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Family / Re: Pls Help,,,,,matured Advice Pls by Binty(f): 1:30pm On Jul 22, 2013 |
[quote author=Efemena_xy] That is a really callous and insensitive thing to say! For goodness sake! The woman lost her husband of lord knows how many years, just a few months ago and is still grieving! Yet, you're indirectly pointing the finger at her and blaming her for his cause of death? Have a heart please. @OP: What your mother is going through at the moment is the loss of her life partner. Death is never a welcome thing to experience, moreso if it happens sudden and unexpectedly. Your mother is feeling the unfairness of it all, and unfortunately, that is life. Let her grieve. Encourage her to let it all out. This happened a few months ago so it's still early days. It's better for her psychologically to express her grief the best way she knows than to bottle it all up. Storing pent up feelings never does anyone any good. Sometimes, these things take years. You know the saying, time is a healer of all wounds. Give your mother the time she needs. It won't cure or heal the past, but it will lessen the pain she feels right now. Different people have different timescales for coming to terms and getting over the loss of a loved one. I was once at a burial for a relative. What the priest said during the wake keeping was a comfort to many of us: Death is like sleep in so many ways. Some of us go to bed early, and some of us go to bed late. But at the end of the day, we all go to bed. Maybe, if you communicate this to her, it might help. In the meantime, rather than let her focus entirely on her sorrows, you might want to help distract her. Is it possible for extended family members to come live with your mum for some time? Maybe for a few weeks / months? Also, like someone mentioned, find out what sort of activities interest her and get her involved. Even simple things like joining the women's union / group in her church may provide her with solace and emotional comfort. Finally, keep on being the loving son you are to her. There would be days when she's really low. Provide her with that comforting shoulder to lean on. Re: your younger siblings, a lot depends on their ages...but you can encourage the older ones to look after the youngest ones. Also get them involved in activites...delegate chores to them to do to keep them busy. Be the leader. Your dad is no longer there, so you need to step into his shoes and be the man of your home. Remain blessed and best of luck. [/quote] Thanks so much ma'am i am actually female, and a couple of relatives stayed with us for a couple of months but have left anyway thanks again |
Family / Pls Help,,,,,matured Advice Pls by Binty(f): 9:06am On Jul 22, 2013 |
Good day all,,,i am a 18 year old student from a family of 7 and i am the first born of the family.A couple of months ago i lost my dad and well thats where a lot of my problems started.My dad was the everything of the family though my mum is working so problem isnt financial itz really hard on me,,,my mum is always crying and doesnt want to go to work, i have tried everything but she keeps on crying all day long,,,ive tried telling her that dad would want her to stop crying but shes always feeling sorry for herself,,,to make matters worse my younger ones are rebelling taking advantage of the situation,,,and family on both my parents side are no help.I am at home now cos of the strike but i fear for my mums health when the strike is called off..pls what do i do ?? How do i make my mum see that what happened was simply fate and nothing can be done about it and also get my younger ones in order ?? Pls help |
Education / Re: Improving Low Gpa by Binty(f): 4:40pm On Jul 31, 2012 |
Thanks everyone i have seen everything you said and i must say thanks again. I was just so disillusioned so i came here, because i dont have a lot of friends anyway thanks again the encouragement has been helpful God bless you all . |
Education / Re: Improving Low Gpa by Binty(f): 6:09am On Jul 31, 2012 |
Thanks i actually have one carry-over course |
Education / Improving Low Gpa by Binty(f): 12:15am On Jul 31, 2012 |
Good day all ! I am a 100 level economics student in one of the universities in Nigeria After studing so hard for my first semester examinations and believing i passed i was so suprised to get a 1.96 gpa pls i want some advice to get it back up because i have always wanted to get a first class is that even still possible for me ?Thanks in anticipation 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My People Help Dis Case Of Mine by Binty(f): 9:42pm On Jul 20, 2012 |
190:jeez dude u ar making the poor guy anxious na op ask her watz up wit d cryptic messages tel her u ar nt a magician |
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