronize you by the content you put out.

Likes Turn into Cash
Do you know how posts wind up on your explorer page? When the people you follow, like and/or comment on a post if the post is public, it ends up on your explorer page. That is how you are about to see posts from London when you live in Lagos. Posting content that drives likes helps more potential clients find you. When they fall in love with your page, they spend money on your products and services.


Brand Loyalty
People are more loyal to brands they connect with on social media. By following your business Instagram account, customers are able to see what products that you have, along with any changes in brand positioning.

Brand Authority
Potential clients will leave comments, ask questions or send private messages. They want to know more about what it is that you do and how your business can solve a problem or satisfy a need/want. Interacting with them helps show your level of expertise, while also proving that you are reachable.

Efficient Customer Service
Take customer service up a notch. Every chance to answer an inquiry shows everybody who cares to see how you handled the inquiry. Always remain professional and courteous to make other potential clients feel comfortable with the way you handle business.

http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/06/5-reasons-using-your-business-instagram.html#more

Things were going great between you and then he just vanished into thin air. Sound familiar? Well, this is why it’s his problem and not yours.

1. He's a Coward
Only a true coward would vanish from someone’s life overnight without a goodbye. A real man will offer some sort of explanation, even if you won’t like what he has to say.
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2. He Wasn't Ready For You
When a man isn’t ready to be in a relationship, not even being in a good one with a great woman can change his mind.

3. He's Insecure
When an insecure man wakes up and realizes he’s in a committed relationship with a secure woman, sometimes he cuts and runs. Just because he couldn’t meet your requirements for love, does not mean you aren’t deserving of it.

4. He's Married
When a two-timing husband realizes he’s in too deep with another woman, he’ll most likely take the easy way out.

5. He Wasn't Just Dating You
A player is likely to make a sudden exit when things get too serious with a woman he isn’t taking seriously. Sure it hurts, but he did you a favor, girl!

6. Someone Scared Him Off
A man who’s too vulnerable to what other men think is a prime candidate for "ghosting" if the fellas don’t approve of his latest love connection. This guys is also a coward, who’s insecure and possibly a player, but this still warrants its own explanation.

7. He's a Phony
Keeping up a lie over an extended period of time is a tough thing to do. If he didn’t keep it real with you about thing like his type of employment, his salary or his living situation, he may have bailed because he could no longer maintain


Ladies, stop racking your brain trying to determine what "you did" to make him disappear because chances are it had nothing to do with your flaws and everything to do with his.

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What is your main entree in your business? Your main bread and butter? This is your signature. This makes up the main source of your business revenue. What are you known for?

What are your side items? These are the extra things that you add on to increase your average ticket aka cash flow.

Example:

Main source of income: iPhone
Sides: headsets, chargers, adapters, charge case.
Main source of income: Pizza
Sides: fries, onion rings, fried okra, fried mushrooms.

Your elevator pitch is one of the most essential tools needed in your business. A good elevator pitch will get you the clients you want instead of the clients that want you.

The beauty of owning your own business is you can pick and choose who you want to work with. Everyone shouldn't be your client and you shouldn't be taking everyone's money.

www.xobeabeth.com

Working out is not a joke for the faint-hearted, Bolanle Olukanni says as she shares her weight loss journey. In a new vlog she just launched, Bolanle explained how she went from a 12/14 to an 8/10 without working out.

She explained that she changed her eating habits and that led to her losing weight. She shares a few tips on how one can lose waiting without going to the gym.

She Said,

I cut out sugar: Specifically processed sugar. You have to cut out sugar if you want to lose weight. Sugar, when it’s consumed too much, it turns to fat. So, if you’re not working out like I did, cut it out completely. This means no cake, no sweets, no tom tom, and no honey. Honey is going to turn into fat. If you’re trying to lose weight, you cannot swap sugar for honey.
I reduced my carbohydrates: You cannot cut out carbohydrate from your long-term eating plan. The reason is, when you are working out, you need to be consuming as little calories as possible. So, no rice, no yam, no swallow.

So, if you want to lose weight without working out, you should have a bowl of oatmeal or Quaker oats in the morning. You can have oatmeal with a boiled egg but no honey.

For lunch, you can have moi moi. Moi moi has enough carbohydrates, it has protein and it has little calories. Moi moi is a really good way to portion control and to control what it is that you’re eating.

You should also be careful on the fruits: I know smoothies sound like they are healthy. Some smoothies are not healthy. People use yogurt to make smoothies, but its fine if you’re living a healthy lifestyle and you’re working out. But if you are trying to lose weight without working out, I would advise that you use smoothies that are vegetable-based than sugar-based. Fruits are good for you but you can have a bit more fruits then you are supposed to that your body will not process it in a good way and it will turn to fat.

