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y are guys just like this??y would you date a girl FOR MORE THAN 1 WHOLE YEAR if you know u dont plan to marry her.Whick kain brain u get?Now she's pregnant and u want to run, What kind of father do you want to be?You want to have a child raised by a single mother?_{cos i obviously wont advise her going for an abortion}

Please wake up to your responsibility and do what is right.Marry the babe.You'll see its notas bad a situation as it is.Cos if you leave her at this time when she really needs you, like yiu said, the girl doesnt deserve a man like u, neither will any girl deserve u.

Was watching 'labe orun' yesterday and the story was about a woman who had a baby 3 months after having a set of twins, Incredible but true, am thinking she had 2 wombs sha, its not impossible, (google woman with 2 wombs,u'll see something).

Read the ful story here,

http://www.vanguardngr.com/content/view/30473/152/

I just hate guys like that, When u find out they've done something wrong,they make u feel guilty for finding out. He's just using reverse psychology my dear, he's not worth u and plenty other women out there.

Now I understand uv invested 3 whole years on this looser of a guy, but am thinking, is this what ur ready to put up with if u guys get marriedYou better dont make that mistake.Please move on,you'll heal with time and you'll find a more deserving man who'll love you, take you to movies at 12am , take u out and come back home with you by 5am.Who'll appreciate you cooking for him, wash his clothes and have sex with him.

davidylan:
why do you girls behave like mindless sheep? Why move in with a dude who has no marital obligations to you?
Free house-maid, reduced rent, free cook, free sex tool . . . that's all you are to him. He doesnt care about you if not he wont leave you at home till 5am in the morning "hanging out" with the boys.

hit the nail right on the head, he doesnt really like u.so after u move out of his house, please move your heart away from him too.

My best friend's mum is 2 days older than her dad, My friend's gonna be 27 this year and married and her parents are still very happily married.

Thanx everybody, You've all been really kind

Moonstone:
Your boyfriend needs you to be calm. Take all his outbursts, don't fight with him, be there when he needs you, call to ask if he's okay anytime he sounds a bit off. Don't pity him too much.
He still wants to be treated like a man, not a baby.
He will have to go through the five stages of grief so try and identify them.

1. Denial and isolation ( I don't think he's in denial but you have to understand that he'll need to be left alone sometimes)
2. Anger (when this one comes, just take it - he'll get angry and say stuff he does not mean but take it and just don't give him a hard time about it)
3. Bargaining (this is when he'll be hoping to give up stuff just to have his mum live. You probably won't know about this anyway but if you do, just be there for him)
4. Depression (now this is when you have to be in his face consoling him. He will need you more than ever at this stage)
5. Acceptance (as for this one, you need to stop reminding him about this because you will just be over-doing it. Learn to know when to leave it alone)

I hope this helps. . . It's a tough thing to have a loved one go through these stages. I know.

I think he's accepted the situation as it is, cos its been a while they've been at this.Actually,my boyfriend is a good blocker, When you see him in real time, he's so normal.Before I knew, I never suspected he was going through stuff like this,I just thought he was under work and school stress.Meaning sometimes we go have fun and stuff,only when we're alone maybe at home or something, he switches off- Just keeps quiet,or goes outside for a while.Now that I know,what do I do when he switches off? Leave him alone to dwell in his thoughts or what??I havent been in this kind of situation (a close friend loosing a loved one) and seriously, I dont know how bes to handle it.Especially when its a man in question.

storm0210:
honestly, if he doesnt like to be pitied then do not pity him or try to give consolation when he isnt asking 4 it. his mum is dying and there is nothing he can do, dats d reason why he is moody,regardless of ur efforts the facts still remains d woman is going 2 die.

so maintain d relationship d way it is, ask of her whenever u guys talk. make out time to go see her wit him or on ur own (if thats possible).
make alot of sexual advances towards him, give him that gift man can never refuse (BJ), dont think im vulgar, truth is all of that would distract him cos honestly thats what he needs. Distraction!

my very humble contribution

Hmmm, ok.Thanks for the advise

Emperoh:
I wonder the sort of answer you expect to get?
First mistake: You agreed todate a married men who has not divorced his wife and is proposing to marry you

Second Mistake: You still agreed to become a concubine when he hasn't sorted with his wife.

