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EverythingPhone:
Good morning
Yeah it can be fixed here
But I’ll advise you get the screen waybilled to you
Then you give it to a competent phone technician to get it fixed

It’s your choice anyways
You can come physically too

Thank you, how much for the screen, including the digitizer.

EverythingPhone:
Were not in in in ibadan
Were in lagos ikeja
We can help anyways

Bros I want to fix my samsung galaxy note 10 plus screen.
I am in Ibadan, can you help to fix the phone or waybill the screen to me ?

Like I said, can a couple plan a wedding within a budget of 1 million naira ?
This will include, bride prices, clothes, feeding of guests e.t.c.

LikeAking:
You are a simp.

Swallow the red pill.

He is not a simp, he is quite frankly a foo*l.
All these weak men roaming around the country will be the death of this nation.

When you yourself are not a husband material, no wonder you can't identify a wife material.

Abezol4jah:
Log on to https://www.nigeriadriverslicence.org/login then check under acknowledgement page and click DL renewal, if you have the temporary one,check the top left corner you will find ur dl reg. no. Input it in the appropriate box and search for your details.

If your details exist on frsc portal, it will return with ur details, just continue to click next else you want to make changes.
Then, click on submit and select payments option. You should have ur credit card handy with which you will make payments depending on number of years you applied for, 3/5.

If your payments is successful, print acknowledgement pageand proceed to any vio office closer to you for signatory and stamps.
Next, make copies and submit original at frsc office for capturing.
Note: Select capturing during registration, class of license, no of years and processing state and centres. For further assistance, send mail to abezol4jah@gmail.com

Thank you so much for this detailed explanation, God bless you.

Thank you, its hard to imagine that you can get anything done online, especially when it's a federal government agency .
Are you saying, I don't need any human intervention whatsoever ?

Do you have the link to the website to use ?

Thank you.

double posting

Hi everyone, I have an expired FRSC drivers license but I have lost it, I only have the temporary one issued before I was able to get the permanent one then (which has now been misplaced) .

Can someone please share the steps to obtain a new drivers license at Ibadan Oyo State with me please ?

Thank you.

ademola2017:
How did the doctor know she has PCOS?
Did she do a transviginal scan?? If yes, then she is not a virgin o..

She didnt do transvaginal scan, she did pelvic scan and hormonal profile test (amh, lh and fsh levels) was used to diagnose the PCOS.
Plus her symptoms of irregular menstruation were the major indicators of the diagnosis.

Beremx:
I am a woman. When a woman says at 27years that she's a virgin and that she prefers sex before marriage, oga take off! 99 percentage of such narrative is lies. Get someone else, impregnate and marry. Simple

mmmnnn could it mean she deliberately claimed virgin so as to prevent me from bringing up the option of getting pregnant before marriage ?

As the only reason I am not asking her to try for pregnancy now before marriage is because she is a virgin, we couldn't even do transvagina*l scan, all we could do was hormonal profile test and pelvic scan to diagnose the PCOS.

The problem now is, I don't even want to have sex with her, cos if she is a virgin and she is unable to conceive it becomes difficult for me to let her go since I took her virginity (assuming it's true that she is).

This whole thing has got my head spinning...

Beremx:
That lady is not a virgin. If she got PCOS, it can be treated. If you don't trust her fertility, leave her and get someone else pregnant and marry the person.

Period

Why do you say she is not a virgin, please educate me.

Adanambra1:
Goodmorning OP.

Thank you for your time and advise.

ademola2017:
This is exactly my story but i didnt know she had PCOS or even know the meaning of PCOS when i got married. After we got married, that was when I knew we were in for it.

PCOS patients get pregnant but you need to be very knowledgable, patient and work as a team to get pregnant.

My bro, in your case, infertilty will shake your marriage badly and may evetually break you guys if either of you cant take it anymore.

As some point you may start doubting if you can father a child and psychological effect would be huge when your relationship becomes marriage.

My Advice

You need to put yourself first above any other person. Your mental state is hugely astake if the baby doesnt come few months, years after you get married.

Look above love now to avoid a painful break up later or a frustrated union.

Start trying for pregnancy now. Discuss this with her in a diplomatic manner. If pregnancy happens go ahead to marry and if otherwise, just keep trying.

Marriage comes with pressure and that pressure will affect you mentally, physically and spiritually if not managed well.

I wish you all the best bro and i pray God answers your prayers

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and being realistic.
I can't do the bolded cos she is a virgin as such we cant even have sex.
I am not sure if I want to convince her to loose her virginity as that would be unfair in case I choose not to marry her.