For snacks: I’ll recommend vegetable also. Having carrots, cucumber, you can also eat red pepper if you can. It’s a bit weird but it works. The whole point of eating these vegetables is that they have the right amount of fiber.

For dinner: Just have another wrap of Moi Moi. If you cannot eat it again, you can make pepper soup but you have to make it in a way that is really healthy.

You have to be careful with what you eat because you are not working out. Weight loss is basically, you need to be burning more calories than you are consuming.

Watch the full video here: http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/06/bolanle-olukanni-shares-how-she-went.html

can't be friends with someone I love and still care for. Even though the relationship doesn't work out and the two of you aren't meant to be, caring about that person, loving them doesn't just go away. Being friends comes after healing. Tried it, I had to stop talking and being friends all together. Someone will start dating and have a new relationship. Old feelings will get in the way. So in my opinion it can work only if two people no longer have feelings.

Let’s just be friends definitely don’t mean this: Let's have a platonic friendship in which we ignore the feelings we once had for each other and even those we still have. I'll talk casually to you about the girls I'm dating because the fact we're just friends means it won't hurt you that I've moved on so quickly.

When a woman says to an ex let's just be friends straight after a break up, she usually means:
I'm not ready to let go

When a guy says let's just be friends straight after a break up he means:

1. I'm over the relationship but let's keep having sex without commitment.

2. I don't want to be in a relationship with you but being just friends might soften the blow of separating.

3. I'm on the fence about our relationship, but I'm too much of a coward to break it off with you completely even though I know nothing healthy can come from staying in touch.


4. It really means he wants to keep u around until he finds something better or what he thinks is better. Some have that grass is greener syndrome.


http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/05/is-it-ever-ok-to-be-friends-with-your-ex.html

Excerpts from Jumoke Adenowo’s narratives on kemi Adetiba’s ‘King Woman’

My mum was my first role model. It took me a while actually to realize she was my first mentor. She didn’t tell me what a woman could do. She just did it and I saw it. I mean, she was all over. She traveled all over the world more than my dad did. My mum traveled a lot but I didn’t feel it. Because I remember she was there at 3:30 for lunch and will be there at dinner.

I think I lost a bit of my childhood there because I was her confidant and the things I had to cope with. I had to bear the burden of stuffs like her husband’s infidelity. That was a bit much. My dad and I are still close. I wasn’t happy with the choices he made as a husband but he wasn’t my husband. It’s an era of men who tried to have a monogamy but failed at it. They thought the tried enough. But they didn’t realize if you make a vow, you really should keep at it.

We were loyal people. Good people. So I was used to good relationships, intellectual people. Intellectual discuss. I didn’t know young people get up to things. I thought everyone was like me and I worked with that assumption for a long time. So it was a serious wake up realizing life was not the way I grew up.

My husband was my first real boyfriend. Others asked me but I wasn’t in love with them though I had ones I liked. I left university, started my business and met my husband through friends.

I knew he was the man God wanted me to marry even before meeting him. I didn’t see his picture or anything but I had a flash of him once my friend mentioned his name. But of course I didn’t show him I knew he was going to be my husband. Even when he proposed, I didn’t say yes. It amazes me these days when you see young people shouting yes, yes, yes. What is wrong with you people? It was not like that for me. I gave him a few days to stew. It was very important for me because I knew I cannot marry an unfaithful man.

A man is a hunter. So you have to keep him hunting. Even in marriage, don’t be predictable. Don’t be boring. You have a purpose in your life that is beyond your husband because once that man becomes the center of your gravity, you are finished.

You need to be a Queen mother. To be a submissive woman, first be powerful, you need to have enough power to be dangerous. If your husband asks you to stay home and not travel, you accept to stay home not because you can’t afford to travel but because you’re submissive. However, if the only reason you sit down is because you can’t afford to travel, then you’re just obeying, you’re not submissive…A traditional King will have concubines but the Queen is the one who has a voice. She ceased to become a woman. But she’s a mind and a soul.


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Provide great service and your customer tells 3-5 people. Give poor service, speak condescendingly, and disrespect your customer and they tell the world.
I know firsthand how difficult it is to be an entrepreneur. However, some of you make it even harder for yourselves with nasty, piss poor attitudes! Great service should never, ever be dependent of your mood, what your man did to you or the stress you're under. Great service should be the hallmark of your business.

The smile in your voice from the onset of your customer's call, the warmth and receptiveness of your tone as you listen to their questions/concerns should be your top priority. As a consumer if I don't feel "RESPECTED", "VALUED" and "APPRECIATED" I'm out! I will never do business with you again and I'm telling all my friends.
You talk about success and getting money but how will you grow your business and maintain your business if you treat your customers as if it's a privilege to do business with you? I love you and want to see you all win so get that attitude together. Smile more, show your customers how much you appreciate them with more than a verbal thank you.