Third Mistake: he didn;t tell you about his baby girl and you heard somewhere else. Yet your alarm bell never rang?

Finally; when will girls learn? These mistakes keep reoccuring yet we never seem to learn from them or remedy them
A guy who isn't divorced will NEVER be serious with you. He is just enjoying himself. Pls lets learn from our mistake!!

i wonder ooo, Nobody should tell you to run from that kind of man, he's been deceiving you all this while,yet you're still asking what u shud do, wake up girl .Am sure there are better men out there who are single and would treat u faaaaaaaaaaaaaar better that this a**hole

Meanwhile,please get someone to proofread your post another time, so that some of us will understand u better,ok?

Thank you guys, problem is that we see just about 2ce or 3ce a week,cos of work, but we talk all the time on the fone.I try to call him,but i dont want to overdo it, and still i dont thinkam reaching out enuf.

My boyfriend's mum has cancer; and she's in her final stage.He just told me yesterday, All the while ,I thought it was something milder,but he never went into details with me till yesterday.I noticed before now that he seemed distracted and all, but I just though it was work and school pressure. Now I dont know how to console him cos he doesnt like to be pitied. Reason he dint tell me all this while.He's not been eating and sleeping well and I really really want to reach out to him;I just dont know how best I can without making him feel sober.

in the actual sense, since shawn dint have enough liver to ask bunmy out, she didnt know what he wanted and so dint date him.But when the sharp guy,romade showed up to help shawn out, he simply cornered shawn, so one day shawn found out that romade had started dating the love of his life whom he asked to help him out cos he had no liver to ask do it, and he cried and cried and

but she was too fine for him and so he dint have enough liver to actually tell her he loved her

Meaning he was cheating,

Lola.y are u spoiling this thread now??Ok,lets continue with another of Pimple's sisters,

Pimples had another sister called Diane.Diane had a boyfriend called Shawn,

Meanwhile, Pimples had a sister called Lola,

The idea is to write a story that never ends, I'll start and the next person continues and the next continues after and all.Just continue the story but dont end it ; for some one else to continue.So please DONT beak the thread.

I start,

Once upon a time, there was a man called John,

I have a background in Chemical Enigneering, though I have no experience in the field(cos of lack of opportunity anyway), I intend to get some certificatations to inprove my worth.What and what certifications do you advice?I'm thinking of one in Project Management,or HSE,pls gimme suggestions,

Many people think 'used and dumped' is a phrase in a female's dictionary- especially when it refers to sex; but I tell you that a lot of guys have been used and dumped as well though they'd never admit.Am I right or wrong??

Odnarily,I wanted to ask how one can show a loved one he/she cares about him/her, but then I thought again- there are different people who have different beliefs,different values,hopeless romantics, unromantic people,insensitive people, day dreamers,very busy people, faffers- all what not, name it, So different stokes for different folks.

Hence my question- how do you show him or her you trully love and care?

FGGC Sagamu,1999 set, We did things,

i remember some girl cooking in class with a stove she used for home economics practicals, and when we heard the principal was coming;she threw the stove with the fire still on into the bush directly opposite the ss3 block- and it was during d dry season, the whole school nearly burnt down.people were beginning to carry their boxes when it was like d fire was moving close to the hostels then, it was crazy.

i remember 'the man', who would come steal boxes and all, like these thieves jazzed everyone to fall into a deep coma- not sleep oo-cos no one ever was awake apart from just one person in the whole block who is too scared to scream.

i remember we used to write grammatical blunders of school prefects on our wall in JS3 then and put their initials, our class was caught once, when some prefects came to do stuff in our class and decoded, it caused the great 1996 riot back then in sagamu.