This is why I say its a kind of dilemna for me.

humilitypays:
In life, if you want to be at the top and to get the best out of life, you must be ready to act selfish in most critical life decisions and also make some sacrifices that many people will hear and say you are not a good person but only you know why you took the actions you took, which are best for you and your life situation at the moment.

Walking away is not always as easy as you make it seem, especially when the whole family is already involved in planning for the marriage.

Kobojunkie:
What is so confusing about the fact that your priority is fertility and not love. Nothing wrong with having such a priority. It becomes a problem of wickedness however when you try to get others to bend your way without a guarantee from you.

According to you, she is a virgin but you already perceive that she may have trouble producing children due to health issues she has been having. Why not take that as a red flag and leave her to go find yourself a woman who is fully fertile? Why are you considering taking away her virginity to test what you already doubt knowing fully well you will not commit to her if it turns out you were right all along?

See her free abeg so she can go find herself a man who loves her and has her as his priority abeg!

I am not saying I want to do that, I am just saying it's not an option.
You are not considering all the other variables I stated up there, do you consider the kind of pain my parents will go through if their only other child falls into this pit of infertility again ?

Try and understand the variables surrounding this and I am sure you won't be this judgemental.

Lorazepam:
Because she has PCOS doesn't mean she won't be able to conceive. It just may be more difficult. PCOS is one of the most treatable causes of infertility. Most women with PCOS will eventually be able to carry and complete a pregnancy although some will need some medical help ranging from interventions like weight loss, ovulation induction meds, other meds, etc. It's good you already have a diagnosis now, that way, you're able to start working on it as soon as you marry, that's if you decide to proceed with the wedding. She's still in her 20s so age is on your side. I suggest you read up more about it to make an informed decision. At the end of the day sha, na your choice.

The bolded is my concern, my only other sibling has been trying to conceive for years now, imagine how devastating it would be if we both are in this same shoe.

CoronaVirusPro:
You can always adopt if truly you love her

I love her but I want my own children, I have seen the kind of stress my elder brother has been through cos of trying for a child, I won't wish it on my enemy.
Besides, I dont want the only 2 children in the family struggling to have children.

LikeAking:
Live ya life..

What do you mean ?

I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

Reading the responses just shows why we have so many religious spaces in Nigeria yet the country is so evil.
Did anyone notice no one addressed the issue from a religious angle?

99% of this people commenting up there are very committed members of one church or mosque yet when it comes to issues of daily living the bible or quran they read does not influence their decision and judgement.
And this is why we have churches/mosques on every street in this country yet the country is full of evil, wicked, people who steal at every chance they get yet beat their children silly if they steal a piece of meat from the pot.

Now back to the issue, since it seems a lot of ignorant people have commented earlier let me address some issues.
1. A man with low sperm count can father a child all it needs to produce a child is 1 sperm
2. A man may have low sperm count and not know, as a matter of fact many people who have children actuallyy have low sperm count at one point or the other.
3. There is no way to 100% a ladies fertility unless shes pregnant, unlike a man that you can check his sperm parameters a lady may be able to get pregnant but may not be able to carry such to term, ladies reproductive system are way to complex that its only birthing a child successfully that validates a ladies fertility.

Having said all these, I didn't read that the man was beating her, she married the man and made a vow for better and for worse but she has abandoned the vow and fled abroad, there are lots of women in that abroad without a partner who are depressed and crying on the internet everyday.

As someone who is a citizen of that same abroad and have lived there enough, I can tell you that travelling out is not an automatic solution to anyones problem.

hustla:
Thunder fire you and your dual citizenship

Typical Nigerian youth, unable to articulate himself properly or comprehend what is being said would rather resort to insult.

sammychimex:
Werey you lie too much!!! You came back form a first world country to come and have children in Nigeria, and you are still telling us that your children with a Nigerian father born in Nigeria will have dual citizenship? Oga go and reason your story properly then comeback and post a more comprehensive lie.

It seems you lack the capacity for comprehension, others before you have read the thread only you seem to be confused.
Better go back to collect your school fees cos its obvious you have been scammed.

Exodus15v11:
Based on your past threads, you had a fiancee in May. What happened to that relationship?

https://www.nairaland.com/7674926/dad-insists-fiancee-must-take

She didnt wanna do the test and so I let her go.

Klass99:
To answer your question about what I would do if I was faced with your proposition/option - I would shut you down and take a walk for good. You complained of women being promiscuous and immoral, and you still want to contribute to the problem with your proposal.

