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Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Beabeth(f): 5:15pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
can't be friends with someone I love and still care for. Even though the relationship doesn't work out and the two of you aren't meant to be, caring about that person, loving them doesn't just go away. Being friends comes after healing. Tried it, I had to stop talking and being friends all together. Someone will start dating and have a new relationship. Old feelings will get in the way. So in my opinion it can work only if two people no longer have feelings. Let’s just be friends definitely don’t mean this: Let's have a platonic friendship in which we ignore the feelings we once had for each other and even those we still have. I'll talk casually to you about the girls I'm dating because the fact we're just friends means it won't hurt you that I've moved on so quickly. When a woman says to an ex let's just be friends straight after a break up, she usually means: I'm not ready to let go When a guy says let's just be friends straight after a break up he means: 1. I'm over the relationship but let's keep having sex without commitment. 2. I don't want to be in a relationship with you but being just friends might soften the blow of separating. 3. I'm on the fence about our relationship, but I'm too much of a coward to break it off with you completely even though I know nothing healthy can come from staying in touch. 4. It really means he wants to keep u around until he finds something better or what he thinks is better. Some have that grass is greener syndrome. http://www.xobeabeth.com/2017/05/is-it-ever-ok-to-be-friends-with-your-ex.html |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by thesicilian: 5:16pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
I'm friends with almost all my exes. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Kondomatic(m): 5:25pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
5 Likes |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by OZAOEKPE(f): 5:28pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
The straffing is always at the peak... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by jworos(m): 5:33pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
thesicilian:Took the words right outta my mouth. We chill and talk very well, no strings attached. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by NairalandCS(m): 6:23pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
Aswear that 'we use to date but we no longer dating sex's dey sweet die! |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by sammieguze(m): 6:27pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
So, because we no longer date now means we should be enemies? Any, depends on the circumstances that led to the breakup I however only have one ex and we re still very very good friends despite the fact that we both re in our respective relationships 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by thesicilian: 6:58pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
Kondomatic:Lol. More of, 'experiment'. If it doesn't work out, each moves on to the next relationship. |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by thesicilian: 7:00pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
jworos:Yeah. That's how we roll. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Nizox(m): 7:12pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
sammieguze:No it's not being enemy, but saving ur heart, saving it from the emotional torture of accepting the reality of never being with who it desires. Like u rightly sed it depends on the circumstances around the breakup and mostly the party who initiated the break up, cos we know how it plays out. It's best understood dat if letting go and cutting all connections means achieving the best for oneself, one should not only be OK with not being friends with their exes but perfect with never talking to them again. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by sammieguze(m): 7:32pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
Nizox:I quite understand your point However, personally, I still think it's childish to sever all communication with an ex simply coz she is an ex except 1. If he or she asks for it 2. If being friends jeopardize your present relationship All my exes have played very important roles in my life for which I am eternally grateful for and the fact that the relationship didn't work out due to irreconcilable differences means we re still very good friends irrespective of us being in different relationship And so far, av been v lucky to meet girls who understand the kinda relationship that exists between me and my ex as being pure platonic so, all parties re good Like I said however, it is based purely on my own experiences so far 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Nizox(m): 9:32pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
Perhaps you're one of those wired with robust emotional ability to numb pains such as break up, while you are blessed with such rare gift other aren't, which leaves them vulnerable. Getting back together as friends (platonic friend) as u call it is not the real issue. The big deal is would the heart accept this truce? cos it has its own tricks which includes making vital love decisions without informing u. seeing and communicating with exes would only stair up old feelings that comes with being friends, this feeling ought to be buried cos the heart deserve its peace. |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Nobody: 9:37pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
NO!!! |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by lammylam(f): 11:02pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
i see nothing wrong in bin friends with an ex! if we can't work out as lovers we could work out as frnds! my ex and i are good frnds we keep in touch and we cool |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Nobody: 11:49pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
yes..supported.
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Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Gpopsicle(m): 9:32am On Jun 16, 2017 |
Beabeth: Well I see nothing wrong in still keeping in touch with your ex but there should be limits. Just as one of us has rightly said it becomes a necessity to cut all ties when it jeopardizes your relationship.. Let me use my previous relationship as a case study. Initially I never had issues with boo(now my ex) keeping in touch with her ex but it became so obvious that she was still into him to the extent of going to visit him and spending quality time.. She calls him at odd hours, sends romantic messages and all. it was obvious the feelings was still there. After accosting her she would feel remorse, shed crocodile tears and still repeat the same thing over and over again.. It got so complicated that I had to share on this forum to get advice.. At that stance, I requested that she excommunicated herself from him but since she found it difficult I had to let go.. So many other things too contributed to the break up. My point is, there is nothing wrong in keeping contacts with your ex so as long it doesn't negatively affect your current relationship.. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Monalisa185(f): 9:36am On Jun 16, 2017 |
there's nothing wrong with being friends with your ex... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by JoeCutie(m): 9:34am On Jun 26, 2017 |
Monalisa185:You got mail! |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Monalisa185(f): 12:54am On Jul 30, 2017 |
JoeCutie: gotcha |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by uyisteven(m): 1:48am On Jul 30, 2017 |
**** I could be friends with my Ex'z...But they can't be friends with me.. . . Bn told am damn too sweet.. Dey might end up missing some taste buds feelingz... |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Nobody: 3:45am On Jul 30, 2017 |
I don't know about anyone else but I tried that shit and I cut it off myself. Just had to let her go live her life. |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by MissRaine69(f): 5:19am On Jul 30, 2017 |
Depends on the maturity level of both individuals. From a personal level , yes I have had closure and there was no animosity when things ended. |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by vicben27(m): 3:57pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
frnds frm a distance is OK! by me, the once in while hi is fine by me, like checking up on them once in 2 or 3month interval I don't want any lady showing up on my wedding day with a gun wen the pastor ask 'is there any reason why this two shud nt be joined in holy matrimony. so I try to be nice as possible dou I parted peacefully but I always love bin careful. some of them still wants us to hook up but man Don hang boot I'm retired |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by vuc1(m): 10:07pm On Jul 31, 2017 |
lammylam:With some benefits right? Maybe I should try it |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Jul 31, 2017 |
I don't see anything wrong with being friends with an ex, ex doesn't make them enemy, you might need their help in future. |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by Optional2(f): 10:10pm On Jul 31, 2017 |
friend zoning things. |
Re: Is It Ever OK To Be Friends With Your Ex? by iammartinwong13: 11:51pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Cutting an Ex off doesn't make them an enemy, but the first thing one should consider is his/her emotional involvement with the ex. If you still have feelings for them, being friends with them will only hurt you and slow you down from moving on. This is not the same for everyone because it might not be their first love or relationship and they might have been used to heart breaks or maybe the relationship wasn't so strong. Being a friend with someone who you love so much will hurt you in the long run because you will still have that sense of attachment with them and feel bad within yourself when you see them with someone else. If you ended up becoming a friend to your ex lover, someone you once cherish and meant the whole world to you, it means the love wasn't so strong or it never wasn't there. Best solution is to move on but no as an enemy. In such a way that when you guys meet up years later, you can still talk to each other and still exchange pleasantries. |
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