I rememebr Mrs Sodeinde- our principal back then, she was a terrorist.

omo, we did plenty things that cant even be finished if i were given 3 days to write.

I think your mind is already made up, You want to break up with him, you just need people to boost up your guts to say it.You also dont want to feel guilty cos you're jilting him because of financial reasons, but you know what, just like the 1st person said, leave his sorry ass,girl.Its really crazy that at 31, he still relys on his girlfriend to pay his bills, no shame at all.I tell you that if he cant be ashamed about his situation now,he'll never be, he'll just relax, not struggle to get a good job cos he knows he's got a supportive girlfriend.Do you want to marry that kind of man?

Meanwhile, its men like him who forget you when they start making money.If you decide to stick with him, mark my words, And as for the sex, forget it, you'll get another guy who's as good, You're still young, you dont want to find yourself still with this man without a job, sustaining him at 28, so make haste while the sun shines.

Hi people,

I got a mail from PWC inviting me for a test.Please who has an idea about what their test looks like?

For those interested,Its on Friday 15th August 2008 at 1.00p.m.

Location: Events Centre Limited
Plot 1 Hakeem Balogun Street
Off Cadbury Agidingbi Road
Behind MKO Gardens
Alausa Ikeja

I have 2 friends working in Adecco, Infact I'm almost sure you'll be talking to one of them, Adecco's a multinational recruiting firm that recruits for bluechip companies, Atleast I know someone who got an MTN job there and another who got a big one at DHL.So my dear,you really want to prepare for that chat,

For the benefit of those who need a picture comparison, here,

Hey,

I've actyally gone for a mock interview session with PWC once and its exactly as you said in 4 stages.The impromptu speech, group discussion, dilemma situation and the real interview with a panel.

We were 3 invited for this interview, facing a panel of abt 12people(remember itwas a mock session, they were training their managers,abt 10 of them and they had the trainers as well, observing).We were to take a group discussion,where we shared our opinions and they(the panel) listened, then one of us closed.The second stage was an improptu discussion where each of us was to pick a topic and talk about in 2mins.U have no time to think abt what u want to say, just talk as it comes to your head.

The 3rd stage,we faced a smaller panel where we were given a scenerio/dilemma and we had to talk abt our approach, That took abt 10mins.Then the final stage was the real interview where we talked abt our experiences(this was one on one),educational vacground,and all other things u can think of thats likely to be asked in an interview.Like what do u see ur self doing in 5 years?have u ever taken a leadership role?have u ever faced a challenge and how did u solve it?and so on.

Hope this has given u an insight to what u'r going be facing at PWC.

Good luck.

Hi guys,
Pls I need your help, I'm attending a final interview on friday with a form.They are into financial advisory,tax,auditing(just like KPMG) and I'm meeting the MD.

I want to make an impression and I want to know what questions I can ask him.Dont worry,I'm cool with whatever question comes my way, I just need to ask him one's that'll make me look cool.

Thanx.

Hmmm, Its a tough decision to make as a woman

I'm sure there's a way one can work around things,afterall other women are succeeding in balancing their careers and their families, Well that'll also depend on the kind of husband she has.Asupportive husband wouldnt mind her travelling and progressing in her career, Some may be supporting in the beginning but find out they cant cope, maybe out of jealousy that their wives are getting successful at an alarming rate,more than them(not impossible,it sure happens);or actually, didnt comprehend the magnitude of what he/they were going into when they were making decisions whe they were getting married.

Well,I think ur aunt falls in the later case.Now that her marriage is in trouble, she's got to weigh her options, Well I dont solicit her forfeiting her ambitions for her home;I'mof the opinion she that she can get a less demanding role if she sees her husband has issues with this, If that's going to hinder her, then I'll advise she looks for another company but with similar roles(a less demanding company).

To be honest, these are things that should be discussed before marriage, If the guy is ready and willing to support her in her career,then he should do it all the way, Besides that,then he should look for a woman who's ready to become a house wife, A career one's been building for years cant be so easy to forfeit.