You women can't just discuss things without being overly emotional.

What other people are doing is get married, have kids and return abroad effectively shutting the door on the lady and making it hard for her to re-marry since she was married to them.

You seem to be quite young but as you get older you realise there is a difference between reality and fantasy and your perception of idealism is only a reflection of what society has fed you.

Like I said, marriage is possible but not guaranteed.
Men are driven by objectivity and not emotions.

I love her truely but love is never enough, life is more complicated than that.

Abifarin16:
I think it's safe to say he is a narcissist.

A man puts all his cards on the table and you call him a narcissist.

Its you who has been brainwashed and the irony is that you all are hypocrites.

The bible that you lot cling on to proove your rights state that you should be a virgin at marriage.

You spend your best years sleeping around and have the gut to tell a man not to state his own terms.

Atleast I am being honest in my request.

Abifarin16:
Please help me ask him ooo. Because of dual citizenship. God Abeg no allow any human being show me shege for this life.

Thousands of people some with even better life than most are dieing on the seas attempting to become illegal immigrants in Europe.

I bet more than half of those on this platform will give an arm and a leg to be able to wash toilets in North America.

While there are obviously other advantages to it like the possibility of marriage(although not guaranteed).

The prospect of dual citizenship is enough considering the alternative and the reality on ground.

Neptunium:
Nobody "automatically" becomes dual citizens unless they were born there". Her kids were citizens of Nigeria but they weren't born in the other country ( which could be Ghana.... Nigerians call Ghana "the abroad" these days ). You're also not their father - again, no such thing as automatic citizenship. You'd have to process their application like anyone else's to become citizens of the other country. You're also not their father. OP, I hope say you no dey tell her lies to her to get free sex from her.

You are as ignorant as they come.
If I am a citizen of a country, my children born to me anywhere in the world are also citizens of that country wherever they are born.

Ofcourse I will have to apply for their passports.

AllenSpencer:
I want to believe the girl is hungry and why you had the effrontery to throw such proposal at her!

She should become a baby mama because of dual citizenship? Does dual citizenship guarantee her love, affection, or marriage. Will same dual citizenship put food on her table in an eventuality?

Location does not “GUARANTEE” that kids will be a blessing. There are records of kids becoming very successful within Nigeria and internationally.

I don’t see a single thing she has to gain. If she was selling the babies to you, that would have been better. She has absolutely nothing to gain. All promises made are not guaranteed. Moreover, the proposal is insultive.

In a country where even girls with no baggage are still searching for husbands in their mid 30s . Or who are the ladies dating all these married men.
It seems objectivity is a lost art in Nigeria as majority of Nigerians tend to ignore the reality, sometimes I think they deliberately do this or the educational system is so bad that its become really difficult to reason without emotions.

Otherwise, how would you say having a child who is a dual citizen is not a blessing, when more than half of single girls are there dating married men, so are they any better than this lady if she takes this offer ?

Lance008:
Are you for real
This is not a deal bro
You are only helping her there are a lot of decent single girls that will be ready to marry you

The bolded is exactly what I thought until I found out that majority of those you think are decent girls are just pretenders especially in religious settings.
When you meet them outside of religious settings, you can lay them on the same day.

I am not making this up, I have been in the country long enough to realise whatsup.

I am not saying there are no good girls but majority are baaaaaaaaaaaaaaddd...

Westerhoffe:
What will be your reaction if someone gives your sister such conditions?

I have never seen this kind of response in forums in the western world, part of the reason we are a third world country is that people are unable to articulate themselves objectively.
What is the point of this emotional rebuttal.

If someone gives my sister that option, its her choice not mine and I wouldn't feel anything since shes not being coerced, shes being given an option which she can choose to accept or reject.

As a matter of fact, it is better to meet someone who is honest from the get go about what he wants than to marry, abandon the lady and travel back abroad which a lot of Nigerian men do , they leave their wives here and refuse to sponsor her abroad.

So me putting all my cards on the table is a sign of integrity in case you do not realise that.

I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country.
I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children.
Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.

I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery.
People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.

What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.

Solution:
I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother.
So I gave her a choice.

Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.

Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.

She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.

If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?

advanceDNA:
Yes oooo....
..u can only get from banks if u wanna pay school fees, buy travel allowance for vacation after visit visa approval, pay foreign hospital bill, or other business transaction approved by the goverment....still u will need 3 years tax clearance, and other other documents

This is insane, what if I haven't been working as I haven't worked in more than 1 year.