Give them VIP discounts, gifts cards on their birthdays, and personal service, call them directly, not your assistant.

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Ms. Analytical

You are a woman who dissects everything! Not only wanting to know the answer but the “why” and “how” you arrived there is even more important to you. This could be due to the fact that you’re just naturally curious.

You Need A Man Who Is:
A great guy for you would be someone who can roll with your line of thinking. A computer/tech guy, accountant, or someone who enjoys taking the time to figure out processes. Look for someone who naturally doesn’t mind answering questions in general or taking the time to help you uncover the “why.”


Ms. Independent

You’ve got a great job, plenty of money, the ability to travel etc. and “I don’t need a man” is the aura that you are giving off, when in fact that’s the furthest from the truth! You don’t need a man to buy you things, mow your lawn, and pay your bills. But you do want one for companionship, physical intimacy, cuddle moments, and support. We’ve said it a million times, “you can’t spoon with your degrees and money." Think about it.

You Need A Man Who Is:
Someone who is confident enough to see past the outer appearance and realize that you really do want and desire companionship on your own terms is the type of partner for you. He can take your flirting cues and run with them. A great guy for you would be a manager with a stable career, an educator, or even an everyday business owner who has proven he has the tenacity to achieve something in life but can also give you the time and attention you need. He can also hold his own in an event with your colleagues and close friends, and of course, it’s up to you to encourage him long before the events start to occur.

Ms. Nurturer

You are caring for everyone under the sun including friends, family and work. The problem is that everyone comes before you do. You are lacking self-care and everyone is pulling you in a million different directions. Our issue is, most of the time, you look like it too. The stress shows on your face and body and if you are caring for everyone else, then who’s caring for you?

You Need A Man Who Is:
A great man for you would be one whose love language is Acts of Service so he will take pleasure in taking things off your plate. Look for someone who has a heart of gold. Maybe he volunteers in the community, fraternity, church, or he’s passionate about a specific cause and acts on it. This type of man genuinely cares about others whether it’s friends or family so it will be second nature for him to pitch in and treat you like a queen and he will understand when you need a break.

Ms. Firecracker

Loves to have a great time and often you are the center of attention. Everyone seems to gravitate toward you. The challenge can be that men with a more laid back personality don’t see how they can fit in with all the commotion.

You Need A Man Who Is:
A compliment for you would be a man who is OK with playing the background because he is confident in himself. Often that comes with you reassuring him that he is more than enough and even doting on him in public. He may not have the outgoing personality (and really is there room in the spotlight for 2 of you anyway?) but he can love you up when you’re together and enjoy seeing you be the Belle of the Ball. Usually he’s sitting in the corner smiling in awe of you.

Ms. Rigid

You are someone who is super conservative and definitely concerned about what friends, colleagues, and family might think. You are more focused on having a man who has a certain status in life, gone to a top school, has stellar credit and earning potential. People may view you as stuffy and only the very best will do. Our concern is, we feel this makes up a slim percentage of the population and you are missing out on some gems that you may have overlooked.
You Need A Man Who Is:
Someone who is a hard worker and may have climbed the corporate ladder over time is a good fit. His peers and family respect him. He may or may not have gone to a top school but he is intelligent and has loads of common sense. This man should also be fun because more likely, you could use some fun in your life. He would force you to relax and smell the roses and add some spontaneity in your life.

Ms. Free Spirit

You are go with the flow type of woman, non-judgmental, and usually a risk taker. You will usually try anything once and if you like it, you may try it again. People usually feel comfortable talking to you and sharing their inner darkest secrets, as they feel safe. Usually this woman is confidant in herself and liked by many because she can find the positives in just about anything or anyone.

You Need A Man Who Is:
The perfect guy for you will allow you to be you and not try and change you. He loves you just the way you are and is also non-judgmental and open. Usually his friends are a melting pot of many ethnicities, religions and various backgrounds as are yours. He’s not demanding or has many expectations of you. Even though you are a risk taker, he may not be and that’s ok, he loves you enough to support you! You might even want to be open to someone who has a little more stability and structure so the two of you can complement each other.

Ms. Apprehensive
You usually move at a turtle’s pace and people have to earn your trust over a period of time. The issue with this is, men feel like you have a magnifying glass on them and any little thing they do, they will be punished or reprimanded. You are usually holding onto experiences that happened in past relationships and often times, you don’t allow the new man a clean canvas.

You Need A Man Who Is:
For this type of woman we would suggest a man who has the right mix of persistence and patience. Continue to work on yourself and show him what you’ve done to overcome your fears. Usually a man that is in a Non Profit or Care Giving role is a good match. He would most likely coach little league, maybe the social work profession or spend his free time volunteering and giving back. He’s familiar with being reassuring and has no problem reminding you he’s not that guy.




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